MelaninSkinGirl:


You are part of the problem so it's just the women who have untangled themselves from cultural norms and the men are abiding by the traditional rules? Are they courting women appropriately? Are they not demanding s.......e.......x as if it's their birth right? Are they being noble and honourable? Are they being respectful to women? No is my answer to all the questions.

It's a patriarchal society so why don't the men lead from the front? Men started this decay we see in society today by demanding for s......e....... x without doing right by the woman. It used to be court the woman, marry her then have s........e........x. In today's world, it's have s.........e........x with her, dump her and move on to the next victim.

All these won't happen if ladies have learnt to close their legs till their wedding night...saying no and sticking to it is not a big deal.

Youngpo413:
All these won't happen if ladies have learnt to close their legs till their wedding night...saying no and sticking to it is not a big deal.

Yes blame the woman, it's the woman's fault as per usual, and excuse the demonic things men do.

MelaninSkinGirl:


Yes blame the woman, it's the woman's fault as per usual, and excuse the demonic things men do.

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MelaninSkinGirl:


Sick mentality that is killing society. You will have daughters one day, this same decayed mentality will affect her too. Proffer solutions rather than dismissing this as a woman only problem.

so you can't breed a solution proffered from the statement ba, you want me to tutorize you like situation of live will always do to you abi,like a baby right,do you see what i was saying,i guess you are in that shoe,you better look inward and stop sharing blames for your shortcomings.
Be matured .

Sixfeetbelle:


Please, grow up. Repeating an overused line betrays the level of ignorance you possess.

Aunty sule,you better tell yourself the truth and stop looking for who to blame for your solo live.
Good men are available,if you can't settle with one,check yourself,stop being HYPOCRITIC.

Like HIV/ AIDS, being a good or bad person doesn't show for face. But the biggest mistake many women make nowadays is all they look at are face value.

If ten guys come out now to propose to you as a woman, 8 had Jeeps and deep pockets, the rest were poor, whom would you pick?

If a guy toasts a lady and she said no, its the guys fault not the lady's fault. In the institution of marriage, the one who gets to choose most are the ladies but we have all seen what our modern day ladies are choosing. Cars, money, betrayals, heartbreaking, jumping from third midland bridge, drinking sniper and so on. Are they making the good choices? They type of children we birth determines the type of society we have. Yahoo yahoo, olosho, weed smokers and looting politicians are all what we have nowadays.
In one movie, "acrimony" starring taraji p Henson. The woman wasn't able to stay with the guy when he was poor.

In another movie , a Yoruba one "black sheep" starring mercy aigbe, the guy pretended to be poor and toasted her, she said no, meanwhile he was very rich. When she discovered that he was rich, she was begging him for one night stand.

So it all goes down to what standard have you as a lady set for yourself, for some ladies its money for hand back for ground, they don't count their body count anymore. Whilst some of them still have conscience" they will be thinking, what am I doing with my body?". Shebi we heard about 28 abortions recently?.
Toasting a lady nowadays with poor pockets is like telling her "Hey lady, I am an idiot please slap me!!!"

MelaninSkinGirl:
I am sure ladies you can all relate with this, many women all believe that all men are nice but in fact they are shy, sly and slick. Women get carried away and get loved up and think love is true but these men walk all over women

Many women do not look before they leap and end up in deep water. So ladies, guard your heart, play hard to get or you will regret the day you were born when he leaves you for another woman/man because "Good men are like finding a needle in a haystack".

Your Job is not to find the man sweetheart the man will find you, they say: Like begat Like, be a woman of discipline, principle and character then you will attract your kind of men, from there you will make your choice.

MelaninSkinGirl:


And when you offer it on a plate on the first day, the same men will call you an "Olosho" or a "Runs girl". It's seems this is a losing game for women which ever way they play it.

So, not having s3x on the first date is playing hard to get now?

Ok got it.

The truth is, every woman knows where to find a “good” man if they truly want him.

MelaninSkinGirl:


And when you offer it on a plate on the first day, the same men will call you an "Olosho" or a "Runs girl". It's seems this is a losing game for women which ever way they play it.

So...not offering sex on first day = playing hard to get?

Google the meaning of “playing hard to get”. A relationship isn’t all about sex

lukui:
Like HIV/ AIDS, being a good or bad person doesn't show for face. But the biggest mistake many women make nowadays is all they look at are face value.

If ten guys come out now to propose to you as a woman, 8 had Jeeps and deep pockets, the rest were poor, whom would you pick?

If a guy toasts a lady and she said no, its the guys fault not the lady's fault. In the institution of marriage, the one who gets to choose most are the ladies but we have all seen what our modern day ladies are choosing. Cars, money, betrayals, heartbreaking, jumping from third midland bridge, drinking sniper and so on. Are they making the good choices? They type of children we birth determines the type of society we have. Yahoo yahoo, olosho, weed smokers and looting politicians are all what we have nowadays.
In one movie, "acrimony" starring taraji p Henson. The woman wasn't able to stay with the guy when he was poor.

In another movie , a Yoruba one "black sheep" starring mercy aigbe, the guy pretended to be poor and toasted her, she said no, meanwhile he was very rich. When she discovered that he was rich, she was begging him for one night stand.

So it all goes down to what standard have you as a lady set for yourself, for some ladies its money for hand back for ground, they don't count their body count anymore. Whilst some of them still have conscience" they will be thinking, what am I doing with my body?". Shebi we heard about 28 abortions recently?.
Toasting a lady nowadays with poor pockets is like telling her "Hey lady, I am an idiot please slap me!!!"

The movie Acrimony was about a woman who was left an inheritance, she invested all her inheritance on her unemployed boyfriend who cheated on her by the way, she gave him everything and she got tired of giving every thing. Did you watch the movie at all?

That's true Sha buh don't generalize whatever predicament that must have made utter such a statement. There are still good men out there buh kinda hard to find just like how hard it is to see a lady of 18- 25 that has not been disflowered.... Buh what do I know

That's because 90% of nigerians women don't date. They go into contract while the male dates himself. The rate at which am disgusted by ladies with sense of entitlement is off the charts.

I personally do not agree with playing hard to get for a man!

You either stay, or go!
As a lady ehn the best thing is to work on ourselves! We can't be bad ourselves and expect the men to take us for what we are because they do not have a choice they have to marry us!

Either man or woman,we all have our bad sides! Its left for you to decide if you can cope with that bad side, or not!

As a lady, you know what you want! We shouldn't let desperation push us into dating any kind of man! Have your standard and work towards being the kinda woman that standard you want would like. IRE o

True. Same goes to finding a good woman.
Personally I consider myself a good man,at least according to human standard. My wife will be the luckiest girl on earth ever.
All glory goes to God

Ariza:
If you like play hard to get from now till kingdom come, if he will leave after hitting it, he will leave.

My advice :Don't find a Good Man, its not your job. Be a good woman and pick out of the good Men you attract. That's your job.

Correct.

Dash me some sense na, abeg

bigpriik:
If you find a good man will you keep him

They will tell you he is boring, not spontaneous or adventurous. They will cheat ridiculously on him.

lefulefu:
its actually easy to get a good man

Than to get a good woman

lukui:
Like HIV/ AIDS, being a good or bad person doesn't show for face. But the biggest mistake many women make nowadays is all they look at are face value.

If ten guys come out now to propose to you as a woman, 8 had Jeeps and deep pockets, the rest were poor, whom would you pick?

If a guy toasts a lady and she said no, its the guys fault not the lady's fault. In the institution of marriage, the one who gets to choose most are the ladies but we have all seen what our modern day ladies are choosing. Cars, money, betrayals, heartbreaking, jumping from third midland bridge, drinking sniper and so on. Are they making the good choices? They type of children we birth determines the type of society we have. Yahoo yahoo, olosho, weed smokers and looting politicians are all what we have nowadays.
In one movie, "acrimony" starring taraji p Henson. The woman wasn't able to stay with the guy when he was poor.

In another movie , a Yoruba one "black sheep" starring mercy aigbe, the guy pretended to be poor and toasted her, she said no, meanwhile he was very rich. When she discovered that he was rich, she was begging him for one night stand.

So it all goes down to what standard have you as a lady set for yourself, for some ladies its money for hand back for ground, they don't count their body count anymore. Whilst some of them still have conscience" they will be thinking, what am I doing with my body?". Shebi we heard about 28 abortions recently?.
Toasting a lady nowadays with poor pockets is like telling her "Hey lady, I am an idiot please slap me!!!"

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

lammylam:
I personally do not agree with playing hard to get for a man!

You either stay, or go!
As a lady ehn the best thing is to work on ourselves! We can't be bad ourselves and expect the men to take us for what we are because they do not have a choice they have to marry us!

Either man or woman,we all have our bad sides! Its left for you to decide if you can cope with that bad side, or not!

As a lady, you know what you want! We shouldn't let desperation push us into dating any kind of man! Have your standard and work towards being the kinda woman that standard you want would like. IRE o

God bless you.

I prefer women who know what they want and go for it. Hard-to-get-mentality is so antiquated. Men who are worth their salt don't play games. Ladies, be wise. Be a woman of value, and you will attract the kind of men you deserve.

The deviation from "good" started from the women,from decency to shaking bums on IG all in the name of female liberation.

As the number of unmarriageable girls increased we men to decided not to take them serious, we became "bad"...if theyvevolve from good,we copy them.

I dont know of a decent girl a man will not move mountains for. Chioma comports herself,is never in controversies,minds her business,dresses decently . why wouldn't davido buy a 45 million naira car for her? You can never see man haters/bashers disguising as feminists enjoy wealthy and chivalrous men

pansophist:


Correct.

Dash me some sense na, abeg

Lol... Dey whyne me ehn. . Me that I'm always with pen and book to learn from you..



Truth is : Most people don't even know what "Goodness " is. In a world where acts of goodness is mostly interpreted as weakness or manipulation especially in Man-Woman relationship then one shouldn't be surprised if there is absent of it. Some people can not recognize goodness because they don't know it, some can't appreciate it because they don't deserve it.. While others can't give it because they don't have it.

It's funny that people who turn "Alpha or Bad" at the occurrence of little bad experience are the same set of individuals expecting to meet "Good People " when they get tired of their "bad ass" lives. Lol things don't work that way. If you can choose to turn bad because of one sad experience, anybody has the right too. That, plus the fact that your bad boy experiment turns bad too then looks for another to experiment with. That way they spread Hate and Selfishness there by eradicating/decreasing Goodness.

I know a day like this will come on NL, where slay queens and Alpha Males will come to cry and wail about scarcity of Good people. When they were busy reading Alpha threads and Broke shaming threads, spilling nonsense, I know they will get tired and seek the LOVE and GOODNESS they murder with every threads. I know they will.. And here they are.

Anyway to whoever cares to read, good people exist. Men and Women but in little proportions. You can only increase them by being Good yourself. Be good, the you will attract goodness. Good people do not fall from Heaven, We make Them. You and I.

MelaninSkinGirl:


Very cruel man. You will have daughters one day, we need solutions rather than men thinking this is a woman only problem. Society is made up of men and women and both parties should be emotionally, physically and mentally sound for society to thrive and not just survive.

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Then why were you sounding as if men are the demons while women are the victims?

MelaninSkinGirl:
I am sure ladies you can all relate with this, many women all believe that all men are nice but in fact they are shy, sly and slick. Women get carried away and get loved up and think love is true but these men walk all over women

Many women do not look before they leap and end up in deep water. So ladies, guard your heart, play hard to get or you will regret the day you were born when he leaves you for another woman/man because "Good men are like finding a needle in a haystack".

There lots of good guys out there,your contact with one of them (us) will change your perception about guys.no need forming hard to get in that process you may miss the good once.cheers

Sam0:


There lots of good guys out there,your contact with one of them (us) will change your perception about guys.no need forming hard to get in that process you may miss the good once.cheers

Men who claim to be good guys are the opposite, I am talking from experience.

You must be an extremely bad person, according to your wacky manner of standards, to be attracting only the bad to yourself. It's in you.

MelaninSkinGirl:


Men who claim to be good guys are the opposite, I am talking from experience.

I still insist that there are good guys out there. Op are you a good lady yourself? I just dey ask

Ariza:
Lol... Dey whyne me ehn. . Me that I'm always with pen and book to learn from you..



Truth is : Most people don't even know what "Goodness " is. In a world where acts of goodness is mostly interpreted as weakness or manipulation especially in Man-Woman relationship then one shouldn't be surprised if there is absent of it. Some people can not recognize goodness because they don't know it, some can't appreciate it because they don't deserve it.. While others can't give it because they don't have it.

It's funny that people who turn "Alpha or Bad" at the occurrence of little bad experience are the same set of individuals expecting to meet "Good People " when they get tired of their "bad ass" lives. Lol things don't work that way. If you can choose to turn bad because of one sad experience, anybody has the right too. That, plus the fact that your bad boy experiment turns bad too then looks for another to experiment with. That way they spread Hate and Selfishness there by eradicating/decreasing Goodness.

I know a day like this will come on NL, where slay queens and Alpha Males will come to cry and wail about scarcity of Good people. When they were busy reading Alpha threads and Broke shaming threads, spilling nonsense, I know they will get tired and seek the LOVE and GOODNESS they murder with every threads. I know they will.. And here they are.

Anyway to whoever cares to read, good people exist. Men and Women but in little proportions. You can only increase them by being Good yourself. Be good, the you will attract goodness. Good people do not fall from Heaven, We make Them. You and I.

You made a lot of sense here and it's the first time i am liking your input. The melanin melanocyte woman should read this and obtain some sense.

Sam0:


I still insist that there are good guys out there. Op are you a good lady yourself? I just dey ask

Yes sir

MelaninSkinGirl:


Yes sir

Lie lie,just joking though.how do I know you r?

Sam0:


Lie lie,just joking though.how do I know you r?

Lmao....Facts say otherwise, red piller.

Davash222:
You can't find a good man after loosing one. Men are not plentiful that you'll be getting the good ones every time.

MelaninSkinGirl:

Funny you.