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Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by maasoap(m): 3:08pm On May 19, 2020 |
adontcare: FIXED |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by ModestGal(f): 3:10pm On May 19, 2020 |
Lamanii22:Me that I'm now dating first son nko? You are scaring me o. His family's responsibility is on his shoulder and I am happy hes taking care of his family especially his mother. But I'm afraid, I hope he doesn't turn like that. I do advise him to make sure his siblings are well taken care of, and wish he would secure them well enough 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Vcblinks(m): 3:11pm On May 19, 2020 |
The guy to me is not a man,while i was trying to hussle for my life as a man,my mum told me i would me taking care of my junior brother as am hustling and trying to garner grounds.i bluntly told her No that i cannot do,it is not wickedness but thats the truth,if u are the one in reverse it will be the same thing afterall u did not deliver them.parents should take care of the responsibility but add a little sha but do not kill yourself.that why i will go any lent to train my children should have their own and sustainable so that no one will be a burden.and i train them without asking any money from anyone 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Dalby(m): 3:11pm On May 19, 2020 |
Anni3e: As far as when him buy and no include you, you no go vex!!! 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by NOETHNICITY(m): 3:11pm On May 19, 2020 |
bukatyne:See the way I just want to marry you I wish you would understand just how serious I'm 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by cedricksly: 3:11pm On May 19, 2020 |
STARGREEN:it is better to keep mute and be assumed a fool than open ur mouth just like u did now to clear all doubt of you being a fool... So the woman has no right to lament right?? If u like ignore and neglect your immediate family and spend all you have on your life extended family... When u die, automatically you place your kids and wife in suffering... Shey na u love ur family pass ode... OP pls I dint support buying properties without the knowledge of you husband, it has broken so many homes... Make him see reasons why he should invest in his immediate family.. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Yabaleft: 3:12pm On May 19, 2020 |
Pavore9: For where? There was a driver that used to work for me. While interviewing him, he told me his father was a surgeon. My jaw dropped. This guy no get waec. I asked why he has no education . He said his father trained almost everyone in his village to the extent of sending children of villagers to school abroad. Unfortunately he died young and my driver was only 9 when the father passed. No one helped them. He has 3 brothers, one is a welder, and the other spare parts seller. Smh 12 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Stmiceel(m): 3:13pm On May 19, 2020 |
Ma'am you're in pepper soup. My candid advice for you is to focus on your children. Buy the land in the name of your children. Never buy in your name. Your husband is lost with his siblings. Your husband refused to set his priority right from the onset. I pray for him today that he will get back to his senses and take charge of his home again. Peace. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by guychidile: 3:13pm On May 19, 2020 |
this post is not real,because how do u tell me that he keep spending on his two junior brothers,one have a beautiful house in the village and the other in abj..,nnee change topic joor.! Now a man married and wedded u,providing for u nd the kids,nd u ar planning to buy a land in ur personal name. ,why should u do that when u ar ed still legally married to him. get it off ur mind righ away. |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by NOETHNICITY(m): 3:13pm On May 19, 2020 |
Bluehill1051:I don't understand bro/sister? Can you pls explain what you mean |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Prenonjebose: 3:14pm On May 19, 2020 |
If your situation is as you have said, whatever investment you make now should be in your name. Op, you are reading through many comments, but I advise you have your investment in your name until he listens to you. I have reasons for that |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by afstrongest(m): 3:14pm On May 19, 2020 |
Bluehill1051: Chuu! That's kinda harsh tho, were you pained or smth |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Nodogragra4me(m): 3:14pm On May 19, 2020 |
STARGREEN: Why should he be able to send money to his brothers and sisters and give his wife 2k for a whole week. Even with the challenge I ma currently faced with I won't give my wife such amount for an entire week. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by DBestDoc(f): 3:15pm On May 19, 2020 |
cococandy: You're right @ bold. Your uncle's siblings are good people. They understood their brother and didn't take advantage of his kindness. |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Nobody: 3:15pm On May 19, 2020 |
You did not see this before marriage As u lay your bed naso you go lie on am o |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by kunkelhanspeter(m): 3:15pm On May 19, 2020 |
If you want to buy land please don’t put his name on the deed if you want please put Mr and Mrs XYZ My cousin just lost land and property she bought with her money to her ex husband just bcoz she put only the man name . |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by DBestDoc(f): 3:16pm On May 19, 2020 |
Yabaleft: Oh! What a pity. |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Pavore9: 3:17pm On May 19, 2020 |
Yabaleft: Heart wrenching. |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by emmanuelewumi(m): 3:18pm On May 19, 2020 |
STARGREEN: She does not have to include the husband's name in the title documents of the land. If anything should happen to the man tomorrow, the family will take over the property. She should buy the property in her own name or buy the property in her children's name. She needs to start making investments for herself, that is the only way she can regain her sanity, you should remember to pray for your husband .. If you have the opportunity to steal from your husband, do and invest it. I shared a story of a woman who stole from her reckless husband for about 10 years. The husband was a taxi driver, who operated from Eko Hotel Victoria Island. The man made good money carry expatriates, top executives and politicians from the Airport and other locations. The man was reckless with money, but he set up a business for his wife. The woman stole money from her husband for over 10 years, combined with Money from her business bought a plot of land in her children's names and built a bungalow of two 3 bedroom flats 9th years into the act of stealing money from her husband, their taxi park was destroyed by Lagos State government. Not quite long after that e-hailing services like Uber and Bolt disrupted the man's business and could not make money as he used to make. His vehicle became old and he could not replace the vehicle. He could not pay his house rent, until he was given a quite notice. He tried getting another accommodation, but could not get funds. Until the wife took him to a house she saw at Ikorodu, the husband loved the house but asked how much would it cost to rent the house. Until the wife told him that the house belongs to the family, he asked where did you get the money from? The wife said she used money from her business and also stole from him ie the husband whenever he came back drunk from work. That was what she used to build the house. The husband postrated and thanked the wife and asked her why didn't she still more than what she stole from him. 11 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Dalby(m): 3:18pm On May 19, 2020 |
Trillyonaire: You loved him so much because he wasn't saying NO to your every request |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by adeniyimam(m): 3:18pm On May 19, 2020 |
DBestDoc:You made the wise decisions. This applies to me too as my elder brother always claims he doesn't have money when responsibilities arises and everyone turns to me. My weakness is my inability to say "NO" when I know i can help. Fast forward, things have changed. I realized we were all surviving before I started working so we would always survive regardless of whether I help or not. Now, if you ask me for 10k, I give you 3k. If you can't manage it or get it completed from another source, OYO is ur name. Men not neccessarily first borns must wise up. Invest and plan for the future. If you keep doing everything for your siblings and family and you don't invest and save for the future, YOU ARE ON YOUR OWN 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Nobody: 3:18pm On May 19, 2020 |
kunkelhanspeter:...... and You are believing a Woman.. LADIES that shed tears while Lying.. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Waist: 3:20pm On May 19, 2020 |
[b]This is the problem, you are trying to monitor a matured grown up man and how he spend his money. And don't forget he is the first child of 7. More over as a black man, we always work for our families and friends. Just continue, telling him that he own nothing but those ones he is sending money already owned properties and as the children grow older the demands from them will increase for sure he will change his ways.[/b] |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by vickydevoka(m): 3:20pm On May 19, 2020 |
TheArchangel:Wise woman. Only de wise can survive in a complicated situation 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Nobody: 3:21pm On May 19, 2020 |
cococandy:true. I have friends on 400k salary with no car nor investments. Dedicated to helping people wey no send them. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by clemmonce(m): 3:21pm On May 19, 2020 |
bukatyne:Wise words and very explanatory |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Maobichek: 3:21pm On May 19, 2020 |
STARGREEN:some Ppl are wicked and senseless. He is spending is not good but she buying a land without his name is good abi? She should know that the success or failure of the marriage is for both of them and not for the man alone. |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by emmanuelewumi(m): 3:22pm On May 19, 2020 |
ihutuluv: Please hustle and make your own money, your own investments and savings. If you do joint account, also make sure you have your own personal account |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by DBestDoc(f): 3:22pm On May 19, 2020 |
zed7: I see! You're right. |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by brightDdon(m): 3:22pm On May 19, 2020 |
I have love you already,,...your comment has just made my day... |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Dadaboy: 3:23pm On May 19, 2020 |
Anni3e:I am a man but i must tell you that you are doing the right thing. I had this problem your husband is having. infact, my own family lives on a bigger house than i am currenly because of this ''saviour'' and God complex mentality. although, passed that stage now and it's reduced to a minimum only to realise how much i could save as a sane person. Try to make him understand that he doesn't owe anyone anything. No one wishes for unfortunate events but buy your land and do not include his name. Because such a family could be dangerous in the future. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Enwhen(m): 3:23pm On May 19, 2020 |
Anni3e: As it is now , love him and your kids more ...u have have seen the future, even while he is sleeping and refuse to.learn from.the past, leave him and his family alone , don't complain, inasmuch u don't wish him bad, many like learning in the hard way, just keep on saving and Don't let him know you have savings, this is one of the reason he is more comfortable helping his family... I pray things continue to go on well with so he doesn't see u as against his family but should the reverse be the case , don't bail him out quickly with your savings... and pls stop complaining about his siblings so that he doesn't see u as against them despite ur good motive. 2 Likes |
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