Hello nairalanders,

Please keep me anonymous. I need advise from this group . My name is Temi (not my real name). I am 20+. I work in a telecoms company. Its a very rewarding job and friendly environment. I have been working there for almost 3 years and things are moving fine.

There is this colleague of mine that we are friends. He told me he likes me but I was like,lets be friends first. I like him but I do not want to rush into any relationship. He treats me very well. Respects and cares for me. I knew I would say yes to him soon.

Then, we got a new HOD. He was moved from another branch to ours. He is very handsome and cool. Everyone likes him. He is a good boss. He charming too. He took to liking me and I cant lie,I like him too. He always likes to work with me,always assigning me tasks so I can be close to him.

He eventually told me his intentions two months ago. He wanted us to date. I can say,I am under his charm. I told him I am single but the other guy in our department is interested in me. He laughed saying: which man will not be interested in me cos you are so beautiful.

I told him to give me time to think about it. He said cool. Now these two guys are seriously in competition to get my attention. It is becoming obvious in the office. The bad part is that one of them is a boss so he tries to send me on errands that brings me close to him,making the other guy very jealous.
Now,the tension between them is so much that someone has asked me what is going on. I finally had to make up my mind and I choose my boss. The other guy is feeling so betrayed. Like he asked me first and I denied him. But I thought I was following my heart …now am not so sure.

I hate to hurt peoples feelings. He is no longer talking to me and its like he hates our boss now. He tells people that I choose the other guy cos he is the boss and maybe earns more money than him but that is not true ma.
Now,I feel bad. I actually miss gisting with this other guy. I love my boss and he is very cool but I cant help feeling some how about this other guy. Did I make a mistake..please advise me. Now,I am hearing that the other guy has said he is looking for another job cos he cant stand seeing me with another guy. I feel bad…is he going to loose his job that he loves so much cos of me?

The other day,in an office meeting,my boss asked him a question and he answered rudely. I knew it was because of me. Its like these two guys will soon have a world war in the office. What do I do…both guys are very good guys…I have done my many comparisons of both guys..they are simply cool…

They both have qualities that I love in a man….how do I make sure I have chosen right…and how do I douse the tension between both men…what should I do nairalanders?

I just hope this your boss truly loves you and not after your body! If you guys broke up later, your working in that office would be very frustrating though. By then the other guy wouldn't want anything to do with you again and of course not anyone who knew about it.

As long as you didn't eat the first guy money and make fake promise to him

No wahala

Go with your heart

To be frank with you, you actually bleeped up by letting the other guy down n choosing your boss... People have low self esteem, and uve killed his esteem, u yourself is confused, best thing to do don't date any of them, so peace Can reign...

The switch of admiring your newly transfered boss is too quick but it means he captured your inward secret desire than your colleague. I think you admire older guy with charming qualities which your colleague is not a match.

Note: your colleague aint a boyfriend yet.

IS YOUR BOSS SINGLE OR MARRIED? Update us.

Timson01:
Hello nairalanders,

Please keep me anonymous. I need advise from this group . My name is Temi (not my real name). I am 20+. I work in a telecoms company. Its a very rewarding job and friendly environment. I have been working there for almost 3 years and things are moving fine.

There is this colleague of mine that we are friends. He told me he likes me but I was like,lets be friends first. I like him but I do not want to rush into any relationship. He treats me very well. Respects and cares for me. I knew I would say yes to him soon.

Then, we got a new HOD. He was moved from another branch to ours. He is very handsome and cool. Everyone likes him. He is a good boss. He charming too. He took to liking me and I cant lie,I like him too. He always likes to work with me,always assigning me tasks so I can be close to him.

He eventually told me his intentions two months ago. He wanted us to date. I can say,I am under his charm. I told him I am single but the other guy in our department is interested in me. He laughed saying: which man will not be interested in me cos you are so beautiful.

I told him to give me time to think about it. He said cool. Now these two guys are seriously in competition to get my attention. It is becoming obvious in the office. The bad part is that one of them is a boss so he tries to send me on errands that brings me close to him,making the other guy very jealous.
Now,the tension between them is so much that someone has asked me what is going on. I finally had to make up my mind and I choose my boss. The other guy is feeling so betrayed. Like he asked me first and I denied him. But I thought I was following my heart …now am not so sure.

I hate to hurt peoples feelings. He is no longer talking to me and its like he hates our boss now. He tells people that I choose the other guy cos he is the boss and maybe earns more money than him but that is not true ma.
Now,I feel bad. I actually miss gisting with this other guy. I love my boss and he is very cool but I cant help feeling some how about this other guy. Did I make a mistake..please advise me. Now,I am hearing that the other guy has said he is looking for another job cos he cant stand seeing me with another guy. I feel bad…is he going to loose his job that he loves so much cos of me?

The other day,in an office meeting,my boss asked him a question and he answered rudely. I knew it was because of me. Its like these two guys will soon have a world war in the office. What do I do…both guys are very good guys…I have done my many comparisons of both guys..they are simply cool…

They both have qualities that I love in a man….how do I make sure I have chosen right…and how do I douse the tension between both men…what should I do nairalanders?

So u chose ur boss cos he's charming and earns more right?
I hope ur boss go marry u then u go leave d company as u both won't be working there.
The court.... The ball... And everything dey ur hand

Let me understand something here

Are you gay? You didn't mention anywhere that you're a lady.

You can date any of them if you want to serve 13 years in jail

Timson01:
Hello nairalanders,

Please keep me anonymous. I need advise from this group . My name is Temi (not my real name). I am 20+. I work in a telecoms company. Its a very rewarding job and friendly environment. I have been working there for almost 3 years and things are moving fine.

There is this colleague of mine that we are friends. He told me he likes me but I was like,lets be friends first. I like him but I do not want to rush into any relationship. He treats me very well. Respects and cares for me. I knew I would say yes to him soon.

Then, we got a new HOD. He was moved from another branch to ours. He is very handsome and cool. Everyone likes him. He is a good boss. He charming too. He took to liking me and I cant lie,I like him too. He always likes to work with me,always assigning me tasks so I can be close to him.

He eventually told me his intentions two months ago. He wanted us to date. I can say,I am under his charm. I told him I am single but the other guy in our department is interested in me. He laughed saying: which man will not be interested in me cos you are so beautiful.

I told him to give me time to think about it. He said cool. Now these two guys are seriously in competition to get my attention. It is becoming obvious in the office. The bad part is that one of them is a boss so he tries to send me on errands that brings me close to him,making the other guy very jealous.
Now,the tension between them is so much that someone has asked me what is going on. I finally had to make up my mind and I choose my boss. The other guy is feeling so betrayed. Like he asked me first and I denied him. But I thought I was following my heart …now am not so sure.

I hate to hurt peoples feelings. He is no longer talking to me and its like he hates our boss now. He tells people that I choose the other guy cos he is the boss and maybe earns more money than him but that is not true ma.
Now,I feel bad. I actually miss gisting with this other guy. I love my boss and he is very cool but I cant help feeling some how about this other guy. Did I make a mistake..please advise me. Now,I am hearing that the other guy has said he is looking for another job cos he cant stand seeing me with another guy. I feel bad…is he going to loose his job that he loves so much cos of me?

The other day,in an office meeting,my boss asked him a question and he answered rudely. I knew it was because of me. Its like these two guys will soon have a world war in the office. What do I do…both guys are very good guys…I have done my many comparisons of both guys..they are simply cool…

They both have qualities that I love in a man….how do I make sure I have chosen right…and how do I douse the tension between both men…what should I do nairalanders?

Is marriage a union or a poverty alleviation scheme for you? Ask yourself that question, and make your choice.
Note: I'm not saying you're poor...

If your boss is not married, no problem. Just make sure you are doing the right thing. Think deeply in your heart and choose the best one for yourself. Don't go after lust nor money but go for real agape love

If your boss is serious, go for him, he has more money than the other guy and you like him more than the other guy too, I just hope your boss wants you, not your body because if it happens to be latter, you are in deep

missimelda01:
Let me understand something here

Are you gay? You didn't mention anywhere that you're a lady.

You can date any of them if you want to serve 13 years in jail

Like seriously... I was confused,addressing herself as a lady at the same time using a male moniker.

Don't date at the work place

Tajbol4splend:
If your boss is serious, go for him, he has more money than the other guy and you like him more than the other guy too, I just hope your boss wants you, not your body because if it happens to be latter, you are in deep

...sh*t

Go with the man you choose.

Thanks.

God bless.

Something similar happened in one of those places I've worked in before.

Babe came in and was all fine. Me liked the babe and became close friends. She got comfortable around work and was always eager to get to work the next day. I didn't ask her out though.

Boss came around once, met her and started coming around frequently and immediately she started feeling like she was on top of the world. Had a great job (wen na me dey cover her flaws steady) and also had a boss that loved her.

Boss asked her out almost immediately and she told him she agreed. Mind you this bae and everyone at work knew oga was really a smooth talker that had so many baes like her.

The day I found out she agreed to date him was the day I lost all respect for her cos she seemed to me earlier like someone that had sense.

Ah limited our conversations and she quickly realized ah was even the reason she enjoyed her job.

Then I got a better offer and left the place.
Now she calls to tell me things are no longer the same and that the boss yells at her at every given opportunity.

Now I feel happy that I dodged a bullet.

I need me someone that has sense in ma life.

Damn, if you make it to this last paragraph, you must have been really interested. That means I might have to start an article writing gig.

Wolgrace:
The switch of admiring your newly transfered boss is too quick but it means he captured your inward secret desire than your colleague. I think you admire older guy with charming qualities which your colleague is not a match.

Note: your colleague aint a boyfriend yet.

IS YOUR BOSS SINGLE OR MARRIED? Update us.

Women already know they’ll bleep a guy before he even approaches them. Talk less of a guy she desires who’s her boss and more handsome than her current boo. This one will gbensh the boss happily and without qualms. But such cases usually end in tears.

Madam nothing last forever, with either the two,including you , i repeat nothing last forever, just enjoy it while it last

Only u will copy news from another platform
Only u will now add HELLO NAIRALANDERS and even forget to remove the keep me anonymous part.
Only u will now pretend that it's about u just to chase clout.
Continue o.

You can have both of them. Don't feel bad about it. Almost every woman does that.

Good story.. OP is gay though!

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Women already know they’ll bleep a guy before he even approaches them. Talk less of a guy she desires who’s her boss and more handsome than her current boo. This one will gbensh the boss happily and without qualms. But such cases usually end in tears.

Brother wrote "gbensh." hahaha... Should we therefore declare the op as gbensher?

Even if she had chosen the other guy, she would still be feeling this way about the boss..... u for no kuku choose anybody

The first guy is an asshole, why must he have to be mad at a confused modafucker like u,why would a nigga allow a biitch like this to get to him....damn

Now I understand why some guys end up following manipulative strategies, some ladies are just too annoying. This one seems to be enjoying being the center of this conflict. She's feeling phly. If only guys also knew when to cut their losses, there wouldn't be so many people feeling like the earth orbits around them.

The boss and the guy are so childish and unreasonable for making an mgbeke feel fly. BTW do companies still allow office relationships? That's a very bad move in business!

Mumu girl. Instead of you to leave those low level mofos and kuku chase the CEO of the company.

So she chose the better choice. I don't see no wrong in that so long as she never dated or was dating her colleague. My only anger with her and other girls like her is this.. what the hell do u want a guy arround u for when u know fully well he doesn't want to be just friends especially after picking someone else over him Some girls are really mad people. She made her choice and should live with it whil the guy should suck it up and face his work

Typical Niggerian office. No professionalism.
On one hand we have the worker who is so carried away by a girl he has forgotten his place in the organization and why he is there. He is even willing to risk his career development for a girl.

We have a boss who is clearly not in charge of his team because of woman. A colleague will even speak rudely to you and you will get into a cold war with your subordinates because of woman.

At some point of our life we think loving a person is everything. But what if you gave 100% to your love & someday your love is gone due to some reasons.

But if you give 100 % to build up your career rather than only focusing on love , then you can achieve a lot in your life.

-Love can wait for you. But career won't. If its gone then you wont get it back. Time will not come back.
-Love will not feed you when you will be hungry but career will.
-Love can betray you at any point of your life but carrer wont.
-Love can give you temporary happiness but career will keep you permanently happy.
-Career can give you name, fame, respect, money but love won't.
-If now you won't focus on your career, then the so called love of your life will also be not there.

First focus on making your career, love will automatically come to you.

If you want to give priority to love only, then love to build up your career & give priority to that.

A small example,
Just imagine you are suffering from a big disease. You need to be operated soon & before that you have to deposit huge amount of fees. At that moment of your life will “Love” be the solution to deposit your fees. NO….. all you need is “money” & from where that money will come from if you are unemployed. Then lying on the hospital bed you will realize, I wish I would have given priority to my career. I am not saying don't love. You should love. But love wisely so that it dont affect your future.

At last, concluding here I will go against the grain and say, “YES YOUR BOSS ABSOLUTELY!”

I am not going to mention the moral and ethical aspects of this whole situation. Instead, I am going to tell you that at the end of the day, all that matters, is what you want. If I were your boyfriend’s friend and he came to me with this situation, I would have told him to move on and find someone more suitable for his long term goals. You two seem to have different end-life ambitions.i ll say if you want your love to be with you forever then give priority to your career first.

If one day, my man told me he’s thinking of leaving me for his boss and get married, I will laugh my ass off and tell him to go get bleeped. Then I will pack my bags and dump him right then and there. Using that as an ultimatum and threat? Are you kidding me?! No, this isn’t simply about pride. This is about principle.

Of course, that’s just me.

Again, you do what you think you need to do, to give yourself a life you want even if that means breaking up with a long term boyfriend for some random dude whose offering you a ‘better life’.

Choose your father I don't care.

Most women are experts at making the wrong decisions and the younger and naive they are, the worse this is. It is obvious to the blind that her boss is very likely after her body and after that she gets dumped. You think your boss is working with a fine girl for the first time ? I should think most fine girls he meets at every branch are just his side bonuses on the job.

You had a greater chance of having a warm,lovely, peer-nourished long lasting relationship with the other co-worker but you blew it.Your boss is probably coming down to your level with all the seeming charm to make you feel comfortable and win your heart. You will know if he had serious or unserious intentions after sleeping with you several times.If he does fvcks up eventually you will be the one to lose your job if you start acting up and being a rude and disobedient member of staff.Really you should have chosen the other guy.

The bad part now if you change your mind now it will be you against your boss,unless the guy leaves this job then you break up with your boss and date the guy secretly until your boss is transfered to another branch or you apologise to the guy and tell him you want him but he should wait until the boss is transfered and lie to the boss you are no longer interested in dating any of them anymore.So the co-worker doesn't loose a good job,to get job dey hard oh.Goodluck!