I will try to make this Short and Simple.


She was a direct entry student who just got admitted into 200lvl and I was in 400level that year we met(2019). She packed in newly into my Lodge as a newbie(fresher). When I first saw her, I instantly took liking for her like a little sister. Her face was so innocent that I mistook her for a year one student. Why I took her like a Sister to me was cos of her stature; she looked small, and she wasn't my spec in a woman, and nature cheated her cos she looks like a teenager. It was after we got close that she revealed to me that she was a direct entry student and that I shouldn't see her as a kid that she was just 21.

One day, as if she could read my motives, she said to me in a joking manner "Why are you acting like an elder bro to me? Everytime you're commanding me to do this or do that". That's the truth. My intentions was to make her have an excellent starts in her result as a fresher in my school. I personally, I'm doing very academically and so I helped her with some teachings in some of her school works. I always come knocking at her door given her orders like "Wake up!" especially in the morning, "Keep that phone and read your book" whenever I'm in her room and so many others. Sometimes she can get annoyed but she really liked it tho. And she was good to me. She treated me well too by feeding me sometimes. She will even come to my door knocking "Come and eat b4 it gets cold". And I really felt good. She would even even allow me eat in the same plate with her. Mind you I have a girlfriend and she has a boyfriend too. Mine was a student but she never told me where her boyfriend stays. I always took her to night classes and all that. I really have no other intentions towards her other than helping her the best way I could. All these continued till I left for IT.

This year we met again and she was happy to happy to see me. Although she packed to a new place after she had some issues with her roommate. When we met she said she really missed me. And honestly I missed her too. Although we kept in touch by voice calls only.
We've been good friends all this while even tho she had made a whole lot of male friends after all this while which was expected anyways. She gave me food anytime I visited. She is very kind to me and vice versa.


**********The Problem********
Why does she not Chat with me on Whatsapp?? Are you wondering why??
This issue might ruin our relationship.

For instance;

I chat her up when we are both online

Me: Hi Ma'am. (10am)

She: Hello Sir (10:15am)

Me: How have you been?(10:16am)

.......No reply till probably God knows when.


This is not funny to me. It's so annoying. There was a time I had some important issue to discuss with her, I had no credit, so I came online. She was online at that moment but didn't reply me. I got annoyed and I didn't convey the info to her again. I wanted us to discuss about the day we can go for night class of which she has been bugging me about. We couldn't go for night class again Simply because she snubbed my Messages. Later on she will tell me that I didn't keep to my promise again on the phone. That I should please help her. In my mind I'll be like "But you snubbed me on Whatsapp"


Please can anyone tell me why she does this?? Why does she not reply me. She only sends me "Happy New month*, *Happy Sunday* and the likes. Even when I reply, she won't reply back. She only calls. Only call. She called me the other day asking about my well-being. But I'm not ok with it. I have self respect, only if she knows it. Stuff like that pisses me off. A girl I feel should consider me an important person in her life should not snub me except I'm not important to her.


Please if only you can feel the emotions in the paragraphs I've written, give me an advice on why she behaves that way. I can simply block her cos it's annoying (I cut away anything that kills my joy) but I always remember the promise I made to myself concerning her; to help her academically. It's really helping her cos she doing well too. I want our friendship to continue but her behavior on WhatsApp is not really helping matter. There are important I would have loved to tell her.
The other day, I told her about a business I intend starting when school resumes and all she could reply is with the Ok Emoji. Can you imagine??

Or am I not important to her anymore??

I think the ladies should be in a better position to answer my questions. Guys are also welcomed. Thanks


Modified: She is very pretty in her own way, but I never for once, did anything romantic with her. Never! And she knows it


****Modified*****
Please Don't get me wrong. I will do some modifications on my post. The word Egocentric should have been misplaced with Self respect in that context. I respect myself so much. And I'm not a selfish as many here thinks.
As a student, I conduct Tutorials for free, even if it will take my whole day (morning till evening). I sacrifice my precious time for people all the time in the name of helping them academically. She is not the only one. Many have confessed to me how Great I was help to them that they would have spent extra years in the school. But I owe all to God Almighty.

What I only meant was *self respect* not *Egocentric* in that context.
Anyways I appreciate your advice. I learnt something. And honestly my Good deeds are out of altruism. Thanks

This is your problem sir

KlausMichaelson:
But I'm not ok with it. I'm egocentric, only if she knows it. Stuff like that pisses me off. A girl I feel should consider me an important person in her life should not snub me except I'm not important to her.

You are bossing her and she isn't cool with it,stop bossing her,and engage in meaningful conversations with her,apply the funny and cocky approach in your conversations, google it for more info. Then stop eating food in her house,cos u can't be a boss and still eat her food like her son.


PS; Hope you are born again? cos Jesus is coming soon.

.

Your solution has come...

She has seen guys who want to help her bedmatically and right now, that's her priority. In other words, her WhatsApp is for those guys while calls can be for you. After all, she's doing well academically.

As you've said, if you can easily cut her off completely from your life, why don't just stop chatting with her through WhatsApp instead? If you have anything to tell her, call her and pass the info.

Also, it is normal for her to find more interesting people, you should understand that except you're gradually falling inlove with her.

If truly you're just looking out for her, more grease to your elbow. Nice one!

Story for the Gods




you are not a celebrity everybody can not like you move on.

Leave her and go your Way. you've tried

.

CokeBar:
Your solution has come...

She has seen guys who want to help her bedmatically and right now, that's her priority. In other words, her WhatsApp is for those guys while calls can be for you. After all, she's doing well academically.

As you've said, if you can easily cut her off completely from your life, why don't just stop chatting with her through WhatsApp instead? If you have anything to tell her, call her and pass the info.

Also, it is normal for her to find more interesting people, you should understand that except you're gradually falling inlove with her.

If truly you're just looking out for her, more grease to your elbow. Nice one!

Yeah you're right. perhaps she's found more interesting people. Good for her. But atleast she should reply me whenever I chat her up. Afterall I don't chat her up every day.


Sorry I didn't describe that part to you. She is not a wayward girl. If she was, I would have cut off ties with her a long time ago. Im of the streets so I know when a girl is doing **Bedmatics Stuffs**

KlausMichaelson:
I will try to make this Short and Simple.


She was a direct entry student who just got admitted into 200lvl and I was in 400level that year we met(2019). She packed in newly into my Lodge as a newbie(fresher). When I first saw her, I instantly took liking for her like a little sister. Her face was so innocent that I mistook her for a year one student. Why I took her like a Sister to me was cos of her stature; she looked small, and she wasn't my spec in a woman, and nature cheated her cos she looks like a teenager. It was after we got close that she revealed to me that she was a direct entry student and that I shouldn't see her as a kid that she was just 21.

One day, as if she could read my motives, she said to me in a joking manner "Why are you acting like an elder bro to me? Everytime you're commanding me to do this or do that". That's the truth. My intentions was to make her have an excellent starts in her result as a fresher in my school. I personally, I'm doing very academically and so I helped her with some teachings in some of her school works. I always come knocking at her door given her orders like "Wake up!" especially in the morning, "Keep that phone and read your book" whenever I'm in her room and so many others. Sometimes she can get annoyed but she really liked it tho. And she was good to me. She treated me well too by feeding me sometimes. She will even come to my door knocking "Come and eat b4 it gets cold". And I really felt good. She would even even allow me eat in the same plate with her. Mind you I have a girlfriend and she has a boyfriend too. Mine was a student but she never told me where her boyfriend stays. I always took her to night classes and all that. I really have no other intentions towards her other than helping her the best way I could. All these continued till I left for IT.

This year we met again and she was happy to happy to see me. Although she packed to a new place after she had some issues with her roommate. When we met she said she really missed me. And honestly I missed her too. Although we kept in touch by voice calls only.
We've been good friends all this while even tho she had made a whole lot of male friends after all this while which was expected anyways. She gave me food anytime I visited. She is very kind to me and vice versa.


**********The Problem********
Why does she not Chat with me on Whatsapp?? Are you wondering why??
This issue might ruin our relationship.

For instance;

I chat her up when we are both online

Me: Hi Ma'am. (10am)

She: Hello Sir (10:15am)

Me: How have you been?(10:16am)

.......No reply till probably God knows when.


This is not funny to me. It's so annoying. There was a time I had some important issue to discuss with her, I had no credit, so I came online. She was online at that moment but didn't reply me. I got annoyed and I didn't convey the info to her again. I wanted us to discuss about the day we can go for night class of which she has been bugging me about. We couldn't go for night class again Simply because she snubbed my Messages. Later on she will tell me that I didn't keep to my promise again on the phone. That I should please help her. In my mind I'll be like "But you snubbed me on Whatsapp"


Please can anyone tell me why she does this?? Why does she not reply me. She only sends me "Happy New month*, *Happy Sunday* and the likes. Even when I reply, she won't reply back. She only calls. Only call. She called me the other day asking about my well-being. But I'm not ok with it. I'm egocentric, only if she knows it. Stuff like that pisses me off. A girl I feel should consider me an important person in her life should not snub me except I'm not important to her.


Please if only you can feel the emotions in the paragraphs I've written, give me an advice on why she behaves that way. I can simply block her cos it's annoying (I cut away anything that kills my joy) but I always remember the promise I made to myself concerning her; to help her academically. It's really helping her cos she doing well too. I want our friendship to continue but her behavior on WhatsApp is not really helping matter. There are important I would have loved to tell her.
The other day, I told her about a business I intend starting when school resumes and all she could reply is with the Ok Emoji. Can you imagine??

Or am I not important to her anymore??

I think the ladies should be in a better position to answer my questions. Guys are also welcomed. Thanks


Modified: She is very pretty in her own way, but I never for once, did anything romantic with her. Never! And she knows it

is like something is playing with ur brain abi? u are not dating her and you expect her to give u her full attention, mr ego, if someone does what you dont like to you, let them know instead of dying in silent...U are just here hurting urself

Mtewwww. Mr. School Father. Let her be, stop chasing and checking up on her/her academy performance, and stop trying to set her straight like a strict father/guardian. She is old enough to know what she wants. This time around, let her be the one to come to you if she needs your help. Maintain your distance.

If you see her next time, you both can exchange normal greetings, but don't start up any conversation except she starts one, and don't try to maintain the conversation; in fact, keep it as brief as possible. The same applies to text messages. Simply stop caring. If she asks you in person (or online) why you no longer care or have time for her, simply say "I am busy" and go your way. Handle this advice wisely with discretion.

Newcreature2020:

This is your problem sir



You are bossing her and she isn't cool with it,stop bossing her,and engage in meaningful conversations with her,apply the funny and cocky approach in your conversations, google it for more info. Then stop eating food in her house,cos u can't be a boss and still eat her food like her son.


PS; Hope you are born again? cos Jesus is coming soon.

She likes that Bossy part of me. It makes her sit up. Atleast she made this known to me at some point.

I should stop eating her food?? Well I don't have time to cook delicious and well cooked food like that Or Will you feed me if stops feeding me??

KlausMichaelson:


Yeah you're right. perhaps she's found more interesting people. Good for her. But atleast she should reply me whenever I chat her up. Afterall I don't chat her up every day.


Sorry I didn't describe that part to you. She is not a wayward girl. If she was, I would have cut off ties with her a long time ago. Im of the streets so I know when a girl is doing **Bedmatics Stuffs**

Ignore her totally, including when you two run into each other. Tho i doubt if you have that kind of ability cos you sound like one of the famous nice guys on earth from your write up.

Just ignore her and concentrate on other things and let her start wondering what she did wrong.

Simps

KlausMichaelson:


She likes that Bossy part of me. It makes her sit up. Atleast she made this known to me at some point.

I should stop eating her food?? Well I don't have time to cook delicious and well cooked food like that Or Will you feed me if stops feeding me??

Stop deceiving yourself, you think you are like a boss to her but you are making it seem like you can't do without her food. Maybe that's a fact she's already aware of and she knows for a fact that she can take you for granted. How many minutes does it take to cook if you can't afford to visit restaurants for delicious meals.

OP....Grow up!!


You are not mature and you want to go and resume elder brother's responsibilities till you fall in love with a little girl.....


I hope your poor girlfriend is aware that you've abandoned your feelings for on another girl that has her own boyfriend....

With your low budget ego and pride, you want somebody's daughter to take you like an important person in her life....

tundchip2:
Simps

I'm not a simp. Klaus Michaelson isn't a simp. He is egocentric too

KlausMichaelson:


Yeah you're right. perhaps she's found more interesting people. Good for her. But atleast she should reply me whenever I chat her up. Afterall I don't chat her up every day.


Sorry I didn't describe that part to you. She is not a wayward girl. If she was, I would have cut off ties with her a long time ago. Im of the streets so I know when a girl is doing **Bedmatics Stuffs**

Awwn, such a decent guy...

Kudos!

Decimus:
Ignore her totally, including when you two run into each other. Tho i doubt if you have that kind of ability cos you sound like one of the famous nice guys on earth from your write up.

Just ignore her and concentrate on other things and let her start wondering what she did wrong.

I appreciate your advice. Thanks a lot

op u have time o
let the babe be
she has gotten another guy

XXXXTENTACION:
Story for the Gods




you are not a celebrity everybody can not like you move on.

Yeah you are right. I'll just have to move on. I owe her nothing afterall

Decimus:
Stop deceiving yourself, you think you are like a boss to her but you are making it seem like you can't do without her food. Maybe that's a fact she's already aware of and she knows for a fact that she can take you for granted. How many minutes does it take to cook if you can't afford to visit restaurants for delicious meals.

I consider the realest so far. She may think I only care about her food.

Lols I can afford the restaurants but it's once in a while.

CokeBar:


Awwn, such a decent guy...

Kudos!

You're being Sarcastic and sound more ironical to me I guess. Anyways thanks for your advice, I appreciate.

KlausMichaelson:



You're being Sarcastic and sound more ironical to me I guess. Anyways thanks for your advice, I appreciate.

Nah, why would be sarcastic? You're a nice guy if you do all that... no long talks.

KlausMichaelson:



I consider the realest so far. She may think I only care about her food.

Lols I can afford the restaurants but it's once in a while.

She's already too comfortable that's why. She knows no matter what she does, you'll always come through for her. Just wake her up. If she calls you to come and eat, just tell her you have no appetite or that the last one you ate gave you some stomach trouble.

if you like the babe, just tell her straight away, babe's likes straight forward guys, try and ask her why she don't reply your messages on WhatsApp perhaps that will help, you never know, I happens to fall in her shoes in the sense that I don't like wasting my time, chatting with people both on WhatsApp and Facebook apart from my wife, the rest of the people, I prefer calling them from time to time, I can't give equal attention to everybody except when it matters.

KlausMichaelson:




Yeah you are right. I'll just have to move on. I owe her nothing afterall

You don't sound like you mean this
Cos you were/are catching feelings already
You better be careful before you fall in a midget's trap

KlausMichaelson:
I will try to make this Short and Simple.


She was a direct entry student who just got admitted into 200lvl and I was in 400level that year we met(2019). She packed in newly into my Lodge as a newbie(fresher). When I first saw her, I instantly took liking for her like a little sister. Her face was so innocent that I mistook her for a year one student. Why I took her like a Sister to me was cos of her stature; she looked small, and she wasn't my spec in a woman, and nature cheated her cos she looks like a teenager. It was after we got close that she revealed to me that she was a direct entry student and that I shouldn't see her as a kid that she was just 21.

One day, as if she could read my motives, she said to me in a joking manner "Why are you acting like an elder bro to me? Everytime you're commanding me to do this or do that". That's the truth. My intentions was to make her have an excellent starts in her result as a fresher in my school. I personally, I'm doing very academically and so I helped her with some teachings in some of her school works. I always come knocking at her door given her orders like "Wake up!" especially in the morning, "Keep that phone and read your book" whenever I'm in her room and so many others. Sometimes she can get annoyed but she really liked it tho. And she was good to me. She treated me well too by feeding me sometimes. She will even come to my door knocking "Come and eat b4 it gets cold". And I really felt good. She would even even allow me eat in the same plate with her. Mind you I have a girlfriend and she has a boyfriend too. Mine was a student but she never told me where her boyfriend stays. I always took her to night classes and all that. I really have no other intentions towards her other than helping her the best way I could. All these continued till I left for IT.

This year we met again and she was happy to happy to see me. Although she packed to a new place after she had some issues with her roommate. When we met she said she really missed me. And honestly I missed her too. Although we kept in touch by voice calls only.
We've been good friends all this while even tho she had made a whole lot of male friends after all this while which was expected anyways. She gave me food anytime I visited. She is very kind to me and vice versa.


**********The Problem********
Why does she not Chat with me on Whatsapp?? Are you wondering why??
This issue might ruin our relationship.

For instance;

I chat her up when we are both online

Me: Hi Ma'am. (10am)

She: Hello Sir (10:15am)

Me: How have you been?(10:16am)

.......No reply till probably God knows when.


This is not funny to me. It's so annoying. There was a time I had some important issue to discuss with her, I had no credit, so I came online. She was online at that moment but didn't reply me. I got annoyed and I didn't convey the info to her again. I wanted us to discuss about the day we can go for night class of which she has been bugging me about. We couldn't go for night class again Simply because she snubbed my Messages. Later on she will tell me that I didn't keep to my promise again on the phone. That I should please help her. In my mind I'll be like "But you snubbed me on Whatsapp"


Please can anyone tell me why she does this?? Why does she not reply me. She only sends me "Happy New month*, *Happy Sunday* and the likes. Even when I reply, she won't reply back. She only calls. Only call. She called me the other day asking about my well-being. But I'm not ok with it. I'm egocentric, only if she knows it. Stuff like that pisses me off. A girl I feel should consider me an important person in her life should not snub me except I'm not important to her.


Please if only you can feel the emotions in the paragraphs I've written, give me an advice on why she behaves that way. I can simply block her cos it's annoying (I cut away anything that kills my joy) but I always remember the promise I made to myself concerning her; to help her academically. It's really helping her cos she doing well too. I want our friendship to continue but her behavior on WhatsApp is not really helping matter. There are important I would have loved to tell her.
The other day, I told her about a business I intend starting when school resumes and all she could reply is with the Ok Emoji. Can you imagine??

Or am I not important to her anymore??

I think the ladies should be in a better position to answer my questions. Guys are also welcomed. Thanks


Modified: She is very pretty in her own way, but I never for once, did anything romantic with her. Never! And she knows it

..have u ever asked her y...she's behaving this way
U already av feelings for her that's y is hurting u so much

You are egocentric indeed. I can sense the paranoia and self-centeredness in your post. I'll tell you to move on, but that's a difficult choice for someone with an overbloated ego. Although there are positive sides to your being around her, case in point her good grades but can you for once stop being too available? There is a thing about value and availability. Just so you know brother, occurrences like this are common to folks in the friendzone of which you've gladly ushered yourself into and comfortably. I can bet my brains when you guys resume she's going to switch attitude back to the nice girl you once knew as a result of the benefits. As harsh as it sounds you have a defined value in her life and that is why you're still getting the little attention you're hardly appreciating. She measures your value by the academic assistance you render to her and right now, you're both out of the "academic environment". Worry not my friend for you're to expect the opposite of your "supposed" puzzling situation should you both resume.
For now you must ignore her and act as though she doesn't exist. That way, as a result of that little distance you can start regaining the "bogus" respect she had for you.

Phenomenal16:
..have u ever asked her y...she's behaving this way
U already av feelings for her that's y is hurting u so much

I don't have any iota of that kind of feelings for her. It only Hurts to see someone who you think considers you important snubs you on WhatsApp. It's painful.
It's just like I can't get her attention except I call her, and this doesn't make sense to me. Only that she already made me promise her that I will take her on some of her difficult courses when school resumes and attend night classes together. That's the only thing pulling me back from cutting her off.

KlausMichaelson:




Yeah you are right. I'll just have to move on. I owe her nothing afterall

Bravo!!!!!


thats the spirit.