I have been dating a guy for a year plus now.we get along with each other well but the issue is that he still keep photos of his Ex with him,even on fb.they dated for 9 years cos she was still schooling then.but she later Bleep up by getting pregnant for another guy.even though he seems all nice and caring to me,I still sense he still loves her cos a time I checked his phone and saw his conversation with her,he was always the one saying hello and hi but the girl doesn't buy to that like she's moved on.Each time I confront him,he always like saying he's moved on that he can't go back to his vomit.not knowing I checked his chats..
Now my questions is , Please what should I do to such guy that still has pix of his Ex and saying he's moved on? Though he is nice and even planning marriage but I don't understand his confused state of mind.
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Are you saying that he should delete all the photos of his ex on FB, so that he can accommodate your low self esteem? The problem here is YOU and if you can't trust this man then you should just give up and find another man to date.

U need to repackage ursef....like, wat da fvck!
Y does he need to still keep an ex's pix on his SM?

The truth is....He doesn't av much respect for you n u alone can make him realize u need to be treated as a queen.

Revamp urself babe.

ha. small gal like you don de do something. dis world self

MrBrownJay1:
Are you saying that he should delete all the photos of his ex on FB, so that he can accommodate your low self esteem? The problem here is YOU and if you can't trust this man then you should just give up and find another man to date.

I hope you in all your hypocrisy can accept the same act if it was your partner doing the same

most men have low self esteem that makes them to seek validity from bedding several women and you are with the lowest of the lows, one who will beg attention even from a woman who has done and dusted him off. him claiming he can't go back to his vomit, the same that he begs attention from is just what they do SMH

lalanice:
I hope you in all your hypocrisy can accept the same act if it was your partner doing the same

Lol, why would I even care about the PAST picture of someone I am dating?! Get real!!!!

So because he's dating you he shouldn't chat with his Ex again You said he loves you, What do you want again
I want to leave since you are not comfortable with him dealing with his Ex
Nonsense and Guguru

Sister some people are like dat...

Even me...but dat doesn't mean I still love her or want to go back 2 her

ajokeade920:
I have been dating a guy for a year plus now.we get along with each other well but the issue is that he still keep photos of his Ex with him,even on fb.they dated for 9 years cos she was still schooling then.but she later Bleep up by getting pregnant for another guy.even though he seems all nice and caring to me,I still sense he still loves her cos a time I checked his phone and saw his conversation with her,he was always the one saying hello and hi but the girl doesn't buy to that like she's moved on.Each time I confront him,he always like saying he's moved on that he can't go back to his vomit.not knowing I checked his chats..
Now my questions is , Please what should I do to such guy that still has pix of his Ex and saying he's moved on? Though he is nice and even planning marriage but I don't understand his confused state of mind.
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Because of what you saw? What if you're married to a lecturer, an actor, a doctor or a transporter. You will see the unseeables.

u have to find ur way deep into his heart, to be sincere, 9 years is too deep to just throw away, but if u play ur cards well, u'll win him totally

MrBrownJay1:


Lol, why would I even care about the PAST picture of someone I am dating?! Get real!!!!

you get real.. I know people are quick to paint a different picture online from reality. It's only the people who believe what they read here I pity

lalanice:
you get real.. I know people are quick to paint a different picture online from reality. It's only the people who believe what they read here I pity

Lol, but yet if I wrote that I was some low self esteem immature person that does exactly like the OP, that you would believe wholeheartedly, abi? Nonsense!

I'm sorry op but be ready for heartbreak that can ruin your life

that guy isn't ready for a relationship, you're his rebound

lalanice:
I hope you in all your hypocrisy can accept the same act if it was your partner doing the same

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It's obvious he's still in love with her. Nine years is no joke and since she was the one that left and not the other way round, he's probably still carrying a torch for her. Sit him down and talk to him seriously, tell him he needs to sort out his emotions before your relationship can move forward.

But i dnt know how you want to catch a cheater if you still doubt the evidence you saw on his messages. that guy is still having interest on that ex girlfriend.

What is my business self, even if you see him kissing the girl that will not stop you from leaving him, bcoz love has scattered your head .

EMEKUSBOY9:
But i dnt know how you want to catch a cheater if you still doubt the evidence you saw on his messages. that guy is still having interest on that ex girlfriend.

What is my business self, even if you see him kissing the girl that will not stop you from leaving him, bcoz love has scattered your head .

so what are you guys saying now..
Cos it's a pity most of guys here are quilty of still stalking their Ex.
Confusionist everywhere

limsycutey:
It's obvious he's still in love with her. Nine years is no joke and since she was the one that left and not the other way round, he's probably still carrying a torch for her. Sit him down and talk to him seriously, tell him he needs to sort out his emotions before your relationship can move forward.

my dear, what do you think he will be saying
"Babe,I don't have anything to do with her anymore.she is history" am telling you this guy is head strong and can shed tears for Africa.
Or should I give him space..

Auladimeji:
So because he's dating you he shouldn't chat with his Ex again
You said he loves you, What do you want again

I want to leave since you are not comfortable with him dealing with his Ex

Nonsense and Guguru

Asslicker spotted.

xendra:
most men have low self esteem that makes them to seek validity from bedding several women and you are with the lowest of the lows, one who will beg attention even from a woman who has done and dusted him off. him claiming he can't go back to his vomit, the same that he begs attention from is just what they do SMH

my dear,I tire for this generation of men we have now.so pathetic.

MrBrownJay1:
Are you saying that he should delete all the photos of his ex on FB, so that he can accommodate your low self esteem? The problem here is YOU and if you can't trust this man then you should just give up and find another man to date.

Just like that.
Na dis kind person him wife go dey Bleep him own brother for the same house and this self acclaimed matured Ewu and he no go know.

ajokeade920:
Just like that.
Na dis kind person him wife go dey Bleep him own brother for the same house and this self acclaimed matured Ewu and he no go know.

The important question would be... Why do you even want to make your life with a man you obviously don't trust?!

Today is ex on FB, then it will be colleagues at work, then neighbors or bread seller.... Any woman he will look at (or worse), it would be another issue for you. Work on yourself instead....

ajokeade920:
my dear, what do you think he will be saying
"Babe,I don't have anything to do with her anymore.she is history" am telling you this guy is head strong and can shed tears for Africa.
Or should I give him space..

Yes, you should, let him make up his mind whether he really wants the relationship or not.

ajokeade920:
so what are you guys saying now..
Cos it's a pity most of guys here are quilty of still stalking their Ex.
Confusionist everywhere

Ajoke mi. how are you doing . is a pitty that good guy like me is not always lucky as this your guy. if i made just small mistake, then the next thing to come out are " is over am done with this relationship" , just bcoz i was gisting my ex girl about my fomer girl. But in this case is very clear that you got him with alot of proves but your head is still ringing " LOVE AND SECOND CHANCE"

ajokeade920:
I have been dating a guy for a year plus now.we get along with each other well but the issue is that he still keep photos of his Ex with him,even on fb.they dated for 9 years cos she was still schooling then.but she later Bleep up by getting pregnant for another guy.even though he seems all nice and caring to me,I still sense he still loves her cos a time I checked his phone and saw his conversation with her,he was always the one saying hello and hi but the girl doesn't buy to that like she's moved on.Each time I confront him,he always like saying he's moved on that he can't go back to his vomit.not knowing I checked his chats..
Now my questions is , Please what should I do to such guy that still has pix of his Ex and saying he's moved on? Though he is nice and even planning marriage but I don't understand his confused state of mind.
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I'm not so sure keeping in touch with an ex is a bad idea so long boundaries are properly defined. Where the headache lies is the pictures he has on his device, which is rather strange and funny. Nine years is a whole lot to 'throw away', which is why I guess he still acts that way.

I think you should get him to talk about her. You prolly know why they parted which isn't really enough. People sometimes tend to hang on to their exes when there is no present person or when that person isn't filling the void the previous person left. They'd rather 'call on' the estranged, albeit unconsciously to help them manage the void.

The ex still do certain things he misses and loves which is why he finds it convenient doing what he does, even with you around. This isn't just a male thing,to be fair. Some ladies hang on to their exes this way too. And if I was to be in the shoes of the present person, I'd make her talk about her ex, what made him different and what she fancied about him the most. I'd have to learn and fill the void.

You really should do that as well.

Double post.

The issue, is possible the girl dose things u don do to him,ask him oh

Sanchez01:

I'm not so sure keeping in touch with an ex is a bad idea so long boundaries are properly defined. Where the headache lies is the pictures he has on his device, which is rather strange and funny. Nine years is a whole lot to 'throw away', which is why I guess he still acts that way.

I think you should get him to talk about her. You prolly know why they parted which isn't really enough. People sometimes tend to hang on to their exes when there is no present person or when that person isn't filling the void the previous person left. They'd rather 'call on' the estranged, albeit unconsciously to help them manage the void.

The ex still do certain things he misses and loves which is why he finds it convenient doing what he does, even with you around. This isn't just a male thing,to be fair. Some ladies hang on to their exes this way too. And if I was to be in the shoes of the present person, I'd make her talk about her ex, what made him different and what she fancied about him the most. I'd have to learn and fill the void.

You really should do that as well.

like seriously do I need asking questions about Ex?? It irritates me ,like am I not good enough? Besides I don't have time to please any guy.if he is for me..fine. and if he's not ,let him get the fvck out

ajokeade920:
like seriously do I need asking questions about Ex?? It irritates me ,like am I not good enough? Besides I don't have time to please any guy.if he is for me..fine. and if he's not ,let him get the fvck out

imagine the above immature low self esteem statement?!?!?!?!?!? if her man "dares" to talk to his ex (or other women), she will feel that the reason is because she isnt good enough, lol! i guess she expects to be the moon/sun/universe of that man, and the only woman he has contact with....

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MrBrownJay1:


imagine the above immature low self esteem statement?!?!?!?!?!? if her man "dares" to talk to his ex (or other women), she will feel that the reason is because she isnt good enough, lol! i guess she expects to be the moon/sun/universe of that man, and the only woman he has contact with....

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For your mind now,you've made a point abi??wack!
Try to get it bro.why should I be the only female in his life,where he got sisters, female colleague, friends and all.... ain't dah kind of insecure gal ok.m free.
Don't just open ya mouth and start spilling nansense in the name of proving a point.

ajokeade920:
For your mind now,you've made a point abi??wack!
Try to get it bro.why should I be the only female in his life,where he got sisters, female colleague, friends and all.... ain't dah kind of insecure gal ok.m free.
Don't just open ya mouth and start spilling nansense in the name of proving a point.

Lol....... Try harder.

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