When u make law from everything in ur religion why wont she? Maybe another man across the border has taught her something you dont know, sex is not just about pounding

Esji80:
Subhanallahi
This is a serious issue

Those saying he should add another wife...do you know his financial capacity providing feeding , clothing and shelter
?

@ OP

I think you need to visit an Islamic Chemist or Therapist.

It could be infections or jinn ashiq which she need Ruqya.

Speak to her waliyy or any of her respected Aunty's or Uncle.

May grant peace,succour and mutual understanding among you.

May Allah bless you and your family aameeen

While it is necessary that the notion that polyandry is archaic and evil should be dismantled and eroded. A new form of extremism has entered our scape—men must marry more than one wife even if they are not capable. You would even find in a gathering where the men drink and still find it hard to keep up with solah, the imam preaching mathna. Back in Ilorin, a particular brother who brands himself "salafi konko" used to refer to people with one wife as "ore pastor". It's so sad that these people have taken the frontiers of Ahlussunah and Manhaj of salafiyyah.

Guy forget, them don dey service your wife better kponran outside. She's just feeling guilty

It's not everything you associate with jinn. Trust me there's is 80% chance that she just started having an extramarital affair.

womenareapes:
not the one in your quran!

the one in the bible

No! I'll rather give my life to Allah and follow the call to monotheisms that jesus himself called to as he is nothing but a messenger and a righteous servant of Allah and he himself affirmed it in both scriptures. check this out!

John 17:3 ESV / 15 h
And this is eternal life, that they know you
the only true God, and Jesus Christ "whom you
have sent."




As-Saf 61:6

وَإِذْ قَالَ عِيسَى ٱبْنُ مَرْيَمَ يَٰبَنِىٓ إِسْرَٰٓءِيلَ إِنِّى رَسُولُ ٱللَّهِ إِلَيْكُم مُّصَدِّقًا لِّمَا بَيْنَ يَدَىَّ مِنَ ٱلتَّوْرَىٰةِ وَمُبَشِّرًۢا بِرَسُولٍ يَأْتِى مِنۢ بَعْدِى ٱسْمُهُۥٓ أَحْمَدُۖ فَلَمَّا جَآءَهُم بِٱلْبَيِّنَٰتِ قَالُوا۟ هَٰذَا سِحْرٌ مُّبِينٌ

And [mention] when Jesus, the son of Mary, said, "O children of Israel, indeed "I am the messenger of Allah" to you confirming what came before me of the Torah and bringing good tidings of a messenger to come after me, whose name is Ahmad." But when he came to them with clear evidences, they said, "This is obvious magic."

I can understand your stress..!

smth like this do happen, it's not about been sexually unsatisfied or circurmstition.
since you have discussed with her and she refused to open up. it is better you recite ruqya for her because it is possible she has been possessed by jinn and if that one didn't work, meet her family and explain the issue so they assist u.

Masha Allah, i love you lilah the fact that you speak with hujah makes me love you more

saheedbadmus:
My brother I don't even k is what to say but I feel you need to keep talking to her or are u doing something she doesn't like lately, are you not that active like u use to be ..also I know child birth makes some women loose interest in sex .. if u can't hold ur body it's better you marry a second wife o ...Wa-in khiftum alla tuqsitoo fee alyatama fainkihoo ma taba lakum mina alnnisa-i mathna wathulatha warubaAAa fa-in khiftum alla taAAdiloo fawahidatan aw ma malakat aymanukum thalika adna alla taAAooloo

I think this is not ordinary. Even women that doesn't menstruate any longer do have sexual urge/feelings.
However, you are advised to engage her on the importance of sex in marriage, consult either her parents and/or marriage counselor.
Ultimately, you may need to consider marrying a second wife in order for you not to become a cheat/adulterer.

nahzyla:
Just look at that egbon up there advising you to marry another wife because Islam allows polygamy.

So that you will end up sexually frustrating her as well

You just said my mind ....I don't know what most guys thinks...

Getting married to another wife because she's not active at the moment is selfish interest...

What of if the second wife is not sexually active too?

Ajengogo:
Salaam alaikum brothers and sisters.

I have a wife of around 11 years of marriage with children who has suddenly lost interest in sexual intercourse. She is submissive in several other aspects but when it comes to issue of sex, she loathes it like hell. She developed this feeling all of a sudden.

I have tried to engage her on this, but she wouldn't talk straight about this issue. She gives flimsy excuses always. We have even separated from our bed for several weeks now on this account, to see whether she will start developing the feeling all to no avail. I have told her that it could be jinn, she debunked it and refused to embark on the prayers. I am praying seriously about this. But she doesn't look concerned

At this stage, what exactly am I supposed to do. I don't want to marry another wife, and I don't want to be involved in extramarital affairs

To me there's no jinn whatsoever disturbing your wife as people claim ...

Also, circumcised women too enjoy sex

The thing is your wife sudden lost of sex is YOU

First, having sex in marriage comes from the mind ...you might have offended her, and she's still not happy with you

Secondly, do you still make her feel loved?

do you still buy stuffs for her like when you just met ?

Do you still surprise her with gift?

Do you still tell her you love her?

Do you still kiss her unexpectedly?

Do you pre-intimacy before sex?

Do you give her money when she does not ask?

Most husband are guilty of this...after marriage they feel there's no need ....the truth is, some women love to be pampered..

Improve on your relationship with her, make her happy and lastly pray together...

Don't mind people suggesting you have a second wife....it doesn't worth it

Improve on yourself

May Al mighty Allah preserve your marriage from guilt and destruction (amen).

She's obviously not telling you something!
Maybe you are doing something wrong?
Or you are not doing it the way she wants!
I also have heard some women lose their sex will if they have had too much (like a lot) so many things may have caused it
if your kind of sex is the selfish type where you only enjoy your bit and get off, she may be doing it with you for those years just for the child birth, you might need to bring something different into the play, during sex both of you should have fun

Ajengogo:
Salaam alaikum brothers and sisters.

At this stage, what exactly am I supposed to do. I don't want to marry another wife, and I don't want to be involved in extramarital affairs

WA alaykum salaam!
1) Prior to now, where you really satisfying are sexually? Be sincere and retrospective!
2) Make are happy as much as you can, buy her gifts, take her out, go for holiday..... Just take her away to some private and see if there is a change....
3) If 2, does not work, talk to her Mum, she will definitely open up to her Mum and am sure you'll get it sorted!

All African man is concerned is about sex and worshipping his wife's body. As long as African man is getting sex every night nothing else matters. After 11 years of daily sex, womans eyes are open and realizes there is more to life than the importance of sex African men have sloganised and idolised.