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On Being Asked Out FIRST: What's The Cause Of This GLOBAL Female Entitlement? by MiseryHimself: 12:33am On Sep 18, 2019
I'm actually really curious what you guys have to say about why the title is the norm globally. It's almost written in most women's DNA, lol, and I am not saying there's anything wrong with that, but why has it become a norm? You'd thin that in developed societies, those gender norms are broken, but it's still there. Seems society contributes to it, idk, but this seems to be deeper than that.

It's not just peculiar to Sudanese or Chinese or Filipino or Dutch women. I mean, it's almost universe, from time immemorial. Idk, but honestly, what do you think are the reasons females have to wait for guys to approach them first. Or rightly believe they should wait.
Re: On Being Asked Out FIRST: What's The Cause Of This GLOBAL Female Entitlement? by budaatum: 2:29am On Sep 18, 2019
If a woman asks men out she will be everyones ashewo because they would use her and dump her and nobody would want her anymore and if she's unlucky your bun will be baking in her oven!

And biology. The need to know your child belongs to its father and not some other man you fuqed.

It's not like men say no to pussy handed on a plate.

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Re: On Being Asked Out FIRST: What's The Cause Of This GLOBAL Female Entitlement? by CAPSLOCKED: 7:28am On Sep 18, 2019
budaatum:
If a woman asks men out she will be everyones ashewo because they would use her and dump her and nobody would want her anymore...

MEN HAVE BEEN ASKING WOMEN OUT AND THEY STILL GET ABANDONED ALL THE SAME.

IF SHE'S GOOD ENOUGH SHE'LL BE KEPT.
I IMAGINE IT LIKE THAT.

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Re: On Being Asked Out FIRST: What's The Cause Of This GLOBAL Female Entitlement? by budaatum: 7:41am On Sep 18, 2019
CAPSLOCKED:


MEN HAVE BEEN ASKING WOMEN OUT AND THEY STILL GET ABANDONED ALL THE SAME.

IF SHE'S GOOD ENOUGH SHE'LL BE KEPT.
I IMAGINE IT LIKE THAT.
You assuming 'man' is a keeper, which, on the whole, he isn't.
Re: On Being Asked Out FIRST: What's The Cause Of This GLOBAL Female Entitlement? by donstan18: 7:47am On Sep 18, 2019
Most times, people value what they chase the more.
Re: On Being Asked Out FIRST: What's The Cause Of This GLOBAL Female Entitlement? by pocohantas(f): 7:55am On Sep 18, 2019
budaatum:

You assuming 'man' is a keeper, which, on the whole, he isn't.

Hehehe. Which kepa?
De Gea or Courtios? cheesy

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Re: On Being Asked Out FIRST: What's The Cause Of This GLOBAL Female Entitlement? by AstroG: 8:15am On Sep 18, 2019
pocohantas:


Hehehe. Which kepa?
De Gea or Courtios? cheesy




Navas

Re: On Being Asked Out FIRST: What's The Cause Of This GLOBAL Female Entitlement? by cooooooks(m): 8:56am On Sep 18, 2019
Ladies ask guys out all the time.

Also, many relationships start without anyone asking anyone out explicitly.
Re: On Being Asked Out FIRST: What's The Cause Of This GLOBAL Female Entitlement? by tpiar: 9:01am On Sep 18, 2019
Ask out single men not married ones!

Dem swear for una ni?
Re: On Being Asked Out FIRST: What's The Cause Of This GLOBAL Female Entitlement? by MiseryHimself: 9:47pm On Sep 20, 2019
budaatum:
If a woman asks men out she will be everyones ashewo because they would use her and dump her and nobody would want her anymore and if she's unlucky your bun will be baking in her oven!

I think your reasoning makes sense. But then again, there are some women who don't say NO or they say NO to a disproportionate few who ask them out. I mean, they are down for most men that ask them out. So they are still everyone's ashewo because females will always get asked out.

budaatum:
And biology. The need to know your child belongs to its father and not some other man you fuqed.

I don't understand what you mean to be honest, how does my question correlate here?

budaatum:
It's not like men say no to pussy handed on a plate.

Asking people out as a female doesn't mean you HAVE SEX with them. There's a world of difference between the two..

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Re: On Being Asked Out FIRST: What's The Cause Of This GLOBAL Female Entitlement? by MiseryHimself: 9:51pm On Sep 20, 2019
CAPSLOCKED:


IF SHE'S GOOD ENOUGH SHE'LL BE KEPT.
I IMAGINE IT LIKE THAT.
Capslocked you don come again.

I think you're getting me, regardless of whether she did the asking or he did, there are underlying reasons men do the asking which I have held in my bosom. I have not heard from someone else.


cheesy cheesy cheesy
Re: On Being Asked Out FIRST: What's The Cause Of This GLOBAL Female Entitlement? by MiseryHimself: 10:07pm On Sep 20, 2019
donstan18:
Most times, people value what they chase the more.

I, like people who think like me, don't have time for such silliness. You are either attracted to me or you are not. You either see a future in the union or you don't.

So if I keep chasing you, I'd value you? Mind games is the best? Females should not make themselves "cheap" right?

Playing hard to get shows the woman that the guy would stick it out and he really loves her. LMAO!!! Well, well, like people who think like me, I despise such love.

Being upfront doesn't make you "cheap" and being tough doesn't make you "expensive."

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Re: On Being Asked Out FIRST: What's The Cause Of This GLOBAL Female Entitlement? by Fidelismaria: 10:10pm On Sep 20, 2019
Majority of women don't ask guys out because they are afraid of the outcome

Afraid to be rejected or accepted

What if he says no, will I be the girl that got rejected by a guy?

What if he says yes and we later have issues
Then he'll be like "after all you asked me out"

It's better to think you'll get rejected than to actually try and erase all doubt
Re: On Being Asked Out FIRST: What's The Cause Of This GLOBAL Female Entitlement? by MiseryHimself: 10:19pm On Sep 20, 2019
cooooooks:
Ladies ask guys out all the time.

Asking a guy out can be done in many ways and I don't mean what you are thinking.

One of the ways to ask a guy out is the eyes - the silent tongue of love. People can be horribly grin grin grin grin fixated on you that you'd feel guilty if you don't ask them out. Actually they asked you out, it's just that they are allowing you to take charge.

Also, people may also say "care to come to my home for a movie/drink during the weekend or whatever." They asked you out too but it's still quite obfuscating and many other ways I wouldn't bore you with. In the end, they still want you to say it!!!

I mean this: Hey, I really like and admire you and I don't know if you feel the same about me. I would love to spend my life with you in happy union but I don't know if you're interested in me or feel the same attraction I have towards you.

That is what I am talking about.

If you say girls are asking guys out, we have to back up a little and ask where. In the Americas, Europe and other industrialized nation? Probably 2, 1 (or none) out of every 10 relationships. In traditional societies? LMAO!!! They would rather die than open up even when they are quite sure that the guy has good attributes they want in a future spouse.
Re: On Being Asked Out FIRST: What's The Cause Of This GLOBAL Female Entitlement? by MiseryHimself: 10:26pm On Sep 20, 2019
Fidelismaria:
Majority of women don't ask guys out because they are afraid of the outcome

Afraid to be rejected or accepted.


This is not a nonstarter. We already know the final score when FC Barcelona plays a friendly match with a female league squad. You don't need any weatherman to predict the odds. If a guy could say yes to her advances, she knows already. No fear of the unknowns here.

It is not pride but something else. Musing!!!!
Re: On Being Asked Out FIRST: What's The Cause Of This GLOBAL Female Entitlement? by cooooooks(m): 11:37pm On Sep 20, 2019
No need to go far.

Even in Nigeria, ladies are asking guys out. Just because you haven't witnessed it doesn't mean it's not true.

When Naija babe see a good thing, they waste ZERO time.

MiseryHimself:


Asking a guy out can be done in many ways and I don't mean what you are thinking.

One of the ways to ask a guy out is the eyes - the silent tongue of love. People can be horribly grin grin grin grin fixated on you that you'd feel guilty if you don't ask them out. Actually they asked you out, it's just that they are allowing you to take charge.

Also, people may also say "care to come to my home for a movie/drink during the weekend or whatever." They asked you out too but it's still quite obfuscating and many other ways I wouldn't bore you with. In the end, they still want you to say it!!!

I mean this: Hey, I really like and admire you and I don't know if you feel the same about me. I would love to spend my life with you in happy union but I don't know if you're interested in me or feel the same attraction I have towards you.

That is what I am talking about.

If you say girls are asking guys out, we have to back up a little and ask where. In the Americas, Europe and other industrialized nation? Probably 2, 1 (or none) out of every 10 relationships. In traditional societies? LMAO!!! They would rather die than open up even when they are quite sure that the guy has good attributes they want in a future spouse.
Re: On Being Asked Out FIRST: What's The Cause Of This GLOBAL Female Entitlement? by MiseryHimself: 8:57am On Sep 21, 2019
cooooooks:
No need to go far.

Even in Nigeria, ladies are asking guys out. Just because you haven't witnessed it doesn't mean it's not true.

When Naija babe see a good thing, they waste ZERO time.


My Oga, there will always be people who believe in a flying horse and would sell the idea to other people every chance they get.

I am not saying there aren't females who approach guys.

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