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Hello, I'm a Student in a popular Nigerian university and ever since I got admitted I've noticed a lot of beautiful ladies all with their own special shapes and features. Looking at these ladies sometimes make me marvel at God's level of designing.

Now, i'm a quiet introspective person who doesn't really subscribe to the "forceful you must conform ways" of the University I'm in and the world at large. I have low self esteem, But I must say I've never been so close to the opposite sex as like my Mom or sister. I'm kind of an indoor person, and I don't have many friends. Also I don't approach the females for anything. If I want some information or I need an explanation on a topic I reach out for the nearest male. That's just me. Weird?

OK so when I see a beautiful girl, I tend to get low inside due to my inactiveness in the interaction aspect. Also when I see someone walking with his girlfriend I get a Lil bit jealous. When my friends post their girlfriends on their whatsapp status and facebook news feed, I feel alone and a bit empty to say the least. You see, checking out statuses of guys containing cute girls are a bit painful for me due to my Singleness? That makes me skip all other posts in the sequence because they're all garbage

I've never had a girlfriend, never kissed and I'm a Virggoooo But I have this urge every now and then to talk to a girl and maybe take it to the next level. But I haven't made any personal decision on it and also I am afraid of rejection as it tampers with my emotional load

Emotional load termed from the HIV numerical expression Viral load, which is used to show the number of viruses in the bloodstream. (I'm not HIV positive in case you're asking, I Mean why should you think that?
) My emotional load is controlled by watching few physiological movies, avoiding annoying posts and debates, and so on. And also avoiding making new friends as my mind needs to make a parchment for their interactions.

Now I'm no slouch, I'm actually quite handsome, this I know from empirical evaluation of my environment. My friends always ask me how many girls rush me My mum constantly calls me to avoid girls, and also when I walk into a place most people look at me and I automatically become shy Also I Dress well and have a few change in my pocket Some actually call me oyinbo

So please help me stop this likening for women as I feel it tampers with mind time that I should give to my books, other physiological aspects and my small business. I'm not Gay, but I personally believe self timing and Lone Wolf tactics are the best way to go. Also I tend to get really jealous, saying hi to any other guy or using a prefix or suffix like dear can make me explode in rage

Please Help good people of Nairaland.

You're introverted, and it's fine. However, girls detest introverts a whole lot.

Craig24:
You're introverted, and it's fine. However, girls detest introverts a whole lot.

Detest is a strong word oga...my own sister doesn't like extroverted guys.

Why are you putting your guards up?

You are a nerd, introverted, and a virgin at all orifices. So just keep being yourself brother. You've nothing to worry.

Craig24:
You're introverted, and it's fine. However, girls detest introverts a whole lot.

Really? Well, I've Kinda Noticed Sha Why Is It Like That?

SageMK:
Why are you putting your guards up?

You are a nerd, introverted, and a virgin at all orifices. So just keep being yourself brother. You've nothing to worry.

Thanks Bro, I've noticed ur great posts on NL, so nice to see u on my thread. But please what more advice can you give me to withstand the inner and external pressure I feel everytime I see a female being

Wow see generalization. Tell that to millions of introverted male that are in a relationship.

Craig24:
You're introverted, and it's fine. However, girls detest introverts a whole lot.

Trex4:
Thanks Bro, I've noticed ur great posts on NL, so nice to see u on my thread. But please what more advice can you give me to withstand the inner and external pressure I feel everytime I see a female being

Well... How exactly are you pressurized bro?

Are you compel to take an action and behave in a certain way or is it just your emotions that are invoke whenever you make contact with a female?

Note that it's okay to want that connection as a single guy. But if you have to force a reaction for every female that crosses your path... then it's psychological issues.

Unfortunately, if that's the case, I can't be of help.

Hehehe, oga what you are feeling is not psychological or mental, everyone male and even female experience this. All you have to do now is make a decision, do you want to solely focus on your education and if you truely find a lady you have deep affection or attraction for, I believe you should not shy away but actually take a step.

First off, how old are you?

There's nothing wrong wiv u son,u r d best of yuh kind always believe that.

how old are you sef ?

Foodforthought:

Detest is a strong word oga...my own sister doesn't like extroverted guys.

Your sis is introverted. Extroversion don't mix with introversion.

Trex4:
Really? Well, I've Kinda Noticed Sha Why Is It Like That?

Girls wants' to stay around exciting n lively guys always, which introverts aren't in totality. Except they re (she's) introverted.

liberalchick:
Wow see generalization. Tell that to millions of introverted male that are in a relationship.

You're on the defensive, dear.
You don't want to meet an introverted guy. You'll choke to boredom in an instant, cos I know Naija girls for whom they are.

SageMK:


Well... How exactly are you pressurized bro?

Are you compel to take an action and behave in a certain way or is it just your emotions that are invoke whenever you make contact with a female?

Note that it's okay to want that connection as a single guy. But if you have to force a reaction for every female that crosses your path... then it's psychological issues.

Unfortunately, if that's the case, I can't be of help.

Sorry for the late reply. Yes at bolded exactly! I've bottled up my emotions for so long they just want to tear me apart. I'm Just hoping a cute girl with lots of features would just walk up to me and propose ........But Sadly that only works in movies.

usoroh4luv:
First off, how old are you?

SkinnyNigga:
how old are you sef ?

sorry for the late reply. I'm 19 Hope no problem

Trex4:


sorry for the late reply. I'm 19 Hope no problem

No problem, my guy. Whatever you are going through right now is normal. Don't allow it to bother you. And don't allow your emotions to control you. It is all in the mind.

Craig24:
You're introverted, and it's fine. However, girls detest introverts a whole lot.

I think you're confusing introversion with shyness. You can be introverted and still be confident