IME1:
I don't know why issues come up with inter marriages?

My father's father, my father's mother are from different tribes, I mean tribes that don't have one word similar in meaning or pronunciation
My mother's father, my mother's mother are from different tribes and different parts of Nigeria...

Can you beat that? That gives me 4 different names and an English surname to just cover it all up

My siblings also inter married and I am open to inter marriage because it's never about where you come from but who you are.

I know some Ibo people born and raised in Yoruba land and don't reflect their tribe but where they grew up.
I know a number of Hausa/Fulani who were born and bred in Ibo land and speak fluent Ibo and don't know road to the north or anything about the culture.
Finally I know and met many Yorubas who were born and grew up in the north and speak fluent Fulfude and eat and cook Hausa food with no interest in their tribes' food or cultures.

If only we can see past the things that divide us and embrace and celebrate the very things that unite and bind us, then would we have a beautiful country and blissful family units

Tripitaka:
Oh well. People can find love and fulfilment anywhere; in the arms of someone from a different race, ethnicity, religion or even political leaning.

That said, I personally advise people to marry within their ethnic group, unless you're truly a cosmopolitan citizen. This doesnt make me intolerant or culturally unaware, but I wholly trust that intending couples will be well served when in "familiar surroundings".

Culture as we know it cuts across a host of sociocultural boundaries. It isn't just about food, clothing and language. Culture isn't what we learn in school; we start inhaling it the moment we are born.

Culture in a marital context dictates how your spouse treats you and how they may react in the face of marital crisis; in fact it impacts on the method of crisis management that may be deployed and the extent f parental interference.

Kyom20:

What is your definition of familiar surroundings? Like the first poster indicated, people grow up in different parts of the country from which they were born. So what would be familiar to such a person?

Tripitaka:


You would notice that i put the said phrase in quote. By "familiar surroundings" i meant people with whom you share same cultural background. You must also have read were I wrote "unless you're truly a cosmopolitan citizen".
Hopefully, you will reread my post with the intent to understand and not to criticise

Rhaspody:
I want to marry from Kenya sef. Not Nigeria

IME1:
I don't know why...

I know some Ibo people born and raised in Yoruba land and don't reflect their tribe but where they grew up.
I know a number of Hausa/Fulani who were born and bred in Ibo units

StacyO:

some use that as an excuse to end the relationship.
If you love him or her like you claimed, you'll overlook the tribal differences.


To think that when racist comments are being made,some people will still have something to say. mtchewww

Kyom20:

The external influences can often times be overwhelming and in order to allow peace reign, these couples have no choice but to give in.

IME1:


I know some Ibo people born and raised in Yoruba land and don't reflect their tribe but where they grew up.
I know a number of Hausa/Fulani who were born and bred in Ibo land and speak fluent Ibo and don't know road to the north or anything about the culture.
Finally I know and met many Yorubas who were born and grew up in the north and speak fluent Fulfude and eat and cook Hausa food with no interest in their tribes' food or cultures.

aswani:


I find this hard to believe. Yorubas in the North and Northerners in the East not knowing anything about their own cultures.

Unless the children were products of intertribal marriages and their fathers died early so they grew up with local grandparents.

There are enough bigots in those places to constantly discourage them from fully assimilating. Also for non Yoruba's in Yorubaland too.