We were taught that beating, flogging, or using a combination of both is one of the best ways to instill discipline in a child.

To back it up, we quote the Bible verse that says, 'Spear the rod and spoil the child'. And with this backing, we flog, beat, and use any physical means to correct the child.

Sadly, beating doesn't instill discipline, it destroys the psychological well-being of children, who grow to transfer the same pain and plight to those around them and to their children.

I will highlight the dangers of beating in a bit.

1. Low Self-esteem, Timidity, Poor Communication Skills.

Beating instills fear and timidity to children. It makes them hide, and unable to process inner strength and thought.

In some cases, beating only hardens their indiscipline which makes them a terror to the society and themselves.

2. Lifetime disability.

If we all agree that the body of a child is delicate and prone to injury, it means that beating can expose them to brain/body vein issues which will hinder them from maximising the best of their humanity.

There are many cases of parents who gave their children a permanent injury as a result of beating, and they're still battling with those disabilities till date.

3. Mental health issues
Children will always be children, expecting them to behave like adults when they're children is to deliberately distort the mental development of the child, thereby changing the natural progression of human evolution.

When you disrupt a child's mental development, you create a chaotic system which may push the child to behave in a manner that's unhealthy and unsafe for him or herself.

Sometimes, it can breed antisocial behaviour, and in rare cases mental illness.

What then is the best way to correct children?

Am I by any means suggesting that beating should be totally abolished?

YES!

What then will work?

1. Withdraw Privileges.

Every child craves for something.

Could be cartoon , games, etc.

Withdrawal of privileges is one of the most effective way to punish a child

2. Connect with their mind.
The most critical job in raising a child is to help them have
a. Conscience
b. Emotion
C. Character
d. Knowledge

Connecting with a child is the best way to help them understand how pained you are.

This will boost their communication skills, emotion, and self confidence.

3. Self Punishment.
This is the best approach, if/whenever you think of flogging a child.

Pick pin, Kneeling down, carrying a load in the air, etc.

When you give your child such punishment, they will never forget that in a hurry.

A combination of these three will do much more than what beating and flogging will achieve in child development.

Finally, it's okay to note that the development processes in children, teen-agers, and young adolescent is one that needs patience, understanding, maturity, and open mind to deal with.

Don't create a disaster by using Cain to whip human in the bid to install discipline, you may be destroying God's creation in the process.

Yours,
AV

Training a child in this country is very complicated my brother in the lord

dawnomike:
Training a child in this country is very complicated my brother in the lord

On the contrary, what is the case is that parents apply old approach with the view of getting better results.

Most times, the child is infused with training that means little or no good to him or her

So it's basically not the child but the parent's approach.