"I'm through with this marriage and there's no going back". "Haba!, sister in Christ, are you still in Christ?" "Brother in the Lord, are you still in the Lord?" "You should know by now that God hates divorce". "Yes I know, but this woman is just a pack of trouble and bad luck, and I cant cope with her anymore." "This man is nothing but an idiot, and I regret ever marrying him, but it's over for good."

The above scenario is sadly a very common occurrence in many marriages today. That's why one needs to be very careful and seek the face of God before jumping into marriage. But bear in mind that marrying in the will of God does not automatically guarantee a problem-free marriage. Misunderstanding is bound to happen as long as two people from different backgrounds, with different ideas and opinions are trying to blend together as one in everything. There must be misunderstanding at one time or the other, but how long it is left unsettled is what causes problems in marriages.

Have you found yourself in the kind of scenario described above and you are already contemplating divorce? Please pause a little and hear what God has to say. Mark 10:11-12 says, "So he said unto them, Whoever divorces his wife, and marries another, commits adultery against her". And if a woman divorces her husband, and marries another, she commits adultery". Luke 16:18 and Matt 19:9 also says the same thing. And where do adulterers go to? Heaven? The last time I checked, their destination has not changed. It's still hell.
So, as a Christian, if you must divorce your spouse, then remain unmarried, otherwise, you are committing adultery. It's the bible that said so, not me.

That your marriage is shaking does not mean it should be left to collapse, there are still measures you can take to build it stronger than it was.
The number one thing is to check yourself first before putting all the blame on your spouse. Make sure the problem is not from you. If it's from you, make the necessary amends if you want your marriage to work.

And if it's from your spouse, sit him or her down and talk it over, don't assume they know what they are doing is wrong. So, talk about it and don't keep quiet until it breaks your marriage. If he or she refuses to change, do your best to adjust to the situation in question if possible. As you are trying to adjust, also keep praying because there's power in prayer, and there's nothing prayer cannot change.

Also, endurance and sacrifice are two things you cannot ignore if you want your marriage to work. You never can tell, God may be testing you through your spouse, endure it. If you endure till the end of that test, you will see the sweetness that will come out of that bitter experience.

Finally, whatever sacrifice you need to make to see your marriage work, make it and save your marriage, as long as it doesn't go against the word of God. A marriage where none of the spouse is ready to sacrifice their own pleasure and comfort is bound to fail, it's just a matter of time.

And I will not forget the most important thing, LOVE. Show him or her love. Love is not all about what you feel for someone. It's all about your actions towards them. Dont let your marriage hit the rock, rather, build it on the Rock (Jesus). Divorce is not, and can never be an option!