Dear Nairaland,
I have know my boyfriend for just over a year. When we met I was living in the US and he was in Nigeria. His brother who live is the US hooked us up. So most of our relationship was throu emails, chat and phone calls.
Few months ago I came to Kenya to visit my father, and my boyfriend decided to come so that we could finally meet. So he came and we met, he is a wonderful person.
He insisted to come and see my father because he wants us to get married. So he met him, and everything went well.
Before my dad met him, he wanted me to fortget about my BF because of the bad reputations that Nigerians have, and he thought it was a scam. After meeting him, he still thinks that he is not serious, and is a liar. He just doesn't trust him.
So I don't know what to do, I love my BF and don't want to disapoint my dad.

Dump him. Nigerians are shady people. Is he Ibo?

If he is Ibo, pls run away from him.

BTW, I am Ibo, and I know how bad we are. We are the 'baddest ethnic group' in the world.

Poster,

Are your father Kenyan or in the Military?

Pls. . . .Don't disapoint ur dadd . .He's right . . . Most of Nigerian guys nowadays re not serious!

stranger:

Dump him. Nigerians are shady people. Is he Ibo?

If he is Ibo, pls run away from him.

BTW, I am Ibo, and I know how bad we are. We are the 'baddest ethnic group' in the world.

Good u breathed it out

PLS DUMB HIM SO DAT WE CAN HAVE HIM.

THANKS IN ADVANCE.

Excuse me, I am a wife of an Igbo man, I don't know why you would say some crit like that    Only speak of yourself!  

Take it easy Madam . . . This guy knows their ppl more than u do . . .rihgt?

He don't know my husband and back off before I cut you!

Ok!! I'm off

Mrs. Eve:

He don't know my husband and back off before I cut you!

YOUR HUBBY MUST B AN ANGEL, CAN I MEET HIM PLS?

(declaring war and putting on Flocking up a chick suit)

Mrs. Eve:

stranger:

Dump him. Nigerians are shady people. Is he Ibo?

If he is Ibo, pls run away from him.

BTW, I am Ibo, and I know how bad we are. We are the 'baddest ethnic group' in the world.

hmmmm

poster
ask yourself if you get married, where do you plan to live? in Nigeria or in Africa?

stranger:

Dump him. Nigerians are shady people. Is he Ibo?

If he is Ibo, pls run away from him.

BTW, I am Ibo, and I know how bad we are. We are the 'baddest ethnic group' in the world.

u must be very s.tupid. Even a kid reasons better than u. I don't think u're a Nigerian 'stranger'. An Igbo will know it is 'Igbo' not 'Ibo' dunce. @OP, I'd advice u not listen to all de negatives being said. Nigerian society-like every other society-has its fair share of good & bad. NO SOCIETY in de world has it all. . . U know ur man better than ur father. If u're certain he's de man u wanna spend ur life with, then it's ur duty to keep talking to ur father. Don't throw away de love of a good man because of some misconceptions. And if u care to know, Igbo men make wonderful husbands. I can tell u dat.

D-sense:

Take it easy Madam . . . This guy knows their ppl more than u do . . .rihgt?

knows her husband more than her probably? Or knows the people she associates with everyday more than her? Talking like one of dem tribalists.

stranger:

Dump him. Nigerians are shady people. Is he Ibo?

If he is Ibo, pls run away from him.

BTW, I am Ibo, and I know how bad we are. We are the 'baddest ethnic group' in the world.

you need to ignore this m.oron

@op, do you have money? Else, you are not welcome.

Well, I am from West Africa, and looking for a job right now. So he is willing to move with me wherever I am.
Because my dad doesn't want me to go to Naija, so he is willing to follow me. And yes he is Igbo.

stranger:

Dump him. Nigerians are shady people. Is he Ibo?

If he is Ibo, pls run away from him.

BTW, I am Ibo, and I know how bad we are. We are the 'baddest ethnic group' in the world.

U are a disgrace 2 ibo pple,so ur dad is not loving ur mom like every other men

stranger:

Dump him. Nigerians are shady people. Is he Ibo?

If he is Ibo, pls run away from him.

BTW, I am Ibo, and I know how bad we are. We are the 'baddest ethnic group' in the world.

U are a disgrace 2 ibo pple. So ur dad is not loving ur mom like every other men? Well,mayb u are speakin out of exprience 4rm ur dad.

Panthera9:

Well, I am from West Africa, and looking for a job right now. So he is willing to move with me wherever I am.
Because my dad doesn't want me to go to Naija, so he is willing to follow me. And yes he is Igbo.

Is our country dis much bastardized? A wife is supposed to settle down wit her husband, not de husband following his wife anywhere she goes!! Lady, ur husband must luv u to be willing to concede to that, but deep down he might not be too happy wit it, or u. Igbo men have pride. Are u trying to tel us dat if u set foot in Nigeria everyone will be targeting u/what?? Girl, If u really love dat ur man u better humble yourself & be rationale. His family won't applaud u, & u can bet u won't live 'outside' for long. WTF?

Panthera9:

Well, I am from West Africa, and looking for a job right now. So he is willing to move with me wherever I am.
Because my dad doesn't want me to go to Naija, so he is willing to follow me. And yes he is Igbo.

Is our country dis much bastardized? A wife is supposed to settle down wit her husband, not de husband following his wife anywhere she goes!! Lady, ur husband must luv u to be willing to concede to that, but deep down he might not be too happy wit it, or u. Igbo men have pride. Are u trying to tel us dat if u set foot in Nigeria everyone will be targeting u/what?? Girl, If u really love dat ur man u better humble yourself & be rationale. His family won't applaud u, & u can bet u won't live 'outside' for long. WTF? What has happened to some africans? Too much western influence?

Panthera9:

Well, I am from West Africa, and looking for a job right now. So he is willing to move with me wherever I am.
Because my dad doesn't want me to go to Naija, so he is willing to follow me. And yes he is Igbo.

Is our country dis much bastardized? A wife is supposed to settle down wit her husband, not de husband following his wife anywhere she goes!! Lady, ur husband must luv u to be willing to concede to that, but deep down he might not be too happy wit it, or u. Igbo men have pride. Are u trying to tel us dat if u set foot in Nigeria everyone will be targeting u/what?? Girl, If u really love dat ur man u better humble yourself & be rationale. His family won't applaud u, & u can bet u won't live 'outside' for long. WTF? What has happened to some africans? Too much western influence?

D-sense:

Pls. . . .Don't disapoint your dadd . .He's right . . . Most of Nigerian guys nowadays re not serious!

D-sense:

Good u breathed it out

I hate to say this but you are the biggest fool ever existed.

stranger:

Dump him. Nigerians are shady people. Is he Ibo?

If he is Ibo, pls run away from him.

BTW, I am Ibo, and I know how bad we are. We are the 'baddest ethnic group' in the world.

You are not Igbo and will never be, you are simply a disgrace to humanity

papamissyb:


YOUR HUBBY MUST B AN ANGEL, CAN I MEET HIM PLS?

And what are u trying to suggest?

Panthera9:

Dear Nairaland,
I have know my boyfriend for just over a year. When we met I was living in the US and he was in Nigeria. His brother who live is the US hooked us up. So most of our relationship was throu emails, chat and phone calls.
Few months ago I came to Kenya to visit my father, and my boyfriend decided to come so that we could finally meet. So he came and we met, he is a wonderful person.
He insisted to come and see my father because he wants us to get married. So he met him, and everything went well.
Before my dad met him, he wanted me to fortget about my BF because of the bad reputations that Nigerians have, and he thought it was a scam. After meeting him, he still thinks that he is not serious, and is a liar. He just doesn't trust him.
So I don't know what to do, I love my BF and don't want to disapoint my dad.

They say 'What an old man can see lying down, a young man cannot see it from the top of a ladder' . . .  I wouldn't be too quick to write off your father's worries if I were you, especially after he has met the young man in question!  

I have to tell you the truth, Nigerians are deceptive but that doesn't mean your BF is one of them! Just take things slowly, don't rush anything . .  see how things play out!    

Wislet:

Is our country dis much bastardized? A wife is supposed to settle down wit her husband, not de husband following his wife anywhere she goes!! Lady, your husband must luv u to be willing to concede to that, but deep down he might not be too happy wit it, or u. Igbo men have pride. Are u trying to tel us dat if u set foot in Nigeria everyone will be targeting u/what?? Girl, If u really love dat your man u better humble yourself & be rationale. His family won't applaud u, & u can bet u won't live 'outside' for long. WTF? What has happened to some africans? Too much western influence?

I'm afraid this doesn't apply . .  she's in the US of A, he's in Nigeria so . .  go figure! I can bet you my last dime that he won't be so willing to 'follow' her if it were the other way round!

Ujujoan:

They say 'What an old man can see lying down, a young man cannot see it from the top of a ladder' . . . I wouldn't be too quick to write off your father's worries if I were you, especially after he has met the young man in question!

I have to tell you the truth, Nigerians are deceptive but that doesn't mean your BF is one of them! Just take things slowly, don't rush anything . . see how things play out!

I'm afraid this doesn't apply . . she's in the US of A, he's in Nigeria so . . go figure! I can bet you my last dime that he won't be so willing to 'follow' her if it were the other way round!

It will make more sense if you add SOME b4 Nigerians. Stop painting all of us black.

^^^ Ouch! You seem to be a bit . . . Touchy!

Ujujoan:

^^^ Ouch! You seem to be a bit . . . Touchy!

Not really but i can't stand this senseless generalisation when it comes to issue of Nigerian men or women.