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Emotional Needs You Should Never Expect To Be Fulfilled By Your Relationship

And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I
will make him an help meet for him. Genesis 2:18
Wanting to be in a relationship in order to be "happy" or feel "whole" is
one of the worst reasons to be in one. There are just some emotional
needs you should never expect to be fulfilled by your relationship or a
partner. Happiness, is just one of them.

Do not expect to get from relationship what only God can give.

Many of us go into relationships with a set of expectations we want met.
For instance, a healthy relationship should make you feel connected and
safe. So your sense of security, support, and love are just some emotional
needs you can expect your relationship to fulfill.
But in any relationship, no matter how healthy or long-lasting it may
be, it's important to understand that one person can't be everything for
you. "Our partners end up playing a lot of roles in our lives, but we must
strive to understand that they can't play every role at all times and this is
perfectly fine," Britanny Burr (Editor at Large and Love and Relationship
expert for Psych N Sex).
So what emotional needs should you never expect to be fulfilled by your
partner?

1. Your Self-Needs -
Don’t expect your relationship to fulfill your self-love, self-confidence, and
self-esteem needs. Most people search from partner to partner to find
someone to help them fill the void within related to these inner self-needs.
You will end up disappointed and frustrated because you have erroneous
expectations that someone outside of you can give you what you need.
Once we stop expecting others to fix or heal us we can take steps toward
creating a life that works from the inside out.

2. Your Source Of Motivation
Sometimes our goals don't exactly line up with those of our partners. For
instance, if you want to get out more, make new friends, and just be more
social, it can feel difficult and unmotivating for you if your partner isn't
enthusiastic about doing the same. But it doesn't have to be.
If you are seeking motivation and your partner isn't able to provide you
with it, you need to seek it elsewhere and be aware that it's not always
their responsibility to give us motivation. Instead start a new hobby to
make friends or look to new sources of inspiration to keep you motivated.

3. Your Source Of Inspiration
Your relationship can be a great source of inspiration but you can't always
expect it, nor should you get upset or think there's anything wrong if it's
not happening. Note- if you and your partner don't share identical passions
(i.e. you're interested in the arts while they're interested in the sciences), it
may be difficult to draw inspiration from one another. For instance, if you
want to create something but your partner doesn't inspire you, go to a
conference or a communal space with like-minded individuals to find a
little inspiration.

4. The Feeling Of Being "Complete"
And ye are complete in him, which is the head of all principality and
power: Colossians 2:10
One need that absolutely can't be fulfilled by your partner is expecting
them to "complete" you. Instead, you have to recognize what you're
missing, and then work towards filling that need yourself.

5. To Sympathize With You Every Single Time
If you've been together for a while, it might feel like you and your partner
are one person. While your partner should show empathy and have your
back, you can't expect them to always feel the same exact way as you do,
nor should you expect them to help explain your feelings or fix them. You
are your own person and they are theirs.

6. A Source Of Healing From Past Baggage
Many of us enter relationships with some kind of baggage from the past,
which can cause you to close up and become guarded. While the right
person can make you feel more comfortable about letting your walls down,
you can't expect them to do it for you. You also can't expect your
relationship to fully heal you from your past. While you can try to forget,
it's always going to be there if you don't take the time to work it out.

Being in a relationship can be wonderful, but it's not always easy.

Sometimes expectations, like emotional needs you think should be fulfilled, can just lead to frustration and disappointment if they're not met.

Remember that a healthy relationship should add to your happiness, not create it.

```Focus For Daily Personal Reflections/Devotion for Monday 10th June 2019```

*Focus/Reflection:*You are not created to live life alone. God made us to be in connection with each other. Dont be a lone ranger. Genesis 2:18 

*Notes/Prayers:* Father, help me to discover and get into the right relationships that are essential to fulfilling your purpose on earth. Help me to have the right attitude. Amen.

In summary a relationship is meant to COMPLEMENT you and not to COMPLETE you. Enter a relationship complete so even if the other person leaves you won't feel like Simcard without Internet

First to comment. I hate mondays!

KristaPretty:
In summary a relationship is meant to COMPLEMENT you and not to COMPLETE you. Enter a relationship complete so even if the other person leaves you won't feel like Simcard without Internet

First to comment. I hate mondays!

So true

KristaPretty:
I hate mondays!

like seriously??

phelonrays:
like seriously??

It's usually too far from friday but friday is too close to monday

Monday is always serious

```Focus For Daily Personal Reflections/Devotion for Tuesday 11th June 2019```

*Focus/Reflection:*Do not expect to get from relationship what only God can give.
Psalm 60:11

*Notes/Prayers:* Father help me that no matter how great my relationship is, I will never let it take your place. Help me to always know that the best of man is still man. Amen

```Focus For Daily Personal Reflections/Devotion for Wednesday 12th June 2019```

*Focus/Reflection:*In any relationship, it's important to understand that one person can't be everything for you
I John 3:11

*Notes/Prayers:* Lord Jesus, help me to realize the role others play in my life. Help me to put my relationship in the right perspective. Amen

```Focus For Daily Personal Reflections/Devotion for Thursday 13th June 2019```

*Focus/Reflection:*Once we stop expecting others to fix or heal us we can take steps toward creating a life that works from the inside out.
James 1:25

*Notes/Prayers:* Father I pray that You help me realize that You are the only one who can heal me of my past emotional hurts. Help me not to expect from man what only You can give.

```Focus For Daily Personal Reflections/Devotion for Friday 14th June 2019```

*Focus/Reflection:*One need that absolutely can't be fulfilled by your partner is expecting them to "complete" you. Colossians 2:10

*Notes/Prayers:* Father help me to realize that my completeness comes from You and my relationship with You, not from any man or woman. Amen.

```Focus For Daily Personal Reflections/Devotion for Saturday 15th June 2019```

*Focus/Reflection:*Remember that a healthy relationship should add to your happiness, not create it.
Colossians 2:10

*Notes/Prayers:* Do you absolutely look to your relationship for happiness? Father help me to always see you as the source of my happiness.