Good day to all the house member on this platform.i kardly post but read post on this forum i will like your mature opinion on this issue bothering me concerning my wife.my wife atitude towards me is pulling me away from her.she is very good at keeping malice or giving me silent mood most often over little issues which would have been resolved by mere communication.Two weeks ago,I transferred an upkeep money to my wife at around 8pm after we finished talking on phone. I was expecting her to acknowledge it.she didn't until the next day at around noon when I called to ask if she has gotten the alert.she said she is just seeing the alert according to her statement.i said,how can the alert just enter her phone. To avoid unnecessary argument I told her we will talk later and end the called.she is the type that like arguing and hardly accept fault. Although, she might be right due to network issues atimes.my pained here is,why would she keep malice or stop calling me cos I asked her why she didn't acknowledge it.why is she always on the defensive side when SORRY would have eased us the stress.she is fonds of this atitude.she can keep to hers elf or be on silent mood for 3 months as long as money is coming in to take care of the children needs.most often I end up initiating the talking. or make peace.my take on this is,must I be the one making the move for peace to reign. what if I refused to call her. that's mean we will heading for divorced some day.so many thought on my mind if she truly feels love for me. .pls I need ur candid advice before I start acting funny.

Why are you so picky over unnecessary things? You asked her about the alert, and she told you it just entered her phone. Why can't you just take that excuse and move on. Why make unimportant things so important to the extent it will start affecting your relationship.
Everything mustn't be fight . There was nothing to be sorry about for not seeing the alert on time

Every relationship has his ups and down.... I will advice you bring this to her notice... You are the head, so you have the right to tell her what you want. Let her realize keeping o herself can lead to divorce someday.... God bless your home.

You're the one who no longer wanted to talk to her at that moment and ended the call. Maybe she didn't call back b|c she thought you didn't want to talk to her.

If she has a habit of not acknowledging money you send her, let her know you would appreciate it if she can call, text or whatsapp you when you send these transfers.

You just have to communicate better w| each other.

From your writeup it seems you ar living far apart. All you need to do is to sit her down, and talk to on how much you wld love her to call you once in a while. How you needed her to be conscious of you in her life and not just the money u are sending.
Lastly, teach her so say sorry when she does something wrong, teach her by saying sorry to her always for some things you do wrong to her and even some things she does wrong.

You can't force a sorry from ungrateful people who don't feel any remorse about their malice and wrongful actions... And unless, she just suddenly turned like that, wasn't she this way before? Why did you go ahead on marrying such foul women?

You have 2 options: stay with this foul women and be miserable for the rest of your natural life OR get rid of the animal...

MrBrownJay1:
You can't force a sorry from ungrateful people who don't feel any remorse about their malice and wrongful actions... And unless, she just suddenly turned like that, wasn't she this way before? Why did you go ahead on marrying such foul women?

You have 2 options: stay with this foul women and be miserable for the rest of your natural life OR get rid of the animal...

She's still his wife. He may be angry with her right now but that doesn't mean he will for long or forever. He's a man like you, there are better ways to communicate without insulting him (oh yes, you insulted him when you insulted his wife)


Put some respect on it.


I blame the op though, he brought the melon seeds so help him shell it.

For people who take you for granted, they also need to see that you're equally capable of being mean and unreasonable.

Your offers for peace get interpreted as weakness if you're not capable of, or willing to dish out discomfort.

Why is the US kissing up to North Korea today?

Hmm

yeyeosoronga:
Why are you so picky over unnecessary things? You asked her about the alert, and she told you it just entered her phone. Why can't you just take that excuse and move on. Why make unimportant things so important to the extent it will start affecting your relationship.
Everything mustn't be fight . There was nothing to be sorry about for not seeing the alert on time

Wise counsel given so far on this matter.


Heed to this @op, you will be fine, Las Las

Here is the bitter truth no one has said to you; your darling wife is not going to change! She's simply the opinionated type. Some folks won't understand as I am so sure this isn't about the call/alert thing.

People who can't say sorry even when they're not at fault are very very dangerous. I avoid them like plaque. But hey, she's your wife, you have to deal with the issue once and for all. Otherwise, you will continue to apologize till eternity, leaving your woman and malice with the power to control and manipulate you like a doll.

Next time she offends you (and you're sure about it), don't go f00ling yourself by begging over what you didn't do. If she doesn't and can't seem to recognize her mistakes, and consequently summon the courage to call you and apologize like normal people do, let her be.

For once, do not CALL. People like her do not always give a damn; some of them prefer to break and end the relationship than say that five letter word (sorry). You teach them and their malice great lessons by ignoring the consequences too.

you knew ur wife keeps malice before you married her...carry ur cross,we are all with ours!!

theButterfly:
You're the one who no longer wanted to talk to her at that moment and ended the call. Maybe she didn't call back b|c she thought you didn't want to talk to her.

No, she didn't call back because she knows her beggy beggy husband will always accommodate her excesses and come back begging as usual like a hungry infant.

Acidosis:
Here is the bitter truth no one has said to you; your darling wife is not going to change! She's simply the opinionated type. Some folks won't understand as I am so sure this isn't about the call/alert thing.

People who can't say sorry even when they're not at fault are very very dangerous. I avoid them like plaque. But hey, she's your wife, you have to deal with the issue once and for all. Otherwise, you will continue to apologize till eternity, leaving your woman and malice with the power to control and manipulate you like a doll.

Next time she offends you (and you're sure about it), don't go f00ling yourself by begging over what you didn't do. If she doesn't and can't seem to recognize her mistakes, and consequently summon the courage to call you and apologize like normal people do, let her be.

For once, do not CALL. People like her do not always give a damn; some of them prefer to break and end the relationship than say that five letter word (sorry). You teach them and their malice great lessons by ignoring the consequences too.

@OP people treat you the way you let them especially if they are not prone to goodness in the first place.

Your wife is ungrateful and unapologetic.

@ungratefulness, give her another chance and discuss about it. If no change, give her only the basics. You are not obligated to give her extras or luxuries till she earns it.

@unapologetic, talk about it again. No change, don't keep malice however relate with her on the basics. No unnecessary familiarity either.

She might pretend to change for a while: until you see genuine change, the above applies.

If she decides to take your goodness for granted, then let her earn it hence forth.

Goodluck

@GreatGod007

you care for her more than she does
you love her more than she loves you
you're a weak man, she's not too strong, but an inch from you


my advice? send her money for upkeep, stop stressing over her

if it continues, please divorce

Wanna hear some bitter truths?
1. She's ungrateful.
2. She doesn't love you - you probably weren't her first choice for marriage.
3. She's probably seeing someone else.

Solutions:
Either:
Continue being her beta Male simp
Or
Man up and #MGTOW

lilmax:
you care for her more than she does
you love her more than she loves you
you're a weak man, she's not too strong, but an inch from you


my advice? send her money for upkeep, stop stressing over her

if it continues, please divorce

That is what the Bible commanded.

Finally God is indeed wise...

Just imagine if the woman loved him more.

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Bring small matter come nairaland, awon judge Judy go help you disseminate am.. Until everything turn yam pepper scatter scatter...

See opinions flying upandan... Like czarina said... Na you carry your egusi come bustop, everybody don help you break am to pieces! Tueh!!! Yeye dey smell

For once y'all should stop seeking public opinions on your personal lives... These people on a faceless forum that can't even remove the speck from their own eyes.. Mtchewwwww.

I wonder how alert or no alert turn public discussions!.. If you still need the opinions of strangers on how to manage your home as a man, you need to be stripped off your manhood!

czarina:
She's still his wife. He may be angry with her right now but that doesn't mean he will for long or forever. He's a man like you, there are better ways to communicate without insulting him (oh yes, you insulted him when you insulted his wife)


Put some respect on it.

I blame the op though, he brought the melon seeds so help him shell it.

If it acts like an ungrateful animal, then why should we call it anything else?! In this world, only animals turn around and bite you, after you have raised/fed/nurture them....

Let's call a spade A SPADE.