| Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by Ephemzy1752: 9:45pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Adunny07:
Please I just really need someone to talk to about this and I will like your candid advise..
So since my older sister got married I always come to her house and spend few weeks or months and go back. Al·through my university days, whenever school is not in session I always come down here to spend time with her and her husband.
Truth be told the husband is a very nice man and has helped me always financially, anytime I come here once my sister welcomes me the first day like this, from the second day she leaves all her house chores for me, I mean everything and she just relaxes. At times I get really tired and don't even feel like doing those chores but because most times when I come visiting she is heavy ( pregnant) so most times I just help her...
Thing is my sister doesn't appreciate all my effort, most times she complains self its the hubby that tells her that I am hardworking and at least she should give me credit for all I do.
Now the reason why am writing this is because am done with service (NYSC) and as it is its like I have to stay in her house because the state where she stays has more job opportunities compared to where our parents live... She stays in Abuja...I have been down with malaria for few days now and I have been on treatment, just because I can't do certain house chores because am not too strong my sis started complaining saying I can't be living in her house and be waking up whenever i like... Mind you I was always the first that wakes up when I wasn't sick, in fact I will wash the dishes, sweep, mop daily, cook food, bath her children and all those things.
The only thing she does is to bath her youngest baby, but now because for these few days she has been doing those work I do daily she is already saying she can't tolerate me sleeping and not waking up on time.
My question is this, does she have the right to be so angry at me because she is doing her house chores? I feel its her house and so she doing her house chores herself shouldn't be a problem since am not too strong to help her do it. She herself just sweep and doesn't mop, but she expects me to sweep and mop everyday.
Should i just go back to my parents house and get a job there? Me renting my own house is not an option because am a lady and am just 22...
Please i need you guys advice, what can I do? you should try and tolerate her and as you're tolerating her be looking for an alternative place to stay and continue the job hunt . |
| Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by Obas101(m): 9:46pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Adunny07:
Please I just really need someone to talk to about this and I will like your candid advise..
So since my older sister got married I always come to her house and spend few weeks or months and go back. Al·through my university days, whenever school is not in session I always come down here to spend time with her and her husband.
Truth be told the husband is a very nice man and has helped me always financially, anytime I come here once my sister welcomes me the first day like this, from the second day she leaves all her house chores for me, I mean everything and she just relaxes. At times I get really tired and don't even feel like doing those chores but because most times when I come visiting she is heavy ( pregnant) so most times I just help her...
Thing is my sister doesn't appreciate all my effort, most times she complains self its the hubby that tells her that I am hardworking and at least she should give me credit for all I do.
Now the reason why am writing this is because am done with service (NYSC) and as it is its like I have to stay in her house because the state where she stays has more job opportunities compared to where our parents live... She stays in Abuja...I have been down with malaria for few days now and I have been on treatment, just because I can't do certain house chores because am not too strong my sis started complaining saying I can't be living in her house and be waking up whenever i like... Mind you I was always the first that wakes up when I wasn't sick, in fact I will wash the dishes, sweep, mop daily, cook food, bath her children and all those things.
The only thing she does is to bath her youngest baby, but now because for these few days she has been doing those work I do daily she is already saying she can't tolerate me sleeping and not waking up on time.
My question is this, does she have the right to be so angry at me because she is doing her house chores? I feel its her house and so she doing her house chores herself shouldn't be a problem since am not too strong to help her do it. She herself just sweep and doesn't mop, but she expects me to sweep and mop everyday.
Should i just go back to my parents house and get a job there? Me renting my own house is not an option because am a lady and am just 22...
Please i need you guys advice, what can I do? I understand you perfectly as I have experienced something similar. DM let's connect and make plans regarding opportunities and accommodation... I also stay in abj |
| Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by ghettochild(m): 9:47pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Adunny07:
Please I just really need someone to talk to about this and I will like your candid advise..
So since my older sister got married I always come to her house and spend few weeks or months and go back. Al·through my university days, whenever school is not in session I always come down here to spend time with her and her husband.
Truth be told the husband is a very nice man and has helped me always financially, anytime I come here once my sister welcomes me the first day like this, from the second day she leaves all her house chores for me, I mean everything and she just relaxes. At times I get really tired and don't even feel like doing those chores but because most times when I come visiting she is heavy ( pregnant) so most times I just help her...
Thing is my sister doesn't appreciate all my effort, most times she complains self its the hubby that tells her that I am hardworking and at least she should give me credit for all I do.
Now the reason why am writing this is because am done with service (NYSC) and as it is its like I have to stay in her house because the state where she stays has more job opportunities compared to where our parents live... She stays in Abuja...I have been down with malaria for few days now and I have been on treatment, just because I can't do certain house chores because am not too strong my sis started complaining saying I can't be living in her house and be waking up whenever i like... Mind you I was always the first that wakes up when I wasn't sick, in fact I will wash the dishes, sweep, mop daily, cook food, bath her children and all those things.
The only thing she does is to bath her youngest baby, but now because for these few days she has been doing those work I do daily she is already saying she can't tolerate me sleeping and not waking up on time.
My question is this, does she have the right to be so angry at me because she is doing her house chores? I feel its her house and so she doing her house chores herself shouldn't be a problem since am not too strong to help her do it. She herself just sweep and doesn't mop, but she expects me to sweep and mop everyday.
Should i just go back to my parents house and get a job there? Me renting my own house is not an option because am a lady and am just 22...
Please i need you guys advice, what can I do? I hate when people say am just 22 n I can't live alone... U shd just say u don't have money to rent a place.. Your mates are living alone.. So u r saying if u find urself abroad.. You will be looking for where to stay free.. Ori e o tie pe sha!!!!! Bleep u... If u can't cope go back to ur parents n be apply for jobs online. Google jobs in Abuja.. When u get one.. Tell d company to provide accommodation for u since u can't live alone?? Ode oshi.. I don support from the start but as I see that statement of I can't live alone am 22..my head spark... Since u too young to live alone.. Go live with ur parents n stop complaining bout ur aunty enslaving u. And whats stops u from telling her if she can't do her chores herself just cause u r sick. Then u r ready to go back home. Afterall am sure ur parents knows she gets lazy when u r there |
| Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by tomdon(m): 9:47pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Leave her place |
| Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by saintruky(m): 9:49pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
I can accommodate u till u get a job n ready to settle on ur own |
| Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by Nobody: 9:50pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
oluwaseyi0:
I'm sure you haven't been through such
Have you have to watch plate 3 times a day? Plate used by the whole family, then cook, mop, sweep, take care of kids, watch family clothes and repeat some of the above more than once a day, waking up very early as if you are still attending secondary school, be the last to sleep? And the guess what - the cycle repeat tomorrow, and the day after and the day after... I can bet you haven't
You literally get exhausted from doing nothing but house chores then make she leave, no one is holding her back. Make she No enter town, go find job make she stay for house every day... |
| Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by ibinaboonline: 9:51pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
My advice: don't complain. Na so life be. Pay the price and get what you want. E get as e be. |
| Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by Drizzy5001(m): 9:51pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
This is one of the reasons why I hate visiting relatives, and my parents are always first to suggest for me to visit them when ever I travel.
I rather stay in a hotel when I'm done I go. |
| Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by Nobody: 9:54pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Adunny07:
Please I just really need someone to talk to about this and I will like your candid advise..
So since my older sister got married I always come to her house and spend few weeks or months and go back. Al·through my university days, whenever school is not in session I always come down here to spend time with her and her husband.
Truth be told the husband is a very nice man and has helped me always financially, anytime I come here once my sister welcomes me the first day like this, from the second day she leaves all her house chores for me, I mean everything and she just relaxes. At times I get really tired and don't even feel like doing those chores but because most times when I come visiting she is heavy ( pregnant) so most times I just help her...
Thing is my sister doesn't appreciate all my effort, most times she complains self its the hubby that tells her that I am hardworking and at least she should give me credit for all I do.
Now the reason why am writing this is because am done with service (NYSC) and as it is its like I have to stay in her house because the state where she stays has more job opportunities compared to where our parents live... She stays in Abuja...I have been down with malaria for few days now and I have been on treatment, just because I can't do certain house chores because am not too strong my sis started complaining saying I can't be living in her house and be waking up whenever i like... Mind you I was always the first that wakes up when I wasn't sick, in fact I will wash the dishes, sweep, mop daily, cook food, bath her children and all those things.
The only thing she does is to bath her youngest baby, but now because for these few days she has been doing those work I do daily she is already saying she can't tolerate me sleeping and not waking up on time.
My question is this, does she have the right to be so angry at me because she is doing her house chores? I feel its her house and so she doing her house chores herself shouldn't be a problem since am not too strong to help her do it. She herself just sweep and doesn't mop, but she expects me to sweep and mop everyday.
Should i just go back to my parents house and get a job there? Me renting my own house is not an option because am a lady and am just 22...
Please i need you guys advice, what can I do? Sorry woh, but some women are just wired like that, I remember when I went to stay with my bros for a few months, his wife na something else, personally I don't really mind chores....BUT THAT WOMAN even wakes person up from sleep to open the GATE for her when she's going to work, SOMETING EVEN MY BROS NEVER DOES. One day she pissed me off, I went straight and told her, I was no there to open doors for her when she's going to work. "Never disturb my sleep again" . Na so drama unfold woh  . She was like, after all the food I dey give you everyday. I just said, NEVER GIVE ME FOOD AGAIN! eat it alone & open ur gate next time. I raised storm dat day ehn... Even elders on both side of the family got involved Such fun memories the woman still dey fear me till dis day. Don't judge woh, I was a teenager then, very hot blooded 2 Likes 
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| Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by MrFly(m): 9:56pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
find out if u were adopted. Theres a question mark hanging over u |
| Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by tomdon(m): 9:56pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Adunny07:
Lol sis....I thought am the only last born suffering in my house o...before they got married naso so send send....now again wey them don marry na nanny and work I dy help them do...maybe when I get married I won't live close to them lol...it is well o...even now that you are married they don't want you to rest....God will help us. I have a last born but she's up to the task. Take up a career or business and focus. Be better than them, their eyes go clear |
| Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by Lotusflowerbomb: 9:59pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
SpecialAgent:
Sorry woh, but some women are just wired like that, I remember when I went to stay with my bros for a few months, his wife na something else, personally I don't really mind chores....BUT THAT WOMAN even wakes person up from sleep to open the GATE for her when she's going to work, SOMETING EVEN MY BROS NEVER DOES. One day she pissed me off, I went straight and told her, I was no there to open doors for her when she's going to work. "Never disturb my sleep again" . Na so drama unfold woh .
She was like, after all the food I dey give you everyday.
I just said, NEVER GIVE ME FOOD AGAIN! eat it alone & open ur gate next time. I raised storm dat day ehn... Even elders on both side of the family got involved
Such fun memories the woman still dey fear me till dis day. Don't judge woh, I was a teenager then, very hot blooded Lool  |
| Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by humilitypays(m): 10:00pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Adunny07:
Please I just really need someone to talk to about this and I will like your candid advise..
So since my older sister got married I always come to her house and spend few weeks or months and go back. Al·through my university days, whenever school is not in session I always come down here to spend time with her and her husband.
Truth be told the husband is a very nice man and has helped me always financially, anytime I come here once my sister welcomes me the first day like this, from the second day she leaves all her house chores for me, I mean everything and she just relaxes. At times I get really tired and don't even feel like doing those chores but because most times when I come visiting she is heavy ( pregnant) so most times I just help her...
Thing is my sister doesn't appreciate all my effort, most times she complains self its the hubby that tells her that I am hardworking and at least she should give me credit for all I do.
Now the reason why am writing this is because am done with service (NYSC) and as it is its like I have to stay in her house because the state where she stays has more job opportunities compared to where our parents live... She stays in Abuja...I have been down with malaria for few days now and I have been on treatment, just because I can't do certain house chores because am not too strong my sis started complaining saying I can't be living in her house and be waking up whenever i like... Mind you I was always the first that wakes up when I wasn't sick, in fact I will wash the dishes, sweep, mop daily, cook food, bath her children and all those things.
The only thing she does is to bath her youngest baby, but now because for these few days she has been doing those work I do daily she is already saying she can't tolerate me sleeping and not waking up on time.
My question is this, does she have the right to be so angry at me because she is doing her house chores? I feel its her house and so she doing her house chores herself shouldn't be a problem since am not too strong to help her do it. She herself just sweep and doesn't mop, but she expects me to sweep and mop everyday.
Should i just go back to my parents house and get a job there? Me renting my own house is not an option because am a lady and am just 22...
Please i need you guys advice, what can I do? What your sister is doing is a normal thing majority of Nigerian ladies do once they are married.....and I can bet with you that you will do just same once you get married. The truth is, it seems some kind of evil spirit of selfishness, wickedness and inconsiderateness do jump into Nigerian ladies once they marry. If not that their husbands are usually the ones footing the family bills, Nigerian ladies will be fighting their husbands for not doing house chores before they wake up.....and that is why I pity guys who married ladies footing most of the family's bills or sharing it 50-50 because their respect for the man is usually very low. So my advice is, endure until you secure the job you came for.....it is a normal thing with all Nigerian ladies, except very few inconsequential number of them that are a bit different......the rest are like that and you op will also be like your sister once you marry and start to maltreat every family member, maid, house help, domestic staff and any other person below you financially/economically. So just as peak milk usually advertise, wickedness/selfishness is in you Nigerian ladies, so deal with it. I am glad she is your blood sister, so bear it because who she is now is who you will become in future once you marry  1 Like |
| Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by showafrica(m): 10:03pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
oluwaseyi0:
My story look a little bit like yours
Those days of my ND whenever I visit my aunt, I automatically assume the role of the one to do house chores her kids are lazy, as I continue to grow older it doesn't sit well with me, during my HND I learnt photography and start doing wait and get photos while staying with a friend, immediately I start earning small changes my dependency on her greatly reduced hence I don't visit often, before and during my service year I learnt programming and got a job immediately after service
I am grateful for all my aunt and her husband has done for me but the truth is I WON'T ACHIEVE ANYTHING IF I CONTINUE TO STAY WITH THEM MY MIND WILL BE MORE FIXATED ON COMPLETING A NEVER ENDING CYCLE OF HOUSE CHORES RATHER THAN THINKING ABOUT MY CAREER
it's very unfortunate that that's a typical African family treatment
@adunni07 you are simply are adopted house girl and that is not going to change any time soon, no one is gonna let a passive slave free just like that, fighting her is a no no, it is a war you will never win but you will come out severely wounded, she will paint you as ingrate, your parents will rather support her, if you fight her her husband will rather support her and worse of all you will loose the gains and comfort her house bring
Your best bet is to find something doing asap, if it's to learn a vocational training, intensify your job hunting and act grown up, let her see you as busy, don't let her always see you as available, immediately you get a reasonable job your best bet is leaving her house
Best answer so far and talking from experience. |
| Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by greypencils: 10:04pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
The truth is most elder sisters are that way to their younger sisters. My elder sister was exactly that way to my younger sister. My parents did not help matters. Yours won't either. The best bet is to do the little you can do, stomach the insults, look for a job and find a way out of there as soon as possible. If you don't get a job soon, move back home. Your sister might be pregnant, yess, still you have your own life to live. Live it. |
| Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by whitemand4(m): 10:06pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Thank God my mind is now at peace. While reading, I was expecting something like "I and my sister's husband have been having ********** secretly" Anyway, my advice for you is 1. leave their house if the pressure and pains is unbearable (only you knows where the shoe pinches better than NLanders). 2. "Rough it" as it's a matter of time. Who knows if something Golden is lying ahead of you and your sis only acting the way to chase you away inadvertently. May God see you through. He no easy. There is bad in good and their is good in bad but takes God's wisdom to decern aptly. |
| Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by DLuciano: 10:07pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Adunny07:
Please I just really need someone to talk to about this and I will like your candid advise I took time to read your lengthy episode. I don't know if you are a male or female, but you appear to be an arrogant girl, full of grudges and sentiments. I guess you don't keep a good relationship with your uncle's wife, lest she should be able to know of your illhealth and how severe, if at all. A couple that has been keeping you throughout your school days, uptil your post NYSC has suddenly turned a problem to you. I think you have not shown any gratitude by your attitude and thinking, more so when staying at that location is advantageous, won't you humble yourself and tolerate her. Keep down your shoulders, if you calm down and exercise some patience and tolerance, after getting a job, you may as well start your your own life and become your own boss, but for now she is the boss and I have not seen any wrong with her. Be wise! Love. |
| Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by liveyourlife007(m): 10:12pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Hmmmmn. op, its gonna get worse. have this at the back of ur mind. i hope she does not get violent with you, like hitting you or something. it will get to the stage where she will accuse u of seducing her husband. just leave her house. the truth is she sees you as a potential threat. another thing is, please be close to God. He will make a way, where there seems to be no way. |
| Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by DLuciano: 10:15pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Adunny07:
Please I just really need someone to talk to about this and I will like your candid advise I took time to read your lengthy episode. I don't know if you are a male or female, but you appear to be an arrogant girl, full of grudges and sentiments. I guess you don't keep a good relationship with your elder sister, lest she should be able to know of your illhealth and how severe, if at all. A couple that has been keeping you throughout your school days, uptil your post NYSC has suddenly turned a problem to you. I think you have not shown any gratitude by your attitude and thinking, more so when staying at a location you know is advantageous, won't you humble yourself and tolerate her. Keep down your shoulders, if you calm down and exercise some patience and tolerance, after getting a job, you may as well start your your own life and become your own boss, but for now she is the boss and I have not seen any wrong with her. Be wise! Love. |
| Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by Nobody: 10:18pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Chummynoni:
you have a lazy sister. she will definitely kill you with chores. i pray u get a job on tym and leave her lazy ass alone. goodluck Lol! I tell you man. Very very Lazy thing. Using this younger one as a maid/househelp and forming disciplinarian. I pity OP shaa. Jus go and find your own space, and leave that your DUNG of a Sissy to face her Chores. |
| Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by LadySarah: 10:19pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
DLuciano:
I took time to read your lengthy episode. I don't know if you are a male or female, but you appear to be an arrogant girl, full of grudges and sentiments. I guess you don't keep a good relationship with your uncle's wife, lest she should be able to know of your illhealth and how severe, if at all. A couple that has been keeping you throughout your school days, uptil your post NYSC has suddenly turned a problem to you. I think you have not shown any gratitude by your attitude and thinking, more so when staying at that location is advantageous, won't you humble yourself and tolerate her. Keep down your shoulders, if you calm down and exercise some patience and tolerance, after getting a job, you may as well start your your own life and become your own boss, but for now she is the boss and I have not seen any wrong with her. Be wise! Love. So this one time she is sick she can't rest?whqt is w5ong in someone trying to recover from a sickness abstaining from chores. Tufiakwa gi! 1 Like |
| Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by Jamesbiodun(m): 10:19pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
go to your parents house and secure a good job and later rent an apartment you can afford |
| Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by mamato(f): 10:23pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Lol! Unlike me in those days when I used to pretend to be lazy, none of my aunties would like me to visit but if I eventually visits ehh, no body sends me on an errand because I was tagged a lazy girl. |
| Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by isax(m): 10:23pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Adunny07:
Please I just really need someone to talk to about this and I will like your candid advise..
So since my older sister got married I always come to her house and spend few weeks or months and go back. Al·through my university days, whenever school is not in session I always come down here to spend time with her and her husband.
Truth be told the husband is a very nice man and has helped me always financially, anytime I come here once my sister welcomes me the first day like this, from the second day she leaves all her house chores for me, I mean everything and she just relaxes. At times I get really tired and don't even feel like doing those chores but because most times when I come visiting she is heavy ( pregnant) so most times I just help her...
Thing is my sister doesn't appreciate all my effort, most times she complains self its the hubby that tells her that I am hardworking and at least she should give me credit for all I do.
Now the reason why am writing this is because am done with service (NYSC) and as it is its like I have to stay in her house because the state where she stays has more job opportunities compared to where our parents live... She stays in Abuja...I have been down with malaria for few days now and I have been on treatment, just because I can't do certain house chores because am not too strong my sis started complaining saying I can't be living in her house and be waking up whenever i like... Mind you I was always the first that wakes up when I wasn't sick, in fact I will wash the dishes, sweep, mop daily, cook food, bath her children and all those things.
The only thing she does is to bath her youngest baby, but now because for these few days she has been doing those work I do daily she is already saying she can't tolerate me sleeping and not waking up on time.
My question is this, does she have the right to be so angry at me because she is doing her house chores? I feel its her house and so she doing her house chores herself shouldn't be a problem since am not too strong to help her do it. She herself just sweep and doesn't mop, but she expects me to sweep and mop everyday.
Should i just go back to my parents house and get a job there? Me renting my own house is not an option because am a lady and am just 22...
Please i need you guys advice, what can I do? My sister you typed this epistle with which energy abeg  ?? Gaskiya you are not sick again. Abeg goan epp her till you find a favorable job. Its not matter of whether she has the right or left |
| Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by SirBen90: 10:33pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Living In Bondage: Breaking Free. My dear U need to break free!! |
| Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by IkeGod221(m): 10:36pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
oluwaseyi0:
My story look a little bit like yours
Those days of my ND whenever I visit my aunt, I automatically assume the role of the one to do house chores her kids are lazy, as I continue to grow older it doesn't sit well with me, during my HND I learnt photography and start doing wait and get photos while staying with a friend, immediately I start earning small changes my dependency on her greatly reduced hence I don't visit often, before and during my service year I learnt programming and got a job immediately after service
I am grateful for all my aunt and her husband has done for me but the truth is I WON'T ACHIEVE ANYTHING IF I CONTINUE TO STAY WITH THEM MY MIND WILL BE MORE FIXATED ON COMPLETING A NEVER ENDING CYCLE OF HOUSE CHORES RATHER THAN THINKING ABOUT MY CAREER
it's very unfortunate that that's a typical African family treatment
@adunni07 you are simply are adopted house girl and that is not going to change any time soon, no one is gonna let a passive slave free just like that, fighting her is a no no, it is a war you will never win but you will come out severely wounded, she will paint you as ingrate, your parents will rather support her, if you fight her her husband will rather support her and worse of all you will loose the gains and comfort her house bring
Your best bet is to find something doing asap, if it's to learn a vocational training, intensify your job hunting and act grown up, let her see you as busy, don't let her always see you as available, immediately you get a reasonable job your best bet is leaving her house
Please I want to learn programming, can u connect me to the person who taught you programming |
| Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by dheolexaone(f): 10:36pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
You can't feel other people's pain IF u have not been in pain!
I do feel ur pain and believe me, it's not only ur sister nor will it be d last that treat their blood like dt. It's like an automated Veto power.
Lemme take u down d lane a bit when I once lived wt my sister while I ws in school, same as what u experience, d only thing I don't do for her is sharing d oza room wt her husband.
She happens to send me on a biz errand and I had an accident on the way wt Okada on a tarred road. The money wt me got missing or was taken by sympathisers unknown to me, I related d whole story to her and she damn told me, " how could you have an accident without getting stained?" That I must cough out her money... Tears rolled down my eyes and dt was d last I shed because of her...
I moved on n left ...
Now she is d one calling me upandan like a real blood sister... Make yourself happy dear.
U can survive wtout her!
Get urself together n don't be traumatised living ur youthful age bcuz of ur sister's lazy ass!
U d best version of urself!
She will appreciate u later, when u no longer with her!
But never with her... 2 Likes |
| Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by Modarun(m): 10:38pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Adunny07:
Please I just really need someone to talk to about this and I will like your candid advise..
So since my older sister got married I always come to her house and spend few weeks or months and go back. Al·through my university days, whenever school is not in session I always come down here to spend time with her and her husband.
Truth be told the husband is a very nice man and has helped me always financially, anytime I come here once my sister welcomes me the first day like this, from the second day she leaves all her house chores for me, I mean everything and she just relaxes. At times I get really tired and don't even feel like doing those chores but because most times when I come visiting she is heavy ( pregnant) so most times I just help her...
Thing is my sister doesn't appreciate all my effort, most times she complains self its the hubby that tells her that I am hardworking and at least she should give me credit for all I do.
Now the reason why am writing this is because am done with service (NYSC) and as it is its like I have to stay in her house because the state where she stays has more job opportunities compared to where our parents live... She stays in Abuja...I have been down with malaria for few days now and I have been on treatment, just because I can't do certain house chores because am not too strong my sis started complaining saying I can't be living in her house and be waking up whenever i like... Mind you I was always the first that wakes up when I wasn't sick, in fact I will wash the dishes, sweep, mop daily, cook food, bath her children and all those things.
The only thing she does is to bath her youngest baby, but now because for these few days she has been doing those work I do daily she is already saying she can't tolerate me sleeping and not waking up on time.
My question is this, does she have the right to be so angry at me because she is doing her house chores? I feel its her house and so she doing her house chores herself shouldn't be a problem since am not too strong to help her do it. She herself just sweep and doesn't mop, but she expects me to sweep and mop everyday.
Should i just go back to my parents house and get a job there? Me renting my own house is not an option because am a lady and am just 22...
Please i need you guys advice, what can I do? Why are you complaining in somebody's house? If you cant live by there terms pack your bag and go back to yur parents house. if you want to stay then do whatever she wants you to do. Just 22 years and you are feeling entitled. Didnt you see girls in your school that ha e nothing and no one to take care of them that lived hand to mouth or thise that worked day jobs yet come to lectures with you? Walk across your street and see those girls your age who dont have any future but serving madam. Like i said if you cant stand the heat pack ur bag to your mam house. Beside if your sister is very mmean, staying away will teach your value. |
| Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by Modarun(m): 10:38pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Adunny07:
Please I just really need someone to talk to about this and I will like your candid advise..
So since my older sister got married I always come to her house and spend few weeks or months and go back. Al·through my university days, whenever school is not in session I always come down here to spend time with her and her husband.
Truth be told the husband is a very nice man and has helped me always financially, anytime I come here once my sister welcomes me the first day like this, from the second day she leaves all her house chores for me, I mean everything and she just relaxes. At times I get really tired and don't even feel like doing those chores but because most times when I come visiting she is heavy ( pregnant) so most times I just help her...
Thing is my sister doesn't appreciate all my effort, most times she complains self its the hubby that tells her that I am hardworking and at least she should give me credit for all I do.
Now the reason why am writing this is because am done with service (NYSC) and as it is its like I have to stay in her house because the state where she stays has more job opportunities compared to where our parents live... She stays in Abuja...I have been down with malaria for few days now and I have been on treatment, just because I can't do certain house chores because am not too strong my sis started complaining saying I can't be living in her house and be waking up whenever i like... Mind you I was always the first that wakes up when I wasn't sick, in fact I will wash the dishes, sweep, mop daily, cook food, bath her children and all those things.
The only thing she does is to bath her youngest baby, but now because for these few days she has been doing those work I do daily she is already saying she can't tolerate me sleeping and not waking up on time.
My question is this, does she have the right to be so angry at me because she is doing her house chores? I feel its her house and so she doing her house chores herself shouldn't be a problem since am not too strong to help her do it. She herself just sweep and doesn't mop, but she expects me to sweep and mop everyday.
Should i just go back to my parents house and get a job there? Me renting my own house is not an option because am a lady and am just 22...
Please i need you guys advice, what can I do? |
| Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by TruthinAction: 10:40pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Adunny07:
Please I just really need someone to talk to about this and I will like your candid advise..
So since my older sister got married I always come to her house and spend few weeks or months and go back. Al·through my university days, whenever school is not in session I always come down here to spend time with her and her husband.
Truth be told the husband is a very nice man and has helped me always financially, anytime I come here once my sister welcomes me the first day like this, from the second day she leaves all her house chores for me, I mean everything and she just relaxes. At times I get really tired and don't even feel like doing those chores but because most times when I come visiting she is heavy ( pregnant) so most times I just help her...
Thing is my sister doesn't appreciate all my effort, most times she complains self its the hubby that tells her that I am hardworking and at least she should give me credit for all I do.
Now the reason why am writing this is because am done with service (NYSC) and as it is its like I have to stay in her house because the state where she stays has more job opportunities compared to where our parents live... She stays in Abuja...I have been down with malaria for few days now and I have been on treatment, just because I can't do certain house chores because am not too strong my sis started complaining saying I can't be living in her house and be waking up whenever i like... Mind you I was always the first that wakes up when I wasn't sick, in fact I will wash the dishes, sweep, mop daily, cook food, bath her children and all those things.
The only thing she does is to bath her youngest baby, but now because for these few days she has been doing those work I do daily she is already saying she can't tolerate me sleeping and not waking up on time.
My question is this, does she have the right to be so angry at me because she is doing her house chores? I feel its her house and so she doing her house chores herself shouldn't be a problem since am not too strong to help her do it. She herself just sweep and doesn't mop, but she expects me to sweep and mop everyday.
Should i just go back to my parents house and get a job there? Me renting my own house is not an option because am a lady and am just 22...
Please i need you guys advice, what can I do? Find a friend to stay with. If you can't get one, go back to your parents. She doesn't love you and she has forgotten that you might be placed in a much better position tomorrow. |
| Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by bigman001(m): 10:41pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
Adunny07:
Please I just really need someone to talk to about this and I will like your candid advise..
So since my older sister got married I always come to her house and spend few weeks or months and go back. Al·through my university days, whenever school is not in session I always come down here to spend time with her and her husband.
Truth be told the husband is a very nice man and has helped me always financially, anytime I come here once my sister welcomes me the first day like this, from the second day she leaves all her house chores for me, I mean everything and she just relaxes. At times I get really tired and don't even feel like doing those chores but because most times when I come visiting she is heavy ( pregnant) so most times I just help her...
Thing is my sister doesn't appreciate all my effort, most times she complains self its the hubby that tells her that I am hardworking and at least she should give me credit for all I do.
Now the reason why am writing this is because am done with service (NYSC) and as it is its like I have to stay in her house because the state where she stays has more job opportunities compared to where our parents live... She stays in Abuja...I have been down with malaria for few days now and I have been on treatment, just because I can't do certain house chores because am not too strong my sis started complaining saying I can't be living in her house and be waking up whenever i like... Mind you I was always the first that wakes up when I wasn't sick, in fact I will wash the dishes, sweep, mop daily, cook food, bath her children and all those things.
The only thing she does is to bath her youngest baby, but now because for these few days she has been doing those work I do daily she is already saying she can't tolerate me sleeping and not waking up on time.
My question is this, does she have the right to be so angry at me because she is doing her house chores? I feel its her house and so she doing her house chores herself shouldn't be a problem since am not too strong to help her do it. She herself just sweep and doesn't mop, but she expects me to sweep and mop everyday.
Should i just go back to my parents house and get a job there? Me renting my own house is not an option because am a lady and am just 22...
Please i need you guys advice, what can I do? She is ready t o use you like a paid housemaid with no human feelings , My Advice, go back to your parents home let her take care of the chores herself, Awon lazy sister ... |
| Re: Living With My Married Elder Sister by Happykenski(m): 10:45pm On Jun 18, 2020 |
You best know where you are coming from, and you best know where you are going, I mean your goal. I can't say stay or leave. Before now I have live with different categories of people, and the secret is to adapt to circumstances. And I'm sure both of you are not that close, then why don't you try to befriend her that's try to be close to her. These will help her to understand you more better especially when you down just as you are sick now. Lastly, please no vex comont ooo and no quarrel or fight with her ooo, because it will never help you and in case you decide to leave, please leave in peace so you can freely come and say Hello with free mind another day, after all they still help you. |
