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Mimiliciously:
Is it right for my hubby to ask for passwords to my social media passwords yet refuse to supply his.

This is a very dicey situation and I don't want it to lead to unecessary issues.

I love my privacy alot and hardly post pictures. I never post him and he never posts me too but he always blows out my not posting him out of proportion. He's obsessed with my social media accounts and I don't even care about his. I also feel giving him him my password will have him posting his picture at will, which I wouldn't like.

What do you guys think.

Lol, he is insecure. Just give him excuses

Missimelda01 pls come and give wise counsel.

There's no trust again in your marriage
You want the truth?
Your Husband is cheating on you and you're Cheating on your husband as well

Nackzy:
There's no trust again in your marriage
You want the truth?
Your Husband is cheating on you and you're Cheating on your husband as well

What a summary!

Marriage: one of the most complex institutions

Make una dey try to communicate on things before it crystallizes.

Nackzy:
There's no trust again in your marriage
You want the truth?
Your Husband is cheating on you and you're Cheating on your husband as well

I'm not cheating

I'm seeing a lot of judgment but not seeing advices. Advice is all I need now.

Mimiliciously:
I'm seeing a lot of judgment but not seeing advices. Advice is all I need now.

Give him, so that he can calm down. After he is done looking, ask him if he will rest now.

Mimiliciously:
I'm seeing a lot of judgment but not seeing advices. Advice is all I need now.

Why does he want your SM passwords?

blackpanthar:


Lol, he is insecure. Just give him excuses

Missimelda01 pls come and give wise counsel.

As it is now, nothing you say or do can change his motives. Tell him to give you his passwords too, give him yours only after he has done that.
As long as you're not hiding anything, he'll get tired of monitoring you eventually.
And if he posts anything with your account, it shows he's not matured enough, change the password! But give him a chance first.

bukatyne:




Why does he want your SM passwords?

I have no idea. I think it's a control thing.

This social media thing have been a recurring issue in our 3 years of marriage. He can't just let it rest.

pocohantas:


Give him, so that he can calm down. After he is done looking, ask him if he will rest now.

I can give him because I truly have nothing to hide but what if he starts posting his pictures. That would really upset me.

give him if you don't have anything you won't want him to see, but change your passwords later

Mimiliciously:


I have no idea. I think it's a control thing.

This social media thing have been a recurring issue in our 3 years of marriage. He can't just let it rest.

So what brought it to the fore now?

@control thing: You mean your husband just woke up three years ago and asked for the passwords of your SM? No preceeding event?

Are there other ways he is trying to 'control' you?

SM has done and will continue to do more harm to marriages than good.....

I can't come and give my SM password to my wife........Even me sef dey fear d kind of big big skeletons i have inside my own Cabod..

Mimiliciously:
I can give him because I truly have nothing to hide but what if he starts posting his pictures. That would really upset me.

It’ll piss me off too. Reminds me of the NLder whose gf started posting her pictures on his WhatsApp status. What I am sure is, I will let him have the password. After that I will change it and he won’t have it again. Except he is ready to release his or say what is his problem.

missimelda01:


As it is now, nothing you say or do can change his motives. Tell him to give you his passwords too, give him yours only after he has done that.
As long as you're not hiding anything, he'll get tired of monitoring you eventually.
And if he posts anything with your account, it shows he's not matured enough, change the password! But give him a chance first.

He refuses to give me his and when I ask, he says it's because he's the one marrying me and not other way around. That he has the rights to my social media but I don't have the right to his.
This is really stressing me out. When people are having real issues in their unions, mine is social media. In the past this same issue have snowballed into something ugly. We were even on the verge of breakup. He says I disrespect him because I don't post his pictures. At some point, I had to block him and lied that I've deleted the account so I can have peace. But he later figured out I blocked him and continued stressing me about it.

pocohantas:


It’ll piss me off too. Reminds me of the NLder whose gf started posting her pictures on his WhatsApp status. What I am sure is, I will let him have the password. After that I will change it and he won’t have it again. Except he is ready to release his or say what is his problem.

.....Both should not see anything wrong in posting their pictures on each others social media statues except they are both cheating.

Are they not married for Christ sake?

bukatyne:


So what brought it to the fore now?

@control thing: You mean your husband just woke up three years ago and asked for the passwords of your SM? No preceeding event?

Are there other ways he is trying to 'control' you?

He tried to get me to change the sim I had been using for years immediately after we got married. I refused. The phone got lost one day and he told me to get a fresh sim and not retrieve the old number. . I did, so that peace can reign. Since then he's been on my social media. Stressing me about it.

Mimiliciously:


He refuses to give me his and when I ask, he says it's because he's the one marrying me and not other way around. That he has the rights to my social media but I don't have the right to his.
This is really stressing me out. When people are having real issues in their unions, mine is social media. In the past this same issue have snowballed into something ugly. We were even on the verge of breakup. He says I disrespect him because I don't post his pictures. At some point, I had to block him and lied that I've deleted the account so I can have peace. But he later figured out I blocked him and continued stressing me about it.

....Are you ashamed of your hubby?
Why can't you post his pics on your wall.?

You are making him suspect you are cheating on him by this actions of you not being able to post his pics and blocking him making him believe you ve delated your account.

pocohantas:


It’ll piss me off too. Reminds me of the NLder whose gf started posting her pictures on his WhatsApp status. What I am sure is, I will let him have the password. After that I will change it and he won’t have it again. Except he is ready to release his or say what is his problem.

Okay. Sounds reasonable

JONNYSPUTE:
.....Both should not see anything wrong in posting their pictures on each others social media statues except they are both cheating. Are they not married for Christ sake?

I can’t judge them because it is also what I am capable of. If I trust you so much, I can acknowledge some things, that is where it ends. No sharing of picture. No be my family SM people go use bad mouth scatter.

JONNYSPUTE:
....Are you ashamed of your hubby?
Why can't you post his pics on your wall.?You are making him suspect you are cheating on him by this actions of you not being able to post his pics and blocking him making him believe you ve delated your account.

He is also not posting her picture. So? Is he ashamed of her?

pocohantas:


I can’t judge them because it is also what I am capable of. If I trust you so much, I can acknowledge somethings, that is where it ends. No sharing of picture. No be my family SM people go use bad mouth scatter.

...I'm not in anyway judging them but if the husband will feel more secured with the posting of his pics or that of the general family on SM,I don't see anything wrong with it.

Abi the guy resemble that sticker? I no talk anything oo. Lol.

JONNYSPUTE:
....Are you ashamed of your hubby?
Why can't you post his pics on your wall.?

You are making him suspect you are cheating on him by this actions of it's not being able to post his pics and blocking him making him believe you ve delated your account.

He has never posted me. There's no sign on his page that he's even married. I never obsess about that. Why is he obsessed with my SM? I've posted him on my page a couple of times but deleted when I thought we were breaking up. I just refused to post back because I can't be doing post and delete. Why can't he just let me be!

JONNYSPUTE:
...I'm not in anyway judging them but if the husband will feel more secured with the posting of his pics or that of the general family on SM,I don't see anything wrong with it.

Abi the guy resemble that sticker? I no talk anything oo. Lol.

If he will feel secure by another person posting his pictures but he is not posting the person’s own, then he has issues.

Don’t give what you can’t take!

Mimiliciously:
He has never posted me. There's no sign on his page that he's even married. I never obsess about that. Why is he obsessed with my SM? I've posted him on my page a couple of times but deleted when I thought we were breaking up. I just refused to post back because I can't be doing post and delete. Why can't he just let me be!

.....Then talk sense into him when both of you are about making out.

I mean,talk to him with love and not in a harsh tone.

Both of you should start posting each other pics ASAP.

Mimiliciously:
Is it right for my hubby to ask for passwords to my social media passwords yet refuse to supply his.

This is a very dicey situation and I don't want it to lead to unecessary issues.

I love my privacy alot and hardly post pictures. I never post him and he never posts me too but he always blows out my not posting him out of proportion. He's obsessed with my social media accounts and I don't even care about his. I also feel giving him him my password will have him posting his picture at will, which I wouldn't like.

What do you guys think.

Just give him for peace to reign and change it later the husband you have is insecure because he cheats or thinks of cheating

Mimiliciously:


He tried to get me to change the sim I had been using for years immediately after we got married. I refused. The phone got lost one day and he told me to get a fresh sim and not retrieve the old number. . I did, so that peace can reign. Since then he's been on my social media. Stressing me about it.

Ha! Ha!

The members of the school that married women should change their contacts, signature and SM handles after marriage.

You got a new SIM, you can as well give him your password.

JidennaJason:
Without been told, you can see clearly that the Op and her husband "Rushed" into marriage just like the way Yakubu Dogara "Rushed" into the demonic APC...

-Lack of Trust.

-No bond between them.

-Lack of heart to heart communication.

That's all I see in this marriage....


If you're not hiding anything from him, then hand over the password... It's really that simple.

As long as he hands over his too. If both of them have nothing to hide, they should exchange passwords.