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How Do I Tell My Friend The Truth by Zimgirl321: 9:54pm On Jul 02, 2019
I have a male friend who is in his early 40s. Over the past few years he has been trying to find a wife which was proving to be very hard. 2 years ago he met this lady in our church and they were getting along well. They had a few hiccups along the way but this expected for every relationship. Some months ago I started hearing rumours about his girlfriend and how she was sleeping around with a married man in the church. Also, it was rumoured that the lady was kicked out of her old church for the same behaviour. At first I ignored it but the rumours have started again. My friend confided me that he intends to propose to the lady shortly. Please may you advise me if I should tell my friend about the rumours? I am scared to say anything because I don’t actually have any proof that his lady has done anything wrong? I know he will be really crushed because he really wants to settle down and start his own family.
Re: How Do I Tell My Friend The Truth by Apus: 10:10pm On Jul 02, 2019
Zimgirl321:
I have a male friend who is in his early 40s. Over the past few years he has been trying to find a wife which was proving to be very hard. 2 years ago he met this lady in our church and they were getting along well. They had a few hiccups along the way but this expected for every relationship. Some months ago I started hearing rumours about his girlfriend and how she was sleeping around with a married man in the church. Also, it was rumoured that the lady was kicked out of her old church for the same behaviour. At first I ignored it but the rumours have started again. My friend confided me that he intends to propose to the lady shortly. Please may you advise me if I should tell my friend about the rumours? I am scared to say anything because I don’t actually have any proof that his lady has done anything wrong? I know he will be really crushed because he really wants to settle down and start his own family.


If you got no proof just keep quiet or better still confront the said lady without the know of your friend. Even if she did, she might have turned a new leaf.The last thing your friend needs now is to be suspicious of her. Leave it to him to find out himself.

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Re: How Do I Tell My Friend The Truth by Nobody: 10:17pm On Jul 02, 2019
Please keep kwayet.... Don't say what you don't really know or ain't sure about. You could land into trouble.

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Re: How Do I Tell My Friend The Truth by CosmicPhoenix: 10:22pm On Jul 02, 2019
until you can actually prove she did it then keep quiet,you should also keep an eye on her.

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Re: How Do I Tell My Friend The Truth by SageMK: 10:22pm On Jul 02, 2019
There's no truth here.
What you have is only a baseless rumour with no proof.

Anyway, your loyalty is to your friend. Try investigate.
Don't stand and watch a friend self destruct. Not cool.

If there's such a nasty rumour about someone I want to marry, I'd want to know. So if nothing pops up, tell him.

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Re: How Do I Tell My Friend The Truth by Nobody: 10:49pm On Jul 02, 2019
Stay out of it. Telling someone you heard rumors about his girlfriend w|o any proof to back your claims is like going to a court of law to present a hearsay testimony as evidence - you will be DISMISSED, as you should be. The rumors you heard could've been fabricated sef. You don't want to be responsible for their breakup over baseless rumors.

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Re: How Do I Tell My Friend The Truth by lilmax(m): 10:53pm On Jul 02, 2019
she's sleeping with a married man, you better advice him to call it off

when do you want him to find out? when her first child ain't his?

don't make that dude marry that hoe please

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Re: How Do I Tell My Friend The Truth by IamD18: 10:57pm On Jul 02, 2019
Just a rumor and you've started acting up already. Is the guy your brother or son that you go around monitoring activities of every woman that comes into his life?

Smh! Women and bad belle for each other shaa, because I'm trying to figure out what will make a guy worry over shiits like this.

Mind your business and stop getting jealous because the guy isn't thinking towards your side for marriage.cheesy

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Re: How Do I Tell My Friend The Truth by CAPSLOCKED: 11:00pm On Jul 02, 2019
lilmax:
she's sleeping with a married man, you better advice him to call it off

WITHOUT EVIDENCE?

POSTER WANTS TO ACT ON SOME "HE SAID, SHE SAID, THEY SAID" INFORMATION AND THE FOREVER SAD AND DEPRESSED PEOPLE OF NIGERIA ARE URGING HER TO GO AHEAD. JOY KILLERS EVERYWHERE. JUST LOOK AT THIS THREAD.

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Re: How Do I Tell My Friend The Truth by Jollof123: 11:02pm On Jul 02, 2019
Tell your friend to put thunderbolt in her body...youruba call it magun
Re: How Do I Tell My Friend The Truth by GraGra247(m): 11:04pm On Jul 02, 2019
IF IT WERE ME I'D LIKE TO KNOW IF MY FRIEND HAS SUCH INFO ABOUT MY SPOUSE.

TELL HIM AND BOTH OF YOU SHOULD GO TO THE GIRLS FORMER CHURCH TO INVESTIGATE.

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Re: How Do I Tell My Friend The Truth by IamD18: 11:05pm On Jul 02, 2019
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Re: How Do I Tell My Friend The Truth by Frankicent(m): 11:08pm On Jul 02, 2019
wetin concern me.
Re: How Do I Tell My Friend The Truth by JohnDuke101: 2:09am On Jul 03, 2019
You can advise him to do more due diligence first. I will not propose to any lady until after I have done enough due diligence.
Re: How Do I Tell My Friend The Truth by ojuu4u(m): 2:33am On Jul 03, 2019
lilmax:
she's sleeping with a married man, you better advice him to call it off

when do you want him to find out? when her first child ain't his?

don't make that dude marry that hoe please


I think you read whr she says she doesn't have proof,yet you quickly assume it's truth and quickly jump to conclusion to call it off, may God forgive you.
NB . Bible says we should investigate thoroughly and hold on the truth.
Re: How Do I Tell My Friend The Truth by netpro(m): 3:11am On Jul 03, 2019
This could be her opportunity to settle down and put the temptations in the past. Don't ruin it for her. If your friend finds her good for a wife, that is good enough. Most likely your friend had already test-drive her engine too. So he is guilty as well.

If the truth is told about how many men your wife (or future wife) slept with before marrying you, you will be shocked.

Btw, your friend may already know or have heard the rumours but love as she is.

Bros mind your own business. And give them the support they need to both settle down and have a family.

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Re: How Do I Tell My Friend The Truth by Quality20(m): 6:03am On Jul 03, 2019
many pop have enemies who can openly malign and defame them in public, these enemies could even b close relatives like brothers and sisters, bad neighbors or others. pls tread softly, say only what u know
Re: How Do I Tell My Friend The Truth by Deepfeel(m): 7:06am On Jul 03, 2019
Zimgirl321:
I have a male friend who is in his early 40s. Over the past few years he has been trying to find a wife which was proving to be very hard. 2 years ago he met this lady in our church and they were getting along well. They had a few hiccups along the way but this expected for every relationship. Some months ago I started hearing rumours about his girlfriend and how she was sleeping around with a married man in the church. Also, it was rumoured that the lady was kicked out of her old church for the same behaviour. At first I ignored it but the rumours have started again. My friend confided me that he intends to propose to the lady shortly. Please may you advise me if I should tell my friend about the rumours? I am scared to say anything because I don’t actually have any proof that his lady has done anything wrong? I know he will be really crushed because he really wants to settle down and start his own family.
God asked prophet Hosea to marry a prostitute for a reason even when the prostitute was sleeping with other men while still married to Hosea God asked him to stay with her, don't tell your friend anything I believe he has prayed about her before thinking of proposing to her leave him and her with God
Re: How Do I Tell My Friend The Truth by alphaNomega: 7:24am On Jul 03, 2019
Zimgirl321:
I have a male friend who is in his early 40s. Over the past few years he has been trying to find a wife which was proving to be very hard. 2 years ago he met this lady in our church and they were getting along well. They had a few hiccups along the way but this expected for every relationship. Some months ago I started hearing rumours about his girlfriend and how she was sleeping around with a married man in the church. Also, it was rumoured that the lady was kicked out of her old church for the same behaviour. At first I ignored it but the rumours have started again. My friend confided me that he intends to propose to the lady shortly. Please may you advise me if I should tell my friend about the rumours? I am scared to say anything because I don’t actually have any proof that his lady has done anything wrong? I know he will be really crushed because he really wants to settle down and start his own family.

Tell him
Re: How Do I Tell My Friend The Truth by lereinter(m): 8:11am On Jul 03, 2019
A 40 yrs old man will surely eat left over

Na bitter truth
Re: How Do I Tell My Friend The Truth by Nobody: 8:16am On Jul 03, 2019
Zimgirl321:
I have a male friend who is in his early 40s. Over the past few years he has been trying to find a wife which was proving to be very hard. 2 years ago he met this lady in our church and they were getting along well. They had a few hiccups along the way but this expected for every relationship. Some months ago I started hearing rumours about his girlfriend and how she was sleeping around with a married man in the church. Also, it was rumoured that the lady was kicked out of her old church for the same behaviour. At first I ignored it but the rumours have started again. My friend confided me that he intends to propose to the lady shortly. Please may you advise me if I should tell my friend about the rumours? I am scared to say anything because I don’t actually have any proof that his lady has done anything wrong? I know he will be really crushed because he really wants to settle down and start his own family.
ppl get stupid mind oo


Sleep with ur church member


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Re: How Do I Tell My Friend The Truth by Nobody: 8:23am On Jul 03, 2019
lereinter:

A 40 yrs old man will surely eat left over

Na bitter truth
Isn't the 40yr old a left over?? Where's the strength? He'll be 60 when his first child clocks 19! That's if they start making babies immediately... Better late than never though.

@Op Don't be a rumor monger, even God detest such.
Re: How Do I Tell My Friend The Truth by succyreal(m): 9:01am On Jul 03, 2019
Op Op Op.. how many time have I called u? learn to mind your own business, even if that lady in question has done this or that there must be a purpose. don't forget change is constant and she might change from bad to good. so keep your mouth shut and let the guy enjoy his relationship.

Never let the past to spoil the present and future.
Re: How Do I Tell My Friend The Truth by Techcrunchng(m): 10:14am On Jul 03, 2019
netpro:
This could be her opportunity to settle down and put the temptations in the past. Don't ruin it for her. If your friend finds her good for a wife, that is good enough. Most likely your friend had already test-drive her engine too. So he is guilty as well.

If the truth is told about how many men your wife (or future wife) slept with before marrying you, you will be shocked.

Btw, your friend may already know or have heard the rumours but love as she is.

Bros mind your own business. And give them the support they need to both settle down and have a family.
True talk! Unmarried males and females sleeps around and the OP is not exclusive, most will stop when got married.

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Re: How Do I Tell My Friend The Truth by Naijazure: 11:09am On Jul 03, 2019
Shebi you're also a she, since the other she be sleeping around and you don't want anything crushing the guy...

Simple advice ehn,. Tell him then marry him
Re: How Do I Tell My Friend The Truth by godliman: 6:43pm On Jul 03, 2019
Pls dont keep quiet as many are urging you. If you care for your friend you won't want to see him plunge into a pit blind folded. Remember there isn't a smoke without a fire. If you keep quiet your friend wont forgive you. Confront the lady and do some investigation quickly and if confirmed, tell your friend. If she has change she should own up to your friend about her criminal history else she may be pretending and later your friend will learn in a hard way that old habits die hard. Fornication is as serious as hiv status, you can let your friend die would you?
Re: How Do I Tell My Friend The Truth by lereinter(m): 9:27pm On Jul 03, 2019
AwkaetitiBabe:
Isn't the 40yr old a left over?? Where's the strength? He'll be 60 when his first child clocks 19! That's if they start making babies immediately... Better late than never though.

@Op Don't be a rumor monger, even God detest such.

Pretty lady

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