| Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Wayne4uall(m): 5:24pm On Oct 08, 2019 |
BroAchival:
Greetings to this great house,
As I type this message, my heart is heavy.
Up till today, I have never known my genotype till I went to do medical fitness test for my job/employment process.
I've being dating by girlfriend for about two years and seven months now, and I've always seen her as a perfect match to me, not because she's perfect, but because she's very loyal, reserved and calm, respectful, teachable, willing to learn, beautiful and very supportive to say a few.
Kai, the thought of losing her is killing and unexplainable.  She had been a BLESSING to me all these while.
We've really worked on ourselves and helped each other to overcome our weaknesses.
With the challenges of my new and better job, will I really have that time to woo women and start the process of working on a woman to blend and suit me?
And this is a girl I'm planning to settle down with by the middle of next year, after I must have gotten used to my new job.
I have always believed that my genotype would be AA, but I was wrong!
Somebody told me that there's nothing God can not do, that he has seen people giving testimonies about change of genotypes. I didn't doubt him, it's just that i'm not the "churchious" type who easily believe all those stories.
Now, my questions are:
1.) Is it possible to have just two children without an SS child?
2.) How do I relate this sad news to her (after she has turned down several serious marriage proposals because of me)?
3.) Please, what do I do?
Please, help me and send this to front page for greater views and advice.
Matured and very serious advice needed.
Thanks. U have to move on but if u have the money to carry out test for ur unborn baby wen ur wife is pregnant... If been tested and u discovered that is ss she will abort it. But the test is very costly |
| Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by VeeJay95(m): 5:25pm On Oct 08, 2019 |
BroAchival:
Greetings to this great house,
As I type this message, my heart is heavy.
Up till today, I have never known my genotype till I went to do medical fitness test for my job/employment process.
I've being dating by girlfriend for about two years and seven months now, and I've always seen her as a perfect match to me, not because she's perfect, but because she's very loyal, reserved and calm, respectful, teachable, willing to learn, beautiful and very supportive to say a few.
Kai, the thought of losing her is killing and unexplainable. She had been a BLESSING to me all these while.
We've really worked on ourselves and helped each other to overcome our weaknesses.
With the challenges of my new and better job, will I really have that time to woo women and start the process of working on a woman to blend and suit me?
And this is a girl I'm planning to settle down with by the middle of next year, after I must have gotten used to my new job.
I have always believed that my genotype would be AA, but I was wrong!
Somebody told me that there's nothing God can not do, that he has seen people giving testimonies about change of genotypes. I didn't doubt him, it's just that i'm not the "churchious" type who easily believe all those stories.
Now, my questions are:
1.) Is it possible to have just two children without an SS child?
2.) How do I relate this sad news to her (after she has turned down several serious marriage proposals because of me)?
3.) Please, what do I do?
Please, help me and send this to front page for greater views and advice.
Matured and very serious advice needed.
Thanks. It's not worth it. Except two of you don't plan on having kids. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Iko5000: 5:25pm On Oct 08, 2019 |
OP
This stuff is for you to go to a Doctor to explain,and stuff for you and to make a decision with your partner. This forum should not be where you get advice .
Actually also they teach this stuff in biology in secondary school , abi has this been removed from the curriculum for Indonmie generation ? 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Wayne4uall(m): 5:25pm On Oct 08, 2019 |
rottennaija:
Is it possible to test the genotype of unborn babies? Yes is possible but very costly |
| Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Nsikak20: 5:27pm On Oct 08, 2019 |
BroAchival:
Greetings to this great house,
As I type this message, my heart is heavy.
Up till today, I have never known my genotype till I went to do medical fitness test for my job/employment process.
I've being dating by girlfriend for about two years and seven months now, and I've always seen her as a perfect match to me, not because she's perfect, but because she's very loyal, reserved and calm, respectful, teachable, willing to learn, beautiful and very supportive to say a few.
Kai, the thought of losing her is killing and unexplainable. She had been a BLESSING to me all these while.
We've really worked on ourselves and helped each other to overcome our weaknesses.
With the challenges of my new and better job, will I really have that time to woo women and start the process of working on a woman to blend and suit me?
And this is a girl I'm planning to settle down with by the middle of next year, after I must have gotten used to my new job.
I have always believed that my genotype would be AA, but I was wrong!
Somebody told me that there's nothing God can not do, that he has seen people giving testimonies about change of genotypes. I didn't doubt him, it's just that i'm not the "churchious" type who easily believe all those stories.
Now, my questions are:
1.) Is it possible to have just two children without an SS child?
2.) How do I relate this sad news to her (after she has turned down several serious marriage proposals because of me)?
3.) Please, what do I do?
Please, help me and send this to front page for greater views and advice.
Matured and very serious advice needed.
Thanks. pls sir quite the relationship 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Stillthebest: 5:28pm On Oct 08, 2019 |
 You can just kill the S in both your geni and think of the As then get married , have a kid or two and one of then carries the cell SS, unluckily , may be the first child then begin to nurse it if God helps you financially, still keep nursing it like a deep cut that won't heal. In that process, during each crisis, the Child will curse you(because the Child will find out that both of you,parents, knew your genotype before embarking on a journey of child production, for bringing him or her to the world to suffer that is if you have the height to withstand the pains the Child will experience. I wont see a difference between you and our fathers who did same and claimed they were not sensitised about it. |
| Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by mega13(m): 5:30pm On Oct 08, 2019 |
My brother please take heart and unveil the situation to her and pray for a better opportunity to come. Though it's somehow difficult to let go a better and trust worthy relationship of such, but due to the risk attached is the life threats that you both might regret being in such union via the outcome of the earned product ( offsprings) it you allowed to move on in the marriage. 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by BianoJay(m): 5:30pm On Oct 08, 2019 |
BroAchival:
Greetings to this great house,
As I type this message, my heart is heavy.
Up till today, I have never known my genotype till I went to do medical fitness test for my job/employment process.
I've being dating by girlfriend for about two years and seven months now, and I've always seen her as a perfect match to me, not because she's perfect, but because she's very loyal, reserved and calm, respectful, teachable, willing to learn, beautiful and very supportive to say a few.
Kai, the thought of losing her is killing and unexplainable. She had been a BLESSING to me all these while.
We've really worked on ourselves and helped each other to overcome our weaknesses.
With the challenges of my new and better job, will I really have that time to woo women and start the process of working on a woman to blend and suit me?
And this is a girl I'm planning to settle down with by the middle of next year, after I must have gotten used to my new job.
I have always believed that my genotype would be AA, but I was wrong!
Somebody told me that there's nothing God can not do, that he has seen people giving testimonies about change of genotypes. I didn't doubt him, it's just that i'm not the "churchious" type who easily believe all those stories.
Now, my questions are:
1.) Is it possible to have just two children without an SS child?
2.) How do I relate this sad news to her (after she has turned down several serious marriage proposals because of me)?
3.) Please, what do I do?
Please, help me and send this to front page for greater views and advice.
Matured and very serious advice needed.
Thanks. What if I told you that there's a medical solution to your issue? |
| Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by tabithaola(f): 5:30pm On Oct 08, 2019 |
BroAchival:
Greetings to this great house,
As I type this message, my heart is heavy.
Up till today, I have never known my genotype till I went to do medical fitness test for my job/employment process.
I've being dating by girlfriend for about two years and seven months now, and I've always seen her as a perfect match to me, not because she's perfect, but because she's very loyal, reserved and calm, respectful, teachable, willing to learn, beautiful and very supportive to say a few.
Kai, the thought of losing her is killing and unexplainable. She had been a BLESSING to me all these while.
We've really worked on ourselves and helped each other to overcome our weaknesses.
With the challenges of my new and better job, will I really have that time to woo women and start the process of working on a woman to blend and suit me?
And this is a girl I'm planning to settle down with by the middle of next year, after I must have gotten used to my new job.
I have always believed that my genotype would be AA, but I was wrong!
Somebody told me that there's nothing God can not do, that he has seen people giving testimonies about change of genotypes. I didn't doubt him, it's just that i'm not the "churchious" type who easily believe all those stories.
Now, my questions are:
1.) Is it possible to have just two children without an SS child?
2.) How do I relate this sad news to her (after she has turned down several serious marriage proposals because of me)?
3.) Please, what do I do?
Please, help me and send this to front page for greater views and advice.
Matured and very serious advice needed.
Hmmmmm!!! Life happens and this is a phase of Life. I get emotional each time I come across genotype incompatibility because I was once there. Without mincing words, its gonna be so hard on her but I bet you she'll survive it and its a phase that will definitely pass.
My ex handled the news with a high degree of maturity. He informed my bestie and they both planned I go spend the weekend with her. He came over, broke the sad news,drove me to my friend's place where I wasn't myself for days, couldn't eat,was just surviving on lucozade boost. My world crashed before my very eyes.In all of this, he stood firmly by me. I must Reiterate that again and this is the main gist. Her healing process is a determinant of how well you stand by her. Let her know how much you love and care for her, but you can't just go all the way together because of the unpleasant reality steering at you both.
You have to be strong to achieve this. I promise its not gonna be so easy but with determination and love for your yet unborn children, you'll both weather the storm. Sending love to her from a survivor.
Thanks. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by BroAchival: 5:30pm On Oct 08, 2019 |
rottennaija:
Is it possible to test the genotype of unborn babies? So I heard. And they said it has a lot of financial cost. |
| Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Kingbarbie01(f): 5:31pm On Oct 08, 2019 |
hmmm, try get someone else as well as ur ex-fiancee 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by VicM6: 5:32pm On Oct 08, 2019 |
get married and bear the burden.
asking stupid question that a primary school pupils can never ask there teacher...... So dumb like buhari. 1 Like |
| Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by richieray: 5:32pm On Oct 08, 2019 |
Japa |
| Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by extremelygolden: 5:35pm On Oct 08, 2019 |
BroAchival:
Greetings to this great house,
As I type this message, my heart is heavy.
Up till today, I have never known my genotype till I went to do medical fitness test for my job/employment process.
I've being dating by girlfriend for about two years and seven months now, and I've always seen her as a perfect match to me, not because she's perfect, but because she's very loyal, reserved and calm, respectful, teachable, willing to learn, beautiful and very supportive to say a few.
Kai, the thought of losing her is killing and unexplainable. She had been a BLESSING to me all these while.
We've really worked on ourselves and helped each other to overcome our weaknesses.
With the challenges of my new and better job, will I really have that time to woo women and start the process of working on a woman to blend and suit me?
And this is a girl I'm planning to settle down with by the middle of next year, after I must have gotten used to my new job.
I have always believed that my genotype would be AA, but I was wrong!
Somebody told me that there's nothing God can not do, that he has seen people giving testimonies about change of genotypes. I didn't doubt him, it's just that i'm not the "churchious" type who easily believe all those stories.
Now, my questions are:
1.) Is it possible to have just two children without an SS child?
2.) How do I relate this sad news to her (after she has turned down several serious marriage proposals because of me)?
3.) Please, what do I do?
Please, help me and send this to front page for greater views and advice.
Matured and very serious advice needed.
Thanks. Two things are involved: 1. Marry her and adopt children. It'll be a secret between the two of you. 2. Or quit the relationship. |
| Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by arnold123: 5:36pm On Oct 08, 2019 |
BroAchival:
Greetings to this great house,
As I type this message, my heart is heavy.
Up till today, I have never known my genotype till I went to do medical fitness test for my job/employment process.
I've being dating by girlfriend for about two years and seven months now, and I've always seen her as a perfect match to me, not because she's perfect, but because she's very loyal, reserved and calm, respectful, teachable, willing to learn, beautiful and very supportive to say a few.
Kai, the thought of losing her is killing and unexplainable. She had been a BLESSING to me all these while.
We've really worked on ourselves and helped each other to overcome our weaknesses.
With the challenges of my new and better job, will I really have that time to woo women and start the process of working on a woman to blend and suit me?
And this is a girl I'm planning to settle down with by the middle of next year, after I must have gotten used to my new job.
I have always believed that my genotype would be AA, but I was wrong!
Somebody told me that there's nothing God can not do, that he has seen people giving testimonies about change of genotypes. I didn't doubt him, it's just that i'm not the "churchious" type who easily believe all those stories.
Now, my questions are:
1.) Is it possible to have just two children without an SS child?
2.) How do I relate this sad news to her (after she has turned down several serious marriage proposals because of me)?
3.) Please, what do I do?
Please, help me and send this to front page for greater views and advice.
Matured and very serious advice needed.
Thanks. https://www.nairaland.com/22361/two-people-genotype-marry/1 hope this help bro!.... You are left with 2options 1. Get married but don't have kids/be prepared for the issues 2. Do option 1 and be dedicated to God because there's nothing God can't do.......frankly if it was me i can't leave her for someone else because of that, knowing how good she was to me she built me up.......i will also suggest you try a going to an advanced hospital or see a REAL doctor. technology has developed and that's where you could get unadulterated information MAYBE THERE COULD BE A POSSIBLE SOLUTION TO WHAT YOU ARE BUSY KILLING YOURSELF OVER! I UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL 1 Like |
| Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Habeyy(m): 5:40pm On Oct 08, 2019 |
Oh my brother @op
You know life is made in a way where all your wishes ,aspiration are never realized
We all have to live within some "confines"
You are a good man
A man of pure tendencies
A brave upright being
Never blame yourself
Remember that the "future" is the ultimate goal
It may seems good and pleasing today
My brother pls be man enough
It won't be easy now but in the near future,you will remember the decision and be happy and full of joy
Do it for you,for her and the future
All will be well with you 1 Like |
| Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Asapchris(m): 5:40pm On Oct 08, 2019 |
BroAchival:
Sure, I have no option, my brother.
But that girl is 101% a wife material.
Lucky the man who will appreciate and wife her.
Thanks anyway. Forget about wife material but think about your future kids... It wouldn't feel good seen children crying of pains, that time wife material will not worth it Sir. |
| Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by WeRblessed(f): 5:40pm On Oct 08, 2019 |
You can still marry and have healthy children through IVF.
They will retrieve your wife's eggs (embryos) and a genetic exam will be carried out. If they extract between 15 to 17 embryos, at least 7 to 10 can survive and make it to blastocysts. After blastocyst they will screen all the embryos for sickle cells carrier. Most times 6 out of 10 will be SS and the remaining eggs will be AS, which is good enough for transfer. The fertility doctor will transfer one or two eggs into your wife's uterus and babies are born. It's now up to you to guide your children by letting them know that they are AS incase they want to marry. There is nothing wrong marrying AS if you are AS.
I shame for Nigerians. Some of them claimed to be very educated, but lack knowledge. I blame lack of research and scientific development in Nigerian universities.
Please marry your love.
God bless you my brother. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Kinematics: 5:41pm On Oct 08, 2019 |
Don't listen to the naysayers screaming run. If you have the money and your girlfriend is willing to go through the stress, then any of the 2 is the solution;
1. Amniocentesis
2. Chorionic villus sampling (CVS)
They are not as expensive as they used to be before and yes they can be done in naija.
Cheers..
This is if abortion is not a no no for you... |
| Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by rottennaija(m): 5:44pm On Oct 08, 2019 |
BroAchival:
So I heard. And they said it has a lot of financial cost. My only fear |
| Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by cacao(m): 5:46pm On Oct 08, 2019 |
People that are telling you that is painful to part didn't know the pain of having SS children. I know a family with 3SS children genotypes, the last one died at age of 18, the family has adopted a boy now. Hope you're not planning for that.
I know another one, they are fortunate to have their first two kids as AS though unfortunate with the third one, now the pain and the trouble of this SS child as wreck the family. Hope you be fortunate like them.
Marriage is never done on the ground of sentiment but reality and correct sense of judgement.
If you say that love is blind, marriage will open your eyes.
Marriage is meant for pleasure and enjoyment not for pain and endurance.
You are Ronado or Messi the ball is in legs to play.
I pray for you that you will not play penalty to corner kick or throwing. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by omotola90(m): 5:48pm On Oct 08, 2019 |
BroAchival:
Alright.
I guess you've giving your best.
It's siesta time. Try and observe it. ...given... 1 Like |
| Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by 2800net(m): 5:49pm On Oct 08, 2019 |
Stop thinking and simply quit. Don't even dare!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! BroAchival:
Greetings to this great house,
As I type this message, my heart is heavy.
Up till today, I have never known my genotype till I went to do medical fitness test for my job/employment process.
I've being dating by girlfriend for about two years and seven months now, and I've always seen her as a perfect match to me, not because she's perfect, but because she's very loyal, reserved and calm, respectful, teachable, willing to learn, beautiful and very supportive to say a few.
Kai, the thought of losing her is killing and unexplainable. She had been a BLESSING to me all these while.
We've really worked on ourselves and helped each other to overcome our weaknesses.
With the challenges of my new and better job, will I really have that time to woo women and start the process of working on a woman to blend and suit me?
And this is a girl I'm planning to settle down with by the middle of next year, after I must have gotten used to my new job.
I have always believed that my genotype would be AA, but I was wrong!
Somebody told me that there's nothing God can not do, that he has seen people giving testimonies about change of genotypes. I didn't doubt him, it's just that i'm not the "churchious" type who easily believe all those stories.
Now, my questions are:
1.) Is it possible to have just two children without an SS child?
2.) How do I relate this sad news to her (after she has turned down several serious marriage proposals because of me)?
3.) Please, what do I do?
Please, help me and send this to front page for greater views and advice.
Matured and very serious advice needed.
Thanks. |
| Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by omotola90(m): 5:51pm On Oct 08, 2019 |
omotola90:
...given... but there can be only one grammarnazi1 you know��� nairaland full of surprises since time immemorial |
| Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by tomju(m): 5:51pm On Oct 08, 2019 |
Go ahead and marry her and keep plenty money for treating any SS child that may be born from the union. Love is not just only in marriage but also in raising kids. If you truly want examine this matter you'll not marry an AS. Or live with the consequences. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Teejay1511(m): 5:54pm On Oct 08, 2019 |
Do the right thing, don't risk it. This situation could have been avoided always, we should always ask for this if you intend to go into a serious relationship. |
| Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by emmaoyes(m): 5:54pm On Oct 08, 2019 |
I will answer question 3.
Path way with her now or you will both regret it! |
| Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Drbate: 5:56pm On Oct 08, 2019 |
Ereolamide:
Bro you don't have to get worried at all. Follow these instructions carefully:
1. Keep your genotype a secret, don't tell her. If she insists, get the test done, alter the S in your result to A with a black Biro( black ink must be used in cases such as these).
2. Proceed with your wedding plans, get married to her since you love her so much. Women are very gullible she won't suspect a thing she is in love with you already.
3. You don't have to bother about your kids genotype, the lucky ones will turn out fine while the not-so-lucky ones will bear the SS genotype, you can also alter their genotype with a Biro and profess positive affirmations into their lives.
Note: You have to be 'churchious' to get your desired result.
4. With this, everything will be alright, and if things turn out otherwise, be rest assured that you'll be fine since you and your wife won't be the ones to endure the pains and crisis that come with sickle cell anaemia, the children will bear their cross bravely from hospital beds to hospital beds
I believe my advice is matured enough, I even checked my spellings, grammar and punctuations for extra marks.
Thanks and God bless. guy you terrible |
| Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by princeso2020(m): 5:58pm On Oct 08, 2019 |
A long time ago, there is this nebough of mine whose 3 out of five children were SS. It was not funny at all, on a daily basis the man and his wife were always shuttling to and fro the hospital. That continued for a very long time i mean for a very long time.
my advance is this:
1. If you continue with this marriage arrangement, you are not going to have rest.
2. The doctors would be your best friend.
3. You will regret ever having kids.
4. Your wife would not find rest too.
5. Your children would not be happy with this world.
6. At night hours you are going to be running from one hospital to another.
7. Za out come would not be nice. Wanlahi talahi
Please brother, I know it is not going to be easy breaking up with your wife to be but it is the best thing for both of you. Talk some senses into her, let her know your genotype and make her understand why this union can not continue. Do you know what is called Ogbanje, ask an igbo man he will tell you. |
| Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by udemzyudex(m): 5:59pm On Oct 08, 2019 |
The both of you should see a doctor before taking any decision. |
| Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by Lexusgs430: 5:59pm On Oct 08, 2019 |
BroAchival:
Greetings to this great house,
As I type this message, my heart is heavy.
Up till today, I have never known my genotype till I went to do medical fitness test for my job/employment process.
I've being dating by girlfriend for about two years and seven months now, and I've always seen her as a perfect match to me, not because she's perfect, but because she's very loyal, reserved and calm, respectful, teachable, willing to learn, beautiful and very supportive to say a few.
Kai, the thought of losing her is killing and unexplainable. She had been a BLESSING to me all these while.
We've really worked on ourselves and helped each other to overcome our weaknesses.
With the challenges of my new and better job, will I really have that time to woo women and start the process of working on a woman to blend and suit me?
And this is a girl I'm planning to settle down with by the middle of next year, after I must have gotten used to my new job.
I have always believed that my genotype would be AA, but I was wrong!
Somebody told me that there's nothing God can not do, that he has seen people giving testimonies about change of genotypes. I didn't doubt him, it's just that i'm not the "churchious" type who easily believe all those stories.
Now, my questions are:
1.) Is it possible to have just two children without an SS child?
2.) How do I relate this sad news to her (after she has turned down several serious marriage proposals because of me)?
3.) Please, what do I do?
Please, help me and send this to front page for greater views and advice.
Matured and very serious advice needed.
Thanks. What you should do is, end the relationship......... |
| Re: My Genotype Is AS And My Fiancee Is AS; What Do I Do? by maxzzo1(m): 6:03pm On Oct 08, 2019 |
Broda abandon ship, unless u ready for d crisis,u are even lucky ma guy in PH js this June was to marry with every preparation ready, halls, food, drinks paid for even guys don sew cloths dey ready to enter Anambra, TM all settled 2wks to d date both are AS datz d end my guy Abeokuta presently and d gal abuja....it was not easy but the guy had no option though dey both in love"according to him d girl thing match his own" cos of his experience as a child,his parents were both AS and several of his siblings died cos of SS. Well if it worth d risk no probs....Goodluck.... 1 Like |
