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| Supporting Your Man Financially by aminalib(f): 9:55pm On Jan 16, 2011 |
how long do you think its ok to support your man financially before you say enough is enough. I have a good friend, she just came out of nursing school, she is hispanic and her boyfriend is white, ok so she makes about 20.00 an hour (which is not much if u live in Boston based on rent and so she and the guy live with her mother) so anyways she is struggling because she has to pay for this guys court fees( he got into some shiit with the law)and also pay his child support(he has 3 kids), the last time he worked was in 2001.and she met him in 2008, he is a plumber and with the union but she says he cant find a job(which i do not believe if he is with the union) why cant he go back to school for a new profession?, sometimes i feel to tell her she is being taken advantage off, what do you guys think. |
| Re: Supporting Your Man Financially by Coolabbie: 10:15pm On Jan 16, 2011 |
She pays his child support,his court fees,he stays wit her mom & 2 top it all off he hasnt worked since 2001? Amazing. Dat guy is a loafer & a parasite who has made up his mind 2 suck her dry. D sooner she kicks his butt out,d beta it will be 4 her. Dis isnt luv,dis is s.t.u.p.idity. |
| Re: Supporting Your Man Financially by MrsChima(f): 10:18pm On Jan 16, 2011 |
She is being suckered. |
| Re: Supporting Your Man Financially by Dsense(m): 10:25pm On Jan 16, 2011 |
OP. I think the guy is just making use of her (sucking her to the bones),But at the same time he might had seeked for jobs and couldn't find any,Or he's having an issue with the union.Because i also believe if you are working with a union then you should be able to get jobs at anytime .So just advise your friend to ask her fiance to go for another profession or she herself should help him try for a job! |
| Re: Supporting Your Man Financially by omega25red(m): 12:44am On Jan 17, 2011 |
poster stay out of their biz because your friend already knows what she is willing to tolerate. if she is capable of dating a jobless bum with 3 kids who hasn't worked since 2001 and claims to be with a union then she needs no push or advice. when she gets to the level of not being able to take it anymore she will kick him to the curb without anyone telling her 1 Like |
| Re: Supporting Your Man Financially by LordReed(m): 12:53am On Jan 17, 2011 |
^^^As much as u are roughshod I do agree wit u to an extent. OP ur friend is obviously a nice lady being leeched on. Have u asked her how she feels about it? If she is suffering n smiling maybe she doesn't need any help but if she cries out then u can tell her to make him shape up or ship out. |
| Re: Supporting Your Man Financially by iice(f): 4:28am On Jan 17, 2011 |
Goodness  |
| Re: Supporting Your Man Financially by queensmith: 4:34am On Jan 17, 2011 |
your freind is a big fool, she should just take a gun and shoot herself! what an idi/ot! dont tell her anything! if the donkey cant see shes being taken for a ride then leave her to her own delusions! women with more money than sense! |
| Re: Supporting Your Man Financially by Nobody: 4:45am On Jan 17, 2011 |
Wow is she all that ugly does her face looks like my asxss?  Paying child support for him  I'm totally speechless on this one |
| Re: Supporting Your Man Financially by aminalib(f): 4:46am On Jan 17, 2011 |
she is far from ugly, |
| Re: Supporting Your Man Financially by Nobody: 4:58am On Jan 17, 2011 |
Financially taking care of one's man is not wrong but being used in the process is the issue. If he is doing for her but due to certain circumstances he is unable to help financially, then by all means, I'd support him but if is only interested in spending money and sitting on his ass, then deuces  ! |
| Re: Supporting Your Man Financially by queensmith: 5:06am On Jan 17, 2011 |
MzD@rkSkin: Are you sure your jamaican?? Your the first jamaican I know to ever say such! but anyways thats beside the point, financially taking care of your man is wrong! in every area and every aspect. It sounds wrong! Just wrong! wrong wrong wrong! lol Would you pursue a relationship with ANY MAN (except for trey songz ) knowing you will be his sole provider? Would it make sense for ANY WOMAN to marry a man incapable of financially taking care of herself? Would you be proud of your daughter is you knew she was financially responsible for her man? Proud of your son having his woman financially responsible for him?? And for all you know this man may not actually be using he, what if hes not? what is he genuinely loves her, and genuinely has problems, will that make what shes doing sensible? |
| Re: Supporting Your Man Financially by Nobody: 5:21am On Jan 17, 2011 |
queensmith: NOTE: I am 50% Jamaican! Maroonian to be exact! (takes a bow!) besides there a plenty Jamo queens out there who take care of their men financially - some taken for a ride and some rightfully appreciated.Ok, secondly, I specifically said depending on "certain circumstances" meaning disability/physical/health related. We cannot help who we love therefore should I fall in love with a handicapped man or even a man who has been laid off for that matter, out of my love for him and knowing he would do for me if the situation was reversed, I would without hesitation! I would so it all for him so long as he is taking care of household, s3xual lol, and emotional needs I may have as his other half and is more than willing to show his appreciation. A slob/lazy backside man will never last with me as I am about taking care of business but if it is necessary then so be it. I don't live for others so I don't care how I am seen. |
| Re: Supporting Your Man Financially by Nobody: 5:25am On Jan 17, 2011 |
MsDarkskin seems diff from the jamaicans I know, no totally a bad thing. My best friend (jamaican, kingston to be precise) would shred apart any man that asks her for financial support. LMAO thinking about her rxn. |
| Re: Supporting Your Man Financially by Nobody: 5:28am On Jan 17, 2011 |
Ileke-IdI: hMM. I see myself and my Jamo sis (your friend) are different. Our culture in Jamaica is against is however like I said things happen! |
| Re: Supporting Your Man Financially by queensmith: 5:28am On Jan 17, 2011 |
MzD@rkSkin: i dont dispute it, I just dont personally know any! From what ive been told the men in jamaica 'handle bizniz' MzD@rkSkin: Definitely! if he had a disability or condition that rendered him incapable of actually working and making any money, definitely! Its not his fault! I don't live for others so I don't care how I am seen. yea but if one is financally strappin down for her man I wouldnt know what else to call it? |
| Re: Supporting Your Man Financially by Nobody: 5:31am On Jan 17, 2011 |
@Queen, good so we understand each other then. No support for a bum/scrub!  We however differ outside of that in terms of opinions on what is acceptable and what's not but it's kewl. btw Jamaican men IN Jamaica do take care of business and their women however, they like to play the role of "lover/FATHER" that's the only curse of having a man esp. Jamaican man, who makes more money. |
| Re: Supporting Your Man Financially by queensmith: 5:34am On Jan 17, 2011 |
MzD@rkSkin: yea i agree! your 100% right! thats what my friend and hairdresser told me. That the men in jamaica are all rounders! they work hard and take care of the family! But the jamaican men abroad. . , . . . . . . whooooo! o God! lol |
| Re: Supporting Your Man Financially by Africanqueen2(f): 6:34am On Jan 17, 2011 |
Helping out a guy is not wrong so long as he's making efforts to get on his feet but helping out a parasite is another thing. What more does he want. . . A girl who warms his bed and pays his bill without complaining. . . He'll relax and enjoy d show. This kind of guys is what you fleet out of your life like mosquito without looking back. He's not ready to work and he won't work. Your friend needs divine intervention. . . She should drop d guy like hot coal. |
| Re: Supporting Your Man Financially by Nobody: 7:16am On Jan 17, 2011 |
queensmith: SOME of them LOL. But yea, if I do find a man from team Jamo, he's gotta be from the actual island! those out side of yard, Jamo men, they are aliens! ME NOOOO LIKEY! |
| Re: Supporting Your Man Financially by ZIMDRILL(m): 11:19am On Jan 17, 2011 |
guys guys from the scenario we have been given the guy is crap the woman should leave but if it was supporting in the sense that he doesnt have money at that time then there is nothing wrong with it pliz lets try to seperate those scenarios why is it that it is fuss whenever table are turned (but i dont mean in the scenario we have been given) i mean where the guy is broke and has to borrow from his girfriend |
| Re: Supporting Your Man Financially by SALady(f): 11:43am On Jan 17, 2011 |
@Poster, the girl in your story is just being taken for a ride simple. |
| Re: Supporting Your Man Financially by MOBO444(f): 12:07pm On Jan 17, 2011 |
Nothing wrong is supporting your man, ok, even if you give him yourentire salary it not even enough, after all he is giving you what he has between his legs,ok and also gives you protection. |
| Re: Supporting Your Man Financially by Orton10(m): 12:09pm On Jan 17, 2011 |
Lmfao. |
| Re: Supporting Your Man Financially by Orton10(m): 12:13pm On Jan 17, 2011 |
SA Lady:Damn Right!! @Amina, abeg tell your frnd to shine her eyes, make she waka if possible. |
| Re: Supporting Your Man Financially by yiboboy: 12:29pm On Jan 17, 2011 |
I've not always had it this good, but, even when I was down I never depended on any babe. Its simply grotesque for a guy to depend on his babe! SMH! Where is the self esteem  |
| Re: Supporting Your Man Financially by MOBO444(f): 9:23pm On Jan 17, 2011 |
I wonder why JB has not blocked this thread for none reference, this is now pure hear say, he has closed most of my topic for less. |
| Re: Supporting Your Man Financially by aminalib(f): 9:24pm On Jan 17, 2011 |
because ur post are utter nonsense |
| Re: Supporting Your Man Financially by Beync(f): 9:48pm On Jan 17, 2011 |
A full blown man who cannot get a job or get somthing doing btw 2001 to 2011 is a fool blown lazy parasite. come to add his 3 kids, this is beyound reasonable. |
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