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| Please support, let's Bury My Dad by Chiadikaobi(m): 4:17pm On Apr 28, 2019 |
Hello Great people of Nigeria. I humbly plead with everyone to help my family in the burial of my dad who died on 9th April 2019 after a long illness. We didn't plan for this at all as it came as a shock to everyone. We've been trying to raise funds but seems things are not moving. My dad died a wonderful father in love with everyone around which is a consolation to the family. I had to create a quickraiz account at the last minute to solicit for fund while sharing the link on major social media. People are making pledges but everything comes after the burial. We are just like being alone but it's a long story to tell Please my people, we need help as the burial comes up on 11th of may 2019. It was fixed so soon to avoid accumulated mortuary bills and the rainy season is fast approaching. Please help in promoting the link or suggest other donation sites that might be of help. I pray for more blessings and favour to all. http://quickraiz.com/campaign/10151-support-for-my-dad-s-burial |
| Re: Please support, let's Bury My Dad by MrBrownJay1(m): 5:55pm On Apr 28, 2019 |
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| Re: Please support, let's Bury My Dad by ifyalways(f): 6:26pm On Apr 28, 2019 |
Lol. MBJ shey you are donating DJ Khaleed to perform at the funeral party ? Bury according to your cloth. Call priest or dibia, pray or pour libations, get your village youths or relatives to help with grave digging, bury and its done. Begging for money for funeral? What Ridiculousness  20 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Please support, let's Bury My Dad by MrBrownJay1(m): 7:13pm On Apr 28, 2019 |
ifyalways: The begging on NL is so rampant it becomes a joke, thus DJ Khaled, lol. 3 Likes |
| Re: Please support, let's Bury My Dad by Chiadikaobi(m): 7:45pm On Apr 28, 2019 |
ifyalways:What is bad in seeking for support from where your fan base lies? Is it because it has to do with burial? Should I go into details to brief you what is going on around. The summary of the whole thing is that my dad embraced God with all his heart against the wish of the kinsmen in moving on with the traditional way. They are openly waiting how God will see us through in this trying time and we are planning not just a burial, but a sort of his last crusade on earth which is not only by digging grave and laying down his corpse. He died a Great man and can't just be buried like a pauper I don't see the reason you choose to make mockery of my post or to ridicule me when I didn't lie or choose to hide under fake pretence to scam. My only crime is that I created a crowdfund campaign to support a burial. Big organizations and great men do crowdfund. What is the reason for the insults please? |
| Re: Please support, let's Bury My Dad by Chiadikaobi(m): 7:55pm On Apr 28, 2019 |
people are quick to tag someone a begger on a faceless forum just to bully or an attempt to dampen a spirit. They are quick to give unnecessary solutions at the comfort of their screen without caring to know what is on board. I'm officially inviting everyone that can make it to the burial to come testify the faithfulness of God and to prove that indeed he can never fail. The ceremony is that of someone great. |
| Re: Please support, let's Bury My Dad by ifyalways(f): 9:38pm On Apr 28, 2019 |
Chiadikaobi:I didnt know nld was your fanbase. Im sorry sir. No vex  I didnt mock or ridicule you, i offered you a solution. 13 Likes |
| Re: Please support, let's Bury My Dad by sisisioge: 9:49pm On Apr 28, 2019 |
Hian! Show them biko...I heard some microfinance banks too offer such support. You won't be shamed! Considering he's been sick for long, you guys should have seen this coming o...but don't worry, banks bail peeps for things like this fa. May God rest baba well. Cheers. 4 Likes |
| Re: Please support, let's Bury My Dad by czarina(f): 10:03pm On Apr 28, 2019 |
I'm not saying its right or wrong but I've seen people crowdfunding funerals abroad. It's not just common in Nigeria. Op, do as your hand reach, you don't have to prove anything to your relatives. Your dad knew your condition before his death. May he RIP. 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Please support, let's Bury My Dad by Chiadikaobi(m): 12:35am On Apr 29, 2019 |
sisisioge:Thank you ma for the contribution. He's been sick but not that serious to start thinking Death, it never came to our mind. Everything started in late 2015 when he was down with strong malaria and typhoid that affected his memory but God been keeping him. On thursday 4th april, the morning i came back from work,I was told he's been acting dull but i took it as the normal typhoid and malaria which wld go soon because he was active, I played with him a day before. Few minutes later he had seizure and was rushed to the hospital where he was placed on a drip being unconcious till the 9th of april around 5.40pm and gave up the ghost. We just thank God for a life well spent. We've done all is required,leaving the rest to God. Please can i know the processes involved in getting a help from the banks? Thanks so much for the input, I really appreciate |
| Re: Please support, let's Bury My Dad by Chiadikaobi(m): 12:46am On Apr 29, 2019 |
czarina:Thank you so much ma. I have done all is needed to get things going. What we are avoiding is taking a loan which dsnt sound great. I can assure you that he will be given a befitting burial come 11th may. Thanks so much, I so much appreciate 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: Please support, let's Bury My Dad by sisisioge: 5:27am On Apr 29, 2019 |
Chiadikaobi: Wow! You would do that? I'm sorry for being snide there, there's no wisdom in getting a loan to bury anyone. Just bury him as simply as you can afford. He will be fine, he's been transitioned already(if there's anything like that). May God grant you wisdom to handle this fa. 4 Likes |
| Re: Please support, let's Bury My Dad by Chiadikaobi(m): 5:36am On Apr 29, 2019 |
sisisioge:Yes you are right. No wisdom in doing that, and just like in my last post, I mentioned that we are not ready for a loan and have no plan for that. I thought it's a kind of special bank support to customers that made me want to know more lols. Thank you so much for the kind words, I appreciate 1 Like |
| Re: Please support, let's Bury My Dad by Nutase: 6:33am On Apr 29, 2019 |
If your dad really abandoned the traditional way of doing things when he was alive then he will be disappointed in you right now for what you are doing. You are trying to impress your relatives by begging strangers. Which is more shameful? Sorry if I sound harsh but there is no such thing as 'buried like a pauper' or puppet like you said. Besides you can always celebrate his life when God blesses you in the future. For now just commit him to mother earth and say a little prayer for him. 16 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Please support, let's Bury My Dad by partnerbizz4: 6:36am On Apr 29, 2019 |
Chiadikaobi: Are you still a teenager! People are looking for money to pay hospital bills, feed, pay school fees, start a business and other essential things and you are talking about burial. Why not get a casket, a cheap one and do a low key burial? You sound like you can withdraw all your funds for this burial after which you go hungry. Death of a loved one can be devastating but he is dead and gone and the living will continue. Life is useless and human existence pointless. Cheers! 7 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Please support, let's Bury My Dad by Chiadikaobi(m): 6:50am On Apr 29, 2019 |
I appreciate you all the Great men that posted above. You know life is a teacher and we learn from others. Our only fear lies on entertaining the Guests as regards to what to eat and not that we are planning a presidential burial. Just normal burial activities and money don rise. Nawa o. This is a first time experience of losing someone so close and dear. I've been typing RIP on people's timeline but never knew what they pass through. Thank you my people, Infact, i don leave everything to God. I will get back to this thread to brief the house how everything went after may 11 which is less than 2weeks from now. Thank you all |
| Re: Please support, let's Bury My Dad by mysticgal(f): 7:11am On Apr 29, 2019 |
see dude, don't care about what people would eat. Shey it's burial they came for, ehe!!, they should come to mourn and bury then go home . If they are good people, they will even make monetary contributions. I swear, when I read your first post, in my mind I was like, your father must be turning and turning in his sleep(no offence) ...how can you be begging to bury him? abi he tell you say he no dey happy say he dey with Jesus? abi you no think say he go want una to chop after him death where you wan kill yourself with money talk?. No do this kain thing again oh. Count it all gain and bury him, later you can throw a memorial party. you hear  4 Likes |
| Re: Please support, let's Bury My Dad by Chiadikaobi(m): 7:22am On Apr 29, 2019 |
@mysticgal. Thank you so much ma. This your post cracked me up. Yesterday i was feeling down that i had to browse and register on fund raising sites which is my first ever experience in life. But with the advice and comments I've been recieving from matured people is a relief to me and nairaland family section had been my abode on issues pressing hard. 2 Likes |
| Re: Please support, let's Bury My Dad by clerkent(m): 9:09am On Apr 29, 2019 |
May GOD give you the heart and strength to pass through this trying time.would have help but im also broke.looking for a job right now since i graduated never been easy. |
| Re: Please support, let's Bury My Dad by CNN80: 1:59pm On Apr 30, 2019 |
I see from your username that you are Igbo. Let's be clear. All this cooking for people for burial (unless you come from a prominent family or the individual has serious title) is against what most of us knew when growing up. In fact, your mother is not supposed to the cooking in this her period of mourning. It's your relatives that are supposed to be taking care of her needs during this time. As for the actually burial itself, my father has planned burial in 24 hours. Timeline 5:00 am - Discovered an elderly relative had died in his sleep 5:30 am - Deposited body in mortuary 7:00 am - Meeting of Umunna where he informed them that he will not be paying for another night in the mortuary so they must bury the man that day. After discussions where no one was willing to keep paying for such an unnecessary expense, every family was charged to bring one food item/drink according to their power. Some bought a bag of rice, some vegetable oil, some a crate of malt or beer or soda, some tomato and pepper, some garri, some things for soup. A group of people coordinated to make sure things weren't being repeated. Someone even brought firewood. Since the man was a pagan, emissaries were sent to the Igwe's palace to inform him an elder had died. The grave was dug that evening by the youth. Next day 6:00 am - Traditional gunshots were fired, body was retrieved, taken to his maternal home and then brought back to his compound for burial. Cooking had been done overnight and the man was buried with very little expense to his bereaved ones. That is how a burial should be arranged. Do not spend more than you can afford. Chiadikaobi: 4 Likes |
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