ahnie:
I sense you babes .
I think I share some similarities...am I also achaic?

1---i bought a microwave that am so scared to use!
2___i hardly sleep on foam..I preferred sleeping on cold tiles!
3__i detest sleeping with the lights on!
4---i buy shoes that I do not ever wear,Las Las I always give them out.
5--i buy close clothes that I hardly wear,I eventually gets to wear them several months after buying them.

Back to the topic....I think the op's husby z not achaic..it's apparently a psychological issue.

ibkayee:
He may have some ‘uninformed’ views (don’t we all at a point) but he sounds harmless, plus at least it sounds like it comes from a place of love and concern.

Now the part where he’s adamant on sticking to his points, maybe it isn’t being explained to him properly/well? Maybe he actually has valid points? Lol. Or he could just be stubborn and irredeemably ignorant? Who knows

Funny

bukatyne:
LewsTherin

LewsTherin:


Madam, why are you putting me on the spot now?

I saw this thread and let it alone. After all, the guy wasn't at sea during the period they were dating. There is no way she didn't know his "old fashioned" tendencies. If she enjoyed his affections enough to marry him, what's the problem at this time?

TheArchangel:
I detest married priest, reverends or pastors. The mere fact that they had sex with their wives or anybody gives me the jitters. You can't be frolicking and then placing vagina-fluid coated fingers on my forehead in the name of prayers.... Or praying with a Pastor Wilson's-like mouth Ewwww.

bukatyne:


The wife needs to be wiser than reporting him about till she gets dicked.

fuzzywuzzy:


Good evening ma

I come in peace ma, personally I dont think she is "reporting him about"

"Till she gets dicked".

She needed help and advice because she was unhappy so she came to seek it, please don't make her feel bad by critisizing that action.


God bless you.

crackhaus:
This Bukatyne continues to amaze me.

I love this.

bukatyne:


I am not putting you on the spot joor.

@bold: so chivalrous, so sweet.

What do you think about Madonna-LovePeddler complex.

bukatyne:


Awwwww

Thanks.

bukatyne:


till she gets dicked.

bukatyne:


I am going to use myself as an example.

We read together, fvcked in between

nlPoster:


I don't understand this phrase, are you referring to marital copulation or something else?

On another thread, you also said you and your husband used to "fccuk yourselves" back in the day, while you were dating.

Now, my question is, is anything wrong with simply saying "had sex" or "sexual intercourse" or you know, other regular expressions generally used to define sexual activity. I'm actually not sure if you're married or not, I just find your choice of words curious.

I wanted to say something before you bring other words like screwing, shagging, bonking, fornicating, etc. Rather unusual.


Here's your post I mentioned:




https://www.nairaland.com/5538441/some-problems-today-marriages-upbringing/1#84247193

nlPoster:


I don't understand this phrase, are you referring to marital copulation or something else?

On another thread, you also said you and your husband used to "fccuk yourselves" back in the day, while you were dating.

Now, my question is, is anything wrong with simply saying "had sex" or "sexual intercourse" or you know, other regular expressions generally used to define sexual activity. I'm actually not sure if you're married or not, I just find your choice of words curious.

I wanted to say something before you bring other words like screwing, shagging, bonking, fornicating, etc. Rather unusual.


Here's your post I mentioned:




https://www.nairaland.com/5538441/some-problems-today-marriages-upbringing/1#84247193

Mindfulness:
It could be the Madonna complex, it could be that he is gay, it could be that he doesn't like sex, it could be that the birth was a traumatizing experience. We don't know, do we? Time will show. I just wonder if the Bible accepts the Madonna complex as an excuse to withhold sex from your spouse.

By the way, microwaves can be dangerous but believing that semen contaminates breast milk is a different story.

bukatyne:


Considering that the wife did not complain about their sex life prior to pregnancy, I will assume MWC first.

@ bold: there is absolutely no excuse. That's why people should ensure they have sound minds before getting married and all issues that would hamper them from being healthy spouses handled.

If any party discovers any hindrance on the go, they both need to communicate, work together and resolve their issues.

I agree with your last paragraph.

Mindfulness:


So MWC or not he must satisfy her right?

bukatyne:


Yep and goes both ways.

Mindfulness:


But he hasn't for more than a year now or longer. What do you suggest?

LewsTherin:


Actually have never heard about it. Strange that.

Because of the kind of person I am, I can understand people who have personality traits that are, for lack of a better word, unusual. These traits come from a large variety of factors - education, upbringing, religion, trauma, television, etcetera etcetera.

Getting a person to change that trait or view is not exactly the easiest thing in the world. It takes time and patience and wierdly enough, can be changed in an instant by great joy or great trauma. The human mind. Go figure.

But I said it once and I'll say it again. Homegirl must have seen these things in the one year of dating. But the chance to become Mrs Wife, the joys of landing an affectionate man must have been too much to resist. She's laid her bed.

Best she can do it to try to adjust the sheets slowly .

nlPoster:


I don't understand this phrase, are you referring to marital copulation or something else?

On another thread, you also said you and your husband used to "fccuk yourselves" back in the day, while you were dating.

Now, my question is, is anything wrong with simply saying "had sex" or "sexual intercourse" or you know, other regular expressions generally used to define sexual activity. I'm actually not sure if you're married or not, I just find your choice of words curious.

I wanted to say something before you bring other words like screwing, shagging, bonking, fornicating , etc. Rather unusual.


Here's your post I mentioned:




https://www.nairaland.com/5538441/some-problems-today-marriages-upbringing/1#84247193

bukatyne:


She discusses with him to understand why he thinks sex is not good for her yet with solid counter facts.

bukatyne:




Very true

@bold: permission to use going forward.