@poster, you said she was from a rich home, maybe the things you offer her (like goldspot or limca instead of irish cream, mamput instead of chinese) is way below her class.

just my 2 cents.

@ poster,

maybe you should stop offering her limca or goldspot and mamaput food

The real fact is that she is shy, so the best thing for you to do, dont ask her just buy her the best you know she like. Buy one for you and one her. cheer

@topic
The truth is many girls are too shy to eat around their boyfriends, especially if it's a "first boyfriend" thingy.

So don't beat yourself up, maybe with time she would eventually become more comfortable around you and the issue of accepting edibles won't be an issue anymore,

Best of luck!!

I got some people talking sense here,thanks for the reply TattleTale and ajayi1 , Time,she will be able to hang her hat anywhere when in my crib ,

she is just the shy type,
u just need to help her to b free anytime she is with u

Ok

Ok ,i hear you

so because you made her a lady she must drink fanta in your house?

may be u no sabi do d thing well well - suegbe- na pako.

you have had sex with her
it was her first time

and now you'll all think she doesn't take things he offers her because she's shy and she needs time to be comfortable with him?


What!!  did you they have sex through a mirror  

@ salsera

In as much as its very weired and i thought of the same thing in the beginning, there are different grades of shyness.

Maybe wth all the "girls love material things" stories going around, she wants to prove she can live without his material gestures Making love on the other hand, she's proven she's not wild, "afterall he's her first" so she thinks she already gained his respect on that, now she has to prove something else (thats the only logical explanation i can come up with)

Its all in her upstairs (brain/head)!! (You'll be surprised to know what goes on in the head of some girls)

@ salsera

salsera:



What!! did you they have sex through a mirror

How do you mean ?

maybe shes insecure or she doesnt feel confortable around u or she might really be okay

3 option here lol


Na only one e go bi ,

probably you forced her into it the first time n she's now scared,

And aside that,we ladies can be like that sometimes,just tell her whats on your mind n i believe she will soon loosen up but don;'t come back here to tell us dat she is too demanding _{cuz you guyz can neva b satisfied.}

I never forced her into anything, Am glad you admit you ladies could be like that sometimes anyway

@ poster
y does it matter anyways ?
if her not eating or drinking in ur house is the problem than u should be happy
and if it bothers u that much dump her and get with someone else

@omogenaija

can i dump her ? just like that ? , Well i love her so much


Thanks for your reply,

dump her if u want
and if u love her so much then stop complaining bout her not eating and drinking in ur house

Slycks:

I never forced her into anything, Am glad you admit you ladies could be like that sometimes anyway

Like how ooooooooooo,just a possibilityoooooooooo, _{i never said that was the case}

Slycks:

@omogenaija

can i dump her ? just like that ? , Well i love her so much

Its sumtyms like that,my bro,you don't have to drop her she might be a little bit shy,talk to her about it,you never can tell,she might change,







Another possibility,Is dea a big age difference between you guys

Am begining to see some changes  ,i think shes feeling more comfortable  around me these days  

omogenaija:

dump her if u want
and if u love her so much then stop complaining bout her not eating and drinking in your house

Thank God i never dump her

Thank God for that,hopefully,things will begin to take shape now.Much luv.Bless.

@poster

my point is this

when people commented that the reason she did not take things from you was because she was shy


Shy? how can shyness be a reason

when she let you have sex with her

my comment abt 'through a mirror' was just to illustrate my point

P.S don't make promises 'I will never dump her'

Cos she was a virgin suddenly makes you bound to faithfulness

Or you don't think she can dump you simply becos 'you were her first'

Abeg

I don't think she can dump me  ,but ladies in most cases be the first to mess up in a relationship  . So tell me,whats this your point you are trying to illustrate  and how do you mean through a mirror .I still don't fathom your meaning

@ Slycks

I know we ladies can be sumtyms funny,and its now the song of most guys that we ladies are usually the first person to mess up in a relationship,but you never can tell,your gurl can be different,just try n be yourself and when you feel uncomfortable with something,talk to her about it,don't get it into your head that she's going to drop you,else its going to affect the way you treat her.I wish you the very best in your realtionship.

Alrite,i think she can be different but not completely sure yet,thats why i always say i cant give a girl 100% love,all i could afford to give is 40% ,i`ll throw 40% to the bin and the 20% will be for other people around me who are not really intimate . But yes i hear you .

40% too small oooo my bro.

@poster

Dude, all i will say is that u havent been listening to her n getting her the things she talks about, my gyal was talking about a dvd, next min i got it for her, it doesnt have to be expensive, it must just meet the 'utility' , !

Otherwise she might just be too expensive, but thats not true cos she is still with u! So as beyonce sang 'Listen'

i guess its still a young relationship. its normal to be shy and conscious.

hot chic:

40% too small oooo my bro.

Is it so small really ? , Thats just been me and how i do my thing , Who knows what might happen