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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by cococandy(f): 9:20pm On Oct 21, 2019
Fuckthamods:

Start na.. Who is holding you? Yeye bitter fake feminist

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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by spiritedtete: 9:28pm On Oct 21, 2019
1Sharon:


It's funny how you " men are polygamous" crew are all married to ONE woman.

If you truly believed in that statement, you men would multiple women right from the start.

But instead what you do is to marry one woman and sneak around while shouting "men are polygamous"

Hypocrisy

Call it whatever you want it... nobody is killing anyone... it's their life and it is their choice... don't force a donkey to be a horse...

If my son want to marry 13 women... it is his choice his consequence...

If my daughter want to be the 55th wife ... it is also her choice.

However i will not fail as a father to make sure they are strong enough to know what is choice and what is independence... you can't force people to live the life you want. No way!
Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by JamesBond008(m): 9:30pm On Oct 21, 2019
24kmagic:
Same old shit.

How did this make front page?

Go for responsible guys you said no, that they are boring.

Enjoy your lively guys and stop disturbing our peace.

Confused beings.


Exactly....They'd always say that the plain transparent guy is "Borin" !!!!
Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by Draught: 9:39pm On Oct 21, 2019
Men have at least 8 times more testosterone levels than women..Need I say more


Deal with it or fight it!

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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by meobizy(f): 9:41pm On Oct 21, 2019
Who makes excuses? I know I don’t.
Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by UnknownQueen(f): 10:03pm On Oct 21, 2019
1Sharon:


Lol but how do you know he doesn't cheat?

Intuition and observation shows that

In addition to that, there's no trail whatsoever to even suspect such....

Besides, his self control is top notch as in, he does some things so effortlessly that if tables were turned I fit Bleep up
Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by Mrlola: 10:06pm On Oct 21, 2019
unbitchable:
Amazingtopaz we had a few exchanges few minutes ago but had to open a thread about it to sample opinions. It just shows how insecure and frightened you are. I thought you were a badass feminist who couldn't care less that men would always be men and will always go fishing and do their thang. No matter how hurt you can be, there is a reason Men are always ontop.
imitateMe:
Who moved this poo to FP?

Until women start bearing all the financial responsibilities in the house, men will cheat on you and feel it's okay to do so. It's simple: work, earn, and be EQUALLY responsible for the financial expenses in the home; that way, no husband would dare cheat on you and brag about it.

By the way, if you too want to cheat and brag about it as a woman, feel free na.

Women are often moved and influenced by what people say or think about them. Men don't care!! That's why we ask you out even in BRT buses grin
We gat ballzzz!! Ya'll puzzies grin



I swear to God, you no get joy all���

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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by UnknownQueen(f): 10:07pm On Oct 21, 2019
BlackfireX:




Side chick viewing the location of your house now...

If them like make them dey stay beside my house, he no fit leave me and his 2 children for dem.

If I tell u say I dey lucky, believe me I true true get luck oo with regards to man wey I marry.
Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by armyofone(m): 10:18pm On Oct 21, 2019
It is even worst when a lady is willing to be second wife or accept to be the other wife/sidechick/concubine etc! About time ladies stop accepting shit! It's one thing to live in sh@ithole and another thing to accept s@hit!!
Parents, have smaller number of children!!

ifyalways:
The society is riddled with:
Lazy and jobless ladies who will accept and live with anything so long as their bills are paid and they are addressed as Mrs.

Failed Parents of the ladies above.

Retired guymen masquerading as Pastors/marriage counsellors who tell wives of cheating husbands to go on 21 days fasting .

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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by 1Sharon(f): 10:37pm On Oct 21, 2019
spiritedtete:


Call it whatever you want it... nobody is killing anyone... it's their life and it is their choice... don't force a donkey to be a horse...

If my son want to marry 13 women... it is his choice his consequence...

If my daughter want to be the 55th wife ... it is also her choice.

However i will not fail as a father to make sure they are strong enough to know what is choice and what is independence... you can't force people to live the life you want. No way!

Force a donkey to be a horse? What do you mean by that?

So why can't these men marry 1 woman from the start? You can marry more than 1 wife you know?

Who forced them to marry 1 woman?
Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by AmazonTopaz(f): 10:39pm On Oct 21, 2019
unbitchable:
Amazingtopaz we had a few exchanges few minutes ago but had to open a thread about it to sample opinions. It just shows how insecure and frightened you are. I thought you were a badass feminist who couldn't care less that men would always be men and will always go fishing and do their thang. No matter how hurt you can be, there is a reason Men are always ontop.
I have a good self esteem so I cannot be insecure of frightened about rubbish and how irrespinsible dickheads choose to live their lives. I just needed their respinse and I got it
Not that I thought it wise to answer you. I opened this topic to spell out the hypocrisy some of you lots like to propagate. Nothing you have stated would change my view of beliefs neither would it change my opinion on this issue. You can continue to be hypocrital I brought it out on the other thread you had nothing tangible to spell out in your response. Feel free to believe rubbish since it makes you sleep well at night.
Bye
Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by spiritedtete: 10:49pm On Oct 21, 2019
1Sharon:


Force a donkey to be a horse? What do you mean by that?

So why can't these men marry 1 woman from the start? You can marry more than 1 wife you know?

Who forced them to marry 1 woman?

The society forced them to marry 1.. then they grow and realise they are trapped..that they are not really a 1 woman's man.


Don't get me wrong... "there for better for worse men"

These are the people that know the meaning of Sacrifice.. and they stand by a woman.. by a vow and by a promise....

Also note that when it comes to love... a man can love multiple... but! Can't Sacrifice for multiple.


So the word "I love you"... is Just a word.. the real word and the meaning of Love lives inside a man (man or woman). Where no one can see.

This issue is very broad... i wish i can touch all individual (psychological) reasons to this.
Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by 1Sharon(f): 10:55pm On Oct 21, 2019
spiritedtete:


The society forced them to marry 1.. then they grow and realise they are trapped..that they are not really a 1 woman's man.


Don't get mo wrong... "there for better for worse men"

These are the people that know the meaning of Sacrifice.. and they stand by a woman.. by a vow and by a promise....

Also note that when it comes to love... a man can love multiple... but! Can't Sacrifice for multiple.

Society forced them to marry one? What are you talking about??

You can legally marry more than one wife in Nigeria, so come up with a better excuse. Abegiii
Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by spiritedtete: 10:59pm On Oct 21, 2019
1Sharon:


Society forced them to marry one? What are you talking about??

You can legally marry more than one wife in Nigeria, so come up with a better excuse. Abegiii

Wrong again...

They are forced to conform to church doctrines... society rules and thereby can't come out free to Express what or who they really are. Reason they sneak to cheat.

Only the ones who understand that society has no influence on them goes out to marry however they like.
Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by 1Sharon(f): 11:01pm On Oct 21, 2019
spiritedtete:


Wrong again...

They are forced to conform to church doctrines... society rules and thereby can't come out free to Express what or who they really are. Reason they sneak to cheat.

Only the ones who understand that society has no influence on them goes out to marry however they like.

Does church doctrine support extra-marital relations?
Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by spiritedtete: 11:02pm On Oct 21, 2019
1Sharon:


Does church doctrine support extra-marital relations?

Absolutely no.. one of the things that trapped them in the first place. "Church"
Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by 1Sharon(f): 11:06pm On Oct 21, 2019
spiritedtete:


Absolutely no.. one of the things that trapped them in the first place. "Church"

But the church doesn't trap them to stay faithful ?
Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by RealTreas(f): 11:08pm On Oct 21, 2019
imitateMe:
Who moved this poo to FP?

Until women start bearing all the financial responsibilities in the house, men will cheat on you and feel it's okay to do so. It's simple: work, earn, and be EQUALLY responsible for the financial expenses in the home; that way, no husband would dare cheat on you and brag about it. Lies! There are a lot of hard working women married to lazy ass jobless men and yet they still get cheated on.

By the way, if you too want to cheat and brag about it as a woman, feel free na.

Women are often moved and influenced by what people say or think about them. Men don't care!! That's why we ask you out even in BRT buses grin
We gat ballzzz!! Ya'll puzzies grin

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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by spiritedtete: 11:35pm On Oct 21, 2019
1Sharon:


But the church doesn't trap them to stay faithful ?

Let me use myself as an example... I grew up in what you call every right way... Christian background .. family values .. and conformation to society rules... i don't go below the line because of what people will say...


However i want to do many things... but because there will be raised eyebrows... i couldn't..

So when i finally became independent.. i understand manythings about life ... i was glad i didnt do somethings, however i realised there is also hypocrisy in everyman...they want to come out but they rather not.. because of what people will say.


I understood the meaning and the concept of marriage... going by my experience.. I realised the individual difference will also be above the unison once in a while.

The more also i understood the feminine brain how it is wired... looking out everything from thounsand years ago...

A woman want to be with a man she is very confidence of, a man who at every giving opportunity leads the show the way, while she also want to control things herself.

Because she wired like every human, who seek for success, power and riches.


Now this is my point... one thing that is key in marriage is helping each climb that ladder... to get to that place you want to be.. (even though there isnno place anybody want to be.. but just to want more).


For me... i can decides to take two wives... it is my house our rules.... my major vision for them to be happy by being part of their success story. happiness doesn't end with just being her husband...


But will i marry two wives for real? No!

Am i going to be faithful to her.. Yes and (maybe No, the future is a long road)

Will I disrespect her No... when i start making her valueless.. and flunting another to her face... then I have forever lost it... it will not happen.


For I have grown out of pressure and influences... i am living in my world. I won't break constitutional laws... but i will break human beliefs and rules... if i want.


But there are so many out there... Take the gay guys for example... they can't come out even where their law support it... same for people who can't maintain 1 woman... many can't come out due to fear of condemnation.
Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by unbitchable(m): 11:37pm On Oct 21, 2019
AmazonTopaz:
I have a good self esteem so I cannot be insecure of frightened about rubbish and how irrespinsible dickheads choose to live their lives. I just needed their respinse and I got it
Not that I thought it wise to answer you. I opened this topic to spell out the hypocrisy some of you lots like to propagate. Nothing you have stated would change my view of beliefs neither would it change my opinion on this issue. You can continue to be hypocrital I brought it out on the other thread you had nothing tangible to spell out in your response. Feel free to believe rubbish since it makes you sleep well at night.
Bye
That's your own problem. Come and hold our D if you can. Like i told you face your kids and allow man enjoy nature.
sleep on that.
Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by Brookinfo(m): 12:21am On Oct 22, 2019
This is absolutely the best article I have read this year. Thumbs up!
Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by Toks2008(m): 12:39am On Oct 22, 2019
AmazonTopaz:

No not true you are the one creating a stupid reality sorry. I am too big to be manipulated into believing all men are bingos.
Control your local government toks and stop being a community dickhead. There are faithful and self disciplined men out there. Only irresponsible dickheads cheat. So stop supporting nonsense

I pity you.

I dey tell you truth you dey attack me
..is this about me or the reality?

No level of beauty can stop a man who wants to cheat from.ding so. My advise for you is to remain single if you know you don't have the nerves to withstand infidelity.

A word is enough for the reasonable. I will stop here so believe whatever you like if it will make you sleep well at night.
Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by King44(m): 12:50am On Oct 22, 2019
crackhaus:
Over flogged issue.

You women should damn the consequences and begin cheating as well, what is stopping you?
Isn't this the equality you SJWs fight for endlessly? Double standards, the smart-by-half ones call it.

Please start cheating too let everybody rest.
they are always looking for excuses to cheat

one of the excuse is this thread

plus when men cheat they cheat for fun
when women cheat they cheat with affection
and in most cases becomes a threat to their husband existence

make I run for my dear life before them break bottle for my head

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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by Eze2Odds(m): 12:58am On Oct 22, 2019
solmusdesigns:
tongue



Because the colonialist have stupidly brainwashed you into the idea of a monogamist man, when nature gave man a testicle to produce millions of sprem cells all year round till death, and no menopause

Before the western hypocrites, polygamy had being going on with family living peaceful since the creation of time, withou divorce or bitternes, now fast forward to 13th century when europeans started polutting different continents with monogamist idea and libralism, then marriages have begin to crumble, family love had started to die and till date rate of divorce keeps skyrocketting

we can continue to fool ourselves because the old world order wanted population control so badly they created low reproductive mentality and unnatural laws for men to follow, they even created deseases from lab to limit sex and birth, but the ultimate truth that no one would like to talk about is that its in mens nature, controling it only means surpressing natural order

We have more male rapist, we have more male peodophiles we have more male sexual predators and harrasers.... this all point at same thing.. nature made men to be that horrnyyy



..



You are the real MVP

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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by Nobody: 1:03am On Oct 22, 2019
pocohantas:
Just poison him...

Problem solved

i always figured you for an English chick tho

Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by Nobody: 1:03am On Oct 22, 2019
AmazonTopaz:
Why does society make it seem ok for men to cheat? Why do we lie under the guise of men are polygamous in nature and that it is natural for men to cheat? Men should be held accountable for their irresponsible actions and should not be condoned.

If the tables are turned I bet you that a lot of men will not be able to take in the nonsense they dish out to women because they know that in their subconcious it is wrong.

Why the excuses such as that a man who cheats loves his wife but wants to explore and give stupid reasons as to why men do that I don't understand the logic behind that .

To the men who philander have you for once thought about the women in your lives how they would feel or have you for once sat down to ask yourself if it was you and how you would feel?

Why does society make it okay for men to cheat and chastise women for doing same why? Why condition women into believing that it is okay and normal for a man to cheat on committed partners or spouses.

I don't believe it is okay it kills the self esteem of the woman and it is an insult to her self respect.

How can you conciously disrespect someone who you claim to love and vowed to be faithful to?

If you give the woman disease nkor what about your kids? I don't get it

I blame society for feeding men with that crappy notion that it is okay to behave like an irresponsible dickhead and get away with it.

I also blame women for allowing themselves to be manipulated into thinking that it is okay for a man to cheat on you. It just goes to show how we train our daughters with little self worth into thinking that it is okay to get disrespected by a man and their life begins and ends with men and marriage. If daughters are trained with some level of swlf esteem, love, independence and are boys are thought right they will think twice before cheating and our ladies will not condone such from them.

In a nutshell, we teach our girls to take poo and our boys to dish out poo.

No faithful partner deserves a cheating partner.

I don't know lil sis... kiss

You are the hope and the dream that will change this narrative kiss kiss kiss


Thank you for being you wink

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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by Nobody: 1:08am On Oct 22, 2019
Toks2008:


No one is justifying cheating...it is what it is....Men are natural polygamists.

My advise for you is to face reality or you may end up living in fools paradise.

If your husband cheats on you and you leave him because of that just remain single for life cos there is no guaranty that you will find a faithful man anywhere.

All your thinking is to the left to the left. How do you liv with yourself?

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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by Nobody: 1:13am On Oct 22, 2019
Toks2008:


I pity you.

I dey tell you truth you dey attack me
..is this about me or the reality?

No level of beauty can stop a man who wants to cheat from.ding so. My advise for you is to remain single if you know you don't have the nerves to withstand infidelity.

A word is enough for the reasonable. I will stop here so believe whatever you like if it will make you sleep well at night.


Can you just shut up? That you come from a generation of cheats doesn't mean other men share the same bloodline.
Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by Nobody: 1:13am On Oct 22, 2019
MrBrownJay1:
the issue is very simple:
until Nigerian women themselves are gonna rise up as a unit and say NO MORE, then Nigerian men will continue hiding under the pretense that it is natural for an African man to have multiple partner bla bla bla. i solely blame women for this nonsense, because A) the majority are blackmailed into accepting this rubbish thanks to Nigerian society`s view on marriage (aka do or die). so, many of these women accept cheating to keep the peace and stay miserably married (or dating) at all cost. B) isn't it women that are gladly sleeping with these cheating men? some women out there have absolutely no morals/problem with sleeping with a married/taken man, so long as she can "profit" from it. this is due to POVERTY, GREED and IGNORANCE... but funny enough these same women will now complain when they become wifey and hubby is cheating.

last but not least, "C" if ANY man thinks it is ok to have multiple partner, then that´s ok but he should be fully honest with his partner and let her know exactly what kind of man he is from the get go, so that she can she decide if she wants to be in this relationship and/or have a few lovers of her own too.

sadly, we all know that such philandering state of mind is only accepted in Nigeria when MEN do it, and if a woman does the same, SOCIETY will shame her for it... aka HYPOCRISY at the highest level.


C is the solution...

Why cheat, lie and deceive when there are like minded people out there? What's this need to shatter another person's reality?.. I'm talking about both genders here... There's someone everyone. cry

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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by Nobody: 1:17am On Oct 22, 2019
Hipsofagoddess:



Can you just shut up? That you come from a generation of cheats doesn't mean other men share the same bloodline.

You're taking that ancestor seriously grin grin grin

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Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by Nobody: 1:20am On Oct 22, 2019
crackhaus:
Over flogged issue.

You women should damn the consequences and begin cheating as well, what is stopping you?
Isn't this the equality you SJWs fight for endlessly? Double standards, the smart-by-half ones call it.

Please start cheating too let everybody rest.

Will you rest? undecided
Re: Why Do We Justify The Actions Of Philandering Men? by Nobody: 1:30am On Oct 22, 2019
Guest007:


You're taking that ancestor seriously grin grin grin

Lol, he is so annoying.

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