Ever heard those words and wondered what they could mean, especially when you're in dire need of an answer/reply to a proposal?

The "I am still praying" is one of the games singles play.

When singles, especially ladies, say "I'm still praying", it's usually due to one or more of the following reasons :

1. TO RUN A BACKGROUND CHECK
(which includes family history, lineage patterns, etc)

They try to find out if the said guy is from a wealthy or comfortable family.
They seek to discover the truth about his family lineage.
They try to determine if he's from a lineage of mental illnesss, abuse, poverty, etc.

2. To consult the opinion of their numerous friends, pastors, prophets, parents ,including
#babalawo

3. To extort more money from him.
She's convinced she doesn't love you and cannot marry you.
Yet, she wouldn't want to miss out on the good things you offer.
In order to buy more time and to extort money from you, she tells you she's still praying.
And because you're expecting to get a favourable reply from her, you wouldn't want to deny her of anything.
She seizes this time to demand and demand and demand.
(Shine your eyes, Bro)

4. AS BACK UP/BLAN B
so they keep him waiting, while hoping that the guy they're interested in will come proposing.
And where that does not happen, they speedily run back to the other guy.

5. TO AVOID APPEARING CHEAP
This category of ladies are very convinced about you.
They love you so much that even before you proposed, they're ready to say "YES"
BUT, in order not to appear cheap (Whatever that means), they put you on hold for a while.
After all, a lady must do small "Shakara" lol

Finally, if you're wondering how long it should take a lady to accept your proposal, I'd say it shouldn't take her more than one month. (1Month)
That's because, a, lady who really knows what she wants wouldn't waste so much time on something she herself is equally interested in.
Shey it is not people that are in KFC, abi shoprite everyday screaming "YES, YES, I DO, I WILL"

©Helen J God'spower

The picture there is mine. I prefer attaching my pictures to my articles, instead of using pictures of random people.

Why would you lie with "I am still praying"?

But I don't think that the reasons you gave is what they are doing when they said that they were still praying. I believe that they were actually praying.

I strongly believe that a lady of the age of 22 years should have been praying for God's will I the area of marriage and that before the brother comes, she should have known who it will be. In fact the moment you are through with school, as a sister, you should start praying for will of God in the area of marriage.
I have a youth worker under me here, when a friend and another youth worker went to see the MC (marriage committee), they gave him the go ahead to propose to her. The day he went to propose to her, she told him immediately that he wasn't the choice for her.

After a month, another youth leader went to propose to her, she told him immediately that she knew that he will come and has been waiting for him.
Saying Yes and No should not be complicated.

As a brother, you should be thinking not marriage and praying towards it from the age of 23 as long as you are financially capable.

We need to normalize two things:

Receiving a No answer is not the end of everything. If anyone refuses to be part of your life as God wills it, go back to God, He will raise another for you. If David did not make himself available to be used of God, there are people more capable than him that God would have used. If Virgin Mary did not yield herself to be used of God, there are other virgins God would have used to bring His purpose to pass.

Our sisters should know that there is nothing wrong in being the person to approach a brother for marriage.

Selah!

Your submission is valid.

This post is aimed at helping brothers uncover the hidden fact behind a sister's delay in acceptation of proposals.

When you propose to a sister, and it's taking her six months or one year to give you a reply to your proposal, and everytime you demand a reply, she tells you she's still praying, what do you do?

Some ladies hide under the guise of "I am still praying" to defraud innocent guys.

That's what this post seeks to address.

Thank you for your contribution.

It's only the person that thinks that his gifts or money can get the heart of the lady for him that will be defrauded.

I know for a fact that others delay in giving answers to the brother cos they are waiting to see if the person they fancy will come and propose to them.

If I propose to a lady and she is delaying, I will go back the Perfect Match Maker that directed me to her. What will I tell Him?? To hasten her decision. To convince her that I am the one for her. Make me a better person for her.

If the delay passes three months, I will go back to the Church leadership. If it's to get six months, I will consider withdrawing my proposal.

You're right.

If you're convinced that God is the one leading you to her, then by all means, WAIT.

She'll come around, no matter how long it takes.

PRAYED BUT NO DEFINITE ANSWER AND STILL PRAYING


They come around on invitation because someone has brought their names, with an intention to make marriage proposals to them.


Then in their forms they write that they have prayed about marriage but no definite answer, or/and that they are still praying.


Then, I ask them a question like this, "whenever you pray or think about marriage, do you have anyone that always comes to your mind?"


People are different and may not all hear audible voices, see visions, trances, dreams or dramatic encounters before they know what God is saying.


If that is the experience of anyone, sharing their intentions with Pastors or administrators is very simple and could go this way:
"Sir, anytime I pray or think about marriage, it is Sister or Brother this and that, that comes to my mind and I have not been able to shake it off. I believe that is the person I am being led to".


That is a strong testimony also and not weaker than any other. �

Thank you so much.