Sixfeetbelle:


What I deduced from his blabbing is that most men can't survive if and when feminism stands to its full potential. You see this issue of a woman being equal to a man in terms of finances and education, most men's ego can't handle it. They always want the woman to see him as her source; as long as she is depending on him, she's loving and obedient. Otherwise she's rude and arrogant.

Feminism will shame all of them one by one. Nonsense

if we worked together in partnership man and woman we could achieve so much. Ego has killed us. If one earns more It does not mean they’re better. If he has a dependent wife or girlfriend you are then called a gold digger. God help us with men we can never win and we can never be right

lefulefu:
many of these nigerian men in america who go to naija to look for wives if u search well many of them have been involved in different bitter divorces with women due to their character.when these men become old they go back to nigeria to look for ladies they can exploit once they bring them to US.Unfortunately some of these ladies are not naive or dumb hence once they get into the US and able to go through nursing school and get a good nursing job they do away with such men and go for men of their choice.this make these naija men get bitter and sometimes in that bitternes they can murder these their young wives.

This is somehow similar to a case that almost happened to me. Was 22 then and just about to graduate. Oga was in America and looked 35 or thereabout. He wasn't looking for a date, he was looking for a wife and that was my first red flag. Coupled with the fact that he was way older and not my type physically. Serious turn off. Asides that, I was in my prime and marriage was the last thing on my mind but I know how my mind was whirring when he told me he was in America, about how I'd be cruising life and all that. If I was a gold digger,... Finally told him I wasn't interested and he moved on. Got married sometime last year to a 20 something looking lady.

My point was if I had agreed to his proposal, I'd not have married him for any altruistic reason. And imagine what would be our case if I ended up earning more than he did in later years.

Sixfeetbelle:


This is somehow similar to a case that almost happened to me. Was 22 then and just about to graduate. Oga was in America and looked 35 or thereabout. He wasn't looking for a date, he was looking for a wife and that was my first red flag. Coupled with the fact that he was way older and not my type physically. Serious turn off. Asides that, I was in my prime and marriage was the last thing on my mind but I know how my mind was whirring when he told me he was in America, about how I'd be cruising life and all that. If I was a gold digger,... Finally told him I wasn't interested and he moved on. Got married sometime last year to a 20 something looking lady.

My point was if I had agreed to his proposal, I'd not have married him for any altruistic reason. And imagine what would be our case if I ended up earning more than he did in later years.

if u earn more than he did u would probably be giving more than half of your earnings to him as tribute .see most of these older naija men in america who go back to nigeria to pick up much younger girls as wives are not doing it for genuine love in most cases.they just want someone they can bring along in the US and be exploiting.Any girl who dumps her hard working naija based guy for an overseas guy is just being naive .better u work up ur way overseas if u desirious in going there than looking for some knight to fly u away abroad .young ladies should try and grow with their hardworking boyfriends.

lefulefu:
if u earn more than he did u would probably be giving more than half of your earnings to him as tribute .see most of these older naija men in america who go back to nigeria to pick up much younger girls as wives are not doing it for genuine love in most cases.they just want someone they can bring along in the US and be exploiting.Any girl who dumps her hard working naija based guy for an overseas guy is just being naive .better u work up ur way overseas if u desirious in going there than looking for some knight to fly u away abroad .young ladies should try and grow with their hardworking boyfriends.

Seriously, you're right. If you want to go there, do it by yourself, and not through some white knight. If the men want to marry, they should marry someone they know and have dealt with, not someone from across the seas they don't know shishi about. I pray they'll listen and try to focus on the women over there to avoid cases like this but I know some will still mumu.

It is well

We cannot apportion blames outrightly because we didn't walk in their shoes. The video depicts a marriage where the basis is flawed from the onset. Why will an entire family beg for a man to marry their daughter? You know there are some things we do, not because we want to do them but we don't want to be seen as "alaseju". He probably married her out of sympathy or compulsion, not Love.

Love alone is never enough to keep a marriage.. But love alone is strong enough to form the basis, the foundation of your home before you begin to put other blocks like faithfulness, respect, tolerance, communication, understanding etc. If love is where you started from, when other evils like barrenness, unemployment, family influence, bad economy, infidelity, weight gain, health challenges visit your home, that storm won't be strong enough to sweep your house away because the foundation is rock solid!

If Azubuike loved his wife that much, he wouldn't be able to hurt her, he won't even feel any resentment that she's richer. Rather, the both of them will join resources and make something formidable.
I love my husband so much I don't even want mosquito to bite him.

And...Oga Azu, you want her to be dropping her cheque, for what exactly? Is she a business enterprise? You should cower your head in shame for ever thinking or demanding such!

Mrs Azubuike, sad you had to die in the hands of the one who is supposed to love you forever. But pray, why did you refuse for him to send money to Ikenna, is he not family? The house that you built in your village, did your husband approve? Major projects in marriage should not be handled solo, you're two now so both parties should sit down and agree. Men see that as arrogance and indeed it is when you take laws into your own hands without any consideration for their disposition to the issue at hand. A man will quickly fall out of love with you if you do that often. Make no mistake sisters, that's no ego. You're actually undermining him.

Sit down together and determine how much help you want to render to family and friends. You have to agree, even the holy books confirmed it that two can't work together except they agree. Women please, stop shielding your husband from helping his family. They're family! Where's your humanness? We do it to strangers we don't know from Adam, how much more, family. He will always confide in you when he knows you don't pose any threat to his helping them or would you rather prefer he goes behind you to do it?

These needless deaths can be avoided only if .... E je ka sora wa o k'Olorun ba le so wa. A word is enough for the wise

You see.. one of the devilish ones... if you know that you won’t be submissive... why take he his money to train up to be a nurse ?? Are you not intentionally and willfully deceptive because you already have your aim in mind .... so be ready to to ganged r..p...e And skinnned alive.. why not stay in your village and refuse to marry him ( if really you were a nice woman ; No... u want to play a fast one) when he came to pick up your dirty ass ... prepared to be dissolved in acid. ..

I rather you say negotiate ( as I said in the previous post ) with him and leave if you fall out of love that’s shows understanding and gratitude and wisdom ... if not natural justice says u need to be given the final solution . Scamming n devilish women


Honesty I don’t think it is mans ego all the time , it is the way she now behaves or has change that precipitates that feeling you call mans ago ... ok reason this he trains you And now you are a nurse and you don’t want to let him bring your mum , or u build a house behind his back .... that is wicked. Not mans ego .. mans ego kill u there ... you should be killed.

Why not build in his place before you build in your place... he trained you at least ... why not just think back and have a good memory and just allow his mother to come for a few days or negotiate the period she stays or get a place nearby for her to stay or sth... now you want to show you have arrived... devil strike your ass there

Sixfeetbelle:


That he raised her status doesn't mean she has to be dependent on him forever. A good boss actually works to see his servants get better and be successful. If after helping her he just jejely sat down and was waiting for her to return the dividends to him, then he was being a fool. Probably why she developed wings. Nonsense and men's ego

HeavenlyCherub:


Mars I always speak about this topic as I have walked this path before. Yes we have women that become a pain because they earn more. We have other women that are loving, kind and respectful. She will do whatever she can to make the man happy but the man will never be happy because he wants to be at the top. Men like it when women are dependent on them but when this changes and a woman can fend for herself they feel helpless. No matter how encouraging, loving and supportive you are you will always be an enemy. I pray for God to touch the hearts of many men to realize a spouse is not your competitor but partner

You are one of such women judging by the way you get angry and insultive to people you hardly know. You think you are posh and all that cursing.Women like you can't settle down and marry because your ego is bigger than your sense.

It's funny and unsurprising how women are suddenly jumping into conclusion and don't want to hear the side of the men's story. If it were a story about harmful and toxic women (wives, girlfriends, etc.), women would readily ask to hear the other side of the story.

lefulefu:
she should just jejeli sue for divorce and move to another state if she"s smart.all these 911 calls will be a little too late if the man snaps one day and pulls a gun on her

You know its hard to move especially when you have build you life in that state.

Sha...we ladies should learn not to destroy a man's lives work, at the end no matter the law of the land, if the man is with a gun or knife, he might end up using it on us.

lefulefu:
u mean those women in their 50s ,60s and even 70s who look for young african boys in their 20s to bring over to america? have u asked yourself the reason why is it that young american women arent interested going to africa to look for young african boys..its always the grandmas who do such

So u just made my point. U agree with me, nothing more to argue about. Here's what I wrote verbatim:

"Oga, this man who killed his wife, I can imagine the type of American women he'd normally have access to. It'd be very hard indeed for him to have the time to find and win a girl like that Chiamaka - something that they are even begging him in Nigeria. Believe me, everybody in Yankee knows it is much cheaper and easier to marry Yankee, it is condition that force people do otherwise."

PoliteActivist:


So u just made my point. U agree with me, nothing more to argue about. Here's what I wrote verbatim:

"Oga, this man who killed his wife, I can imagine the type of American women he'd normally have access to. It'd be very hard indeed for him to have the time to find and win a girl like that Chiamaka - something that they are even begging him in Nigeria. Believe me, everybody in Yankee knows it is much cheaper and easier to marry Yankee, it is condition that force people do otherwise."

they prefer marrying homebred naija girls cos they believe its easy to control and exploit them ..its the same way u see white american men going to asia and eastern europe to pick brides they bring to the US.Many of such brides coupled with the fact that some cant speak english get exploited by their white american husbands..some even get used as sex slaves..i have heard such stories.but some of the smarter ones as soon as they get into school in the US and graduate and get a good job they divorce their white american husbands and marry men of their choice .its just easier marrying someone close to you who loves u genuinly than going far away to pick a stranger as a bride.many men have their reasons for doing this but they always cry in the end or murder their much younger wives in a jealous rage.

lefulefu:
they prefer marrying homebred naija girls cos they believe its easy to control and exploit them ..its the same way u see white american men going to asia and eastern europe to pick brides they bring to the US.Many of such brides coupled with the fact that some cant speak english get exploited by their white american husbands..some even get used as sex slaves..i have heard such stories.but some of the smarter ones as soon as they get into school in the US and graduate and get a good job they divorce their white american husbands and marry men of their choice .its just easier marrying someone close to you who loves u genuinly than going far away to pick a stranger as a bride.many men have their reasons for doing this but they always cry in the end or murder their much younger wives in a jealous rage.

So u don't think those people know "its just easier marrying someone close to you who loves u genuinly than going far away to pick a stranger as a bride"??
As if it is so easy to find "someone close to u who loves u genuinely".
Bottom line: people go where they can get a better quality person than they have any chance of getting back home. That is if they can afford it. Many, many people would like to go get someone overseas but simply can't afford it.

Sandor2:
You see.. one of the devilish ones... if you know that you won’t be submissive... why take he his money to train up to be a nurse ?? Are you not intentionally and willfully deceptive because you already have your aim in mind .... so be ready to to ganged r..p...e And skinnned alive.. why not stay in your village and refuse to marry him ( if really you were a nice woman ; No... u want to play a fast one) when he came to pick up your dirty ass ... prepared to be dissolved in acid. ..

I rather you say negotiate ( as I said in the previous post ) with him and leave if you fall out of love that’s shows understanding and gratitude and wisdom ... if not natural justice says u need to be given the final solution . Scamming n devilish women


Honesty I don’t think it is mans ego all the time , it is the way she now behaves or has change that precipitates that feeling you call mans ago ... ok reason this he trains you And now you are a nurse and you don’t want to let him bring your mum , or u build a house behind his back .... that is wicked. Not mans ego .. mans ego kill u there ... you should be killed.

Why not build in his place before you build in your place... he trained you at least ... why not just think back and have a good memory and just allow his mother to come for a few days or negotiate the period she stays or get a place nearby for her to stay or sth... now you want to show you have arrived... devil strike your ass there

It's still men's ego that won't let you understand what I said so let me explain.

If you bring up a woman to train her, as she is getting better so should you, instead of waiting for her to pay dividend to you. That's selfish people's thinking. Take it to the moon if you want.

As she was becoming a nurse, what was he doing? He's been long in that country so I'm sure he already got his footing financially. A man who is not dominated by ego will be getting richer as his wife is getting also. A vision-filled man will be owning companies and shit as she is. Even in this country, an ssce holder as your wife getting a university degree should automatically mean that you as a degree holder will either be getting msc or Phd or expanding your business. Thus growth on both sides so no matter how she spreads wings, you're always ahead of her. Use Dangote if you like; no matter what degree his wife attains, she can never best him again in this life financially. In that case, it is still his house and he can do what he wants. As she is building a house for her parents, shouldn't he build more for his?

Although there are a few exceptions, but in the case of the man being angry his wife is better than him financially, it is his fault and no one else's.

Martinez39s:
It's funny and unsurprising how women are suddenly jumping into conclusion and don't want to hear the side of the men's story. If it were a story about harmful and toxic women (wives, girlfriends, etc.), women would readily ask to hear the other side of the story.

Oya, what is the other side of the story that we didn't hear?

Sixfeetbelle:


Oya, what is the other side of the story that we didn't hear?

Let's wait for the man's side. Sounds familiar?

HeavenlyCherub:


Does that warrant killing? Better to walk away if it’s not working for you.

What are u saying miss? Its a known fact that women have killed men for lesser things than ruining ones life so if the tables were turned the woman will kill the man and make sure she kills his spirit too and maybe just for fun kill hos clothes too .. #youngrichandhandsome

He was wrong to have killed her and himself no matter the provocation.

This is very sad and disheartening when you know you're no longer happy in your relationship you back off to stop devil handiwork well to me the man should also be killed


But come to think of it why do you think men back off when they see successful women and don't want to make advance when they come in contact with them, women are normally disrespectful and bossy In nature and that's when they don't have anything now so when they have money it's something else there's no way you gon control that type of a woman am not feeling bad about successful women just bringing out the real facts ✌️

HeavenlyCherub:


If you notice I did encourage counseling in my earlier post. If not better to walk away. I’m not saying women are perfect, but men should realize a woman needs love, affection, time and provision. Once you provide these your wife will always respect you. Some men are great too however we have those who are cheaters and abusive. You can’t cheat in America or be violent to a woman these are the only things that will cause you to lose your properties.

^^^Are you a RN too? I have learned many years back that EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE (read a book by Daniel Goleman on this core skill or watch YT videos to get a hang of it) is a core relationship/business skill that men and women must learn in order to avoid violent murders/marital situations within the U.S.-based Nige rian RN community... Bone-chilling! I saw your post today on the Jada Pinkett/Will Smith "open relationship "thread, so this is how I landed out of curiosity on this your thread.

lefulefu:
so in this modern time some naija guys based overseas still go back to nigeria to carry women to train in US .So why wont such women disrespect them after getting a good job .pls let such women keep on disrespecting such mumu men so those mumu men would learn and stop allowing themselves to be scammed.

thank you....I rather help a dog than those bitches!