Wedding can be great and fun; but not every couple that says those magical words at the altar will be lucky enough to enjoy a lifetime of happiness. Even though the wedding itself may go off without much drama in the eyes of the guests; there are ample red flags that can go on to become major roadblocks in the couple’s journey together.

According to Maya Tarach, a wedding planner based at Chicago, wedding planning is as exciting as it is challenging and stressful, since it is quite taxing on the couples not only from a financial standpoint, but also emotional. And this is where the couple is really tested, she adds.

Below are some of the patterns seen over time that confirm a wedding isn’t going to work. And if you are curious to know the telltale signs that a wedding isn’t going to work, check out these points below.




THE COUPLE LOOKS REALLY UNHAPPY

Planning and executing a wedding certainly takes a toll on both physical and emotional levels of a person. It isn’t, therefore, surprising that a lot of couples see the wedding day as more of a relief than anything else. And while that might be understandable to some extent; if the groom and bride really look unhappy, it is definitely not a good sign for the road ahead. If the couple doesn’t exchange those loving gazes or romantic gestures on their big day, the marriage is most likely to fail sooner than later.







THE COUPLE DOESN’T GREET THE GUESTS TOGETHER

A wedding is attended by a lot of guests and one needs to attend to and greet every guest. Most couples carry out this exercise together. However, if they decide to do this separately, it isn’t exactly a good sign for their marriage.

Watching couples greet guests separately is heartbreaking. There's an example where a groom ignored his bride all night just to chainsmoke outside! Such behavior clearly shows disrespect towards their new life partner; and is a really bad sign for their married life.







AN EX ATTENDS THE WEDDING – UNINVITED

There is surely nothing wrong with your partner staying friends with their ex; and there isn’t a good reason why one cannot extend a wedding invitation to him or her; if the person is still a friend. However, there is one cave-at: All three have to be on the same page regarding this. If either of the spouse’s ex shows up at the wedding uninvited or without their partner knowing about it; it is a big red flag that the marriage isn’t exactly going to be a smooth road for the couple.







BOTH FAMILIES DON’T GET ALONG WITH EACH OTHER WELL

It is okay to have a mother-in-law who doesn’t love one as their mother does. But it is quite clear that if the two families aren’t fond of each other; or if either of the families doesn’t approve of the wedding; it is a terrible sign for the marriage. There are a ton of conflicts that usually arise because of either of the families; and it is a big red flag. It could be something as trivial as the in-laws meddling with the wedding planning; but it isn’t a good sign nevertheless.







THE COUPLE ISN’T INTERESTED IN SITTING NEAR EACH OTHER

It all boils to how closely the couple wants to sit to each other during their wedding that is going to decide the fate of their marriage. She goes on to add that she noticed that the couples who were really fond of each other would sit close to each other; share food; laugh; as well as enjoy talking to each other. They were in a completely different world; while the rest of the proceedings went on around them.

On the other hand, there are weddings where the couples are sitting on the opposite side of the table! And if they are not being able to appreciate the first time they sit together as husband and wife by sitting next to each other; they will really find it tough to do so later in their married life.



THEY ARE RUDE TOWARDS THE WEDDING STAFF IN GENERAL

Another common sign that the marriage isn’t going to work well is how the couple treats the wedding staff. If they aren’t kind to the wedding staff who are working tirelessly to make their wedding the most beautiful day of their life, chances are they are going to treat their marriage the same way.




THE COUPLES’ FOCUS IS MORE ON DRINKING THAN THE ACTUAL WEDDING ITSELF

Obviously, you are expected to have a good time at your wedding – after all, it is your wedding! However, if either of the two ends up drinking way more than they normally should; it is a clear sign that the marriage is expected to be in the doldrums. If you find your partner throwing up even before the ceremony is barely over, you should seriously ask yourself “why?”





THEY SPEND SO MUCH THAT THEY END UP IN DEBT

While you certainly should spend a whole lot of money on your wedding; you should only do it as long as you can afford it. Just to have that high-end, perfect wedding, you shouldn’t push yourself into debt. At least it isn’t a wise choice as far as the success of your future is concerned.

Starting a marriage with a truckload of debt isn’t an ideal way to start a marriage. In fact, it is the perfect recipe for a disaster.







EITHER PARTY IS WAY TOO NERVOUS ON THE WEDDING DAY

A wedding is a serious thing, and it is quite normal for couples to get nervous just before the wedding. However, way too much nervousness oozing out from either party is definitely not a good sign. A lot of nervous signs are a clear signal that the person is worried about something. If you’re drinking bottles of water to calm down panic attacks so that you could at least walk; it is perhaps your gut saying that you shouldn’t be doing this. And this, certainly, isn’t a good sign for the couple.




THE COUPLE ISN’T INTERESTED IN THE PAPERWORK

We agree that weddings don’t have to be all about paperwork. However, there are certain things that need to be followed, in order to make the marriage an “official” one. So if the couple seems disinterested in carrying out the event of the most basic paperwork, the pair might not be meant for each other.




THEY CONTINUE TO BRAG ABOUT HOW MUCH EVERYTHING AT THE WEDDING COSTS

When either party starts bragging about how much everything at the wedding costs, it a telltale sign that their focus is not on the wedding, but somewhere else. A wedding planner shared how at one wedding, the bride started telling the guests “to shut up and be grateful” as the venue cost a lot; and that the cake was high-end, which they should be thankful for! The wedding planner shared that at that point, he was quite certain that this relationship was certainly not going to last long.







THEY ARE OVERLY CRITICAL ABOUT EVERY ASPECT OF THE WEDDING

It is quite common for the groom to be disconnected with how the wedding is planned; and even being disinterested is alright to some extent. However, the real problem arises when the bride or groom get overly critical about the process, or complain a lot. It is a clear indicator that there are underlying issues that need to be resolved, which is not a good sign for their marriage life later on.







ONE PARTNER ACTIVELY DISMISSES SERIOUS REQUESTS OF THE OTHER

Compromise is what most weddings are all about. However, if either party goes against the serious requests of the other, it is a big and clear indicator that things are not going to be smooth later.

One time a bride warned the groom multiple times that if he throws cake in her face, she would not accept that. Despite her serious requests, when the groom’s friends found out about it and egged on the groom to do it anyway – he did smash cake in the bride’s face. The bride annulled the wedding!







ONE PARTNER IS COMPLETELY DISINTERESTED IN THE DETAILS

While it is understandable if a person doesn’t want to be bogged down by details on their wedding. It simply means that they are more focused on spending life with the person they love. However, if either party is completely disinterested in the details, it can be a bad sign for the couple.




THE COUPLE IS TOO FOCUSED ON THE MINOR DETAILS

While it is certainly a good thing to be prepared for the wedding and see to it that everything is organized as per your wish, being way too much involved in the details can be a recipe for disaster as well. Most wedding planners agree that couples who are focused on even the slightest of details about their wedding don’t really last long.


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