Hi nairalanders,save a soul.my girlfriend is in the habit of sending abusive text to my female friends even if she hv never heard of u but ur mobile number carries a female name.oftentimes,i do not see this sent messages but only see their responses.it is always downgrading and embarasing as she often use my phone to send such messages.am always dumbfounded whenever am confronted with such messages.she did same tonight.kindly advise

Sit her down nd warn the hell out of her . . .But is she persists . then. .U can get a new phone ''secret''.

If you have to hide your phone or your friends, then you need to get another chick, You are not married anyways!

The babe obviously has no respect for u,like someone already said warn the nonesense outta her but if she doesn't stop,DROP HER LIKE A USED TISSUE PAPER.

freecocoa:

The babe obviously has no respect for u,like someone already said warn the nonesense outta her but if she doesn't stop,DROP HER LIKE A USED TISSUE PAPER.

Cocoa how you today hope--- you are okay now >>> more strenght and power for you,

@kay,am kinda berra 2day?i just pray i stay that way.thanx dear.

Nothing dey do you--- you staying even much better than that--- dont worry it is well with you

@kay,A big ameneth to that.

freecocoa:

@kay,A big ameneth to that.

Its love
bondage
insecurity
paranoia
jealousy
jst v a talk wit er n assure er always

^^^^^^^mostly insecurities as the rest you mentioned doesnt warrant for such foolishness.
@poster
there are many ways to deal with the issue:
- you should first seat her down and discuss the issue with her, like any adult would.
- if this nonsense persist, you can also simply get a lock code on your phone so that she has no access to it.
- if you are insane and "in love"with her, you may get rid of all your female friends.
- but the best thing to do if this childish behavior continues is to get rid of her and find yourself a NORMAL gf.

^^^ n dose r my opinions sir
n r u sayin d babe is ABNORMAL?

^^^^low self-esteem, insecurities, lack of trust due to cheating exes, etc etc etc. the list is long but i doubt LOVE has anything to do with it. . . . . . . . . .  i dont know about abnormal maybe someone mentally unstable would be more appropriate (she sure shows signs of "out there") but hey, like they say, there is a thin line between love and insanity!

^^^ well we r most likely on d same line
as u v said dere is a thin line btw love n insanity
she feels dats ow she cld protect wat she s got
i v my strategies 2

mantote:

Hi nairalanders,save a soul.my girlfriend is in the habit of sending abusive text to my female friends even if she hv never heard of u but your mobile number carries a female name.oftentimes,i do not see this sent messages but only see their responses.it is always downgrading and embarasing as she often use my phone to send such messages.am always dumbfounded whenever am confronted with such messages.she did same tonight.kindly advise

LOL . . children!

@freecocoa you are funny,you said he should drop her like used tissue paper, lol

Dyt:

^^^ well we r most likely on d same line
as u v said dere is a thin line btw love n insanity
she feels dats ow she cld protect wat she s got
i v my strategies 2

but dont you think that the minute a woman feels the need to "protect"what she's got, thats the minute she has started losing it?!
no "protection" can keep your man from straying or doing whatever you ladies are "protecting" it from.

^^^^^ chuckles
well ur tots
as i stated earlier
v got my own strategies
we v diff ways of handlin men issues

^^^^^ pls do share you thoughts or "strategies" in handling men issues with us all, we are all here to learn. lol!

^^^ well i guess peeps cld v ryt 2 dere own privacy
lol

^^^^^yes of course, but in a relationship, shouldnt we share everything thus privacy being obsolete?!

^^ n dat shld b my own very rel
n my strategies cld as well b craps 2 sm odas bt it does work 4 me
bt d truth is i jst ignore
he is mine wen wit me
n cld b whosoeva wen he leaves
i press d i dont care botton

^^^^^woah, difficult to find people thinking like you do in 9ja without being automatically labelled as a cheater(she doesnt care because she has other men in her life blablabla). its also a dangerous move, i can see how some guy may think that:"oh well, she doesnt care about me so i may as well do whatever i feel"

dont you think there is some need of caring even when not around, although not the "insane" type of care like the poster's girl?

dont u think cos dis babe in Q cared , she s bn labelled abnormal
i wonder wat pleases u men

^^^^pls dont misunderstand CARE with INSANITY. what that gal did has absolutely nothing to do with CARE. if she did care, she wouldnt put this guy or his female friends in the inconvenience she put them in, just to satisfy her insecurities.

^^^ i hear u
men n issues sha

sit her down and talk to her,

or like some one said put security code on ur phone dat way she wont have access to it.

that's uncalled for.

talk 2 her abeg

@op,how old is the chic?
cos from i post,i just deduced that ur chic is either underage or has serious issues

sleekch1c:

@op,how old is the chic?
cos from i post,i just deduced that your chic is either underage or has serious issues

U read ma mind cos it shows lack of maturity.

Some people can be very possessive and it shows itself in this type of scenario.

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