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Re: A Friend Wants Me To Lend Him Money. I Told Him To Fill A Form. Am I Wrong? by Nobody: 3:17pm On Jan 23, 2020
World best advise



I concur.
Re: A Friend Wants Me To Lend Him Money. I Told Him To Fill A Form. Am I Wrong? by emmadinho22(m): 3:18pm On Jan 23, 2020
My nigga Don't try...it o...d same way I gave my friend my last cash to my drink for a girl who does runs....til now I haven't forgive him
Re: A Friend Wants Me To Lend Him Money. I Told Him To Fill A Form. Am I Wrong? by Seytex: 3:22pm On Jan 23, 2020
you are on point bro. as a matter of fact, I don learn something new. you wan borrow money, oya fill form ni. that was how I lent a friend just 5k since last year August, he has stopped answering my calls now.
Re: A Friend Wants Me To Lend Him Money. I Told Him To Fill A Form. Am I Wrong? by gr8child(m): 3:25pm On Jan 23, 2020
That’s your friend’s problem. Anybody that’s looking to borrow money has to learn to chop humble pie.

In any case even if he signed the form and still doesn’t pay you back what will you do?
Re: A Friend Wants Me To Lend Him Money. I Told Him To Fill A Form. Am I Wrong? by pansophist(m): 3:25pm On Jan 23, 2020
Lots of people are even searching for who can borrow them, and can even sign away their life as a collateral, but here you are, trying to help a friend and he is keeping malice with you. It only goes to show his insincerity, and if I were you, that will be the end of that friendship.

Also, how does he plan to sponsor her for at least 4 years in uni after paying this first fee? If he had asked for money to improve his life, then it makes sense, but this is a classical case of removing someone's else eye dust, when there is dust in yours, its foolishness at its peak, and the bible and common sense speaks against it. Even sadly, there is quite a high chance that she will leave him for someone else, as uni is a bedrock of cheating and heartbreak.

So as an hypothetical scenario, after signing all thr documents, what will you do if he refuse to pay back? Spend more money taking him to court ? Lol

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Re: A Friend Wants Me To Lend Him Money. I Told Him To Fill A Form. Am I Wrong? by AnanseK(m): 3:32pm On Jan 23, 2020
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Some rules for borrowing or lending in Islam


Often, an entrepreneur has to borrow money to start a business, or an investor is lending money to someone to start a business. While there are whole books written on the topic of Islamic finance and the multiple financial instruments available for this type of commercial transaction, the Qur’an in one ayat (Surah Baqarah, 282) details the basic rules for borrowing and lending in Islam.

O ye who believe! When ye deal with each other, in transactions involving future obligations in a fixed period of time, reduce them to writing Let a scribe write down faithfully as between the parties: let not the scribe refuse to write: as Allah Has taught him, so let him write. Let him who incurs the liability dictate, but let him fear His Lord Allah, and not diminish aught of what he owes. If the party liable is mentally deficient, or weak, or unable Himself to dictate, Let his guardian dictate faithfully, and get two witnesses, out of your own men, and if there are not two men, then a man and two women, such as ye choose, for witnesses, so that if one of them errs, the other can remind her. The witnesses should not refuse when they are called on (For evidence). Disdain not to reduce to writing (your contract) for a future period, whether it be small or big: it is juster in the sight of Allah, More suitable as evidence, and more convenient to prevent doubts among yourselves but if it be a transaction which ye carry out on the spot among yourselves, there is no blame on you if ye reduce it not to writing. But take witness whenever ye make a commercial contract; and let neither scribe nor witness suffer harm. If ye do (such harm), it would be wickedness in you. So fear Allah. For it is God that teaches you. And Allah is well acquainted with all things (2: 282)

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Re: A Friend Wants Me To Lend Him Money. I Told Him To Fill A Form. Am I Wrong? by CyberWolf: 3:32pm On Jan 23, 2020
xavuv:


Very cold!
Even life itself is very cold. That’s why some people are born into riches while some are born in to abject poverty. So no reason, that’s how you will see this life if you want to be successful. Most people do charity and turn motivational speakers once they are successful but not when they’re still hustling.

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Re: A Friend Wants Me To Lend Him Money. I Told Him To Fill A Form. Am I Wrong? by oluwafeolami(m): 3:40pm On Jan 23, 2020
Bro, don’t stress urself cos d end will never be funny.
Ask ur friend if he has been d one paying for her school fees since she gained admission. If no then just negodu him. And if yes tell him u can’t borrow him cos u self broke cos at d end he will not return it in full anymore and it may lead to a lifetime quarrel between u both.
Re: A Friend Wants Me To Lend Him Money. I Told Him To Fill A Form. Am I Wrong? by golddare: 3:45pm On Jan 23, 2020
izospindle:
A Friend Wanted Me To Lend Him Money I Told Him This. Am I Wrong?

So a friend of mine told me that his girlfriend is about to lose her admission, because school fee deadline is tomorrow. He asked me to lend him 70k.

I know how he loves this girl so I asked him to fill a form before I give him the money. Am I wrong for doing that?

He started saying a whole lot of things and has not spoken to me since. Note this is half of all my savings and I have a purpose for this particular fund just that the time has not come.

Advice is needed please

Your head is correct.
Re: A Friend Wants Me To Lend Him Money. I Told Him To Fill A Form. Am I Wrong? by Emotionss: 3:54pm On Jan 23, 2020
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We4all:


You had that experience because you were buoyant enough to lend a hand. My take is, what happens when the table is turned and you become the one in need? Won't you go to your friends or family members for help?

I am not justifying any act of irresponsibility, but I am experienced enough to know that situations can change any minute, and we can end up at the bottomless pit. And the only ones who may bail us out are the people we know.

Plus, it is easy to castigate others until we find ourselves in the same situation. When we have a good life, it is easy to have a set of rules, and expect people to obey them.

When you are very BROKE without a dime, and you tell me that no one should lend money (that he can't afford to lose) to his friends and family members, then I'll take you seriously.

Oga if they said friend was borrowing the money to eat, pay house rent or hospital bill or even using the money for business or to buy clothes for himself and family members or even to pay for His SISTER'S school fees then i will gladly give him even more then he is asking for. BUT borrowing money because you want to pay YOUR GIRLFRIEND school fees shows how irresponsible and stupid he is. And i for one do not suffer irresponsible entities.

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Re: A Friend Wants Me To Lend Him Money. I Told Him To Fill A Form. Am I Wrong? by juniorstar(m): 3:55pm On Jan 23, 2020
izospindle:
A Friend Wanted Me To Lend Him Money I Told Him This. Am I Wrong?

So a friend of mine told me that his girlfriend is about to lose her admission, because school fee deadline is tomorrow. He asked me to lend him 70k.

I know how he loves this girl so I asked him to fill a form before I give him the money. Am I wrong for doing that?

He started saying a whole lot of things and has not spoken to me since. Note this is half of all my savings and I have a purpose for this particular fund just that the time has not come.

Advice is needed please

1 how long have you known your friend?
2 what's his credit worthiness? does he have a means to pay back?
3 has he lent you money b4. you might not know why am asking . na me know why?
4 are you prepared to loose a friend or loose you money...when i lend ppl money for my mind i don dash an...cos you cant trust ppl with money
5 can you lend him dis money without it shaking you.. if yes go ahead
borrowing to pay ur gf school fees speaks vol of the relationship.. odikwa very dangerous.. Girls dont remember good things most times. but one mistake you go hear every thing you have done wrong from d day you started dating till present.
e go shock you say dat girl don get d money and even extra...dey alway have admirers. ppl who dey hope say them get chance enter set.
let me stop here

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Re: A Friend Wants Me To Lend Him Money. I Told Him To Fill A Form. Am I Wrong? by iamforeveryoung: 3:56pm On Jan 23, 2020
We have a very wrong mentality about girlfriend or boyfriend. Someone that you sleep with, you think helping that person is wrong. Then you have missed it. There's no extent too much to go for a friend. If that friend likes, let him dissappoint you, he will always live to regret whatever action he did to you. So my dear there's no crime in assisting one's girlfriend or boyfriend. AS For you borrowing money, don't lend any money out you are not prepare to for go. I advise u to dash dem 10k, let them go sort them self
Re: A Friend Wants Me To Lend Him Money. I Told Him To Fill A Form. Am I Wrong? by RaptorX: 4:00pm On Jan 23, 2020
vincentjk:
Don't lend him any money cos he won't pay back. About 2years ago I lent a very very close friend 3k and since then he has been avoiding me


He avoided me so much that when I lost my dad he didn't even come to pay me condolence talk more of coming for burial lols... Saw him last month and we greeted, he thought I'd ask him about the 3k but I didn't, allowed him bury his head in shame while i drove past him quietly

After this experience I stopped lending my friends money rather I support them with what i can when they've a problem and they thank me so well
You cannot dash your friend ordinary 3k na wa for u o.
Re: A Friend Wants Me To Lend Him Money. I Told Him To Fill A Form. Am I Wrong? by Solatium(m): 4:02pm On Jan 23, 2020
izospindle:
A Friend Wanted Me To Lend Him Money I Told Him This. Am I Wrong?

So a friend of mine told me that his girlfriend is about to lose her admission, because school fee deadline is tomorrow. He asked me to lend him 70k.

I know how he loves this girl so I asked him to fill a form before I give him the money. Am I wrong for doing that?

He started saying a whole lot of things and has not spoken to me since. Note this is half of all my savings and I have a purpose for this particular fund just that the time has not come.

Advice is needed please


You have not done any wrong bro,if he wan send person go school and he no get money,na him own wahala let him signed a bidding agrement stating the mode and time of repayment
Re: A Friend Wants Me To Lend Him Money. I Told Him To Fill A Form. Am I Wrong? by 1Sharon(f): 4:15pm On Jan 23, 2020
No you aren't wrong OP. His reason for the loan seems like a damn lie.

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Re: A Friend Wants Me To Lend Him Money. I Told Him To Fill A Form. Am I Wrong? by ayanbaba2(m): 4:22pm On Jan 23, 2020
RaptorX:
You cannot dash your friend ordinary 3k na wa for u o.

shiiii

Re: A Friend Wants Me To Lend Him Money. I Told Him To Fill A Form. Am I Wrong? by EdiskyHarry: 4:22pm On Jan 23, 2020
Davash222:
The foolish girl no get parents
You’re even a bad friend for trying to borrow your friend money to pay for a ‘girlfriend’ school fees.
Shame on you both!! You and your friend should use that money and buy sense!
may God bless you
Re: A Friend Wants Me To Lend Him Money. I Told Him To Fill A Form. Am I Wrong? by 1Sharon(f): 4:42pm On Jan 23, 2020
tiwiex:


Why didn't he just tell him he did not have. It will shock him that the guy sef get money we pass in savings. He is taking the piss and using this girl friend story to get money because he is aware of the money and knows how loyal his friend can be. Bleep him and keep ya money.

Exactly what I said. The real reason for the money is possibly gambling

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Re: A Friend Wants Me To Lend Him Money. I Told Him To Fill A Form. Am I Wrong? by berbs: 4:43pm On Jan 23, 2020
izospindle:
A Friend Wanted Me To Lend Him Money I Told Him This. Am I Wrong?

So a friend of mine told me that his girlfriend is about to lose her admission, because school fee deadline is tomorrow. He asked me to lend him 70k.

I know how he loves this girl so I asked him to fill a form before I give him the money. Am I wrong for doing that?

He started saying a whole lot of things and has not spoken to me since. Note this is half of all my savings and I have a purpose for this particular fund just that the time has not come.

Advice is needed please
You did the right thing. Maybe not enough self.
Re: A Friend Wants Me To Lend Him Money. I Told Him To Fill A Form. Am I Wrong? by Neddyogu(m): 4:44pm On Jan 23, 2020
Girls eye diz days nor done oo! Dem don dey play ur guy like a brand new ukelele. If he don't like the form or agreement, make he Waka go zenith Bank atm go collect Moni. For this January wey everywhere strong like iron so? Abi u b scholarship board? Nonsense and Ámotékun abi akotamun.
Re: A Friend Wants Me To Lend Him Money. I Told Him To Fill A Form. Am I Wrong? by sydneyboss(m): 4:45pm On Jan 23, 2020
We4all:


No, you're not wrong. But I have one question for you, and I need you to answer genuinely: If the tables were turned, and he asked the same of you, what would you make of it?

By the way, did you ask him to fill a form because you don't trust him to pay you back? Or were you concerned about his motive for requesting a loan from you? Either way, what he does with the money shouldn't be your problem as long as he can afford to pay you back.

Guy, life can be brutal, and no one knows what will happen in the next minute. So if I were you, I'd rather have my friend owe me one than the other way round. Just my two cents.



Don't be naive, forget the next minute, u heard him say half of his savings , what if he didn't pay back? What will be his fate? You think it's easy to collect money from a debtor?? Especially one that has no concrete reason than to pay for his gf fees....

This your advice no follow at all
Re: A Friend Wants Me To Lend Him Money. I Told Him To Fill A Form. Am I Wrong? by mechanics(m): 4:51pm On Jan 23, 2020
You did well, this days some people don't keep to their words.
Re: A Friend Wants Me To Lend Him Money. I Told Him To Fill A Form. Am I Wrong? by SaturnNick(m): 5:00pm On Jan 23, 2020
Davash222:
The foolish girl no get parents
You’re even a bad friend for trying to borrow your friend money to pay for a ‘girlfriend’ school fees.
Shame on you both!! You and your friend should use that money and buy sense!
Re: A Friend Wants Me To Lend Him Money. I Told Him To Fill A Form. Am I Wrong? by Bahddo(m): 5:02pm On Jan 23, 2020
You did right, man. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. These random strangers criticizing you wouldn't help you when your friend defaults and starts avoiding your calls.

Just be sure the form is legal and binding.

NB: if he is upset with you, it means he never planned to pay back.
Re: A Friend Wants Me To Lend Him Money. I Told Him To Fill A Form. Am I Wrong? by Tony142: 5:05pm On Jan 23, 2020
izospindle:
A Friend Wanted Me To Lend Him Money I Told Him This. Am I Wrong?

So a friend of mine told me that his girlfriend is about to lose her admission, because school fee deadline is tomorrow. He asked me to lend him 70k.

I know how he loves this girl so I asked him to fill a form before I give him the money. Am I wrong for doing that?

He started saying a whole lot of things and has not spoken to me since. Note this is half of all my savings and I have a purpose for this particular fund just that the time has not come.

Advice is needed please




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Re: A Friend Wants Me To Lend Him Money. I Told Him To Fill A Form. Am I Wrong? by jimmynauty: 5:06pm On Jan 23, 2020
izospindle

pLEASE hold your ground and dont move an inch... moreover, tell your friend NOT to act like a FOOL by paying her school fees... dont she have a father...

bro....i know that script well - NEVER SPONSOR A GIRL THAT YOU HAVE NOT MARRIED EOD

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Re: A Friend Wants Me To Lend Him Money. I Told Him To Fill A Form. Am I Wrong? by Exodora: 5:07pm On Jan 23, 2020
izospindle:
A Friend Wanted Me To Lend Him Money I Told Him This. Am I Wrong?

So a friend of mine told me that his girlfriend is about to lose her admission, because school fee deadline is tomorrow. He asked me to lend him 70k.

I know how he loves this girl so I asked him to fill a form before I give him the money. Am I wrong for doing that?

He started saying a whole lot of things and has not spoken to me since. Note this is half of all my savings and I have a purpose for this particular fund just that the time has not come.

Advice is needed please
He has a bad intention that was why he was pissed .
Re: A Friend Wants Me To Lend Him Money. I Told Him To Fill A Form. Am I Wrong? by Nobody: 5:09pm On Jan 23, 2020
izospindle:
A Friend Wanted Me To Lend Him Money I Told Him This. Am I Wrong?

So a friend of mine told me that his girlfriend is about to lose her admission, because school fee deadline is tomorrow. He asked me to lend him 70k.

I know how he loves this girl so I asked him to fill a form before I give him the money. Am I wrong for doing that?

He started saying a whole lot of things and has not spoken to me since. Note this is half of all my savings and I have a purpose for this particular fund just that the time has not come.

Advice is needed please

Juvenile predator, bunch of liabilities packaged in one future ingrate
Re: A Friend Wants Me To Lend Him Money. I Told Him To Fill A Form. Am I Wrong? by tityboi: 5:10pm On Jan 23, 2020
Money is thicker than. Blood bro
Re: A Friend Wants Me To Lend Him Money. I Told Him To Fill A Form. Am I Wrong? by webizone(m): 5:22pm On Jan 23, 2020
Davash222:
The foolish girl no get parents
You’re even a bad friend for trying to borrow your friend money to pay for a ‘girlfriend’ school fees.
Shame on you both!! You and your friend should use that money and buy sense!
Sometimes I make comments like this, but I never get this kind likes, I just don't know why...

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