I posted here about a week ago about my husband doesn’t love me coz it was a force marriage due to pregnancy coz he is also a member here I taught it will be a good idea 4 me 2 post so we can both get good advices on how 2 work on our marriage so things could be better, but after him seeing my post on here he was angry why do I have 2come in here and talk about his family matters he made the matter worse accusing me of cheating even doubting if our baby belongs to him n he told me it was over between us , I’m heartbroken been crying as usual tears is now my food so yesterday he called his mother and told her dt I went online 2 insult her dt she is a wicked mother etc etc she was angry saying after all she has done for me And I paid her bad by being ungrateful, I even showed her what I wrote here 2 prove to her dt I didn’t say anything bad about her only said what she is always telling me and I also ask her for forgiveness still she was mad she didn’t talk to me the whole day and dis morning she has told me to go back to my aunty house with the baby and she will come after her when she is two years old and I have spoke to my aunty she has agreed for me to come but alone she want me to leave the baby with my mother in law I have begged her to bring my baby with me she insisted dt she doesn’t want my baby at her house now I’m just confuse on what to do.. I don’t want to leave my child she is only 8 months .. I’m very confuse my bp is high I don’t know what to do

Social media.......causing more harm than HIV.

I just don't understand how people will be seeking advise for what they have solution to.

You are depressed about what exactly??

Lemme leave you with this adage, "kill yourself because of one kpekus and see so many kpekus attend your burial wishing they had the opportunity to share it to you for free". Just look at the adage from a woman perspective.


He doesn't like you doesn't mean there is nobody out there that won't like you. Hanti, you will not be talking depression if you know how sweet it is to be free.

It's has end in tears � prayer is the key...

I think what most of the nl males are about is summed up as mainly:

-girlfriend/wife is cheating

-no child belongs to the father

-women are the devil and must be treated like the devil

-they (the men and their dumb followers here) are top of the food chain and unquestionable

-no woman is worth any effort

-housewife blah blah

- feminist hooh hah (all women must be labelled somehow)

-women are only to be seen as sex objects

-any other conundrum from the black pill or whatever is the current buzzword

That's their mantra.

Always use discretion anytime you are online to seek advice on sensitive issues. Keep calm, all is going to be well. Apologize to your husband even if you feel you haven't done wrong. It is for peace to rain. Be the bigger person, take charge, talk respectfully to your mother-in-law about the fiasco. You're wise. You know what to do.

The only thing you can do here is plead with your mother in-law and husband to let you stay
Whilst also pleading with your aunt to let you take your baby along.

Although if you end up staying with your mother in law there'll probably be some resentment and they'd might make like more difficult for you than it already is.

Not everyone would be happy to see their matter online. Even if they are in the wrong and it was posted anonymously.

Another thing you could do is leaving the baby with them and going to get a source of income so you can come back later and take your baby when you're financially independent
Wishing you the best of luck

Quote the shameless man here

Dude has always been looking for a way out. This is just an opportunity, nothing more.

Separation would've still happened sooner or later.

Pick up your life and be the strong woman that you are.

I’m not depressed about him coz I don’t care if the marriage is over coz he has never loved me but am depressed about leaving my daughter with his mother

IamSalt:

I just don't understand how people will be seeking advise for what they have solution to.

You are depressed about what exactly??

Lemme leave you with this adage, "kill yourself because of one kpekus and see so many kpekus attend your burial wishing they had the opportunity to share it to you for free". Just look at the adage from a woman perspective.


He doesn't like you doesn't mean there is nobody out there that won't like you. Hanti, you will not be talking depression if you know how sweet it is to be free.

Wisdom is profitable to direct.

You know your husband is here. You know your husband know your NL handle.
You know the type of person he is.
And yet, you came here to spill everything about him and your marriage and you want him to pat you at the back.

Don't you know he's already looking for easy way out and you've now enabled him.

It's the eight months old baby in all this I pity most.

of course the op is forwarding someone else' story.

The so called husband and his entire family did not want the OP and were looking for a reason to kick her to the curb. That much is evident from the previous thread. Unfortunately, she played right into their hands by bringing the tale online. At this point the only thing she can do is pick herself up and fight to make a living for herself and her child.

OP do not under any circumstance abandon your baby at anyone's behest. If your aunt won't accommodate both of you, look for another option. The so called husband will come to his senses one day, that much I'm sure of.

Please start looking for a job. Women should learn to stop being a liability in a man's house, they can kick u out anytime

If u have any educational qualifications at all, do a CV and start looking for a job especially teaching. They employ them more

If u don't have, go and learn a handwork and start doing something to Take care of your child. Keep on begging your Aunty to let u bring your child along. Don't leave her with those people o
My two cents

Mrzfavour:
I posted here about a week ago about my husband doesn’t love me coz it was a force marriage due to pregnancy coz he is also a member here I taught it will be a good idea 4 me 2 post so we can both get good advices on how 2 work on our marriage so things could be better, but after him seeing my post on here he was angry why do I have 2come in here and talk about his family matters he made the matter worse accusing me of cheating even doubting if our baby belongs to him n he told me it was over between us , I’m heartbroken been crying as usual tears is now my food so yesterday he called his mother and told her dt I went online 2 insult her dt she is a wicked mother etc etc she was angry saying after all she has done for me And I paid her bad by being ungrateful, I even showed her what I wrote here 2 prove to her dt I didn’t say anything bad about her only said what she is always telling me and I also ask her for forgiveness still she was mad she didn’t talk to me the whole day and dis morning she has told me to go back to my aunty house with the baby and she will come after her when she is two years old and I have spoke to my aunty she has agreed for me to come but alone she want me to leave the baby with my mother in law I have begged her to bring my baby with me she insisted dt she doesn’t want my baby at her house now I’m just confuse on what to do.. I don’t want to leave my child she is only 8 months .. I’m very confuse my bp is high I don’t know what to do

Are you sure that psychologically you are OK ❓

Because you panic over little things

Carry your child anywhere you go and carry her every where you want to go

Haaaaa. Na wa o

Don't you have a jobNothing else to do in life apart from your husband this, your husband that

Obviously you love him more than he loves you. Sorry for your husband and mil treating you like a piece of rag

I am more bothered about your aunty that wants you to leave an eight years old girl behind

It is all your fault.
You don't listen
You don't observe
You're very dependent
You behave childish
Every little thing, you take it to mummy
You prove to be very religious but deep within you, you know you're doing it for the attention
You are fake, fake tears for attention
I've been with a couple of ladies like you. Worst kind to be with from my own experiences o.

Bluehill1051:
It is all your fault.
You don't listen
You don't observe
You're very dependent
You behave childish
Every little thing, you take it to mummy
You prove to be very religious but deep within you, you know you're doing it for the attention
You are fake, fake tears for attention
I've been with a couple of ladies like you. Worst kind to be with from my own experiences o.

Are you the op's husband?

Carry your daughter and go back to Cameroon na, were you banished from there too ?

Mineisgrace:
I am more bothered about your aunty that wants you to leave an eight years old girl behind

She said her father is alive so she can stay with him and have been begging her but to no avail

ifyalways:
Carry your daughter and go back to Cameroon na, were you banished from there too ?

It’s a long story can’t even remember my house and no a single contact with my family over there

This is really sad. I read the first part of your story and honestly the best thing would've been to leave your husband and his mother ( if you had the means). I don't even understand how your aunty can say she wants you to leave your 8 month old baby behind.

Right now, the only option you have is to beg your mother in law to let you stay a while ( while you find all the possible means to contact your own real family so you can go to them and begin your life afresh)

You this girl, what's your problem exactly?
You want us to beg your aunty for you to enable you come with your baby or you want us to beg your mother in-law to allow you to stay?

Close your legs, you refused. Fvck reasonable guys you said no. Ensure the mumu wears a condom, mbanu. Abort the child, you said no. Ah ah! Kilode?

Now that the baby has alter your life completely, you're looking for who will manage your indiscretions.

Even after the stupid boy got angry with you over the first thread, you're here again with another.

You're a very stubborn, bad wife and you deserve everything that idiot is throwing at you.

Nonsense

Please let the separation happen now that your still very young.
The guy is not interested nothing u do will make him want you.
Please dear dont worry at all. It was just a mistake.
Go back to school. Put in all your efforts and graduate with a very good grade.

In fact as you are in there in school, you eyes will be open you go see better!
All these low self esteem you have will evaporate.

Once your done with good I pray you get a good job that makes mockery of whatever you get from him that makes you think your world should revolve around him.

Please dear find a job for the mean time. Save. Study hard and get into the university it's not that expensive at the federal level.


God will guide you!

Dear op, get a job and move on with your life it's so obvious you are married to yourself. So stop forcing it. Don't leave your child with anyone you will regret it later. Is your aunt The only relative you have?

zainyrazzy:
Dear op, get a job and move on with your life it's so obvious you are married to yourself. So stop forcing it. Don't leave your child with anyone you will regret it later. Is your aunt The only relative you have?

Yes she is the only relative I have here in Enugu and I also have 2 uncles in Lagos ( her brothers) but I don’t have their contact

Ohemababy:
Please let the separation happen now that your still very young.
The guy is not interested nothing u do will make him want you.
Please dear dont worry at all. It was just a mistake.
Go back to school. Put in all your efforts and graduate with a very good grade.

In fact as you are in there in school, you eyes will be open you go see better!
All these low self esteem you have will evaporate.

Once your done with good I pray you get a good job that makes mockery of whatever you get from him that makes you think your world should revolve around him.

Please dear find a job for the mean time. Save. Study hard and get into the university it's not that expensive at the federal level.


God will guide you!

Thank you so much

seuncyrus:
This is really sad. I read the first part of your story and honestly the best thing would've been to leave your husband and his mother ( if you had the means). I don't even understand how your aunty can say she wants you to leave your 8 month old baby behind.

Right now, the only option you have is to beg your mother in law to let you stay a while ( while you find all the possible means to contact your own real family so you can go to them and begin your life afresh)

Thank you so much

24kmagic:
You this girl, what's your problem exactly?
You want us to beg your aunty for you to enable you come with your baby or you want us to beg your mother in-law to allow you to stay?

Close your legs, you refused. Fvck reasonable guys you said no. Ensure the mumu wears a condom, mbanu. Abort the child, you said no. Ah ah! Kilode?

Now that the baby has alter your life completely, you're looking for who will manage your indiscretions.

Even after the stupid boy got angry with you over the first thread, you're here again with another.

You're a very stubborn, bad wife and you deserve everything that idiot is throwing at you.

Nonsense

Tough love...sometimes, this is exactly what some of these women need.

I honestly don't know what the chic came looking for here.
I still have no pity for her like I noted in the last thread.

Maybe the feminist association of Nairaland should pool their resources together and help her out financially - it's not only to be forming women activists online without ever doing anything to help women in the real world.

Bunch of clowns.

Oya aunty, to salvage what us left of you dignity, biko leave the boy's house and go with your child. If you aunty is not accepting your child, please move on to your village. Get yourself a job there and start afresh. Indeed you dated an assszhole...no surprises with his latest resolution. May God bless your path...you and your baby should not part ways biko.

I wnt be surprised if your husband is one the useless alpha male here.