Hello house,

Pls don't get confused with my topic. I just have an issue bothering me.
I have a friend, let me call her friend A. We were so close that she basically tells me everything about her other friends. Both good and bad. Let me call her other friends B and C.

One day, there was a misunderstanding between the 3 of them and I got involved one way or the other. After the whole matter died down, I became friends with B and C. Friend B we help babysit for each other cos we leave close by. Friend C cos we work together.

During the course of our friendship, I realized my own friend has actually said a lot of unpleasant things about me to friend B and C But I don't want to cause no problem so no confrontation. Rather, I started withdrawing from Friend A but still don't want to lose the friendship.

We had another argument today and she made a statement that my friend's friend is not my friend. She actually said it in yoruba that if I think it well then I'll understand what she's saying. She feels she's been sidelined.
Pls advice me...do I cut off the whole friends or what? But I don't know how possible that will be especially with the one that we babysit for each other.
What actually scares me with friend A is once you offend her, she'll badmouth you to every Dick and Harry.
Don't have no other friends just this little circle.
Pls no insult. Thank you.

Pls don't mind the typos.

My problem here is that a lot of things have been said that cannot be unsaid. You women too get problem with ur mouth? Can't u enjoy ppl's company without revealing so much?
Anyway, to answer ur question; ur friend's friends are not necessarily ur friend. There is a limit to what you can share with them. That u hang out together, help each other doesn't necessarily make them ur friend. For me, the only time I get close with my friend's friends is wen we hang out together. In the first place, I'm only friendly with them bcoz of my friend. So my friend Coms first. I don't share the soft spot I hav for him with some other friends.

Your friends friends are not necessarily your friends, especially for you women who gossip a lot and get jealous of each other at the Slightest. Just be neutral and sit on the fence on this one.

must u b friend to your friends friends, u no fit day on ur own with just ur friend,u self go like amebo o,,

What actually scares me with friend A is once you offend her, she'll badmouth you to every Dick and Harry.



she badmouths others to you, when they offend her too


stay away and dey your dey

jumzzy448:
Hello house,

Pls don't get confused with my topic. I just have an issue bothering me.
I have a friend, let me call her friend A. We were so close that she basically tells me everything about her other friends. Both good and bad. Let me call her other friends B and C.

One day, there was a misunderstanding between the 3 of them and I got involved one way or the other. After the whole matter died down, I became friends with B and C. Friend B we help babysit for each other cos we leave close by. Friend C cos we work together.

During the course of our friendship, I realized my own friend has actually said a lot of unpleasant things about me to friend B and C But I don't want to cause no problem so no confrontation. Rather, I started withdrawing from Friend A but still don't want to lose the friendship.

We had another argument today and she made a statement that my friend's friend is not my friend. She actually said it in yoruba that if I think it well then I'll understand what she's saying. She feels she's been sidelined.
Pls advice me...do I cut off the whole friends or what? But I don't know how possible that will be especially with the one that we babysit for each other.
What actually scares me with friend A is once you offend her, she'll badmouth you to every Dick and Harry.
Don't have no other friends just this little circle.
Pls no insult. Thank you.

Pls don't mind the typos.

Bucouting will create more problems, apply wisdom on everything said against you

Be carefull too with the other friends

They are all your friends but desist from making anyone of you a topic of discussion with another

When they will quote you, you won't be there

Treat all equally to avoid jealousy

Be careful with the three of them and say only what you can defend in their presence