Let’s face it guys – LDRs are not for the faint-hearted. They require a higher level of trust and commitment compared to the conventional relationship but if you and your partner can pull through, the experience will serve to bind you even stronger. A couple of years ago a friend and I decided to take things further. It was a smooth ride until he decided to travel abroad. At first we communicated frequently via texts, video calls but after a while we just drifted apart. Now we just send the occasional birthday and special holiday greetings to each other. Now this is not to discourage you if you are in one (or contemplating such), there have been success stories about LDRs. But you have to be willing to put in the work. You and your partner just have to find creative means to keep the flame burning while apart. So how then can you keep the spark in an LDR relationship, its not an easy ride but it would be worth it at the end of the day. Distance doesn’t have to separate you from the love of your life.

Here are a few things to keep in mind.

First things first have a goal in mind. “How long are we going to be apart?” “What are our plans for the future? “, et c are some of the questions you need to be asking yourselves. No couple can be in a long distance relationship forever so you need to plan ahead of time. It’s important that you are on the same page and have the same goals.

Set some ground rules from the start. Be clear with the Do’s and Don’ts. What is the commitment level? Can you go on casual dates with others?? You’ve got to be open with each other right from the very beginning.


Trust. If you’ve got trust issues you might want to rethink the whole LDR thingy else you might just end up ruining your relationship due to insecurity. You’ve got to be willing to trust your partner. Don’t fall into the trap of hooking up with another guy/girl because you feel your partner must be doing the same wherever he/she is.

Honesty cannot be overlooked. Talk about your feelings of fear, insecurity, jealousy, whatsoever. Be open and honest with your partner. Secrets tend to make their way into the open and in an unexpected manner. Don’t bottle up your emotions but share your burden with your partner to give you the support you need.

What can you do to keep the relationship going? Here are a few tips to try out


First try to spice up your video calls. You can set up a video date, weird right? But give it a try first. Prepare for it like a real date, makeup, dress and create a romantic mood- candle light and all.

Play online games with each. There are so many multi-player games out there for couples for instance scrabble, chess, checkers, Dominoes etc. Find what works for the both of you.

Send random gifts to each other from time to time. Don’t wait for special occasions to do that. Goes to show they are always on your mind.


Make plans to see each other from time to time.

Ever being in a LDR before or currently in one now? Let’s know what works/worked for you.


Source : https://chiknows.com/index.php/2019/09/22/keeping-the-spark-in-long-distance-relationships/

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