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| I Am Proud Of How I Was Raised, That's How I Will Raise My Children by mcdokwe(m): 3:51pm On Aug 04, 2020 |
My Mother gave me this mark while i was being disciplined for stealing her money. She told me that that I'd grow to tell the story of how my behavior brought about this scar. Even though she turned around to treat me and might not have intended to leave me with a scar. I understood my crime and still understand no parent should have to deal with a child as me at that point in my life and I have come to understand without any form of resentment her love for me and the need to curb any future tendency of a criminal life. That might have not be seen as the best way to raise a child citing 'civilization' but I love my mum more for loving me enough to want to guide me through the right path. Most times when I see people bragging about how 'my parents never beats me' I pity rather than envy them and can't help but blame their parents for doing a very poor job raising them; especially when I juxtapose that mentality or the irrationality and terrible behaviour they intend for you to condone without as much as raising your voice on them. Those set of kids, in my opinion grow up to have the most sense of entitlement, susceptible to extreme depression, selfish in dealing with others etc. If I ever get to have children, they will have to experience the kind of love I'm proud to say I had growing up and that is tough love. I read it somewhere that: "You should discipline your child or have the law do it later in their lives" 3 Likes
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| Re: I Am Proud Of How I Was Raised, That's How I Will Raise My Children by Righteousness89(m): 3:57pm On Aug 04, 2020 |
If my Mom wasn't as tough as she was on me and My Siblings, I don't think I will be what I am today! Despite all the Headiness and Stubbornness! I am Far away from them today but the Trainings and Discipline is what has made me what I am today! If your Parents don't Discipline you thoroughly, they Hate you! If you are under your Parents and they hail you when you dress anyhow, your parents hate you! If you Come Home with the opposite sex , Smooching ,misbehaving and any of your Parents see you and tell you, that's beautiful! They hate you! If you are Doing any sort of bad stuffs and your Parents live you the way you are, they Hate you! You would likely end up Useless.. If you have Grand parents who are Disciplinarians, go stay with them.. When you grow older you will appreciate! 4 Likes |
| Re: I Am Proud Of How I Was Raised, That's How I Will Raise My Children by ModestGal(f): 3:58pm On Aug 04, 2020 |
Op shouldn't be allowed to produce children. You have not even given birth, you are already planning abusing them, I hope you get arrested for physical child abuse when you try that stupidity. Somehow 11 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Am Proud Of How I Was Raised, That's How I Will Raise My Children by MZrapper(f): 4:02pm On Aug 04, 2020 |
How rich have you become? If you still earn peanuts, take down this post. 3 Likes |
| Re: I Am Proud Of How I Was Raised, That's How I Will Raise My Children by UndauntedYOCA(f): 4:06pm On Aug 04, 2020 |
Lol, thank goodness for my late father, he was a disciplinarian. He ensured we got all the stuff we needed but never spared the rod (although he didn't beat me much). I remember our two mouths of koboko  chain, na me cut am last last, one day as he was about beating me with it that's how the thing cut into two, that must have been the last time he whipped me till he died. I remember the slaps too oooo, chai but the one that really made me who I am and will always be were his words, if not for " if you fail to work then you'll end up poor and most likely a poor bricklayer/mechanic ". Chai, thank God for my papa sha, maybe I for don't turn runs girl after his demise. He raised me well even if it was just for a short time but he did a good job, however, not all children learn from being whipped ooo, some go just stubborn the more.3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Am Proud Of How I Was Raised, That's How I Will Raise My Children by thesicilian: 4:07pm On Aug 04, 2020 |
MZrapper:What has this got to do with money? ModestGal: If the OP's post makes both of you angry, then you probably need to do some serious self evaluation. 5 Likes |
| Re: I Am Proud Of How I Was Raised, That's How I Will Raise My Children by MZrapper(f): 4:14pm On Aug 04, 2020 |
thesicilian:Whatever message he intended to pass across will make more sense if the morality imposed on him has shaped his financial life in a away, but if he has nothing to show for it then he should return to his cave. I won't engage someone who hasn't seen life yet, the stories on the street are different when you are of age. Maybe I should rather ask him of his age, so as to estimate his possible life encounters. 5 Likes |
| Re: I Am Proud Of How I Was Raised, That's How I Will Raise My Children by thesicilian: 4:20pm On Aug 04, 2020 |
MZrapper:So you're one of those people that the more they talk, the worse it becomes. 6 Likes |
| Re: I Am Proud Of How I Was Raised, That's How I Will Raise My Children by MZrapper(f): 4:22pm On Aug 04, 2020 |
thesicilian:Dive into a bottomless pit with your opinion. Last I checked, no one listened to the opinion of a broke stag. 4 Likes |
| Re: I Am Proud Of How I Was Raised, That's How I Will Raise My Children by Ningen(m): 4:31pm On Aug 04, 2020 |
You've a very twisted and messed up mentality concerning discipline, correction and love. The fact that you believe not beating kids equates to poor parental duty, signifies the need for you to undergo immediate psychiatric counselling. Taking of facts, there's no research out there to back your claim of unabused kids turning up with the most sense of entitlement & etcetera. It's just YOUR unprofessional opinion. My advice to you is not to have kids. Not yet. 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Am Proud Of How I Was Raised, That's How I Will Raise My Children by mcdokwe(m): 4:34pm On Aug 04, 2020 |
thesicilian: Not all posts on social media deserves a response. I have stated my opinion and owe her no explanation neither have I begged her for upkeep. 3 Likes |
| Re: I Am Proud Of How I Was Raised, That's How I Will Raise My Children by Nobody: 5:38pm On Aug 04, 2020 |
MZrapper:And everyone listens to the opinion of a confused Muslim?  3 Likes |
| Re: I Am Proud Of How I Was Raised, That's How I Will Raise My Children by Nobody: 5:40pm On Aug 04, 2020 |
MZrapper:Ofoke,We all know that you're in your early thirties,stop the reminder. 1 Like |
| Re: I Am Proud Of How I Was Raised, That's How I Will Raise My Children by ireneidiva(f): 7:47pm On Aug 04, 2020 |
Lol! These toxic people out here are praising their parents for abusing them and giving them marks. Smh. Who told you that you turned out well? Most of you are also abusive to people under you. You are horrible to your maids and even your children and you believe you turned out well. You fight and insult people here and you believe you turned out well. Smh. 5 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Am Proud Of How I Was Raised, That's How I Will Raise My Children by Haywhymido(m): 1:23am On Aug 05, 2020 |
front page material |
| Re: I Am Proud Of How I Was Raised, That's How I Will Raise My Children by Mindlog: 2:08am On Aug 05, 2020 |
So convicted criminals in Nigerian prisons (correctional facilities) and those still out there committing crimes of various sorts are the outcome of not being beaten when they were kids? |
| Re: I Am Proud Of How I Was Raised, That's How I Will Raise My Children by Kobojunkie: 2:15am On Aug 05, 2020 |
ModestGal:RoFlMao  |
| Re: I Am Proud Of How I Was Raised, That's How I Will Raise My Children by mcdokwe(m): 7:21am On Aug 05, 2020 |
Mindlog:When you raise your kids right, they become better people for the society. 1 Like |
| Re: I Am Proud Of How I Was Raised, That's How I Will Raise My Children by xynerise: 7:26am On Aug 05, 2020 |
mcdokwe:The society also has a role to play in raising your kids. Just pray they make the fight choice 1 Like |
| Re: I Am Proud Of How I Was Raised, That's How I Will Raise My Children by Mindlog: 7:48am On Aug 05, 2020 |
mcdokwe: Right is relative. Some people believe physically hitting their children will make them become better adults while some don't subscribe to it. The question is, with today's Nigeria has the beating of young ones translated to Nigerian adults who are more industrious, less likely to commit nor rationalize wrong doings , translated to larger number of people who are disciplined in private lives and public offices? Has the beatings many in Nigeria received as kids helped them become better persons in life than Caucasian kids who were not beaten by their parents? |
| Re: I Am Proud Of How I Was Raised, That's How I Will Raise My Children by Dtruthspeaker: 9:58am On Aug 05, 2020 |
MZrapper: So the worth of a person shall be judged by his bank account? Do you know it is mostly the poor who think this way? Well, we do also understand that paper called money, is a god over the woman who has placed herself under it. 1 Like |
| Re: I Am Proud Of How I Was Raised, That's How I Will Raise My Children by Dtruthspeaker: 10:01am On Aug 05, 2020 |
MZrapper: Yeah, the wisdom of the poor is despised, but the wise seeth wisdom and take hold of it! 1 Like |
| Re: I Am Proud Of How I Was Raised, That's How I Will Raise My Children by truespeak: 10:06am On Aug 05, 2020 |
It is written "Raise your child in the way that he shall go and when he is grown, he shall not depart from it" If you want he to do right, teach him right and it shall come back to you and conversely if you want him to do wrong, then do same and the same shall verily return to you. |
| Re: I Am Proud Of How I Was Raised, That's How I Will Raise My Children by Unnerve: 11:07am On Aug 05, 2020 |
Mindlog:Well there's a Caucasian man who is president of a Caucasian country in the western hemisphere who was never beaten as a kid, yet he's probably the most unstable megalomaniac in the history of the white house who was voted for by millions of other unstable psychotics who were never beaten as children. Point being, there's absolutely no correlation between the form of discipline a person receives as a child and what they turn out to be as an adult. This point goes to you too @ mcdokwe. 1 Like |
| Re: I Am Proud Of How I Was Raised, That's How I Will Raise My Children by ireneidiva(f): 11:17am On Aug 05, 2020 |
Unnerve:Unstable is a relative term. I'm sure people close to you may say you are unstable as well. An unstable billionaire that became the president of the most powerful country in the world voted in by citizens of a country that works should be looked up to mehn. 2 Likes |
| Re: I Am Proud Of How I Was Raised, That's How I Will Raise My Children by Mindlog: 11:24am On Aug 05, 2020 |
Unnerve: Just as we have Presidents on the African continent who probably were beaten as kids by their parents to "instill" discipline in them but turned out to become kleptomaniacs and their policies indicating black lives does not matter and who were repeatedly voted in by majority who were also beaten as kids and have been plagued by learned helplessness (psychology). Our outcomes as adults is heavily influenced by our childhood experiences and this is evidence based. 3 Likes |
| Re: I Am Proud Of How I Was Raised, That's How I Will Raise My Children by Unnerve: 11:34am On Aug 05, 2020 |
ireneidiva:Being unstable is not a relative term, I dont know who taught you that. When a person is unstable, a large number of people can attest to it, not just a small biased group. Half the world (that's a whole lot of people) believe the billionaire president is unstable and anyone voting/supporting him must be equally unstable. This is nothing compared to those few people close to you who may say you are unstable. Point again being, there's no correlation between a working country and the form of discipline children receive in that country. UAE & most other Arabic countries are fond of extreme forms of abuse and violence on children/women, yet compared to Nigeria, these are countries that work. 1 Like |
| Re: I Am Proud Of How I Was Raised, That's How I Will Raise My Children by Unnerve: 11:39am On Aug 05, 2020 |
Mindlog:My point exactly. Beating a child may not make him/her a well-rounded adult, same way, not beating a child may also not make him/her a well-rounded adult. There's no manual. |
| Re: I Am Proud Of How I Was Raised, That's How I Will Raise My Children by ireneidiva(f): 11:49am On Aug 05, 2020 |
Unnerve:UAE is not fond of extreme abuse to women and children please get your facts right. There is a relationship between a working country and discipline. Their leaders are not corrupt, that's how the country works. Your so called leaders that were disciplined with violence, see how they turned out. Unstable is a relative term. The people that voted for him do not believe that he is unstable. You that lives in Nigeria with believes that He is unstable. And you think you are alright? Oh well. I 'off' my mic at this point. 3 Likes |
| Re: I Am Proud Of How I Was Raised, That's How I Will Raise My Children by Unnerve: 11:51am On Aug 05, 2020 |
ireneidiva: 1. You don't know where I live. 2. People who didn't vote for him believe he is unstable, so do leaders of many other countries. 3. Typing the bold text tells me you are clueless, and just typing for the sake of typing. Go fool around with someone else. 1 Like |
| Re: I Am Proud Of How I Was Raised, That's How I Will Raise My Children by Graxie(f): 1:23pm On Aug 05, 2020 |
The stable one is the one dishing out insult to win an argument, ok.  2 Likes |
| Re: I Am Proud Of How I Was Raised, That's How I Will Raise My Children by Professorcplus(m): 7:14pm On Aug 05, 2020 |
lreneidiva:You spoke my mind. In my opinion, it's all about the family and exposure to the environment. I have a case study of two families. Just look at this scenario. Family A: Husband abuses and insult wife with words, sometimes hit wife while she loosely talk back or rebel. Out of frustration, wife talk hashly to children on any slight issue sometimes hit children and slibings. Slibings grew tough skin and hatred and develop strong wing to rebel among parent, friends and sometimes hit themselves. The children then relates in the environment where is only the superior adult do the beaten and the inferior adult one get beaten. To further escalate issues, almost everyone in the environment generally becomes eligible to "hit" or oppress/abuse the inferior ones they're superior to with little or no rebellion. This has caused a psychological impaired set of adults, who thinks they can "hit" you so far they are superior to you. After, it's normal thing and a way to correct someone. Such child also grew up to become adult with the same mentality and ideology because, that's the best way to make the infant stick to correction. No wonder an average Nigerian is aggressive. But does it work? Yes, only to people born and bread in such environment. But you can train a child without abusive hitting but it lately depends on you, family and environment. Children were not born to become aggressive, stubborn and rebellious, its the environment and family relationship that made them so. Family B: Husband respect wife and is a good role model to wife and family. Wife give back honour and respect to husband and present a good image of father to the children. Both parent gives room for children to explain themselves in case of wrong doings and mischievous and give them unbiased decipline to defaulter irrespective of who's superior or inferior. Doing so, promote a relationship with love, respect, reputable laws and morals to uphold. Also, among those closer to them. Such child takes to correction than the one in "Family A" without abusive hitting. But right, "Family A" is dominating because we are living in an insane society with angry, toxic and bitter people as a result of their awful life experiences and Nigeria is not even helping matter with increase in Petro price.
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