If a man marries a woman with her child and this man is also paying the fees of this said child and also taking good care of this child. Though the child is not his.

Is it fair that this man should request a change of surname from the mother of the child?

If the woman respects the man she's getting married to then I don't see any reason why she should deny this man changing the surname of her child, after all the real father isn't taking good care of the child.

I need someone's opinion on this

Charleys:


If the woman respects the man she's getting married to then I don't see any reason why she should deny this man changing the name of her child, after all the real father isn't taking good care of the child.

I need someone's opinion on this

What opinion do you need again after this��

Is the father dead?

Tomide007:
Is the father dead?

.. Good question. Op answer this.

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subtlemee:



What opinion do you need again after this��

what I'm saying is that if you're taking care of the young child then the mother should at least change the child's surname if she truly respects you, at least you accepted the child.

The man would have rejected the child and make him go become a street kid. But he chooses otherwise.

JONNYSPUTE:
.. Good question. Op answer this.

I believe a father is the one taking care of the child, giving him a good education and providing money for his upkeep.

If not then I don't know what else.

Or maybe it's better to send the kid away. It's just a name change.

You can’t do a change of name since the child isn’t adopted. During adoption, there are requirements to be fulfilled which has the child having no link with any parents.

The father can come for the child at anytime.

You can only foster the child, you can’t change the surname to yours.

Tolexander:
You can’t do a change of name since the child isn’t adopted.

The father can come for the child at anytime.

Why isn't he coming now?

Charleys:


I believe a father is the one taking care of the child, giving him a good education and providing money for his upkeep.

Or maybe it's better to send the kid away.

. And what will you do if the father comes tomorrow, a changed man and wants his kid ?

go born ur own u know how many monkey style when produce that pikin

Charleys:


Why isn't he coming now?

The biological mother and the father are in the best position to answer that, not me.

Op de fear future.
I feel your pain bro. Sometimes you will just sit down and start thinking, "hmmm, no be say I de fetch water inside basket so?"

Tolexander:
The biological mother and the father are in the best position to answer that, not me.

The father is in no position to answer anything. I'm talking about the mother here, changing the child's surname. It's just a name. This will enable the man concentrate on other things rather than always having to remember it's not his son or daughter anymore.

Charleys:


The father is in no position to answer anything. I'm talking about the mother here, changing the child's surname. It's just a name. This will enable the man concentrate on other things rather than always having to remember it's not his son or daughter anymore.

So to you, one’s biological son is only recognized and regarded through one’s name?

You must be joking.

What is in the blood is far beyond the name

Charleys:


The father is in no position to answer anything. I'm talking about the mother here, changing the child's surname. It's just a name. This will enable the man concentrate on other things rather than always having to remember it's not his son or daughter anymore.

By the time the biological father carry you go court for changing his child's name without his consent, your brain go reset.

Charleys:


The father is in no position to answer anything. I'm talking about the mother here, changing the child's surname. It's just a name. This will enable the man concentrate on other things rather than always having to remember it's not his son or daughter anymore.

.. Oga you're just his foster father, so you can't change his surname. Why not change his DNA also.You are free to train another mans child for him,nobody is stopping you. Or you go beg the father to allow you adopt him and both of you will have to make it official, sign all the necessary documents .

Tolexander:
So to you, one’s biological son is only recognized and regarded through one’s name?

You must be joking.

What is in the blood is far beyond the name

but the name is a reminder. Blood only will be better.

I feel you, but the law doesn't recognise you in the skim of things, the father remains the father according to the law, however in the eye of the child, you're the father and will continue to be...you don't need to change his surname really.......have a chat with the mother but it's really not necessary. If the mother permits, then OK.......if she doesn't agree, it doesn't mean that she does not love or appreciate you, she just wants to stick to how things are traditionally. A child naturally takes the biological father's name.

Charleys:


but the name is a reminder.

.. I think you are not in control of yourself. Go and effect the changes.

If you really love the child, taking care of him and being a Father to him shouldn't be dependent on him changing his last name to yours. If you're the one in his life, rest assured that he's going to see you as his Father, not the absentee.

If you're bent on the change of name, you've to legally adopt him and his biological father has to be involved in the process because he would have to sign over his parental rights for the adoption and name change to even be considered.

Charleys:
If a man marries a woman with her child and this man is also paying the fees of this said child and also taking good care of this child. Though the child is not his.

Is it fair that this man should request a change of surname from the mother of the child?

If the woman respects the man she's getting married to then I don't see any reason why she should deny this man changing the surname of her child, after all the real father isn't taking good care of the child.

I need someone's opinion on this

Why would you marry a Single mother to begin with
Why do you want to train another man's property ??

Enough has been said

AstroG:



Why would you marry a Single mother to begin with
Why do you want to train another man's property ??

The woman has a good character, don't know what the son might turn into. Just taking precaution.
But if she's ready she is supposed agree to change the child's surname to mine. It's just a name and it's that simple.

Charleys:


The woman has a good character, don't know what the son might turn into. Just taking precaution.
But if she's ready she is supposed agree to change the child's surname to mine. It's just a name and it's that simple.

Your abt to do a grave mistake

AstroG:




Your abt to do a grave mistake

need explanation

Charleys:
need explanation

Ubunja,come and help him

AstroG:




Ubunja,come and help him

.. Please ignore that op,he is a big mistake of a man.

JONNYSPUTE:
.. Please ignore that op,he is a big mistake of a man.

Ah though and was the only guy that saw his mumuness

Hrhqueenphil need you here

If Puff Daddy or Diddy can raise Quincy from childhood with no change of last name, then who are u? Diddy didn't make his Quincy's mother change his last name. His mother -Kim Porter has died but Diddy n Quincy hv a father-son relationship till now.

Abfinest007:
go born ur own u know how many monkey style when produce that pikin

LoL