ebullient19:
Miracle and favours might continue to happen
who knows

vickydankal:


Lolz. Let's not be spiritual. Miracle don't happen like that. I like the fact that they have a plan on how to settle down. Many years ago, I did same with my husband. We improvised. Delayed pregnancy, planned a budget, moved to a low budget building, had a level of financial independence then we started life as married couple.

What I'm saying is, their plans are good but they should extend it beyond the wedding period

They don't make ladies like you again

I dey look this imo girl wey dey reason marriage with me.. I laugh..if she no wetin dey my mind ehn.lol..I have made up my mind to only provide only 40-50% of whatever list her people bring including her bride price..and I will tell her..to tell her people see wetin I get..do they agree or not...if not..they should find husband for her...bye..i am sure she wee kee them with annoyance if they don't accept whatever I offer.

The op has showed a way..if all prospective suitors can carry that mentality...there would sure be a forced change in the narrative of stupid cultures milking and bleeding prospective suitors in the name of marriage.

ebullient19:
Miracle and favours might continue to happen
who knows

Seriously face bleeped up reality might is a 1 in a million possibility.

maasoap:


What is the minimum wage before? 18k. What about it today? 30k in some places and still 18k in many places. Many depended on that and were able to maintain their family and give their children education to higher level. Op is just starting, marriage can't stop him from achieving whatever he is determined to achieve, just a mere challenge.

Okay. I hear you bro!

Like I said, I wish them all the best!

Goodbloke:
I personally wouldn't get married until I have an account balance of nothing less than 3 million after all the marriage rites has been performed,renting and decoration of house etc.

Marriage is not child's play abeg, congrats OP

Nice one, Only If a large percentage of the current population can have this mindset, Poverty will drastically reduce. No money, No marriage, No Impoverished Kids who will later turn Criminal. Nigeria Is the Worst nation In the Universe, sHe doesn't gives a Bleep about Humanity.

eni4real:
They don't make ladies like you again

They do. Just that some men are not coming out clean. That's telling the ladies their financial status.

vickydankal:

They do. Just that some men are not coming out clean. That's telling the ladies their financial status.

Some ladies' dream wedding is flamboyant..
Anything less than that is like a failure..

"I am a virgin o remember?? Wedding is done once in a lifetime, so it must not be boring ooo.. My friends are coming.." bla bla..

I hope men can avoid ladies like that..
Bella Naija fans!!

eni4real:
Some people even believe that Children bring some blessings for their parents

Fear ladies that guilt trip men to marriage!!

Fear men that see marriage as a license to constant sex too!!!

All na misplaced priorities!!!

The thing just weak me bro.

I still don’t know what makes it hard for some guys that’s wanting to be having constant sex not to be having constant sex without having to rush into getting married.

Last last, everyone will be alright!

At the end of the day, the parents n her people ve to compromise or else their daughter go old for house. Seh na every woman go marry rich man? OK na make all of them dey wait for rich dude make we see who go laugh last. But this traditional thing depends on village o! Some village in the east with that 200k or even 150k u done marry o! Carry ur wife enter house. Those weh dey wait for white wedding oyinbo still hold them as slaves, cus even when u ve gone to the parents to do what they ask of u traditionally, before God and man u r already married.

PotatoSalad:

You just shot yourself in the foot

Proove otherwise

eni4real:
Some ladies' dream wedding is flamboyant..
Anything less than that is like a failure..

"I am a virgin o remember?? Wedding is done once in a lifetime, so it must not be boring ooo.. My friends are coming.." bla bla..

I hope men can avoid ladies like that..
Bella Naija fans!!

Yes most ladies are that way. For myself maybe because of family background. During my wedding we printed 50 IV and shared 22. Started church wedding and finished in 1 hour 30 minutes. The reception didn't last more than 2 hours. Before 2pm that Saturday we have finished, UnCloth and went to recreation center in front of our hotel to cool off. Few who laughed at us then are working for us now... .
Good planning, God's grace and consistency on your hardwork, just a matter of time money will start calling you sir. Flamboyant wedding will not make a successful wedding but put your marriage on the limelight for the world to debate about and public opinion is one thing that kills marriage very soon before it even started. Flamboyant wedding is not bad though, if you got the talking money, you could make a statement with your money if you want.

Godislove1234:

I told my woman that nothing concerns me and that their list. I'm stubborn by nature. The reason why people still fall victim of that list is because they appear too desperate to take their wife home. Even if you're desperate try and hide it so that the inlaws no go too get say over you. Because to me it's crazy. Dem no de marry once and for all in Nigeria. Even after marriage you go still dey send your inlaws money and gifts. So why should they stress you too much with some offensive list

Lol! You are funny. Tone it down with the stubbornness. It doesn’t favour anyone. You will end up alienating your family.

Godsonjolly:
God bless your union. But why will I pay 500k for marital rites? Even my sis own was not up to 100k. The bride price no reach 20k talk more of 50k. My dad was so lenient with everything. The fact is even if it's 1m for the bride price, the money will surely finish. So my making things difficult for people when u can make it easy.

Lol!! My sister's own, the man gave 15k for bride price, he was given some money back out of the 15k and that "we don't sell our children"

Fuckthamods:
I love one girl and i want to marry her but due to lack of money I'm not comfortable making my feelings known to her. Now some rich dude has proposed to her and she has accepted


Everyday you people will be insulting igbos but won't leave our women alone

When you have beautiful damsels,what do you expect.It is popularly said that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

vickydankal:


Yes most ladies are that way. For myself maybe because of family background. During my wedding we printed 50 IV and shared 22. Started church wedding and finished in 1 hour 30 minutes. The reception didn't last more than 2 hours. Before 2pm that Saturday we have finished, UnCloth and went to recreation center in front of our hotel to cool off. Few who laughed at us then are working for us now... .
Good planning, God's grace and consistency on your hardwork, just a matter of time money will start calling you sir. Flamboyant wedding will not make a successful wedding but put your marriage on the limelight for the world to debate about and public opinion is one thing that kills marriage very soon before it even started. Flamboyant wedding is not bad though, if you got the talking money, you could make a statement with your money if you want.

Your type is rare!!
I hope many ladies can be inspired on prioritization!!

mumumugu:
what of govt tax of #21000 for marriage levy

Abeg, na joke?

My own advice to everyone is please don't rush into marriage Because all your mates are married or because you are getting older...please know why you are getting married and mostly love at first sight doesn't work for everyone... before you talk of marriage, know the person you are getting married to if she understands and thinks same way you do, if she's compactible and you can tolerate her...most times people who marry their friends make good homes... don't marry a stranger and later you start seeing strange atitude you don't know about. Once again Marry only when you have found and confirmed the right person compactible to your life and who you are spending the rest of your life with.. Marriage is not friendship...any mistake made in selection can't be corrected. I pray we succeed in marriage IJN AMEN

[quote author=Fuckthamods post=85003250]I love one girl and i want to marry her but due to lack of money I'm not comfortable making my feelings known to her. Now some rich dude has proposed to her and she has accepted

Mr Man you should be over happy. That lady is not for you full stop...

One reason of many broke homes is that people marry people's future wives.....

Rosarie:
What is the reason behind an expensive wedding?
Who nor get today fit get today.
All these states need to check these expensive bride price stuff

And they will come to your house and expect VVIP treatment after they've connived with the whole village to fleece you.
If you witness some of these negotiations you go wonder whether this people get feelings at all especially in the East of Nigeria

eni4real:
If you are not called stingy, you are a mumu man

Oga maturity is the ability to make your own decisions without the fear of criticisms. The guy had made his decision not minding what your little mind thinks about him.

kelvindj98:

I thought I was the only one irritated by that. Someone who doesn't have 500k, and probably borrowed to get that 200k is talking about marriage, and will bring children into the world.
And we wonder why we are still a 3rd world country. It's not just about standard of living, but mentality as well.
An average millennial in a first world won't even dream about marriage without having a sizeable chunk of money in the bank and a blossoming career.
But here, someone wacking garri will sit down and think marriage is the next thing.
I think a time will come when kids will openly abuse their parents for bringing them into this world to suffer.

Bros, what you said now is what Bro Andrew said years ago .Now he is 45 years old and still not married

lastempero:


20k without drinks and other requirements, u sure say na ur father pikin

Lol, I don't even think the bride price was up to 20k. My dad had little share. The only time we benefitted from it was wen he came for introduction, twas even little items the guy bought. But for the traditional wedding, my dad was very lenient and made sure the guy was comfortable with it. He brought little things, the yam he brought wasn't even up to 20tubbers yet, my dad family benefitted from it per say na family(egbe) in edo language. Even when they brought money to my grand ma, she took just 500naira, I was annoyed but they said we don't sell children.

NB: Make things easy for ur in laws for the sake of ur daughter. My sis was like collect everything from the guy, but my dad was just too cool. Ntn last forever. The food never finish, e don finish.

profilemessages:
happily single, marriage isnt for everyone, and not everyone is happily married, divorce is rampant these days. After few months newly weds usually file for divorce.

single mums plenty for streets pass single guys, hoes oloshos and slay mamas everywhere. I won't advise you to marry or don't marry, CUT YOUR COAT ACCORDING TO YOUR CLOTH!!!!

most who rush into marriage end up to be telling us "ngbatiii" "ngbatiii" stories on nairaland!!!

you are full of vile

Dude congrats!

But a bit of caution. Think of life after marriage. Are you going to be having kids right away? Will you have to train some of her siblings? What kind of quality of life can you offer your wife and young family? Can she manage with you if things are tight?

Too many marriages crashing over money my guy. After marriage plan your life well. If after one year of marriage no kids people will say the lady is infertile or your friend had 3 kids after 5 years of marriage so you must do same. People fall into these traps. Be your own man.

Good luck to you.

Investnownow:

Do you have another sister?. I'm planning to take a fourth wife�

Lol. Eyya na only one sis we get ooo

Godsonjolly:


Lol, I don't even think the bride price was up to 20k. My dad had little share. The only time we benefitted from it was wen he came for introduction, twas even little items the guy bought. But for the traditional wedding, my dad was very lenient and made sure the guy was comfortable with it. He brought little things, the yam he brought wasn't even up to 20tubbers yet, my dad family benefitted from it per say na family(egbe) in edo language. Even when they brought money to my grand ma, she took just 500naira, I was annoyed but they said we don't sell children.

NB: Make things easy for ur in laws for the sake of ur daughter. My sis was like collect everything from the guy, but my dad was just too cool. Ntn last forever. The food never finish, e don finish.

Traditional is not always about the cash per say,it is the other stuffs u have present to the kinsmen which ur father cannot really influence much,the money aspect that is usually collected as dowry na brain work be that not that they dont want to collect 100k or more but incase your inlaw suddenly chop belle full say hm no dey marry again or misbehave,they will just return 500 naira to him.una go collect una sister back officially.

ikechukwu21:

Oga maturity is the ability to make your own decisions without the fear of criticisms. The guy had made his decision not minding what your little mind thinks about him.

Let me rephrase it: "If you are not called a stingy man in Nigeria that means you are a mumu man.."

Hope you understand my comment now??

nice one bro

mariemummy:


� Nna forget it, I am sorry but you know nothing about the igbo alphabet. Igbo vowels are[b] (a í ó ú - e ì ò ù)[/b]. ch is a consonant letter of the igbo alphabet

Lol... Yea, the consonants in ibo is divided into two as well.... It seems u guys are misunderstanding me & how the main crux of the matter all started...
I traveled, i would have posted a screenshot of the ibo text where i saw it....just unless i misunderstood the whole context.... But its all good shaah, we learn everyday

lastempero:


Traditional is not always about the cash per say,it is the other stuffs u have present to the kinsmen which ur father cannot really influence much,the money aspect that is usually collected as dowry na brain work be that not that they dont want to collect 100k or more but incase your inlaw suddenly chop belle full say hm no dey marry again or misbehave,they will just return 500 naira to him.una go collect una sister back officially.

Lol. Actually, my dad didn't really ask the kinsmen for contributions or something. He did it on his own. Cos if he should follow the tradition, it will be so disastrous and awful cos most of his brother's and sis are all idol worshippers. And u know how those idolatry people works. Instead of kolanut, we used apple. So it was just simple and befitting. Just hope mine is like that and the Father in law be sensible and reasonable