This article has one aim--- to help you confirm with a simple and satisfactory test if your partner truly loves you or not. How can you be sure? Read on!

When people are in a relationship that has marriage as its focus or not, there is the strong temptation to move from 'Chemistry' to 'Physics' in the bid to explore and express the love they have or feel for each other. And the true test of love that they have for each other is a measure of their capacity to overcome that strong desire to go physical with each other and begin to explore their bodies and defiling the marriage bed before it is time. This is one fight people get to fight--staying sexually pure, either they are in a serious relationship or a casual relationship with someone of the opposite sex.

So, how do you determine if the person you are in a relationship with truly loves you according to God's standard not theirs or yours. God's standard is the true measure of what love is. That's because God is love (1 John 4:8 ). So, whatever we call love that isn't from God's perspective is NOT love.

What's are the qualities that define Love From God's viewpoint? From 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, God's word reads:

1Cor.13.4 - Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
1Cor.13.5 - It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
1Cor.13.6 - Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
1Cor.13.7 - It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
1Cor.13.8 - Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

My focus is on verse 6 and 7a-- "Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects...". Let me say this hard truth: IF YOU ABUSE HER/HIS BODY, YOU DON'T TRULY LOVE HER/HIM. IF YOU BEGIN TO TAKE THE CHEMISTRY BETWEEN YOU TWO TO PHYSICS, YOU DON'T LOVE THE PERSON EXCEPT IF YOU ARE MARRIED. OTHERWISE, NO MATTER WHAT YOU SAY OR DO, FROM GOD'S STANPOINT, YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT LOVE IS, FOR LOVE DOESN'T DELIGHT IN EVIL BUT REJOICE IN THE TRUTH. This is hard truth because over 95% of relationships are guilty of this. Today's relationship among members of the opposite sex is characterised by kissing, petting, smooching, handling, caressing, sex,etc. Even though we may erroneously call it love, God calls it evil!

In conclusion, from today, your clearest proof of love for the person you are in a relationship with should be define from God's standpoint. That is, no more abuse of your bodies with each other or with person's whom you are not in a relationship with. If you don't abuse your partner's body but do with another person, you don't love them. You might need to repent before the Lord either alone or with your partner. It's better done together, so you can agree to please the Lord together going forward. If the other person isn't in agreement, you want ask yourself if you want to please a man/woman or want to please God. You might want to end the relationship.

God hasn't called us to uncleanliness but holiness. If God isn't ultimately glorified by your relationship by the virtue of how you treat each other especially your bodies(Which is God's temple), then, no matter how beautiful people or you can think your relationship is, it does NOT receive heaven's approval.

I would say this is one of the toughest articles for me to write. The reason being that, I have been guilty of this in the past. I remember telling a lady I was in a relationship with then, that you can say that I love beyond anyone has ever done, but in my assessment, I failed the test of the true meaning of love. You know why? Love protects(verse 7a). Love would protect the other person's body. Love would protect the person from God's eternal judgment in Hell by not encouraging unrighteousness. God had mercy on me! But I have a consolation in the fact that God forgives us our sins and faults. I'm forgiven. He can do same for you or anyone for that matter. The choice is yours!

You have before you the simple test of what you call love in your dating/ courtship relationship. From God's standpoint, can you say that person truly loves you? Do you love that person too? Let's ask, in the light of this test, can you say you pass the test of true Love? If yes, congratulations! If no, why not ask for Christ's forgiveness NOW?

Pray this prayer now: Father, forgive me my sins. I haven't really truly love my partner like Jesus would. I repent today and ask for your forgiveness. Fill me with your Holy Spirit that I may please you daily, in Jesus' name. Amen.


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In the Bible we have three kinds of love

Agape= God's love

Phileo= Friendship love

Erros= Erotic sexual sensual love

The chapter you are quoting from is only about Agape o

If you don't have agape in a relationship, what's the essence of the other two? Think about it dear friend. What sustains a marriage is the foundation of agape not the other two per say.