Mstick:
A married man that can't take care of his wife and FOUR KIDS still impregnated another married woman.


Am just here to read comments that will blame the wife and paint OP as a great guy.

Seesam:
Someone commented and said lies everywhere. Most everyone be a lier?.
My wife has already seen this post and she knows am the one who posted it.
But that is not my problem for now.

W :oW...
She z also a Nlander

midnighter:
You have to find out why she's trying to stop you from meeting her parents. That is the key

She's pregnant for you while still married to another dude...you impregnated her while still married..you guys have to arrange yourselves

But I dont know why she would be delaying since you have already indicated that you are ready to pay her bride price

Find out why she's avoiding your meeting her parents because it doesnt make sense

But this one the first one wasnt ready to manage with you, is this one ready? Maybe she doesnt want her parents to complain that she is leaving the (maybe wealthier) husband for someone who is not financially buoyant

And to answer your question, its possible for the bride price to not have been paid fully if all rites have not been observed properly due to disorganisation or a quarrel between parties

Oreofepeters:
You are always on every thread................... Seems local girl is addicted to nairaland ?

midnighter:


I have a wide range of interests...do my posts bother you?

Oreofepeters:
Yes it bothers me somehow, most of your post reeks controversy

Mogambo123:
A married woman?

We are trying to fix the morally bankrupt situation in the country, yet you commit adultery with a married woman ? We are trying to check the population explosion that is hindering Nigeria's economic progress, yet you impregnated another woman when you have not been able to take care of 4 that you already have ?

You are a burden to Nigeria as whole.

Seesam:
My dear brothers and sisters. I am at a cross road. What do i do?.
My marriage is suffering a major setback and my wife doesnt seem to care about what might happen to us next.

We have always had issues just like many other marriages, but for us its very obvious that we can no longer tolerate each other.

God has been so good to us, blessing us with 4 healthy children.
Financially we are not ok, we are just managing and she is no longer ready to manage with me.

She has been with her parents for over a year now with our children. And i occasionally go to visit them.

The main problem now is that another woman is pregnant for me.
I love her but she is marraiad. Her husband is in Malaysia and things are very rocky between them.
They had their traditional wedding and white wedding as well.
The lady made me to understand that her bride price was never paid. How is that possible?.
I have made attempt to meet her own parents so as to know our fate but she said i should leave that to her.
We are both igbos, is this really possible?.

If it is, do we have the right to get married?.
should i go against her will.and reach her parents now?.

Please advice me without insulting my person.

Regards.

Mogambo123:
A married woman?

We are trying to fix the morally bankrupt situation in the country, yet you commit adultery with a married woman ? We are trying to check the population explosion that is hindering Nigeria's economic progress, yet you impregnated another woman when you have not been able to take care of 4 that you already have ?

You are a burden to Nigeria as whole.

Seesam:
My dear brothers and sisters. I am at a cross road. What do i do?.
My marriage is suffering a major setback and my wife doesnt seem to care about what might happen to us next.

We have always had issues just like many other marriages, but for us its very obvious that we can no longer tolerate each other.

God has been so good to us, blessing us with 4 healthy children.
Financially we are not ok, we are just managing and she is no longer ready to manage with me.

She has been with her parents for over a year now with our children. And i occasionally go to visit them.

The main problem now is that another woman is pregnant for me.
I love her but she is marraiad. Her husband is in Malaysia and things are very rocky between them.
They had their traditional wedding and white wedding as well.
The lady made me to understand that her bride price was never paid. How is that possible?.
I have made attempt to meet her own parents so as to know our fate but she said i should leave that to her.
We are both igbos, is this really possible?.

If it is, do we have the right to get married?.
should i go against her will.and reach her parents now?.

Please advice me without insulting my person.

Regards.

iamgprince:
oga the best thing 4 u to do now is to meet the pregnant married woman and know what you guys want ie if you both are going to marry each other or not and also know what you are gonna do about the unborn child with the husband included in the issue to avoid further complications because a man won't just sit and watch anoda man Impregnate the wife and do nothing.
Again for your wife you both should know exactly where you guys are heading to ie if she doesn't want to stay with you again or she still want the marriage to work but financial incapability is making her to think otherwise. Now when you are done with the two women and see how things will go and you are still confused let us know.
But if i were you i will go hustle make i take care of my wife and 4 kids than impregnating married women

Gaggi:
You can't care for 4 kids and you go out to have more kids? Are you cursed? And with a married woman at that.
What exactly do you want? Should she divorce her husband and become your second wife? Or will both of you divorce your spouse and then marry each other? What exactly is your plan? My brother, better carry your bags and use night bus to run to another country because you are a goner.

Omar09:


I don't know the kind of Nollywood movie people act in real life.

Seesam:



Bro you spoke from your heart i believe. But your words are very hard. Do you think you cant possibly find yourself someday in a worse situation?.
When you are not sure if you are dreaming or not.
About my children, they have never lacked anything good that i we could afford as parents. But 2018/19 has been wonderful.
As for the lady, i was helping her manage a small company that i helped her.set up ealier this year.
That was how we became close. This is how i have been.managing since then.
I never intended this going beyond official work but then we started dating and it was like i had my family back. She was a good kind person.

Why are my explaining all this?. Its to bring clarity to this complex situation at hand and moreover anyone can be a victim of a the same or even worse situation.
My wife is a good woman and i know i took the wrong step to balance the imbalance created by her absence.

Seesam:



Bro you spoke from your heart i believe. But your words are very hard. Do you think you cant possibly find yourself someday in a worse situation?.
When you are not sure if you are dreaming or not.
About my children, they have never lacked anything good that i we could afford as parents. But 2018/19 has been wonderful.
As for the lady, i was helping her manage a small company that i helped her.set up ealier this year.
That was how we became close. This is how i have been.managing since then.
I never intended this going beyond official work but then we started dating and it was like i had my family back. She was a good kind person.

Why are my explaining all this?. Its to bring clarity to this complex situation at hand and moreover anyone can be a victim of a the same or even worse situation.
My wife is a good woman and i know i took the wrong step to balance the imbalance created by her absence.

Seesam:


I am beginning to wonder if all this is natural. I cant really tell how things got this bad.

Ariza:
Yes blame it on the village people . They are the cause of your lack of self-control and discipline including your lack of moral standard. Very Unnatural!