Even with all the money in the world, long courtship before marriage, why is it such a burden at times?

Even with a lovely wife and adorable kids.

As if you knew what is on my mind. Lovely wife, adorable kids, full pockets. . . yet so much headache and heartache in marriages.

i guess marriage is what you make it!

Wumine:

i guess marriage is what you make it!

yhh

ping pong:

Even with all the money in the world, long courtship before marriage, why is it such a burden at times?

Is urs a burden?please share . . .
Marriage as far as i know aint no burden/stressful .Life itself demands something . . .oscillation,energy(potential and kinetic) and dedication.Waking up daily and getting out of bed is work on its own,so also is marriage.It goes up,comes down,gets low and high but with dedication and decision to make it work . . .the ups and high moments wud be a recurring decimal.
I love being married,i have decided Im gonna stay married. 

What is not a big stress in life? People should not single marriage out because they have had a sorry experience. Marriage is sweet if the foundation is good and solid!!!!!!! A lot just jump into marriage without know their partners. Not caring to find out if they are compatible. Some see the signs but ignore them only to cry later. Your partner disrespects you right from the beginning but you go ahead and marry him/her because he/she has money, is it all about wealth? big car? beauty? handsomeness? being sociable? Marriage is a life time thing, go into it for the right reasons!

Not sure poster has issues with compatibility cos he talked of a "lovely" wife. Women r 2 quick 2 believe they're d prob

marriage is stress but that depends with the issue on the table eg fighting or stress on how to get money to buy them want their desires, remember i said DESIRE not needs

you can live without what yours desire but you cant live without your needs so that might put stress on you becoz you want to give them the best you can

yes marriage has stress depending on the issue

Initially yes. . . .due to socio-economically conflicting committments, immaturity and lack of adequate financial management.
But not anymore.  . . .especially if you are married to your good friend. . . .and you have learned to work together or agree without disagreeing.

Also, once I cut that dreadful concept of religion without spirituality of a BS out of my life and stopped joining hypocrites to deceive man and God every Sunday in one shrine or the other, and just by being our un-inhibited selves without being judgemental and intolerant, things became a whole lot easier.

Once married, being single is not an option as far as I am concerned. . . imho.
A miserable married person will for ever be a far better and content one than a miserable single person. . . .with only the right person for you. . . if you LEARN to use your head more often instead of your "tookus"!

Hey, misery loves company too and no fun alone. Mwah!!!
A problem shared is half solved.

Would I re-marry? Hell no!
This is it.
Been there. . .done that!

For me I thought I married just my wife but soon found out I married her entire family. Why is Africa like this.

For 7yrs haven't been alone with my wife and adorable kids ALONE for 1 month. Not that they need financial help.

Mine is a mixed-tribe marriage so the cultural shock I must confess I never factored into the equation.

Vigilante:

For me I thought I married just my wife but soon found out I married her entire family. Why is Africa like this.

they believe im milking the son-in-law in whatever way they can

D main thing is loss of freedom. My husb on one side, my kids on the other side. Dont seem to have time 4 myself anymore

Its sometimes frustrating but i love my spouse & kids around me. Sometimes i'll want 2 just run away but i cant. See?

It's a man's easy road to early heart problems.

Marriage is just not fair to the woman. You put up with the husband,you take care of the kids,the in-laws,the family friends, and it goes on. And as much as you try,no one sees that,even the husband doesn't see it. Rather,he thinks you're lazy when you say you're tired or doesnt understand but gets angry when you say ''not tonight'' cos you're exhausted and want to sleep. OMG,it just seems like you're not important. Then he conveniently goes off and cheats and presents the situation to be all your fault. It just so convenient for the men. And then the woman looks at the kids and chooses to stay in spite of the wrong done to her and so she's taken for granted and it goes on. Whicheva way you go,the marriage is unfair. I pray and hope that one day,men will realize that we are not superhuman,we try to do the best we can and when our weaknesses set it,they should be there to support us not side with their families or stab us in the back.

If or when i ever decide to be married, it will simply be because ive found the love of my life! no more no less all the other factors people like to put into marriage is what makes it soo stressful! simply enjoy your other half!
but make sure he really is your other half first!

because u do not know is for 2 does not involve any other except your children

Life is one big stress

Actually, marriage is as good as you make it, factoring into the mix the level of maturity of the partners involved, compatibility, love, trust and understanding. Personally, I consider myself extremely blessed to be in a wonderful marriage relationship to my best friend!

harakiri:

It's a man's easy road to early heart problems.

Marriage might be what u need to get ahead. I Knew of a certain guy even while in his early 40s his life revolved around the bottle and was falling into gutters, career was in jeopardy, abysmally low self esteem. Then he gets married to a lovely girl and that was when his life truly began.

He kicked the habit (successfully), career skyrocketted, he became a respected member of society and started doing big things.

Without marriage, he probably would have been dead-heart and all

Because we get restless and bored!
Yes. . .it feels like a burden sometimes. . .till old age!
THEN YOU CAN REALLY APPRECIATE MARRIAGE.
Married couples live longer than their single counterparts!

LONELINESS IN OLD AGE IS A MAJOR DEPRESSIVE FACTOR!