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Men, If Your Woman Gives You Money To Pay by MissRaine69(f): 7:05pm On May 31, 2019
Her Bride Price Like I Did, You Are Not Her Husband But Her Wife' - Afia Schwarzenegger says
Controversial Ghanaian media personality, Afia Schwarzenegger took to Instagram to share this lovely photo of herself and dropped a message for some men who collect money from women to pay their bride price. She wrote: 'Dear Men, If your woman gives you money to pay her bride price like I did...You are NOT her husband but her wife!!!! Stop looking for respect where u can't find it. Good day!!!!


Does she have a point or not?

Re: Men, If Your Woman Gives You Money To Pay by finest0007(m): 7:17pm On May 31, 2019
I think she does have a point. Initially a woman may be blinded by love or belief in the dream that her potential husband's fortunes will change and actually pay it for him. However, progress is key.

If the wife makes steady improvement while the man doesn't, it's technically impossible to command respect. The lack of respect over being unable to pay a ceremonial sum of money shouldn't be the main issue.
Re: Men, If Your Woman Gives You Money To Pay by MissRaine69(f): 7:28pm On May 31, 2019
finest0007:
I think she does have a point. Initially a woman may be blinded by love or belief in the dream that her potential husband's fortunes will change and actually pay it for him. However, progress is key.

If the wife makes steady improvement while the man doesn't, it's technically impossible to command respect. The lack of respect over being unable to pay a ceremonial sum of money shouldn't be the main issue.
So there is more to this than the bride price issue?
Re: Men, If Your Woman Gives You Money To Pay by finest0007(m): 7:30pm On May 31, 2019
MissRaine69:

So there is more to this than the bride price issue?

I think so, yes.
Re: Men, If Your Woman Gives You Money To Pay by habsydiamond(m): 8:15pm On May 31, 2019
Make una dey deceive una self there. No matter who give who money to pay. The man will always be the husband. If una dey say this kain thing that means all married women in India are the husband in their relationships while the men are wives. African mentality sha

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Re: Men, If Your Woman Gives You Money To Pay by don4real18(m): 8:21pm On May 31, 2019
habsydiamond:
Make una dey deceive una self there. No matter who give who money to pay. The man will always be the husband. If una dey say this kain thing that means all married women in India are the husband in their relationships while the men are wives. African mentality sha
Leave the mumu jare. They just spew thrash out of their mouth and believe it's wisdom
Re: Men, If Your Woman Gives You Money To Pay by habsydiamond(m): 8:24pm On May 31, 2019
don4real18:

Leave the mumu jare. They just spew thrash out of their mouth and believe it's wisdom
does anything good comes out from the mouth of a woman with a broken home or failed marriage... Other than nonsense and rubbish...I don't think so.

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Re: Men, If Your Woman Gives You Money To Pay by Deepfeel(m): 9:36pm On May 31, 2019
Well to achieve gender equality between men and women in Africa, it's better we cancelle this bride price of a thing,

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Re: Men, If Your Woman Gives You Money To Pay by babyfaceafrica: 10:09pm On May 31, 2019
who bride price help?
Re: Men, If Your Woman Gives You Money To Pay by y3mi(m): 12:25am On Jun 01, 2019
MissRaine69:
Does she have a point or not?
No because she didn't make any sense. It's a confusing trash talk from a disoriented minx. It's appalling how the young ones now look up to all these showbiz peasants in Nigeria and Ghana as their role models and mentor continually influencing their thoughts and life, both subtly and profoundly.
Re: Men, If Your Woman Gives You Money To Pay by MissRaine69(f): 5:31am On Jun 01, 2019
babyfaceafrica:
who bride price help?
That is such a profound statement.
Re: Men, If Your Woman Gives You Money To Pay by Easybela(f): 5:46am On Jun 01, 2019
undecided whoever paid the pride price matters not,men will always be men and the head. RESPECT THEM!!!

Besides women who give men money to pay bride price always do it desperately, they want to get married by all means and if u think u can rub the man off his position by doing so,you are joking. The earlier women begins to learn how to be under men, the better 4 them.

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Re: Men, If Your Woman Gives You Money To Pay by chapmanapr: 6:15am On Jun 01, 2019
Where is th lie in what she said? We are Africans and we will always be Africans. By the way, which man "collects money from his girlfriend to pay her own bride price" then demand absolute respect and submission from her.

What makes you a man if you can't provide for your family?

Only a lazy man would disagree with her statement.
Re: Men, If Your Woman Gives You Money To Pay by CAPSLOCKED: 6:29am On Jun 01, 2019
chapmanapr:
Where is th lie in what she said? We are Africans and we will always be Africans. By the way, which man "collects money from his girlfriend to pay her own bride price" then demand absolute respect and submission from her.

What makes you a man if you can't provide for your family?

Only a lazy man would disagree with her statement.


IF HE CAN'T PROVIDE FOR HIS FAMILY. IF HE DOESN'T EARN A KOBO. IF HIS WIFE PAID HER OWN DOWRY. IF HE CAN'T EVEN PRODUCE OFFSPRINGS... IF "HIS" GENDER IS MALE, HE CAN'T BE CALLED A WIFE, BUT THE HUSBAND, BECAUSE HE'S THE MAN. THAT'S EXACTLY WHY THIS WOMAN HAS NO POINT.

THANK YOU.

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Re: Men, If Your Woman Gives You Money To Pay by BlueAir: 12:13pm On Jun 01, 2019
Easybela:
undecided whoever paid the pride price matters not,men will always be men and the head. RESPECT THEM!!!

Besides women who give men money to pay bride price always do it desperately, they want to get married by all means and if u think u can rub the man off his position by doing so,you are joking. The earlier women begins to learn how to be under men, the better 4 them.
*yaaawnn* desperation isn't the major reason why a woman would give her man money to pay her bride price. It's majorly love or lave in Ghanaian English...would u say a woman is desperate if she requests refund after the bride price is sorted out by her to her man?
Re: Men, If Your Woman Gives You Money To Pay by BlueAir: 12:20pm On Jun 01, 2019
chapmanapr:
Where is th lie in what she said? We are Africans and we will always be Africans. By the way, which man "collects money from his girlfriend to pay her own bride price" then demand absolute respect and submission from her.

*[/b]What makes you a man if you can't provide for your family?*[b]

Only a lazy man would disagree with her statement.

so many things makes a man mehn... I'm not in support of a man collecting money from his woman to pay her price but it's no big deal either... What do u have to say to men who go broke during marriage and requests equal support from life to hold the home? Are u saying they are less men? Are they less men for losing their jobs and encountering bad luck?? Most of these "Im a man thus I'm slated to these only" are backed by ego mehn...


We are Africans yen yen yen....... And yet some African men can stay behind to hold raise the children alongside their wives .mr man no race is a monopolist of thought ;Ds


I also want to know if because "I'm a man"i choose not to collect from my girlfriend to pay her price and I take a loan from a microfinance institution ,do I automatically qualify to be a man? Does it change the fact I'm unable to afford the price on my own?

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Re: Men, If Your Woman Gives You Money To Pay by chinchonglee(m): 12:20pm On Jun 01, 2019
If u like allow all dis frustrated celeb influnce ur life.

Las las u go still kneel down serve ur husband.
Re: Men, If Your Woman Gives You Money To Pay by ibkayee(f): 12:40pm On Jun 01, 2019
She has a point.

Husband as per head of the household right? And since whenever men want to lord their quasi authority over the heads of their wives they always say paying her bride price makes her his property (and with the way the practice is exploited, who can blame him to be honest?).

He may not be the 'literal' wife but as far as 'rankings' go, it only makes sense for him to represent the role of the wife until he can pay it with his own money.

We didn't make the rules, you guys did.
Re: Men, If Your Woman Gives You Money To Pay by OkpaNsukkaisBae(m): 1:00pm On Jun 01, 2019
Na so...
Somebody that divorced her husband whom she had three children with.

Advice ko , marriage ni.
Re: Men, If Your Woman Gives You Money To Pay by don4real18(m): 8:17pm On Jun 01, 2019
ibkayee:
She has a point.

Husband as per head of the household right? And since whenever men want to lord their quasi authority over the heads of their wives they always say paying her bride price makes her his property (and with the way the practice is exploited, who can blame him to be honest?).

He may not be the 'literal' wife but as far as 'rankings' go, it only makes sense for him to represent the role of the wife until he can pay it with his own money.

We didn't make the rules, you guys did.
It's not the bride price or how much he earns that makes him head of the household. That is where you got it wrong.
Re: Men, If Your Woman Gives You Money To Pay by ibkayee(f): 8:22pm On Jun 01, 2019
don4real18:

It's not the bride price or how much he earns that makes him head of the household. That is where you got it wrong.
Yeah I agree, but that's how a lot of guys reason the whole head of household matter
Re: Men, If Your Woman Gives You Money To Pay by fcdgrand(m): 8:35pm On Jun 01, 2019
how much be de bride price sef?
Re: Men, If Your Woman Gives You Money To Pay by Nobody: 9:13pm On Jun 01, 2019
habsydiamond:
Make una dey deceive una self there. No matter who give who money to pay. The man will always be the husband. If una dey say this kain thing that means all married women in India are the husband in their relationships while the men are wives. African mentality sha
So you don't know this? Lol Women rule the family in India. Yes the husband may sit on the ceremonial lordship throne but the women are the dictators.The men literally live to serve their wives grin
Re: Men, If Your Woman Gives You Money To Pay by Nobody: 9:39pm On Jun 01, 2019
CAPSLOCKED:


IF HE CAN'T PROVIDE FOR HIS FAMILY. IF HE DOESN'T EARN A KOBO. IF HIS WIFE PAID HER OWN DOWRY. IF HE CAN'T EVEN PRODUCE OFFSPRINGS... IF "HIS" GENDER IS MALE, HE CAN'T BE CALLED A WIFE, BUT THE HUSBAND, BECAUSE HE'S THE MAN. THAT'S EXACTLY WHY THIS WOMAN HAS NO POINT.

THANK YOU.
She has a lot of points but if you think being a husband is limited to having a pole down there well you may be Right.
The question is what makes a Man an African Man in focus?

His ability to be more logical than emotional
His strength, Confidence, Ego, Emotional intelligence, His ability to be Focus, Determined and Willful. His struggle for survival, to improve his life, his environment and his loved ones. His mandate to provide, protect, procreate, rule, guide and lead. That's what make an African Man.

Now I can confidently say a man who is woman enough to collect money from his lady to pay her bride price has failed all the listed attributes above. Firstly he was emotionally weak enough to be manipulated by a desperate woman to do what is not.

Secondly he isn't logical enough to discern the motive behind the woman's action. The woman knows what bride price signifies and she cunningly evade it. That man has no claim over her and he didn't see it.

Lastly,He lost his ego, superiority and pride the day he accepted the idea. He couldn't do what a Man should do. To me that man isn't a wife( that will be an insult to Women) He is a fool. smiley A gullible fool who sold his birthright for survival. smiley

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Re: Men, If Your Woman Gives You Money To Pay by Nobody: 9:45pm On Jun 01, 2019
Why will a woman give a man money to pay her bride price?

Some women are high key stupid.
Re: Men, If Your Woman Gives You Money To Pay by habsydiamond(m): 10:51pm On Jun 01, 2019
MariaLavina:
So you don't know this? Lol Women rule the family in India. Yes the husband may sit on the ceremonial lordship throne but the women are the dictators.The men literally live to serve their wives grin
ah ah... Aunty fear God ooo
Re: Men, If Your Woman Gives You Money To Pay by Nobody: 11:18pm On Jun 01, 2019
habsydiamond:
ah ah... Aunty fear God ooo
Do your research and dispute my claims appropriately.smiley
Re: Men, If Your Woman Gives You Money To Pay by CsRockefeller(m): 11:56pm On Jun 01, 2019
Easybela:
undecided whoever paid the pride price matters not,men will always be men and the head. RESPECT THEM!!!

Besides women who give men money to pay bride price always do it desperately, they want to get married by all means and if u think u can rub the man off his position by doing so,you are joking. The earlier women begins to learn how to be under men, the better 4 them.

God bless u for this.

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