Lately, i have had cause to be in discussions where issues pertaining to women and marriage are being discussed, some say the most important Factor in a marriage or relationship is for the woman to be a good cook while some say she has to be good in bed, some also say both and more. But the truth of the matter is that a woman cannot be all that and more, she could be this and be lacking in some other areas.

This question goes especially to the guys because i have heard them complain on this forum "She can't cook, should i go ahead and marry her or She is not good in bed and so on, " really what is it you require from your woman in a relationship? I want us to be frank in our responses because it could help a whole lot of other married couples.

to me most important factor couples should look for is
1 the woman should be acceptable to me in looks. like me love my women to be on the big side, big boob, big
behind
2 I love black babes
3 she must have the fear of God

na wa ohhh.
@osereka

whats the inmportance of all these physical attributes, without good character?
fearing God does not mean good character,

ThoniaSlim:

na wa ohhh.
@osereka

whats the inmportance of all these physical attributes, without good character?
fearing God does not mean good character,

So, what is Good Character then? I thought genuinely fearing God brings out the best out of someone

Ndi:

Lately, i have had cause to be in discussions where issues pertaining to women and marriage are being discussed, some say the most important Factor in a marriage or relationship is for the woman to be a good cook while some say she has to be good in bed, some also say both and more. But the truth of the matter is that a woman cannot be all that and more, she could be this and be lacking in some other areas.

This question goes especially to the guys because i have heard them complain on this forum "She can't cook, should i go ahead and marry her or She is not good in bed and so on, " really what is it you require from your woman in a relationship? I want us to be frank in our responses because it could help a whole lot of other married couples.

Most Important factor in marriage? compatability/communication

Webmonk Chineke gozie gi, meaning God bless you

The most important thing in a marriage is Compatibility, If both of you are compatible, there would be this natural chemistry that would keep the bond between you permanent,

Cooking, Hmmm, I like isi ewu, Nkwobi, Pepper soup, Ofe Nsala, Ugba and opkoroko, edikiankong soup, Ogbono soup, Abacha, Ofe owerri, ofe onugbu,

CHINEKE NNA. . she must sabi cook too,

Ask for the sex part, that can be taken care of outside,

Most important factor in marriage SUCCESSFULLY:

· The man's ability to accept influence from his partner; and

· The woman's ability to moderate her approach to seeking influence.

In other words, marriages succeed when both partners give up some control.

Example:
He wants to buy a small car. She recommends a larger vehicle, since they plan to start a family soon. On reflection, he decides that it makes sense to buy something larger.

According to WesleyanA, the most important factor in marriage is 50-50 equal sharing of chores, anything short of this means your husband is a brute, and you should divorce him.

Well i agree with WebMonk Compactibility/Communication:

1. If u are not compactible, natural attraction will never work.
2. There has to be good communication for the marriage to really work. Take for instance a couple that hardly speaks to one another? or finds it hard to ask for something from one another.
3. The cooking aspect is still mild cos she could easily get somebody to teach her to cook, really cooking is no big deal, its all about interest.
4. Good Love-making - Well if the attraction is there, one can easily tolerate, most men do not even like their partners to be wild in bed, they easily deduce that she has had a lot of partners in the past to make her a wild-cat in bed, they prefer to be the one to teach their wife how they want it. If u really love ur partner, mere cuddling could be very interesting, thats my opinion, i do not know about yours.

1. Compatibility: Both parties must be compatible. Very important.

2. Communication: There must be seamless and honest communication between both parties at all times, even after a fight (especially after a fight)

3. Sacrifice: Each party must be ready and willing to sacrifice at some point during the relationship.

Love will develop when these three aspects exist.

;DLOVE AND RESPECT [b][/b]NO LONG THING,

There are relationship from 2  diffrent perspectives.

One if you are based in Nigeria things are likely to be diffrent. Nigerain women are likely to submitt to their husband whilst husband maybe a bully.

If you are based abroad, the relationship and input will be diffrent Nigerian women would propably like to bully their husband and husband trying to patch up things.



Now let me tell you where are I am coming from.

The most important attribute/factor in a marriage is once you find somebody you take a liking is to pray to God and find out if he/she is the one. Every other things are immaterial.

Let me tell you, that person will love you and you will love them in return.the rest are just physical. You can even take a good cook, if God bless you financial both lern how to cook to be there for each others, or evenn buy food or eat out. ther are no hard and fast rule.

If we are talking in the physical sense and not spiritual, LOVE is the most important attribute and even sex/good in bed or cook or no cook are a minor thing.

One of the few things Ican tell you about love making is to both find time to put your worry aside and get your partner to the climax, and women especially should stop worrying at this time just get to the climax and can continue worry afterwards.

A minister told us a story just last week, her wife cannot cook a particular food, so when her in laws are coming the husband would quickly do the food for the wife and for over 35 years nobody knew.

A lot people have sex and don't make love. love making is just lie in bed together kiss and cudle just be happy just by each others. the physcial act of sex especially from the men angle amy not last more tan few minutes. The relese/relieve sex brings should be enjoy by both paties.When my wife can go to sleep after love making is the best feeling because she can wake up a much better feeling and relax person.

Communication is very crucial

I can go on and on but the most important factor is to find that the person is whom God has choosen for you and he will be like your brother whom you can never divorce and your sister whom you will reamin with till death do you apart.

If you are already married, you should pray to God to reveal to you both what is the most important thing to one another, for example some wife will know that once their husband work is doing well things are going to be good at home and husband know that once wife can do a particular thing then that is happiness will make a great deal.

May God continue to be with us all.

Simply said by vigasimple, i concur!

Simply said by vigasimple, i concur!

marry someone with whom you are always comftable with,one to whom you can always talk to,someone who make you laff,marry a freind,love is important but communication is vital,sex is good,so is food,unfortunately they only add to but dont make up the whole, marry ur buddy,cos marriage is eternal you might as well be happy

@ Vigasimple

I really do feel you.

above average compartibiliry.