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Re: Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by Gkay1(m): 9:55am On Aug 12, 2019
sorry o
Re: Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by maekkyrain(m): 9:56am On Aug 12, 2019
Baba go take Oshogbo weed u go dey alright,....

In ur mid 20' and u are filling depressed....

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Re: Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by afroniger: 10:02am On Aug 12, 2019
Op, trust me you will get over it. Time has a way of healing/mending broken hearts. In the meantime, try and get busy. Las las you will be alright. Just hang in there.

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Re: Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by Isoduwa(m): 10:02am On Aug 12, 2019
All this bread � and eggs children self i dont know was run through their brain
Re: Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by Jabioro: 10:02am On Aug 12, 2019
Be a man is not a day job, nothing happened to you..she is going to regret her actions..Calm down and move on but don't ever say wouldn't love again..be cheerful bros..

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Re: Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by SimDan95(m): 10:04am On Aug 12, 2019
this is how life is, bro make money enjoy the best life can offer you'll meet more classic chic's. then you'll realize that she was just a piece of trash.
make sure u bcome successful to the point whereby when you cross each other path tommorow she'll regret dumping you

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Re: Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by sucess001(m): 10:05am On Aug 12, 2019
Shadbay:
I've been in extreme emotional pains for the past few months. I don't even know where to start to narrate my ordeal. I do not want this experience to damage me emotionally and psychologically, that's why I'm seeking help. Please pardon the length and blunders.

Earlier this year, just two weeks after my birthday, my ex-gf (gf of almost 7 years) broke up with me. I had just visited her and left two days prior to the breakup.
I went through the most challenging period of my life because I just suffered some job and graduate school rejections that period. The breakup worsened my situation and pushed me into a depression. I have never felt defeated in life till that point. She blocked me on all mediums of communication. It was too extreme. I went from 91kg to 85 kg in less than 3 weeks.

I visited her to understand the whole situation cos her behaviour was too extreme and I got a toxic dosage of embarrassments. She said she was done with me. She said a lot of hurtful things to me. The height of the embarrassments was calling her new boyfriend (barely 3 weeks after breaking up with me) right in front of me and telling him she doesn't know what I'm doing in her place. She even called some of her friends to inform them of my presence. They all sounded scared and concerned for her as if I was some kind of predator. They told her to leave her place at once and come to their place. All these calls were on speaker! This is someone I invested all these years and emotions for. I went through hell that period cos I was dealing with some other personal tribulations.

I can't imagine treating her or anybody else the way she treated me. I NEVER cheated on her, NOT ONCE or by chance! I have walked away from compromising situation countless times because I placed her so high. I had so much respect for her. She now went on to slander my name, accusing me of cheating!!! When I asked who was feeding her all those lies, she said her friends told her. How? Did I date you or your friends? It still boggles my mind to think she'll believe them and go about spreading those ugly rumours about me.

The straw that broke the camels back was when a friend of mine told me that she said she's grateful to God she didn't contract any infection/disease from me! I couldn't believe my ears. I broke down. This didn't just break my heart, it shattered my spirit. This is someone I imagined spending the rest of my life with. My whole family (even extended) accepted her as one of us.

I had to accept that things were beyond salvaging because any attempt from me to fix things kept doing the opposite. The minute it involved my sisters I had to accept defeat.

I never harmed her or attempt to lay a finger on her. I might not be perfect but I gave it my all. The situation is far worse than I described it here, it's even painful remembering them. I loved her to a fault.

I got a text from her about a month ago after I refused to answer her calls because I had just lost a loved one. She said she's getting married and hopes I find peace as she has found hers. I stared at those words speechless. The worst set of people one could ever encounter are those that hurt you, know that they hurt you and still turn around to play victim accusing you of hurting them. If there's anything I'm proud of is my level of self-control. I know few of my friends who made fun of me being extremely loyal to one girl, warning me severally that I'm wasting my time and good looks, that my youth is passing me by. At least I have a clean conscience that I never betrayed her trust. I never went about telling other people our business. Now I understand why they say good guys always finish last.


Women don't deserve loyalty, forget all their cliche that men are not faithful and honest. I went the faithful, loyal path what did I get in return? Venom! I feel repulsed when I hear women say "Men are dogs", "Men always cheat".

I just don't want this experience to turn me into something I'm not or make me an embittered soul. I'm traumatized beyond words. This was my first and only relationship and I gave it everything. I'm in my mid-twenties and I don't think I can ever love genuinely again. I need mature advice on how to come out of this ordeal a better person. I don't want to transfer any aggressions or micro-aggressions on anybody because of this experience. Please mature advice needed. Thank you.




This feels like my story sometime 2014. You need to shut ur mind and focus on other things...focus on getting more money and prosperous ....cheers

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Re: Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by YoungAncient1: 10:05am On Aug 12, 2019
Your life doesn't consist in the love and care of your girlfriend. Your life is not tied to any human person. Be like David, encourage yourself in the Lord. Sympathy is the last thing you need now. It only appeal to your emotions but it doesn't heal the wounds.

By the way, why date for so long when married plans is still a long way off? We must learn how to be by ourselves sometimes.

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Re: Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by may320: 10:05am On Aug 12, 2019
@Op it's not easy but time heals every wound.
I'll digress a bit here anyway. As it is in ladies so it is in men too.
Sorry to say this, some men are actually responsible for the 'wildness' of some ladies. Imagine a man one wasted years dating and at the end of it all, dumped the girl for another one.
Men believe in dating many women and choosing one of them at the end of the day. Some ladies are victims of this and as such, they are now wiser.....but the same group of men still castigate them, when in actual fact they taught them to be mean.
In your situation, it's just a case of a 'good one' suffering too. You'll be okay.
Concentrate your attention and energy on things of interest that can take your mind off it.

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Re: Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by AntiWailer: 10:06am On Aug 12, 2019
Stand up.

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Re: Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by Michhy123(f): 10:06am On Aug 12, 2019
Shadbay:
I've been in extreme emotional pains for the past few months. I don't even know where to start to narrate my ordeal. I do not want this experience to damage me emotionally and psychologically, that's why I'm seeking help. Please pardon the length and blunders.

Earlier this year, just two weeks after my birthday, my ex-gf (gf of almost 7 years) broke up with me. I had just visited her and left two days prior to the breakup.
I went through the most challenging period of my life because I just suffered some job and graduate school rejections that period. The breakup worsened my situation and pushed me into a depression. I have never felt defeated in life till that point. She blocked me on all mediums of communication. It was too extreme. I went from 91kg to 85 kg in less than 3 weeks.

I visited her to understand the whole situation cos her behaviour was too extreme and I got a toxic dosage of embarrassments. She said she was done with me. She said a lot of hurtful things to me. The height of the embarrassments was calling her new boyfriend (barely 3 weeks after breaking up with me) right in front of me and telling him she doesn't know what I'm doing in her place. She even called some of her friends to inform them of my presence. They all sounded scared and concerned for her as if I was some kind of predator. They told her to leave her place at once and come to their place. All these calls were on speaker! This is someone I invested all these years and emotions for. I went through hell that period cos I was dealing with some other personal tribulations.

I can't imagine treating her or anybody else the way she treated me. I NEVER cheated on her, NOT ONCE or by chance! I have walked away from compromising situation countless times because I placed her so high. I had so much respect for her. She now went on to slander my name, accusing me of cheating!!! When I asked who was feeding her all those lies, she said her friends told her. How? Did I date you or your friends? It still boggles my mind to think she'll believe them and go about spreading those ugly rumours about me.

The straw that broke the camels back was when a friend of mine told me that she said she's grateful to God she didn't contract any infection/disease from me! I couldn't believe my ears. I broke down. This didn't just break my heart, it shattered my spirit. This is someone I imagined spending the rest of my life with. My whole family (even extended) accepted her as one of us.

I had to accept that things were beyond salvaging because any attempt from me to fix things kept doing the opposite. The minute it involved my sisters I had to accept defeat.

I never harmed her or attempt to lay a finger on her. I might not be perfect but I gave it my all. The situation is far worse than I described it here, it's even painful remembering them. I loved her to a fault.

I got a text from her about a month ago after I refused to answer her calls because I had just lost a loved one. She said she's getting married and hopes I find peace as she has found hers. I stared at those words speechless. The worst set of people one could ever encounter are those that hurt you, know that they hurt you and still turn around to play victim accusing you of hurting them. If there's anything I'm proud of is my level of self-control. I know few of my friends who made fun of me being extremely loyal to one girl, warning me severally that I'm wasting my time and good looks, that my youth is passing me by. At least I have a clean conscience that I never betrayed her trust. I never went about telling other people our business. Now I understand why they say good guys always finish last.


Women don't deserve loyalty, forget all their cliche that men are not faithful and honest. I went the faithful, loyal path what did I get in return? Venom! I feel repulsed when I hear women say "Men are dogs", "Men always cheat".

I just don't want this experience to turn me into something I'm not or make me an embittered soul. I'm traumatized beyond words. This was my first and only relationship and I gave it everything. I'm in my mid-twenties and I don't think I can ever love genuinely again. I need mature advice on how to come out of this ordeal a better person. I don't want to transfer any aggressions or micro-aggressions on anybody because of this experience. Please mature advice needed. Thank you.



Iam available... Good character but not that pretty face ....IAM not a liability.... I am currently going through a similar thing but it is well...
You can hook up for a chat...
Hey who stone me

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Re: Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by BlueAir: 10:07am On Aug 12, 2019
pansophist:
My young bro, take heart. The sad truth is, she has found someone better, and you should accept it even if you do not feature in the picture. It's about emotional maturity and letting this just be.

Your next step is to give yourself time, as time has a way of healing things. You'll pass through it, and you'll like yourself better after this. I experienced something you passed through when I was 18, and felt even worse than you, but I was naive, innocent, and didnt understood the timeless truth of female nature, keeping attraction, and stimulating the relationship sustainably. Looking back those times, I could see clearly the mistake I made, and I've refined myself to a point that such could not happen again. And in the unlikely scenario that it does, well, a replacement is around the corner. You should do the same.

It seems to me that your relationship with her is your job, you specialized in loving her and treating her as the best thing, while ignoring your own personal growth. Listen attentively, women DO NOT want to be your goal. They want to be part/beneficiary of it, not the goal. You treated her nice and gave her everything to the best of your ability and probably didn't focus on your growth, and compete with other men in the free world.

You were too available, making you appear as someone with female scarcity, with no option and not a real catch. Also, pursuing her even after her formal declaration for relationship withdrawal is something that men with no options do. You cannot beg a woman into a relationship with you, it's an instant attraction killer. You attract and keep her with the lifestyle you've built for yourself, and the man you've developed yourself to be.

Remember the biblical story of when God told Adam (after eating the forbidden fruit from Eve), that henceforth he would toil the ground for food and survival, and cursed Eve that she will suffer doing child birth? The true meaning of this story is that as a man, you have to be out there hustling, pursuing your goal and fulfilling your dreams, as no woman want to be for a man that is not out there toiling the ground.

She dont want to cry during child birth for man with no purpose, and be amother to his kids. Whether you believe in this story or not, you may comb any other religion, culture, science, and just observe the world around you, you would see that your value as a man is by being resourceful. You're almost depressed (that's if you're not), because you are not pursuing things in the real world that would make her wonder why you do not call her always, that even if she breaks up with you, you're too busy achieving and breaking through to even feel an inch of her jilting you.

That even if she breaks up with you, in the back of mind, she knows there are younger and far beautiful women out there waiting to take her place, and will question herself if she can get a man in the same calibre as you. Do you think Davido will be worried if Chioma decides to leave him? Davido will laugh at her because he knows that she will be dead lucky to meet a man in his status, and she knows this as well. In every relationship, many young boys are clouded with feelings and love without understanding the power dynamics that is ever present and playing in the background.

I hope you get well, but remember this, you will never loose women chasing money (interpret it as goals, achievements, purpose etc), but you'll always loose money chasing women. Goodluck young man.
I feel like clinching ur arms forever embarassed

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Re: Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by Hoodbilonia: 10:09am On Aug 12, 2019
Me i dey break up
Wake up
Make up
Sex down
Wankkk up
We all been thru dah shiit young niggi
Nigerian ladies are all up to no good
Never fall innlove

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Re: Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by Equity15(m): 10:09am On Aug 12, 2019
another dodoyo



*modified*

Oga, we have all been there. it happens to almost everybody and it really isn't easy moving on..but you just have to..just see her a hurdle you have jumped. she wasn't meant for you and please don't every beg a gal to stay with you, it never ends well. you'll be fine..I never thought I could recover when I was heart broken, but it's all in the past now.

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Re: Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by Horstin50(m): 10:10am On Aug 12, 2019
You no well....
Re: Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by Omoslim26: 10:10am On Aug 12, 2019
oga better project your mind and energy on more productive things she is not married to you so she can choose to leave you are a youth this is the best time you have to build a strong foundation for yourself so you can have a more comfortable tomorrow don't let girls be the centre factor of your life have a dream have a purpose in life and also learn to be flexible with life choose to be happy
because i don't want to come here to read young man takes sniper after girlfriend left him. I am telling you nw you don't have any RIP from me

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Re: Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by jaxxy(m): 10:10am On Aug 12, 2019
Theres a simple proverb I think which says “don’t cry over spilled milk.” Hope for the best bt If it happens, it happens just move on as swift as you can. Crying won’t solve such issues only corrective actions can.

Its hard to not feel hurt and resentment bt to be honest, u have to feel the pain to truely heal bt don’t feel the pain immediately give urself smtime to adjust ur emotions and feelings probably 1 to 3months then u can deal with the pain for true healing from that situation so u Don’t end up a ruthless bt a better and wiser version of ur self.

The lesson and truth is that it’s not only men that cheat or are ruthless in love it’s everybody tho most are not intentional bt due to poor handling of the situation so better careful.

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Re: Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by Nobody: 10:10am On Aug 12, 2019
Shadbay:
I've been in extreme emotional pains for the past few months. I don't even know where to start to narrate my ordeal. I do not want this experience to damage me emotionally and psychologically, that's why I'm seeking help. Please pardon the length and blunders.

Earlier this year, just two weeks after my birthday, my ex-gf (gf of almost 7 years) broke up with me. I had just visited her and left two days prior to the breakup.
I went through the most challenging period of my life because I just suffered some job and graduate school rejections that period. The breakup worsened my situation and pushed me into a depression. I have never felt defeated in life till that point. She blocked me on all mediums of communication. It was too extreme. I went from 91kg to 85 kg in less than 3 weeks.

I visited her to understand the whole situation cos her behaviour was too extreme and I got a toxic dosage of embarrassments. She said she was done with me. She said a lot of hurtful things to me. The height of the embarrassments was calling her new boyfriend (barely 3 weeks after breaking up with me) right in front of me and telling him she doesn't know what I'm doing in her place. She even called some of her friends to inform them of my presence. They all sounded scared and concerned for her as if I was some kind of predator. They told her to leave her place at once and come to their place. All these calls were on speaker! This is someone I invested all these years and emotions for. I went through hell that period cos I was dealing with some other personal tribulations.

I can't imagine treating her or anybody else the way she treated me. I NEVER cheated on her, NOT ONCE or by chance! I have walked away from compromising situation countless times because I placed her so high. I had so much respect for her. She now went on to slander my name, accusing me of cheating!!! When I asked who was feeding her all those lies, she said her friends told her. How? Did I date you or your friends? It still boggles my mind to think she'll believe them and go about spreading those ugly rumours about me.

The straw that broke the camels back was when a friend of mine told me that she said she's grateful to God she didn't contract any infection/disease from me! I couldn't believe my ears. I broke down. This didn't just break my heart, it shattered my spirit. This is someone I imagined spending the rest of my life with. My whole family (even extended) accepted her as one of us.

I had to accept that things were beyond salvaging because any attempt from me to fix things kept doing the opposite. The minute it involved my sisters I had to accept defeat.

I never harmed her or attempt to lay a finger on her. I might not be perfect but I gave it my all. The situation is far worse than I described it here, it's even painful remembering them. I loved her to a fault.

I got a text from her about a month ago after I refused to answer her calls because I had just lost a loved one. She said she's getting married and hopes I find peace as she has found hers. I stared at those words speechless. The worst set of people one could ever encounter are those that hurt you, know that they hurt you and still turn around to play victim accusing you of hurting them. If there's anything I'm proud of is my level of self-control. I know few of my friends who made fun of me being extremely loyal to one girl, warning me severally that I'm wasting my time and good looks, that my youth is passing me by. At least I have a clean conscience that I never betrayed her trust. I never went about telling other people our business. Now I understand why they say good guys always finish last.


Women don't deserve loyalty, forget all their cliche that men are not faithful and honest. I went the faithful, loyal path what did I get in return? Venom! I feel repulsed when I hear women say "Men are dogs", "Men always cheat".

I just don't want this experience to turn me into something I'm not or make me an embittered soul. I'm traumatized beyond words. This was my first and only relationship and I gave it everything. I'm in my mid-twenties and I don't think I can ever love genuinely again. I need mature advice on how to come out of this ordeal a better person. I don't want to transfer any aggressions or micro-aggressions on anybody because of this experience. Please mature advice needed. Thank you.



It's now that you are in your mid twenties that you should be thinking of dating or marriage. The girl has outgrown u believe me. She is someone probably within your age, you are not ready for her age at this time. Be grateful and move on. You lost nothing

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Re: Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by franzis(m): 10:11am On Aug 12, 2019
Dated for 7 years, how on Earth do people date that long , person wey dey study or Law or architecture for school for don graduate self....

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Re: Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by SUPOL(m): 10:11am On Aug 12, 2019
pansophist:
My young bro, take heart. The sad truth is, she has found someone better, and you should accept it even if you do not feature in the picture. It's about emotional maturity and letting this just be.

Your next step is to give yourself time, as time has a way of healing things. You'll pass through it, and you'll like yourself better after this. I experienced something you passed through when I was 18, and felt even worse than you, but I was naive, innocent, and didnt understood the timeless truth of female nature, keeping attraction, and stimulating the relationship sustainably. Looking back those times, I could see clearly the mistake I made, and I've refined myself to a point that such could not happen again. And in the unlikely scenario that it does, well, a replacement is around the corner. You should do the same.

It seems to me that your relationship with her is your job, you specialized in loving her and treating her as the best thing, while ignoring your own personal growth. Listen attentively, women DO NOT want to be your goal. They want to be part/beneficiary of it, not the goal. You treated her nice and gave her everything to the best of your ability and probably didn't focus on your growth, and compete with other men in the free world.

You were too available, making you appear as someone with female scarcity, with no option and not a real catch. Also, pursuing her even after her formal declaration for relationship withdrawal is something that men with no options do. You cannot beg a woman into a relationship with you, it's an instant attraction killer. You attract and keep her with the lifestyle you've built for yourself, and the man you've developed yourself to be.

Remember the biblical story of when God told Adam (after eating the forbidden fruit from Eve), that henceforth he would toil the ground for food and survival, and cursed Eve that she will suffer doing child birth? The true meaning of this story is that as a man, you have to be out there hustling, pursuing your goal and fulfilling your dreams, as no woman want to be for a man that is not out there toiling the ground.

She dont want to cry during child birth for man with no purpose, and be amother to his kids. Whether you believe in this story or not, you may comb any other religion, culture, science, and just observe the world around you, you would see that your value as a man is by being resourceful. You're almost depressed (that's if you're not), because you are not pursuing things in the real world that would make her wonder why you do not call her always, that even if she breaks up with you, you're too busy achieving and breaking through to even feel an inch of her jilting you.

That even if she breaks up with you, in the back of mind, she knows there are younger and far beautiful women out there waiting to take her place, and will question herself if she can get a man in the same calibre as you. Do you think Davido will be worried if Chioma decides to leave him? Davido will laugh at her because he knows that she will be dead lucky to meet a man in his status, and she knows this as well. In every relationship, many young boys are clouded with feelings and love without understanding the power dynamics that is ever present and playing in the background.

I hope you get well, but remember this, you will never loose women chasing money (interpret it as goals, achievements, purpose etc), but you'll always loose money chasing women. Goodluck young man.
bro I need ur contact.
Re: Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by OdefaGirl(f): 10:11am On Aug 12, 2019
Get over her guy, you owe her big time....be successful!!! Shoot your best shots. Don't settle for less, don't think you are weak here and there, everyone has got a flaw. Come out bold and live your life...all girls aren't the same, I repeat... All girls aren't the same... Likewise guys too. Get someone more beautiful, more intelligent, more successful and a better person than her if possible... Wish you the best, stay safe hun..

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Re: Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by flokii: 10:12am On Aug 12, 2019
I can imagine the pain.. 7 years no be beans atal

@OP sorry, but las las you gatz move on.

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Re: Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by Funmmyastic: 10:12am On Aug 12, 2019
Eeyah,Op take heart,but 7 years relationship is so longggggg.

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Re: Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by Viktorino: 10:13am On Aug 12, 2019
Bro,go, make money and enjoy your life.Make sure you make enough money and show off to her,that she is just a piece of trash.This is the best revenge cool
Re: Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by AlomoReloaded: 10:14am On Aug 12, 2019
Shadbay:
I've been in extreme emotional pains for the past few months. I don't even know where to start to narrate my ordeal. I do not want this experience to damage me emotionally and psychologically, that's why I'm seeking help. Please pardon the length and blunders.

Earlier this year, just two weeks after my birthday, my ex-gf (gf of almost 7 years) broke up with me. I had just visited her and left two days prior to the breakup.
I went through the most challenging period of my life because I just suffered some job and graduate school rejections that period. The breakup worsened my situation and pushed me into a depression. I have never felt defeated in life till that point. She blocked me on all mediums of communication. It was too extreme. I went from 91kg to 85 kg in less than 3 weeks.

I visited her to understand the whole situation cos her behaviour was too extreme and I got a toxic dosage of embarrassments. She said she was done with me. She said a lot of hurtful things to me. The height of the embarrassments was calling her new boyfriend (barely 3 weeks after breaking up with me) right in front of me and telling him she doesn't know what I'm doing in her place. She even called some of her friends to inform them of my presence. They all sounded scared and concerned for her as if I was some kind of predator. They told her to leave her place at once and come to their place. All these calls were on speaker! This is someone I invested all these years and emotions for. I went through hell that period cos I was dealing with some other personal tribulations.

I can't imagine treating her or anybody else the way she treated me. I NEVER cheated on her, NOT ONCE or by chance! I have walked away from compromising situation countless times because I placed her so high. I had so much respect for her. She now went on to slander my name, accusing me of cheating!!! When I asked who was feeding her all those lies, she said her friends told her. How? Did I date you or your friends? It still boggles my mind to think she'll believe them and go about spreading those ugly rumours about me.

The straw that broke the camels back was when a friend of mine told me that she said she's grateful to God she didn't contract any infection/disease from me! I couldn't believe my ears. I broke down. This didn't just break my heart, it shattered my spirit. This is someone I imagined spending the rest of my life with. My whole family (even extended) accepted her as one of us.

I had to accept that things were beyond salvaging because any attempt from me to fix things kept doing the opposite. The minute it involved my sisters I had to accept defeat.

I never harmed her or attempt to lay a finger on her. I might not be perfect but I gave it my all. The situation is far worse than I described it here, it's even painful remembering them. I loved her to a fault.

I got a text from her about a month ago after I refused to answer her calls because I had just lost a loved one. She said she's getting married and hopes I find peace as she has found hers. I stared at those words speechless. The worst set of people one could ever encounter are those that hurt you, know that they hurt you and still turn around to play victim accusing you of hurting them. If there's anything I'm proud of is my level of self-control. I know few of my friends who made fun of me being extremely loyal to one girl, warning me severally that I'm wasting my time and good looks, that my youth is passing me by. At least I have a clean conscience that I never betrayed her trust. I never went about telling other people our business. Now I understand why they say good guys always finish last.


Women don't deserve loyalty, forget all their cliche that men are not faithful and honest. I went the faithful, loyal path what did I get in return? Venom! I feel repulsed when I hear women say "Men are dogs", "Men always cheat".

I just don't want this experience to turn me into something I'm not or make me an embittered soul. I'm traumatized beyond words. This was my first and only relationship and I gave it everything. I'm in my mid-twenties and I don't think I can ever love genuinely again. I need mature advice on how to come out of this ordeal a better person. I don't want to transfer any aggressions or micro-aggressions on anybody because of this experience. Please mature advice needed. Thank you.



Heediot!!!!! Others dey get depressed because money wey we dey expect, no gree land, this pvssy dey get depressed, because woman leave am!!!! You deserve to be flogged!!! Nonsense!!!!!! angry angry angry angry

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Re: Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by Nobody: 10:15am On Aug 12, 2019
pansophist:
My young bro, take heart. The sad truth is, she has found someone better, and you should accept it even if you do not feature in the picture. It's about emotional maturity and letting this just be.

Your next step is to give yourself time, as time has a way of healing things. You'll pass through it, and you'll like yourself better after this. I experienced something you passed through when I was 18, and felt even worse than you, but I was naive, innocent, and didnt understood the timeless truth of female nature, keeping attraction, and stimulating the relationship sustainably. Looking back those times, I could see clearly the mistake I made, and I've refined myself to a point that such could not happen again. And in the unlikely scenario that it does, well, a replacement is around the corner. You should do the same.

It seems to me that your relationship with her is your job, you specialized in loving her and treating her as the best thing, while ignoring your own personal growth. Listen attentively, women DO NOT want to be your goal. They want to be part/beneficiary of it, not the goal. You treated her nice and gave her everything to the best of your ability and probably didn't focus on your growth, and compete with other men in the free world.

You were too available, making you appear as someone with female scarcity, with no option and not a real catch. Also, pursuing her even after her formal declaration for relationship withdrawal is something that men with no options do. You cannot beg a woman into a relationship with you, it's an instant attraction killer. You attract and keep her with the lifestyle you've built for yourself, and the man you've developed yourself to be.

Remember the biblical story of when God told Adam (after eating the forbidden fruit from Eve), that henceforth he would toil the ground for food and survival, and cursed Eve that she will suffer doing child birth? The true meaning of this story is that as a man, you have to be out there hustling, pursuing your goal and fulfilling your dreams, as no woman want to be for a man that is not out there toiling the ground.

She dont want to cry during child birth for man with no purpose, and be amother to his kids. Whether you believe in this story or not, you may comb any other religion, culture, science, and just observe the world around you, you would see that your value as a man is by being resourceful. You're almost depressed (that's if you're not), because you are not pursuing things in the real world that would make her wonder why you do not call her always, that even if she breaks up with you, you're too busy achieving and breaking through to even feel an inch of her jilting you.

That even if she breaks up with you, in the back of mind, she knows there are younger and far beautiful women out there waiting to take her place, and will question herself if she can get a man in the same calibre as you. Do you think Davido will be worried if Chioma decides to leave him? Davido will laugh at her because he knows that she will be dead lucky to meet a man in his status, and she knows this as well. In every relationship, many young boys are clouded with feelings and love without understanding the power dynamics that is ever present and playing in the background.

I hope you get well, but remember this, you will never loose women chasing money (interpret it as goals, achievements, purpose etc), but you'll always loose money chasing women. Goodluck young man.



Thank you

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Re: Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by Enskynelson(m): 10:15am On Aug 12, 2019
Please be strong bro. Take solace in the fact that you were innocent in all of that. To think that she broke up with u and three weeks later already having a boyfriend shows she was not fully committed to only you.
Let the pains she has caused you drive you to put more efforts on yourself. I am almost definite she left because this new guy has more money and looks more settled than you. But we have to prove her wrong!
Remember this: "Anyone can walk out of your life but don't give them the joy of remaining where they left you." You have to move on, be strong and put her to shame by overcoming all the pains she has caused you. Cheers bro. If you would need someone to talk to, I won't mind cos I am almost like you just that God has somehow sustained my relationship till date and hoping to get married soon.
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Re: Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by anungangampu: 10:15am On Aug 12, 2019
FROGMAN101:
Also Op, stop playing the victim card of not cheating bla bla. The world owes you nothing. Your ex girlfriend owes you nothing.

Nobody will give you a shinning medal for being loyal to a girlfriend. Infact nobody cares. Bitter truth. She will be fine. She will probably live long and die someday. Just like you too. So nothing will happen to her.

I hope you don’t make the same mistake twice.
u just spoke like a Grecian philosopher.. In a long run, the girl owes him nothing.. All this winning will be mere memory only if he pick himself up and know shiiitttt happens.

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Re: Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by baba6ix(m): 10:16am On Aug 12, 2019
my guy,she waited for 7 years ooo,and you know say women know that time is not their friend,so she jumped on an immidate offer.she played victim because thats the way women are. kiss

now sit down ,
plan yourself and your future ,dont plan it around anyone but you oo
stand up and move on,but move on as a focused predetor{not on women oo,but on the goals you set}
then be friends with a lot of women ,dont commit oooo,before u serve another 7 yrs grin.then when you are ready,pick one as that guy picked your girl and marry her,and the girl you picked will dump another guy that will learn this lesson cool,
live goes on like that,

Be wise my son wink

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