Hi niralanders!i've been following dis site for sumtym now i do not realy post much as i only read peoples post and comment.i do appreciate some of d advice u guy's give 2peeps.now am confused and need ur opinion on dis issue:i've been datin a guy for 3yrs now(since 100 level)he's not a student(he's workin)bt d problem haz been his inability 2 commit.we've broken up so many tyms dat i've lost cout.but we always make up afta sumtym.he always comes back pleadin for 4giveness&promisin 2take me seriously but things do not improve.i've tried on numerous occassions 2talk it out wit him,bt there has been no significant change on his part.it is at times like dis wen i see no change dat i let go, but he stil comes back beggin.his case is so bad dat he rearly even cals.apart 4rm being insensitive 2me i can say he's a nice guy in other aspects.i cant also deny d fact dat i luv him so much and dis he knows.i also know dat there is no serious lady in his life,yet he's not committed.am in my final year now d question on my mind is,should i leave him 4 good even if he begs or should i stil wait 4 him.i've spent almost all my 4years in university waitin 4him.i can boldly say am beautiful&stil got alot of toasters.bt anytym i try 2move on he shows up again.sumtym people say he's jst usin me.bt i keep askin why hasnt he move on.why doesnt he jst go as is common wit male users.there was a day he told me dat wen he thinks of settlin down,he thinks of me but dat he's afraid.i dnt know wot else 2do.wil dis my faithfulness pay off?

The question is, d'u like d way things r going?

if you are not appreciated in a relationship, what exactly are you waiting for then. hoping he would marry you out of pity and treat you worse!

wat if it continue for the nest 6yrs?if u luv him and cant leave him,put him on the researved bench,incase his head comes down.girl push on if not u will be out of stock.believe me

why would you want to believe in falsehood.

Sweety move on wif your life,if he loves and appreciates you,you need not beg him to commit to you.

u hv 2 b selfish & ask ursef wats in it 4 u. Why wuld u want 2 stay in such a parasitic relationship? I tink d reason u kip accepting him back is because u pity him & tink u can change him & dats where u are obviously mistaken. If for 4yrs dere's bin no improvement den wat makes u tink dat dis tym wuld be any different. I believe its tym u stopped being a fool in luv cos im sure dats wat he sees u as. U hv 2 cut ur loss & move on cherie,u've got only one lyf 2 live. U cant kip it on hold 4 sum1 who doesnt appreciate u. And as 4 him not going afta oda women,he's only doing dat so he can hv sumting 2 hold against u weneva u decide 2 leave him. D next tym he cums grovelling & pleading wit u 2 take him back,put ur foot down & tell him u've had enof of his sorry a$$.

Thanks 2 u all.in as much as it hurts i guess lettin go is my only option.thanks 4ur comment.

Have you had sex with him each time that he comes back begging for forgiveness? He is programmed to do this with your help!!! Stop it, or it will go on and you will continue to behave as an insane person does , insanity is : doing the same thing over and over again, hoping for a different result. Sorry, but true. Sincerely, kat

U used d right word PROGRAMMED

Girl, just let go off him, dont listen to his pleeds, i know he'll come backing begging.

Leave for good my dear! wat is not worth it now is not gona worth it 10yrs to come.

u know what,sit him down,tell him how u feel and what u want.explain how it hurts u and dats all,if no change then u find your square root

Eray: Thanks 2 u all.in as much as it hurts i guess lettin go is my only option.thanks 4ur comment.

Interesting.
Hope its ur past now?

Eray
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