Hey sweetie,
                     You don't need to burder men, it out of Jealousy see people don't like to see something good around us, seeing them get them mad.. What you need to confirm from your guy is the truth, if he has things to do with them, and if he says know.. Well put all those people under your hand-pit and move on okay..

But learn to take things slowly and don't be harsh on him too.

Sup luxoire,
   Have you heard this song before titled " never mind them, that people will always keep talking" so don't mind the girls, they are just jealous because the guy loves you but girlfriend, you have to be on your guard because, this girls can do anything to spoil your own relationship with the guy. Also, you need to avoid listening to gossip from people about your man, hello everyone has a past , you had a past before you met your man and moved on, so likewise, he had a past, past is past and you guys are together because you are looking forward to something better in the future. So forget about the losers that are jealous and want u to dump the guy and you be surprise that the very moment you break up with the guy, the so called african gbegorun girls will be the one chasing your man. So just play calm and enjoy your man and surprise the so called jealous babes by inviting them to ur wedding when it happens. You go show them that you be real naija babe ok. u came and u conquered the guy's heart for you only and no-one else.

Them girls are just hating that the guy that hurt them is now really in love. They are trying to make you hate him so he wont be happy or something like that.

Dont listen to those girls. As long as your man aint done nothing to make u suspicious you are good to go.

Then again, leave your left eye open oo. Shine am well well!.

awww@ disney..i know dat song " neva mind, da mouth dat sayz bad things will say the good thing, don't listen 2 dem den dat they will talk and talk demselves into trouble"..itz sounds beta in IGBO..well disney said it all..itz all jealousy cuz he dumped dem..itz alwayz like dat..observe da dude well and follow ur heart ..good luck sista

Word

thx to all of u for all ur support and kind words, i guess u all have a point, quite frankly hes been nothing but loving to me, and i guess i will just 'follow my heart' and let ppl keep talkin...thx for all the advice

[b]ANYMORE SUPPORT IS WELCOME..thx ppl

Much as I would say that they are jealous, I have one piece of advice for you, expect anything from him.

@SNAZZYDAWN
HABA!
FORGET THEM AND STICK WITH HIM!

snazzydawn:

Much as I would say that they are jealous, I have one piece of advice for you, expect anything from him.

I'm with snazzydawn on this one.

Bolarge:

I'm with snazzydawn on this one.

me too all the way, expect him to do and undo.

Choose today whom ye want to follow - ur boyfriend or strangers!!!!!!

snazzydawn:

Much as I would say that they are jealous, I have one piece of advice for you, expect anything from him.

word!

the answer lies deep inside u. u gotta search for it. All the best!

Much as I would say that they are jealous, I have one piece of advice for you, expect anything from him

not a truer word spoken girl, well said.

Lux,
your story is similar to what i went through once and it turned out the people telling he was a player were very very right. Not saying leave him, just be careful. Enjoy the relationship and i pray he is the one and that he has truly turned the corner with you.

@Topic, maybe it's true about your guy. But you also gotta be smart enough to understand the situation. sometimes it might be rumours, but u also got to think of the negative side so u won't end up gettin hurt. try investigation, if it's a waste of time then trash him, for he might as well be a waste of time,
good L.

I will advice you to ignore them, they are enemy of progress.

nobody in this fxxing world says the damn truth about themselvz,
nObOdY!!!!

Do a lil investigating urself n satisfy urself he is/not cheating on u n tell dem haters to go 2 bl@$es!

Pity.just a pity

once a dog, always a dog.

i will grant that some of them truly change, but most dont.

i had this neighbour during service who was insatiable for anything with nkiruka and azuka. even after i'd met his 'fiancee' he was still making passes @ me. the annoying thing is he's a decent human when he isn't trying to reap where he didn't sow. and in the midst of all this, he had a girl who had gotten preggie for him. undeniably the baby was his.

his stupid girlfriend refused to believe that her ass of a boyfriend hunted the girl down and got her preggie. she insisted that the girl seduced him, who had confessed to the girl's neighbours (asst girlfriend lived much farther) that his interest was genuine and he wanted marriage. only for madam to show up and for him to deny ever proposing. i still regret that boys didnt give him the beating of his life (they nearly did, but no one wants nysc carry over, abi?)

girl, be very careful. the stupid girlfriend refused to believe all the guy had said about her not being his choice anymore, as well as warnings that the guy had been after 80% of the females in his LG. i'm pretty sure that even if he does get married to the idiot, he will continue his philandering ways after he's gotten over the thrill of being married.

this post is too long. just shine ur eyes.

A leopard they say never changes its spots, he might hv changed now for your sake, but his past attitude will crop up one day, u guys hv only been dating for wht a month belive me dear thats piece of cake for a retired player thats if he his retired. nd those other girls are not only aiming at but d guy as well cos of wht he did to them in d past. thats why one has to be careful wht one does in the past so that it doesnt come bk to haunt them. his past is haunting him it has noting to do wth u dear. all d best.

Once a playa, always a playa. You'd be a fool to expect any preferential treatment unless ur tits are made of gold.

Ignore the rumour mongers dearie but try and investigate on who he really is.Gdluck_{Most philanderers appear so real in d beginning}

just close ur ears to these gossips,they bring down a lot of relationships,

sweetheart,don't bother urself over nothing, aiight
just keep up with all ur doings n pls ignore them all
n stick (super glue) to ur guy, aiight

Topic is too old!

luxoire:
Just got out of a really good relationship that turned sour/hurtful..it was dragging on since last summer, but i finally decided to move on, now im with this guy...though it seems too soon, im in it for all the right reasons, the guy is everything i want in a guy plus he pampers me and spoils me, and im into him.But it seems his past has come back to haunt him..he's extremely good looking, and has never really cared much for any of his chick's feelings..so he used to be a bit of a stern/heartbreaker..only now, ppl keep running to me and telling me all sort of stories about his past, i know he's really down for me and wants something serious, but i cant help thinking or wondering/doubting whether im just another player on his chess-borad, or how long b4 he starts hopping around on me (if ever)..this is killing me, i've talked to him and he's reassured me time without number, i am reall stern on him & i almost left him at one point, but hes cried a few times and pleaded & i reconsidered, just cos its all been talk from other girls. all his family & friends know about me (though we've only been together about a month) but sometimes/everytime we spend a good weekend together, something/some girl just comes out of his past and sends me mails and msgs about his ways...some of these girls he had nothing with, that is the reaosn for their hurt...i dont know if i'm being too paranoid, or my past is affecting my future...we have agreed to take things real slow, but u know african women and their poisonous, tongues of gossip, they wont let me rest, its one story after the other..am i being too harsh on him? and passing judgment too soon (cos he has not done anything to make me suspiscious), am falling prey to these negative comments around me when i really shouldn't be?

You are correct,its your past that affecting your future,what goes around comes around,karma is a b!tch,its now payback time,you will surely have a taste of your own medicine...I hope he will Bleep and dump you sooner or later...b!tch.

disney:
Sup luxoire,
   Have you heard this song before titled " never mind them, that people will always keep talking" so don't mind the girls, they are just jealous because the guy loves you but girlfriend, you have to be on your guard because, this girls can do anything to spoil your own relationship with the guy. Also, you need to avoid listening to gossip from people about your man, hello everyone has a past , you had a past before you met your man and moved on, so likewise, he had a past, past is past and you guys are together because you are looking forward to something better in the future. So forget about the losers that are jealous and want u to dump the guy and you be surprise that the very moment you break up with the guy, the so called african gbegorun girls will be the one chasing your man. So just play calm and enjoy your man and surprise the so called jealous babes by inviting them to ur wedding when it happens. You go show them that you be real naija babe ok. u came and u conquered the guy's heart for you only and no-one else.

you b!tches will never learn,no wonder you all are called fishbrains...wedding invitation ke,foolish things.

Eurphoria:

not a truer word spoken girl, well said.

Lux,
your story is similar to what i went through once and it turned out the people telling he was a player were very very right. Not saying leave him, just be careful. Enjoy the relationship and i pray he is the one and that he has truly turned the corner with you.

you ladies will not cease to amaze me with your foolishness...it served you right is an understatement.

Busta:
Topic is too old!

yeah,just like your busts.