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Re: Please Save A Life. by LilMissFavvy(f): 1:07pm On Jan 30, 2020
Dumbos like you are always quick to quote me and talk about my personal life, bastarrrdd. My advice to any lady who finds herself in a toxic union is to quit, and the advice I have to give to a man is, if you are thinking of getting a new wife and your wife, disagrees and asks for divorce, give the divorce, the pain a man would feel if her wife married another husband,is the same pain a woman feels when the husband marries a second wife. Some women can cope in polygamy, some cannot, so my type would quit the marriage in peace, I would shift my joy and attention to my children, and remarry if I wish.
elmagnifico411:
I had to read through all the comments, and this is my take on the whole kini:

Aunty, no vex oh, but the truth is YOU NO GET SENSE.

Your future husband is in danger already. What a damaged lady!
Re: Please Save A Life. by Nobody: 1:23pm On Jan 30, 2020
Lilmisssfavvy again, the lady is the true definition of BIMBO!

her Ex must have used her common sense for Yahoo+.

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Re: Please Save A Life. by elmagnifico411(m): 1:54pm On Jan 30, 2020
If u had commented this way earlier, u wouldn’t have been quoted. Oya tell me, I promise not to spill, who borrow u the sense wey u take pass this last comment??
LilMissFavvy:
Dumbos like you are always quick to quote me and talk about my personal life, bastarrrdd. My advice to any lady who finds herself in a toxic union is to quit, and the advice I have to give to a man is, if you are thinking of getting a new wife and your wife, disagrees and asks for divorce, give the divorce, the pain a man would feel if her wife married another husband,is the same pain a woman feels when the husband marries a second wife. Some women can cope in polygamy, some cannot, so my type would quit the marriage in peace, I would shift my joy and attention to my children, and remarry if I wish.

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Re: Please Save A Life. by chival(f): 11:34pm On Jan 30, 2020
izzou:


I have read stories here on women taking their husbands to court because he refused to divorce them. One was on front page weeks back.

Nowadays, I've noticed people create threads and make comments for fun, attention or likes.

Instead of arguing back and forth if Maryam deserves to be killed, the lesson here is "EVERYONE SHOULD WORK ON THEIR ANGER ISSUES".
She would probably be free and alive if she had walked away from the house. On front-page, a guy would be going to jail for slapping someone to death in Anambra

People should learn to walk away when they are angry. That's the lesson here.

I'm happy you see murder for what it is. God bless you ma
Amen. God bless you too.
Re: Please Save A Life. by Gofwane(m): 5:13am On Feb 01, 2020
chival:

Are you for real? So everyone who commits a crime automatically pleads guilty? I sense you have some form of interest in this matter
Maryam is probably your friend or relation.
The OP is also a murderer. He was once jailed for killing his girlfriend
Re: Please Save A Life. by uboma(m): 4:41pm On Feb 01, 2020
chival:
People who willingly commit crime should be ready to do the time. She stabbed him multiple times. Why didn't she come to her senses after stabbing him the first or second time? She went the whole nine yards, so she deserves to be punished. It takes guts and a certain level of cold hearted and evil wickedness to commit murder. I really don't have any pity for murderers. She should have walked away from the marriage rather than commit murder.




You are right!
Re: Please Save A Life. by Raalsalghul: 5:54pm On Feb 01, 2020
mimimile93:
[s]I CALL ON FG AND WELL MEANING NIGERIANS TO INTERVENE IN MARYAM SANDA'S UNJUSTIFIED SENTENCE.

THAT SENTENCE GIVEN TO MARYAM WHOSE CASE HAS NO EVIDENCE OR FACTS IS SO INHUMAN.

MY HATRED FOR NIGERIA AND NIGERIANS KEEPS WAXING BECAUSE OF THE ILL TREATMENT GIVEN TO THE COMMON MAN.[/s]
Absolute thrash! undecided

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Re: Please Save A Life. by Ishilove: 7:19pm On Feb 01, 2020
LilMissFavvy:
If he had granted her request, and allowed her go in peace, would she have stabbed him on the long run? No she would not, he would have been alive today with his new wife.
Did he tie her down with a rope or lock her up in the house? What stopped her from simply walking away? Will you be saying this if Bilyaminu was your brother?

I have said it before and I will keep saying it, if my brother is cheating on you, LEAVE HIM! We will deal with him in our own way, but don't touch a single strand of his hair.

There is no justification for cold blooded murder.

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Re: Please Save A Life. by LilMissFavvy(f): 8:19pm On Feb 01, 2020
Is walking away the same thing as a divorce? What stopped him from giving her a divorce so that she can ''walk away''? Can a woman divorce herself without husband's approval? Atimes the evil people do turns around to hurt them. I am not justifying anything, neither is this about my family. But if I must answer your question, then know that I do not have an irresponsible brother who would disrespect his wife to pick another wife, yet refuses to give her divorce. I will train my male children properly as well.
Ishilove:

Did he tie her down with a rope or lock her up in the house? What stopped her from simply walking away? Will you be saying this if Bilyaminu was your brother?

I have said it before and I will keep saying it, if my brother is cheating on you, LEAVE HIM! We will deal with him in our own way, but don't touch a single strand of his hair.

There is no justification for cold blooded murder.

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Re: Please Save A Life. by Jman06(m): 8:50pm On Feb 01, 2020
LilMissFavvy:
I read somewhere that Maryann had asked her husband for a divorce when she discovered he was cheating and wished to get a second wife, yet he refused to grant her request, if this is true, then she does not deserve a death sentence. The death sentence is totally unfair.
She should have just left the marriage on her own. Na by force?

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Re: Please Save A Life. by LilMissFavvy(f): 8:52pm On Feb 01, 2020
What if she wants to remarry? Can she remarry without a divorce?
Jman06:
She should have just left the marriage on her own. Na by force?
Re: Please Save A Life. by Jman06(m): 8:57pm On Feb 01, 2020
LilMissFavvy:
What if she wants to remarry? Can she remarry without a divorce?
If she had left and vehemently refused to return, I'm sure the husband would have been left with no other choice than to divorce her.
Re: Please Save A Life. by Ishilove: 11:08pm On Feb 01, 2020
LilMissFavvy:
Is walking away the same thing as a divorce? What stopped him from giving her a divorce so that she can ''walk away''? Can a woman divorce herself without husband's approval? Atimes the evil people do turns around to hurt them. I am not justifying anything, neither is this about my family. But if I must answer your question, then know that I do not have an irresponsible brother who would disrespect his wife to pick another wife, yet refuses to give her divorce. I will train my male children properly as well.
You're missing the point here. Is divorce automatic? You even have to be separated for at least a year before you can get a divorce legally granted. Walking away is the first step, a step which she never took. The court doesn't need 'approval' from any of the parties before granting a divorce. Once there is enough grounds for a dissolution, the union is dissolved so your argument does not hold water.

Whether or not a man is irresponsible does not count here either. I don't care if the man was cheating on her, fatally stabbing him multiple times is not the solution to whatever problems they were facing, and I fully support the death penalty because I have brothers and Lord knows the world will not be big enough for me and anyone who harms them in anyway. How can you waste the life of a promising young man because he was allegedly frolicking with another woman?

Your argument is baseless abeg.

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Re: Please Save A Life. by Gofwane(m): 4:11am On Feb 02, 2020
I just can't believe how dumb that LilMissFavvy is. So if you want to go somewhere and your father says no, the next thing you do is grab a knife and stab him so that you can go?

You and the OP that created this thread deserve to marry each other so that one of you can stab the other and the one that is dead along with their bereaved family won't see anything wrong with being killed grin

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Re: Please Save A Life. by LilMissFavvy(f): 8:16am On Feb 02, 2020
Did I say divorce is automatic? What has the time frame of divorce got to do with what I posted, the news said he REFUSED to concede when she asked for divorce, and that ''REFUSED'' was what i reacted to. Who knows the type of marriage the couple's entered into and how they can go about divorcing because different cultures have their different ways of divorcing if it was a traditional marriage. Does his religion permit marrying many wives? Did he promise her during courtship she will be his only wife? Would his infidelity be seen as a good enough reason to grant her request if she decided to go ahead with it? The answer to all of these questions is none of my business, but if the man had given a ''yes'' to her, all these would not happen, he would be alive to marry new wives.

People would say ''walk away'' like it's that easy, story! Do we know if she had the capabilities to walk away,like? was she working after marriage/childbirth or did she quit her job due to marriage and childbirth as some women do? Did she have assets in his name? If he refused to give her a ''yes'' when she asked for divorce, why then should I be convinced that the would have assisted her towards her walking away? One wonders the kind of emotional wreck he turned her into, for her to stab him so badly. we are each entitled to our opinions.
Ishilove:

You're missing the point here. Is divorce automatic? You even have to be separated for at least a year before you can get a divorce legally granted. Walking away is the first step, a step which she never took. The court doesn't need 'approval' from any of the parties before granting a divorce. Once there is enough grounds for a dissolution, the union is dissolved so your argument does not hold water.

Whether or not a man is irresponsible does not count here either. I don't care if the man was cheating on her, fatally stabbing him multiple times is not the solution to whatever problems they were facing, and I fully support the death penalty because I have brothers and Lord knows the world will not be big enough for me and anyone who harms them in anyway. How can you waste the life of a promising young man because he was allegedly frolicking with another woman?

Your argument is baseless abeg.
Re: Please Save A Life. by LilMissFavvy(f): 8:38am On Feb 02, 2020
Every vacuous buffon is always in a hurry to quote me, but I do not deem it fit to give everyone such attention, continue to rant. You will be ignored.
Gofwane:
I just can't believe how dumb that LilMissFavvy is. So if you want to go somewhere and your father says no, the next thing you do is grab a knife and stab him so that you can go?

You and the OP that created this thread deserve to marry each other so that one of you can stab the other and the one that is dead along with their bereaved family won't see anything wrong with being killed grin
Re: Please Save A Life. by Ishilove: 10:07am On Feb 02, 2020
LilMissFavvy:
Did I say divorce is automatic? What has the time frame of divorce got to do with what I posted, the news said he REFUSED to concede when she asked for divorce, and that ''REFUSED'' was what i reacted to. Who knows the type of marriage the couple's entered into and how they can go about divorcing because different cultures have their different ways of divorcing if it was a traditional marriage. Does his religion permit marrying many wives? Did he promise her during courtship she will be his only wife? Would his infidelity be seen as a good enough reason to grant her request if she decided to go ahead with it? The answer to all of these questions is none of my business, but if the man had given a ''yes'' to her, all these would not happen, he would be alive to marry new wives.

People would say ''walk away'' like it's that easy, story! Do we know if she had the capabilities to walk away,like? was she working after marriage/childbirth or did she quit her job due to marriage and childbirth as some women do? Did she have assets in his name? If he refused to give her a ''yes'' when she asked for divorce, why then should I be convinced that the would have assisted her towards her walking away? One wonders the kind of emotional wreck he turned her into, for her to stab him so badly. we are each entitled to our opinions.
Madam, they are both Muslims so he is entitled to four wives. She is also from a relatively well to do home, her mother was the former MD of Also Savings so finance is not a problem. Sharing whatever assets they had in their names would have been handled by the court as well, so that angle of your position is a dead end.

Ibrahim Mohammed, a friend to Bilyaminu was present at their home hours before the murder and he testified how Maryam demanded an immediate divorce during an argument, and thereafter attempted to stab Bilyaminu with a knife, and when she was thwarted, tried with a broken bottle of groundnut, and when even that was prevented, wielded a bottle of perfume. Hours later he was called to the hospital where Bilyaminu was lying dead with a multiple stab wounds and bite marks on his belly.

Madam, does the above sound like the actions of an 'emotionally wrecked' person? Will Bilyaminu, of sound mind grant an angry woman divorce in the middle of an argument? Will he not wait until she is calmer before trying to reason with her? Is that not what any logical and sane person will do?

Maryam's crime is a crime of passion, and the consequences of that inflamed passion is both tragic and fatal. When you cannot control yourself when you're angry you end up doing things you regret.

Madam, stop defending the indefensible and hope to God your male relatives do not end up with blood sucking tigresses as wives. Perhaps when one of them gets cut down in their prime, then you will sit down and reaccess your opinions about knives and sharp objects as tools of dispute resolution.

I'm done arguing. Enjoy the rest of your Sunday.

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Re: Please Save A Life. by jaksmillioniar: 2:46am On Feb 22, 2020
LilMissFavvy:
Every vacuous buffon is always in a hurry to quote me, but I do not deem it fit to give everyone such attention, continue to rant. You will be ignored.
if I insult u u will hate urself

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Re: Please Save A Life. by Oyindidi(f): 9:18pm On Mar 16, 2020
jaksmillioniar:
if I insult u u will hate urself
Jaks the blogger
Re: Please Save A Life. by mimimile93: 2:57pm On Apr 20, 2020
Oyindidi:
Jaks the blogger
Happy new month my sister. Longest time. How are you coping with the outbreak?
Re: Please Save A Life. by Oyindidi(f): 11:22am On Apr 21, 2020
mimimile93:
Happy new month my sister. Longest time. How are you coping with the outbreak?
We dey manage
Re: Please Save A Life. by mimimile93: 12:21pm On Apr 21, 2020
Oyindidi:
We dey manage
We go dey alright
Re: Please Save A Life. by IbrahimSkiba(f): 9:09pm On May 07, 2020
mimimile93:
I CALL ON FG AND WELL MEANING NIGERIANS TO INTERVENE IN MARYAM SANDA'S UNJUSTIFIED SENTENCE.

THAT SENTENCE GIVEN TO MARYAM WHOSE CASE HAS NO EVIDENCE OR FACTS IS SO INHUMAN.

MY HATRED FOR NIGERIA AND NIGERIANS KEEPS WAXING BECAUSE OF THE ILL TREATMENT GIVEN TO THE COMMON MAN.



Lol the NIGERIANS should intervene for your fellow murderer abi tongue
Re: Please Save A Life. by Nobody: 10:12pm On May 07, 2020
Even if the woman was saying the truth about the divorce and infidelity, were those justifiable reasons to kill?
izzou:


The way some of you think is pathetic, sad and it clearly shows there's little hope for a better society, country and the world at large

Now, LilMissIntelligent,
If a man rapes a woman, do you blame the man for not controlling his sexual urge, or do you blame the woman for dressing provocatively?

Always learn to think.

A man has just been murdered in cold blood. You don't even know if the woman was lying about the divorce and infidelity stories, but here you are justifying her killing

Don't let your creator be ashamed of you. There is no justification for taking that man's life
Re: Please Save A Life. by jaksmillioniar: 10:51am On May 26, 2020
jaksmillioniar:
if I insult u u will hate urself
hmm

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