Marriage is sweet especially when you examine it from a far distance of those who have successful marriage or the lovey-dovey of newlywed couples, but when you enter into it, you will discover that what is behind number eight is more than number nine.

Many people prepare so well for the romantic part of marriage especially the wedding, but very few groom themselves for the realities they will face in marriage. Do you know that the hardest part of marriage plays a dominant role in marriage than the romantic part of marriage?

However, what breaks marriage into pieces is not the lack of romance as so many people thought, but what breaks it, is the couple's inability to withstand the hardest part of marriage which comes with romance.

There are some hard things about marriage that nobody has ever told you, but I will share 5 of them with you here now.

1) Staying faithful.
It's easy to abstain from cheating as a singles person if you have not tasted how sweet it is to make love with opposite gender, and it is very difficult to stay faithful in marriage when you are denied the sweetness of love making by your spouse for no good reason.

The temptation to be Infidelity in marriage is greater than the temptation to make love with your boyfriend while you are not yet married.
The reason is that you now know how sweet and awesome it is to make love with your partner. Seduction would come from those who are willing to give you or have a fling with you. In some cases, when your spouse becomes cold on love making, there are several others who want to give you a hot and sizzling love making without wasting time if only you can give them go ahead.

You need more discipline to stay faithful in marriage to your spouse emotionally, and the love making part of it, especially in this century where cheating has become a tradition.
If you have not been faithful to your partner especially in love making now that you are single, it will be very difficult for you to master it when you get married.
Marriage doesn't cure promiscuity, but self control does.

2) The Issues of making love to your partner.
It will be wise that you keep yourself pure till marriage, purity in thoughts, action and words. All those who are deceiving you that virginity doesn't help only want to dump you after enjoying your body.

One of the hardest parts about marriage which many cannot stand is on the issue of love making, this is because of lack of self control when the urge comes. One partner may be a novice while the other is a professor in lovemaking; one has a high urge while the other can stay for months without it and still feel normal as if nothing is happening.
Virginity helps you to be self-discipline in love making, it will prevents you from undue and ungodly exposure to love making that could either make you hate it with perfect hatred or make you a ...https://allsinglesandmarried..com/2020/07/the-hardest-part-of-marriage-nobody.html

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Is that all you have

is marriage really sweet in nigeria?
i am talking of today"s marriage
i see some dudes who looked fresher when they were bachelors looking more emerciated and haggard looking when married.i wonder if such are enjoying their marital vows.u are supposed to look even more handsome and fresh when married but the opposite is for many guys

They could be hard, but definitely not the hardest. How about the emotional and spiritual stability.?

lefulefu:
is marriage really sweet in nigeria?
i am talking of today"s marriage
i see some dudes who looked fresher when they were bachelors looking more emerciated and haggard looking when married.i wonder if such are enjoying their marital vows.u are supposed to look even more handsome and fresh when married but the opposite is for many guys

Not only guys look Hagard. Women also look Hargard especially the ones married to struggling guys.
The Hargard look no be here o.

God forgive me lol.

Mehn lefulefu I don't envy most married people one bit.

My married neighbor almost choked his wife to death when he realised she is pregnant with the third child. He wanted to end his life, his wife and two kids. Wife wey he himself go village bring come Lagos marry o.

It took timely intervention of people in the compound to stop him from killing her. She then packed out of his house the next day to the village with her two. Kids.

She came back after much begging from in-laws.
She just gave birth last week. Her husband took his bike, got drunk and also tried to kill himself. The day she gave birth. I thought he will be happy when she was brought back from the hospital but he looked so sorrowful and depressed with bloodshot eyes, before he drove off with his bike.
Thank God only his shoulder and waist was broken, he didn't die.

His family came again to take him back to the village for herbal bone treatment. This man is so frustrated.
The village wife has strong mind in hustling more than him.
Seeing his children has crippled this guy into a sorry sight.

Sighs suffer head marriage.

victorian:







Not only guys look Hagard. Women also look Hargard especially the ones married to struggling guys.
The Hargard look no be here o.

God forgive me lol.

Mehn lefulefu I don't envy most married people one bit.

My married neighbor almost choked his wife to death when he realised she is pregnant with the third child. He wanted to end his life, his wife and two kids. Wife wey he himself go village bring come Lagos marry o.

It took timely intervention of people in the compound to stop him from killing her. She then packed out of his house the next day to the village with her two. Kids.

She came back after much begging from in-laws.
She just gave birth last week. Her husband took his bike, got drunk and also killed himself. The day she gave birth. Thank God only his shoulder and waist was broken, he didn't die.

His family came again to take him back to the village for herbal bone treatment. This man is so frustrated.
The village wife has strong mind in hustling more than him.
Seeing his children has crippled this guy into a sorry sight.

Sighs marriage.

remember the story i told u about one young lady i dey frequently buy cooking gas from when i dey benin ?.i dont remember if i told u but i always dey yarn the tory here.she died of high blood pressure at the age of 38 yrs.when i come her stall to buy gas one day and i see the obituary picture na so i open mouth dey shocked..very nice lady and very quiet.They said her husband always cheats on her and nags and insults her at home.dem say anytime the man dey insult her she just keeps silent.though if u look at her physically she doesnt look haggard oo but then she had high blood pressure.when she die just after a week na so the man come take over the gas shop plus one lady who i suspected was the side chick or so was helping him the business.tongues wagged but the man didnt give a fuk .There is this another man too who taught me and classmates maths in jss2.the man is also a lecturer and was teaching us part time.This man is gentle and very religious as well.both im and im wife dem be calabar.while this man is gentle and faithful the wife is troublesome and noisy.na dis man dey go market for im wife and dey enter kitchen dey cook while the wife and her two grown up dauthers go dey sitting room dey watch zee world.anytime d man go market na so market women go dey shout say oga! wey ur wife? d man go just smile say im wife dey house or office .if u see the guy stress don show for im body.heavy wrinkles everywhere.there was a time back in the past the man travelled to US to do his phd and the wife started flirting.na so im go carry men come house for nacking things.when the man heard the story and finally returned he wanted to chase her away but their catholic priest prevailed on him to forgive and forget since catholic church no dey accept divorce.na one saturday morning dem say the man dey wash im car then as im wan bend down to wash im car tire na so im just collapse and die on the spot.they said the wive and dauther were inside watching tv.the wife started featuring in some few nollywood flicks after the man died though after some time she stopped acting.if u saw the wife when she was younger na so she carry ur complexion and very attractive.even me and some of my other colleagues even though we were children we were taken aback by her beauty .there was one thing my mom told us about the lady when they were both bunk mates in higher instituition.if u dey interested wetin my mom tell us abt d lady i go yarn u .

U 4got d main issue tolerating ur inlaws

.if u dey interested wetin my mom tell us abt d lady i go yarn u ;Tell us

hmmm

lefulefu:
remember the story i told u about one young lady i dey frequently buy cooking gas from when i dey benin ?.i dont remember if i told u but i always dey yarn the tory here.she died of high blood pressure at the age of 38 yrs.when i come her stall to buy gas one day and i see the obituary picture na so i open mouth dey shocked..very nice lady and very quiet.They said her husband always cheats on her and nags and insults her at home.dem say anytime the man dey insult her she just keeps silent.though if u look at her physically she doesnt look haggard oo but then she had high blood pressure.when she die just after a week na so the man come take over the gas shop plus one lady who i suspected was the side chick or so was helping him the business.tongues wagged but the man didnt give a fuk .There is this another man too who taught me and classmates maths in jss2.the man is also a lecturer and was teaching us part time.This man is gentle and very religious as well.both im and im wife dem be calabar.while this man is gentle and faithful the wife is troublesome and noisy.na dis man dey go market for im wife and dey enter kitchen dey cook while the wife and her two grown up dauthers go dey sitting room dey watch zee world.anytime d man go market na so market women go dey shout say oga! wey ur wife? d man go just smile say im wife dey house or office .if u see the guy stress don show for im body.heavy wrinkles everywhere.there was a time back in the past the man travelled to US to do his phd and the wife started flirting.na so im go carry men come house for nacking things.when the man heard the story and finally returned he wanted to chase her away but their catholic priest prevailed on him to forgive and forget since catholic church no dey accept divorce.na one saturday morning dem say the man dey wash im car then as im wan bend down to wash im car tire na so im just collapse and die on the spot.they said the wive and dauther were inside watching tv.the wife started featuring in some few nollywood flicks after the man died though after some time she stopped acting.if u saw the wife when she was younger na so she carry ur complexion and very attractive.even me and some of my other colleagues even though we were children we were taken aback by her beauty .there was one thing my mom told us about the lady when they were both bunk mates in higher instituition.if u dey interested wetin my mom tell us abt d lady i go yarn u .

Jesus!

That's serious!

Na WA o.

Some human beings are very wicked!


Please continue, what did your mom say?

for me the hardest part is searching for a baby ooo...
that thing too hard and fit make Christian enter mosque to ask alfa for miracle oo

lefulefu:
remember the story i told u about one young lady i dey frequently buy cooking gas from when i dey benin ?.i dont remember if i told u but i always dey yarn the tory here.she died of high blood pressure at the age of 38 yrs.when i come her stall to buy gas one day and i see the obituary picture na so i open mouth dey shocked..very nice lady and very quiet.They said her husband always cheats on her and nags and insults her at home.dem say anytime the man dey insult her she just keeps silent.though if u look at her physically she doesnt look haggard oo but then she had high blood pressure.when she die just after a week na so the man come take over the gas shop plus one lady who i suspected was the side chick or so was helping him the business.tongues wagged but the man didnt give a fuk .There is this another man too who taught me and classmates maths in jss2.the man is also a lecturer and was teaching us part time.This man is gentle and very religious as well.both im and im wife dem be calabar.while this man is gentle and faithful the wife is troublesome and noisy.na dis man dey go market for im wife and dey enter kitchen dey cook while the wife and her two grown up dauthers go dey sitting room dey watch zee world.anytime d man go market na so market women go dey shout say oga! wey ur wife? d man go just smile say im wife dey house or office .if u see the guy stress don show for im body.heavy wrinkles everywhere.there was a time back in the past the man travelled to US to do his phd and the wife started flirting.na so im go carry men come house for nacking things.when the man heard the story and finally returned he wanted to chase her away but their catholic priest prevailed on him to forgive and forget since catholic church no dey accept divorce.na one saturday morning dem say the man dey wash im car then as im wan bend down to wash im car tire na so im just collapse and die on the spot.they said the wive and dauther were inside watching tv.the wife started featuring in some few nollywood flicks after the man died though after some time she stopped acting.if u saw the wife when she was younger na so she carry ur complexion and very attractive.even me and some of my other colleagues even though we were children we were taken aback by her beauty .there was one thing my mom told us about the lady when they were both bunk mates in higher instituition.if u dey interested wetin my mom tell us abt d lady i go yarn u .

but is marriage by force can't they quit if it not working

Petyr1:
but is marriage by force can't they quit if it not working

in naija divorce or seperation most times is never an option.imagine u seperate from a troublesome spouse and ur pastor or priest will be scoulding u dat u will go to hell or that God is angry with u.asper our very religious nature we wont want to do that.In short some ppl even regard staying in a troublesome chaotic marriage as a cross that they should carry.thats why the whites are smarter..when u give them stress they sue for divorce.

victorian:








Jesus!

That's serious!

Na WA o.

Some human beings are very wicked!


Please continue, what did your mom say?

my dad was just telling us about the way a man should behave in marriage and using that gentleman i told u who taught me in js2 as an example how a man ought not to behave then my mom told us that while she and that lady where in school at that time they were quite close the lady then was single.She had someone she really loved but that someone left her until this man she married came along.at first she didnt give in to the man but the man had to beg her and beg her and buy her gifts then she gave in to the man.Before she married the man my mom said she told her that wasnt attracted to the man and neither did she love him and besides the man is too old for her.That the reason she is just getting married to him is because he has a stable job and a little out of pity since he has been begging her.That is the only reason she is getting married to him but as for love she does not love him.We were surprised when we heard this..so no wonder she has been disrespecting the man then cheating on him and the man has been swallowing everything .As i said b4 the man is late now sha.high blood is the reason for his passing.many ppl these days especially the folks tend to suffer lot from high bp.

I'm scared

lefulefu:
in naija divorce or seperation most times is never an option.imagine u seperate from a troublesome spouse and ur pastor or priest will be scoulding u dat u will go to hell or that God is angry with u.asper our very religious nature we wont want to do that.In short some ppl even regard staying in a troublesome chaotic marriage as a cross that they should carry.thats why the whites are smarter..when u give them stress they sue for divorce.

I'm not an atheist but I have pass some religion mentality. i can not risk my peace because of anything

lefulefu:
my dad was just telling us about the way a man should behave in marriage and using that gentleman i told u who taught me in js2 as an example how a man ought not to behave then my mom told us that while she and that lady where in school at that time they were quite close the lady then was single.She had someone she really loved but that someone left her until this man she married came along.at first she didnt give in to the man but the man had to beg her and beg her and buy her gifts then she gave in to the man.Before she married the man my mom said she told her that wasnt attracted to the man and neither did she love him and besides the man is too old for her.That the reason she is just getting married to him is because he has a stable job and a little out of pity since he has been begging her.That is the only reason she is getting married to him but as for love she does not love him.We were surprised when we heard this..so no wonder she has been disrespecting the man then cheating on him and the man has been swallowing everything .As i said b4 the man is late now sha.high blood is the reason for his passing.many ppl these days especially the folks tend to suffer lot from high bp.

The man caused his problems all by himself.

I always tell my male friends, don't beg a woman profusely to marry you. Woo her, treat her right and if she still says no? Please run as far as your legs can carry you.
I know of men in my recent past who wanted to marry me by all. Means but I don't love any. The love just no click. I refused all their gifts and monies. Cause the end result will be very bad if I had succumbed due to peer pressure or love of money.

I love money but not to the extent of marrying a man I don't love.

He used his own money to buy death and casket for himself.

What a. Pity.

What a loss.

Hmmmm it's well o.

victorian:







The man caused his problems all by himself.

I always tell my male friends, don't beg a woman profusely to marry you. Woo her, treat her right and if she still says no? Please run as far as your legs can carry you.
I know of men in my recent past who wanted to marry me by all. Means but I don't love any. The love just no click. I refused all their gifts and monies. Cause the end result will be very bad if I had succumbed due to peer pressure or love of money.

I love money but not to the extent of marrying a man I don't love.

He used his own money to buy death and casket for himself.

What a. Pity.

What a loss.

Hmmmm it's well o.

many guys are still folowing that same way o
imagine the lame arguement that some guys put on that a woman that gives u issues when woeing her will make the best partner.some guys will brag how they woe a lady for seven yrs and begged and begged until she finally agreed to marry them .dem no know say such ladies tend to agree cos the main guys they really loved dumped them hence they use the other nigga as backup plan .

lefulefu:
many guys are still folowing that same way o
imagine the lame arguement that some guys put on that a woman that gives u issues when woeing her will make the best partner.some guys will brag how they woe a lady for seven yrs and begged and begged until she finally agreed to marry them .dem no know say such ladies tend to agree cos the main guys they really loved dumped them hence they use the other nigga as backup plan .

*CLEARS THROAT* the victims in your story didn't die of HBP,they kicked the bucket simply because of very low or no dopamane especialy the man...and reading from the comments i'm suspecting you and victorian,and i suggest you guys should just leave this stage and slide into the DMs already,cos why not?




my sincere apology for interrupting in the matters of the hearts,just trying to be optimistic here..."MAY THE SUN SHINE WARM UPON YOUR FIELDS"

I REST MY KEYBOARD

lefulefu:
my dad was just telling us about the way a man should behave in marriage and using that gentleman i told u who taught me in js2 as an example how a man ought not to behave then my mom told us that while she and that lady where in school at that time they were quite close the lady then was single.She had someone she really loved but that someone left her until this man she married came along.at first she didnt give in to the man but the man had to beg her and beg her and buy her gifts then she gave in to the man.Before she married the man my mom said she told her that wasnt attracted to the man and neither did she love him and besides the man is too old for her.That the reason she is just getting married to him is because he has a stable job and a little out of pity since he has been begging her.That is the only reason she is getting married to him but as for love she does not love him.We were surprised when we heard this..so no wonder she has been disrespecting the man then cheating on him and the man has been swallowing everything .As i said b4 the man is late now sha.high blood is the reason for his passing.many ppl these days especially the folks tend to suffer lot from high bp.

hmmm, i grab my lesson from this, use to tell my mom this whenever she is disturbing for marriage, ' A man should marry a woman that likes him, not the other way round' is very easy for a woman to marry someone she didn't love' that's what they do this days, marrying any man ready to settle down but without love.

We've not gotten to this river

HomerTimpson:
*CLEARS THROAT* the victims in your story didn't die of HBP,they kicked the bucket simply because of very low or no dopamane especialy the man...and reading from the comments i'm suspecting you and victorian,and i suggest you guys should just leave this stage and slide into the DMs already,cos why not?




my sincere apology for interrupting in the matters of the hearts,just trying to be optimistic here..."MAY THE SUN SHINE WARM UPON YOUR FIELDS"

I REST MY KEYBOARD

u mean low dopamine?
hmmm i thought low dopamine levels is responsible for parkinson disease?
he didnt have no parkinson
It was high blood pressure
Its most probably he had been living with it for years
many nigerian men are afflcited with high blood pressure and many dont bother to check and in most causes it not caused by lifestyle but by stress wich increases the stress hormone cortisol in the body and when cortisol is increased it can lead to weight gain in the abdominal area plus increase in high blood pressure.

dancok:
hmmm, i grab my lesson from this, use to tell my mom this whenever she is disturbing for marriage, ' A man should marry a woman that likes him, not the other way round' is very easy for a woman to marry someone she didn't love' that's what they do this days, marrying any man ready to settle down but without love.

bro i dey learn from that man story as well
a lot of guys just love introducing stress into their life.u can imagine even at ordinary girlfriend and boyfriend level some guys don dey experience serious stress from the girl.i tend to wonder how such guys would end up wen they marry such ladies.if u with someone and she doesnt make u feel at ease or she nags at u 24/7 and because of her u now taking to drinking and other vices omo dats the time u should sit her down and tell her u wan a break.peace of mind is bliss.

Vectorex:
Please join the movement and repost to save this girl..

#hope for Uchenna

Let's not leave her to die in silence

Help this girl !!!

hope this is not a scam

You are certain girls don't cheat?

Maybe yours don't, but don't ever put your money on a girl not cheating.

I am certain these guys felt the same way until it blew up in their faces.

Women are bad too, even more than they make men appear and these cheating girlfriend stories prove it.

The general sentiment is about guys and how they are polygamous, how they can't control "the snake" between their legs, how they can't stick to one girl, how much they lie.... blah blah and blah.

That narrative is about to change, with the evidence I am about to provide you.

I stumbled on a post on the subreddit, SuicideWatch. It's the story of a suicidal 18-year-old boy, who falls in love with a 16-year old virgin girl and promised her there will be no sex until she is ready.

Long story short, boy discovered girl cheats, but that's not the problem.

She is not with one male partner, girl is sleeping with over 6 different boys and even brought one to the apartment they both shared.

But Men are SCUM!

The stories below are real people sharing true stories of how wicked and heartless girls can be.

READ: Cheating Girlfriend

Okay

lefulefu:
many guys are still folowing that same way o
imagine the lame arguement that some guys put on that a woman that gives u issues when woeing her will make the best partner.some guys will brag how they woe a lady for seven yrs and begged and begged until she finally agreed to marry them .dem no know say such ladies tend to agree cos the main guys they really loved dumped them hence they use the other nigga as backup plan .

You are right.

So right

God may I not marry a man I don't love just to be married.
May such man not come my way o.

May this my relationship with my angel Boo be the last and remain joyful for both of us forever in Jesus name Amen.

I can't imagine living with a man I don't love. It's suicidal and depressing. Chai!

Na wa

lefulefu:
hope this is not a scam

The person involved is my course mate . And she's. Been in that condition for months.

Vectorex:


The person involved is my course mate . And she's. Been in that condition for months.

ok have taken down the account.hopefully i will send wat i have

marriage is not for everybody

If you won N20 Million, can you give your best friend N10 Million

This man in the video here did

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=49SXZAbYTTg