Liztee:
He hasn't visited them since after our wedding. Is this right? He only calls them if I travel to greet them or if I go for an occasion.

mulante:
Of what use is his calling your parents to greet them often?

As a couple you should each be ambassadors to your respective homes. If your parents survive on phone calls, then sustain their lives with your credit. He'll do same for his parents.

It is each your responsibility to defend your spouse and your home from your family. He covers his side, you cover your side.

Your husband doesn't call, make excuses for him. It's not a crime. Don't let little things destroy your home


You sounded so disrespectful by saying if her parents survives on calls,she should credit her phone to call them. .

TheArchangel:
Start doing same. Let him see how it feels.

sassysure:
By extension, they are your parents. It's simple courtesy to call them. In fact, it multiplies their lives and most of them do boast about that.
Let me ask u, if they are alakija, dangote, Buhari, Tinubu, won't u be calling to greet them everyday?
Won't u boast of being part of their family by association ie marriage?

We don't call because we see them as leaches. When we call, that when they will start complaining of waist or leg pain. We will notice that some of them will start calling u their son immediately u marry their daughter. Which means u are automatically part of them.
It's actually emotionally painful.
If u have parents and do call your parents, u should do the same to her parents.
If she dont call and greet your parents, all of u will be on her neck.
This is not how to be a man. It's Useless pride.
These small and inconsequential things add to make marriage sour.

May your daughter's husband do same to u.


My FIL will call his son and they will spend hours on the phone, he will ask after me. He never ever call me. One yr into the marriage, I was the one calling him. If I ask his son, he will say he asked after me na.
One day, I was all worked up on my way from work and I see that as a perfect day to call and lash out. I did lash out
Before u know it, everybody was doing family meeting on top my head. I won in the end and he apologised.
That's what family represent. Showing u care and love them. Not necessarily by providing material things or asking after them through their children. Treat them like your parents!

Liztee:
Thanks to everyone. I learnt something new. Though I usually call his parents because if I do same, I won't be respected as a wife in his family. I have seen that it's his behavior. Over to him. My parents do not demand things from him, Infact for our wedding, it was a low-key wedding because my mum was a teacher then, she invited just 4 friends from her school, few friends from church .

Liztee:
Thanks to everyone. I learnt something new. Though I usually call his parents because if I do same, I won't be respected as a wife in his family. I have seen that it's his behavior. Over to him. My parents do not demand things from him, Infact for our wedding, it was a low-key wedding because my mum was a teacher then, she invited just 4 friends from her school, few friends from church .

crackhaus:

Good, don't invent an issue where there is none.

For someone like him, you can get him to talk on the phone with your parents whenever you yourself are calling them - in this way, it will be you and him together on the phone talking to your parents and it won't feel too weird for him to just pick up the phone on his own to ramble some memorized lines.