Did your Father born her? why should she bear your Father's name?

What is in a name?

lalopeto:
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Answers to the bolded; she is telling me she is not one with me, she is telling me that she has not become my wife in the true sense, she is telling me she can't use my name to transact should the marriage crashes( if she does not believe in the future of the marriage), she is saying she won't submit to her husband even when its what he wants..

Hian,, you are bothered over nothing please
She has done a change of name in the dailies already,so what are you talking about? How does a change of account name prove she's not submissive?
If she wants to divorce you she would, change of account name or not
I think you are possessive and she is just being defensive.give her tangible reasons why you need her to change her account name and stop making it look like it's a do or die thing

Hmmm...please advise her to regularize her name preference. If she wants to use yours, let her stick to it. If she wants to use her maiden name, let her stick to it as well.

A time will come when something really officious will stress her while proving she's one and the same person. Good luck.

lalopeto:


She has an ID that bears my name already and its not about ease of operation but it's about knowing deeply the kind of woman your wife is,her hidden intentions, and a possibility of being mischievous is what i need you to advise me on

Hmm,it's obvious there are issues and TRUST is the main problem here.
Leave her to operate her account as she deems fit.Abi,na joint account?

I think we are in troll season

lalopeto:
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Answers to the bolded; she is telling me she is not one with me, she is telling me that she has not become my wife in the true sense, she is telling me she can't use my name to transact should the marriage crashes( if she does not believe in the future of the marriage), she is saying she won't submit to her husband even when its what he wants..

Some matters in your marriage need to be addressed.

How were things when you first got married to her? What was the emotional atmosphere like? How loving was your relationship when you 2 dated? When did things start taking a turn?

These are some questions i wish both of you could answer
You two should meet a marriage counsellor.

As far as your kids bear your name 100%, you have nothing to worry about. At the end of it all, she's going to lose every damn thing should legal issues arise in the future. What this means is that only your name and, of course, those of your kids will reflect on all important documents (like properties, etc.). No right thinking man would include his in-law's name on his property. So allow her remain the outcast and stranger she was born to be.

worworbabe:
Did your Father born her? why should she bear your Father's name?

What is in a name?

What's in a name? A particular governor of a state just lost his ambition and investments over a simple stuff like "name".

Wait until you find yourself in a serious legal crisis.

lalopeto:
Good morning nairalanders. Please how do you see a situation where a wife that supposed to have changed her name to that of her husband"s after almost eleven years of marriage,
Please how do you view this in your opinion?

Assuming this story is even true...

If after 11 years of marriage, you are still not sure of practical steps to take in your relationship, then you probably need to rethink your own motives.

Acidosis:

As far as your kids bear your name 100%, you have nothing to worry about. At the end of it all, she's going to lose every damn thing should legal issues arise in the future. What this means is that only your name and, of course, those of your kids will reflect on all important documents (like properties, etc.). No right thinking man would include his in-law's name on his property. So allow her remain the outcast she was born to be.

Lol, this is very impressive lateral thinking.

Acidosis:


What's in a name? A particular governor of a state just lost his ambition and investments over a simple stuff like "name".

Wait until you find yourself in a serious legal crisis.

Can you be smart and post on topic? Changing your names to perpetrate forgery is tantamount to changing your Father's name because you are married? or you just deliberately chose to neglect the context of my typing?

Does changing that name affect her being his wife? so, again,What is in a name?

Acidosis:
As far as your kids bear your name 100%, you have nothing to worry about. At the end of it all, she's going to lose every damn thing should legal issues arise in the future. What this means is that only your name and, of course, those of your kids will reflect on all important documents (like properties, etc.). No right thinking man would include his in-law's name on his property. So allow her remain the outcast and stranger she was born to be.

Do you own a property or k ow how names are written on them??

Some of you just post whatever comes to your mind.

worworbabe:


Can you be smart and post on topic? Changing your names to perpetrate forgery is tantamount to changing your Father's name because you are married? or you just deliberately chose to neglect the context of my typing?

Does changing that name affect her being his wife? so, again,What is in a name?

Does getting married in the first place affects her playing the role of a wife? Girlfriends and baby mamas these days okay that role so well.

The young man said seeing his wife maintain her maiden name gives him the impression he's dealing with a girlfriend. Perception is everything. He was probably raised in a family where women adopt their husbands' names. We can't influence that perception.

lalopeto:
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At the bolded is key, very important

Yes it is. I pray thee to take it easy, ok?

Try to approach her via communication and prayer. Don't shout, don't quarrel, don't involve a third party. If she's a reasonable woman, she'll see the effort you're making to restore and retain peace in your home.

rain21:



Hian,, you are bothered over nothing please
She has done a change of name in the dailies already,so what are you talking about? How does a change of account name prove she's not submissive?
If she wants to divorce you she would, change of account name or not
I think you are possessive and she is just being defensive.give her tangible reasons why you need her to change her account name and stop making it look like it's a do or die thing

A bird of a feather flock together. Did I say you should abuse me by saying i am being possessive? You are just her kind. You women of nowadays will never do what will make your husbands be happy and comfortable. You are so full of your self and arrogant. All you do is to complicate issues for whoever needs help. Is that the way you should address this kind of unfortunate issue? I dont even think you know anything about marriage life and its intricacies.

lalopeto:


She said nothing. Ignores me

that shows her action must not be overlooked. but then, take her go see a counselor it's either she doesn't know the aftermath of what she's doing or she's just trying to be a dangerous somebody.

Whyzaid:
that shows her action must not be overlooked. but then, take her go see a counselor it's either she doesn't know the aftermath of what she's doing or she's just trying to be a dangerous somebody.

You just hit the point i am making. I LOVE SENSITIVE PEOPLE SO MUCH

extremelygolden:


Yes it is. I pray thee to take it easy, ok?

Try to approach her via communication and prayer. Don't shout, don't quarrel, don't involve a third party. If she's a reasonable woman, she'll see the effort you're making to restore and retain peace in your home.

@the bolded are noted. God bless you sir/ma

Acidosis:


Does getting married in the first place affects her playing the role of a wife? Girlfriends and baby mamas these days okay that role so well.

The young man said seeing his wife maintain her maiden name gives him the impression he's dealing with a girlfriend. Perception is everything. He was probably raised in a family where women adopt their husbands' names. We can't influence that perception.

Exactly! you got it, thats the way i see it

worworbabe:


Can you be smart and post on topic? Changing your names to perpetrate forgery is tantamount to changing your Father's name because you are married? or you just deliberately chose to neglect the context of my typing?

Does changing that name affect her being his wife? so, again,What is in a name?

Our perception of things differs and we should always respect people's opinion and perceptions about some actions that they feel are sensitive especially when its coming from somebody that they expect much from

lalopeto:


@the bolded are noted. God bless you sir/ma

Amen. I am a "ma".

Thank you.

worworbabe:
Did your Father born her? why should she bear your Father's name?

What is in a name?

because you are totally oblivious of what is called THE MARRIAGE INSTITUTION. Is either you have not been schooled on the issue of marriage at all or you just came from JUPITER

Acidosis:


Does getting married in the first place affects her playing the role of a wife? Girlfriends and baby mamas these days okay that role so well.

The young man said seeing his wife maintain her maiden name gives him the impression he's dealing with a girlfriend. Perception is everything. He was probably raised in a family where women adopt their husbands' names. We can't influence that perception.

Do you realise that the world is changing and that not all women change their names after marriage?

Marriage is all about understanding. I believe that this is one subject that should be discussed before marriage. If the wife isn't comfortable with changing her name, the man should be understanding of her stance. Many people maintain their maiden names while still being good wives.

Acidosis:
As far as your kids bear your name 100%, you have nothing to worry about. At the end of it all, she's going to lose every damn thing should legal issues arise in the future. What this means is that only your name and, of course, those of your kids will reflect on all important documents (like properties, etc.). No right thinking man would include his in-law's name on his property. So allow her remain the outcast and stranger she was born to be.

Why do you sound so bitter, dear?

UyaiIncomparabl:


Why do you sound so bitter, dear?

Stfu!

worworbabe:


Do you realise that the world is changing and that not all women change their names after marriage?

Marriage is all about understanding. I believe that this is one subject that should be discussed before marriage. If the wife isn't comfortable with changing her name, the man should be understanding of her stance. Many people maintain their maiden names while still being good wives.

Well, I haven't met any.

Acidosis:



Stfu!

LMAO.

lalopeto:


A bird of a feather flock together. Did I say you should abuse me by saying i am being possessive? You are just her kind. You women of nowadays will never do what will make your husbands be happy and comfortable. You are so full of your self and arrogant. All you do is to complicate issues for whoever needs help. Is that the way you should address this kind of unfortunate issue? I dont even think you know anything about marriage life and its intricacies.

You can just imagine!
Your wife had already changed her maiden name in the dailies. What else do you want?all her former documents remain valid after that.will you also command her to Change her birth certificate because of your personal perception?
Going to and fro banks all in the name of bearing your name is hectic and not every one will like to go through that process and the long queues there.
If you so insist,go and do it yourself.it's only your marriage certificate and the newspaper that is needed.

You have her account details, probably access to her account, she's not hiding anything from you and you are having hbp over a name, I wonder

lalopeto:


Keep it simple until she will outsmart you. Sometimes also we need to be sensitive on some strange reactions from our spouses in a marriage. You don't just overlook some things that have deep meanings hidden

You have all the answers, so why have you opened a thread? You obviously don't want to consider any other possible explanations other than your wife is evil, and planning to run off with your children or whatever
You want people to help you bash your wife, abi? Just come out plain.
There is a reason your marriage remains stagnant.. Point the searchlight on yourself first.

eyinjuege:


You have all the answers, so why have you opened a thread? You obviously don't want to consider any other possible explanations other than your wife is evil, and planning to run off with your children or whatever
You want people to help you bash your wife, abi? Just come out plain.
There is a reason your marriage remains stagnant.. Point the searchlight on yourself first.

true

lalopeto:


A bird of a feather flock together. Did I say you should abuse me by saying i am being possessive? You are just her kind. You women of nowadays will never do what will make your husbands be happy and comfortable. You are so full of your self and arrogant. All you do is to complicate issues for whoever needs help. Is that the way you should address this kind of unfortunate issue? I dont even think you know anything about marriage life and its intricacies.

You don't need help, dear brother.
You just want to moan (unfortunately, not in ecstasy, but in canterkerousness)
Hopefully, you will find those who will gladly join you in wailing.
Wailers, over to you..

rain21:


You can just imagine!
Your wife had already changed her maiden name in the dailies. What else do you want?all her former documents remain valid after that.will you also command her to Change her birth certificate because of your personal perception?
Going to and fro banks all in the name of bearing your name is hectic and not every one will like to go through that process and the long queues there.
If you so insist,go and do it yourself.it's only your marriage certificate and the newspaper that is needed.

You have her account details, probably access to her account, she's not hiding anything from you and you are having hbp over a name, I wonder

Calm down, OK?