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Re: My Married Jobless Elder Brother Is Sucking My Mum Financially. Help! by Micology19(m): 7:39pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
Mrkumareze: True talk..I can testify that..the bond between them is like buhari and corruption 1 Like |
Re: My Married Jobless Elder Brother Is Sucking My Mum Financially. Help! by RexTramadol1: 7:40pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
Each person wit him own You com dey cast ur brother You no dey read bro code? |
Re: My Married Jobless Elder Brother Is Sucking My Mum Financially. Help! by Josephamstrong1(m): 7:40pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
Family ish should stay on a low low. Now he has nada doing, and you want your momma to stay watching his son gradually die outta depression? Nothin' beats momma's love for her kids, just don't interfere until your brother gets on his feet. A mother's wealth is for her kids and her happiness is to make sure all her children stands. Your momma is ready to lay down her life for your brother. Do you know that feeling that she's gonna be a grandma soon? Stay clear and hustle for your life, so you don't see yourself wallowing in such pitiable condition. 2 Likes |
Re: My Married Jobless Elder Brother Is Sucking My Mum Financially. Help! by cindybaby22(f): 7:40pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
Rexology:True |
Re: My Married Jobless Elder Brother Is Sucking My Mum Financially. Help! by psalmylee(m): 7:41pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
chiommy123:you have spoken well broad..its happening in my family ryt now |
Re: My Married Jobless Elder Brother Is Sucking My Mum Financially. Help! by patrickgeddes: 7:41pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
If you people disown him..his brain will return to factory settings. Brainless brother. |
Re: My Married Jobless Elder Brother Is Sucking My Mum Financially. Help! by Nobody: 7:41pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
Op this kind of case is simple, some people actually needs someone to tell them the truth. But mind you the only way of saying such truth is by Manning up to him.. After all the garagara, he will sit and reason the hard truth u told him in the process, mind you mum and others might be angry with u. But with time everybody go the alright. 1 Like |
Re: My Married Jobless Elder Brother Is Sucking My Mum Financially. Help! by BillgatesMaigad(m): 7:42pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
This kind of mum is worth dying for But this your brother sef dey fuc.k up o! Make him let the old woman enjoy her salary nah. Na waoh |
Re: My Married Jobless Elder Brother Is Sucking My Mum Financially. Help! by Mindlesskid: 7:42pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
iTearHerToto: Must you spit rubbish from your soak away, if you don't have any meaningful advice to give just keep quiet. Mtcheeew... 1 Like |
Re: My Married Jobless Elder Brother Is Sucking My Mum Financially. Help! by psalmylee(m): 7:43pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
are u from the south east or south guy?? cos only those region values the first son more than their other children.. I am a victim of this also. 1 Like |
Re: My Married Jobless Elder Brother Is Sucking My Mum Financially. Help! by StarUp: 7:44pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
Beface: What do you know... A parent can be under a spell to use the child to drain him/her of hard earned money at old age... |
Re: My Married Jobless Elder Brother Is Sucking My Mum Financially. Help! by starbn(m): 7:44pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
let's talk on whatsap.you need some mentorship and guide up.okkk.
but be very careful how you make your family matter a social midea discussion. |
Re: My Married Jobless Elder Brother Is Sucking My Mum Financially. Help! by Investmentfreak: 7:45pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
Tell your mum to become jobless and start begging him for money 1 Like
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Re: My Married Jobless Elder Brother Is Sucking My Mum Financially. Help! by starbn(m): 7:45pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
let's talk on whatsap.you need some mentorship and guide up.okkk.
but be very careful how you make your family matter a social midea discussion. |
Re: My Married Jobless Elder Brother Is Sucking My Mum Financially. Help! by Cheredeux(m): 7:45pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
My married jobless, or my jobless married elder brother. I think the later should go. |
Re: My Married Jobless Elder Brother Is Sucking My Mum Financially. Help! by lonelydora: 7:46pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
Aplaudez: Then leave her to continue spoon-feeding her grown up son |
Re: My Married Jobless Elder Brother Is Sucking My Mum Financially. Help! by iTearHerToto: 7:46pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
lilianofentse:See my baby.. Where have you been?? It's been years |
Re: My Married Jobless Elder Brother Is Sucking My Mum Financially. Help! by MissRaine69(f): 7:47pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
Aplaudez:You mother knows your brother is lying he knows what to say and when to say it. He guilt trips your mother because he is manipulative. Your mother is trying to keep two families together. Your family and your brother’s family because she knows the type of man he is. Have a family meeting so that there is no “ he said, she said” sort of scenario. You all need to explain to her that this is the thing that tears families apart. Children grow into adults who do not talk to each other. Cracks have started to appear and each day they grow wider. You care for your family this is why it bothers you. Mediation is not a quintessential African family trait but is there an aunt/uncle who is respected by your brother and mother? You will need a “referee” at this meeting as there will be a lot of emotion and where there is emotions a lot of things will be said. Some of the things will be hurtful and some will feel attacked and therefore will be defensive. If this is a challenge to you, just as you have written here write to your mother and say how worried you are about her. You love your mum and she is being taken advantage off. Tell her Regret is a horrible thing to live with. You have only one mother. 5 Likes |
Re: My Married Jobless Elder Brother Is Sucking My Mum Financially. Help! by Guyman02: 7:49pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
Aplaudez: It's a natural thing, she can't abandon him being her first son there is a serious bond, I am a first son and I know our position in mamas heart, ask your brother what he intends doing, if he can start a trade and how he can raise the funds, don't interfere in their matter too much or you will become the problem child. Since the wife is a teacher encourage her to assist her husband financially 1 Like |
Re: My Married Jobless Elder Brother Is Sucking My Mum Financially. Help! by Eze2000(m): 7:49pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
HajimeSaito: OP I have gone through this trend and seen all the answers to you. I'm a frist son too, though i lost my parents too early in life i have other relatives and trust me, the position of a first son carries weight you cannot begin to understand.l Don't confront your elder brother, as some tell you as that could lead to big trouble if he sees it as disrespect (I don't tolerate that shit and I have 4 fully grown brothers one of whom is a top official in a big organization in Lagos and another is finishing his Ph.D. in London). Take this adive I have quoted above. Cutting off your bother is not an opinion though. No mother will sit back and watch her first son suffer. Among many things, traditonally, he is her protector in her husband's home not the other sons. He should find a job and be a man 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Married Jobless Elder Brother Is Sucking My Mum Financially. Help! by san316(m): 7:49pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
I think op is insensitive. Your elder bro cannot be deliberately sucking ur mom dry without any reason. His complaint might b genuine. Hotels don't pay on time and it's really difficult raising a family especially when there is a baby. My advice: pray for ur bro. Discuss with him and see how he can find a solution to his unemployment. If he refuses to get a job after seeing one, then u can conclude. Second advice: go and hustle, stop monitoring how ur mom is spending her money. 5 Likes |
Re: My Married Jobless Elder Brother Is Sucking My Mum Financially. Help! by Vested(m): 7:50pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
Re: My Married Jobless Elder Brother Is Sucking My Mum Financially. Help! by HardEvidence: 7:50pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
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Re: My Married Jobless Elder Brother Is Sucking My Mum Financially. Help! by Benekruku(m): 7:50pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
Use him for money rituals |
Re: My Married Jobless Elder Brother Is Sucking My Mum Financially. Help! by Gabson001(m): 7:53pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
How this one take bizness us nw? |
Re: My Married Jobless Elder Brother Is Sucking My Mum Financially. Help! by Kirinwa: 7:55pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
KingSatan: You seem to becoming senseless by the day. |
Re: My Married Jobless Elder Brother Is Sucking My Mum Financially. Help! by edebemba(m): 7:56pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
MiaB:OP is not being truthful. At first he tagged his brother " jobless" and latter claimed that he is " managing a job in a hotel". What a contradictory statement! |
Re: My Married Jobless Elder Brother Is Sucking My Mum Financially. Help! by SexynSerious(f): 7:56pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
just check out his moniker. by their monikers you shall know them. anyway, that's by the way. so beautiful thing, how are you doing yourself? IdreamOfUnicorn: |
Re: My Married Jobless Elder Brother Is Sucking My Mum Financially. Help! by yesloaded: 7:57pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
Naanlong01:It will do him go if he could make use of this advice. I learnt how to generate income for myself when I were just 16yrs, dad & mum very alive then taking good care of all my financial needs but I choose to be useful to myself. 1 Like |
Re: My Married Jobless Elder Brother Is Sucking My Mum Financially. Help! by LyfeJennings(m): 7:58pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
Aplaudez: !!!!! ku Oro omo. Guy, no vex Your mum is a Superwoman. May she never rfind a reason to cry. God go lift your pocket self and that of your family members U can't blame your mum neither can U blame ur brother. It's no one's wish to beg, U know. It takes a lot of courage for a man, a married one at that to beg from his immediate family. Try and sit your brother down. Discuss where and how U can help him if U can. I know U irritated but joooor, ma binu. Na beg I beg U. May U never be in such terrible situation. Aye le o. Life is fuvvvvcking hard. May God be with U 5 Likes |
Re: My Married Jobless Elder Brother Is Sucking My Mum Financially. Help! by Avedonn: 7:58pm On Apr 23, 2019 |
Mrkumareze: So true.. I can relate |
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