I have a female friend that I really respect so much, very decent young lady. She came over to my place today and as a responsible person I was not thinking of anything funny. But just a little play and contact with her I started having rock solid erection. Did I add that this girl is extremely beautiful. I couldn't control myself around her that I started behaving funny. She left feeling disappointed because she trusted me. I am also aware of how a woman uses lack of self-control from a man as a tool of manipulation. So how can a man cultivate the habit of self-control because like a nairalander always says, a man with self-control has solved 80 percent of his problem. Thank you

Having an errection is biologically normal. However, manipulating, forcing or having sex with someone without her consent is bad.

If you can control your thoughts you can control your actions. Your dominant thought controls you, if you want to be free then find a way to disengage your thought from sex, women offer way more than sex.

usj:
Having an errection is biologically normal.

Irresponsible!

When a woman is materialistic, she has an entitled mentality, when a man is aroused at the sight of his female guest, it's biologically normal

At the end of the day, we're all selfish in different aspects.

Untill you find a solution to your predicament, try and avoid close body contact with the opposite sex as much as possible.

mariahAngel:


Irresponsible!

When a woman is materialistic, she has an entitled mentality, when a man is aroused at the sight of his female guest, it's biologically normal

At the end of the day, we're all selfish in different aspects.

What is irresponsible? Did you listen to yourself while typing this?

It's absolutely normal for man to have errection its only bad when the errection controls you...in fact you are abnormal when you don't experience errection around a woman you sexually find attractive...

Many of you want to effeminate men specie with your gibberish...

patani:


What is irresponsible? Did you listen to yourself while typing this?

It's absolutely normal for man to have errection its only bad when the errection controls you...in fact you are abnormal when you don't experience errection around a woman you sexually find attractive...

Many of you want to effeminate men specie with your gibberish...

Are you saying it is impossible for a man to control himself?
What sets him apart from a he-goat then?

mariahAngel:


Irresponsible!

When a woman is materialistic, she has an entitled mentality, when a man is aroused at the sight of his female guest, it's biologically normal

At the end of the day, we're all selfish in different aspects.

The Op is not complaining about any woman. If I understand him correctly he is trying to learn how to control his sexual urge, he was behaving erratically in front of his guest. At no point did he said she was materialistic.

mariahAngel:


Are you saying it is impossible for a man to control himself?
What sets him apart from a he-goat then?

If you have never been in a man's body, you should not comment about it... FYI Part of controlling himself is not allowing his dick to control his action...

So all those your he-goat talk is baseless

now listen up Rookie! let me tell you a thing or two.... what ever it is you did to make the chick flee in disapointment should remind you never ever ever ever did i say ever never? try all the things they used for our grandmothers to get them in bed ... you will end up looking like a creep... now if you want to have self control you need to control your thoughts stop watching porn that shit is the reason kids are having kids today... secondly STOP thinking of a woman as a bag of meat with a pussy, that was in the past... nowadays if you respect a woman and yourself, engage her interlectually only... yeah! let her freind zone you its better than to behave the way she expects ALL men to behave ... like Hot dogs.

just apologize from your heart and let her know what kinda friend you wanna be and keep sex outa your mind keep your thoughts free from that shit... besides is 5 minutes of pleasure worth all the regret ?

let me tell you a secret... which i have just discovered ... there is soooooooooo much power when a man disregards all sexual properties of a woman and simple engages her as a human bieng see ehn... you can never go wrong ...you will always express your mind from a pure head space...

bottom line sex... that shit is only usefull for having kids and even then it still brings pain with it... keep that shit outcha mind and yould be okay....



this is RAPE claim era! men are going down faster than olosho breasts o! just be praying police dont enter your case on this one you have done self dont put your future in a hole... oya go and sin no more.

Na wa o, so she visited you, both of you were alone in private, then there was playing and some body contact and she expected you to not have an erection?

Is she mad?

Or did you try to kiss/grab her?
I need to ask this because I don't understand how an absolutely normal and healthy reaction to her presence, should be disappointing to her.
Did she think you were impotent?


All that aside anyway, having an erection is completely normal in certain situations (in private especially). In public though, it would make you seem like a pervert.
Regarding your friend, the only way you wouldn't have gotten aroused, is if you were never attracted to her in the first place.

Now about self-control;
It's not about preventing yourself from having an erection, even women get moist over little things as well – sometimes just looking at men, sometimes even sitting inside a car on a bumpy road, sometimes it's the touch, perfume/smell, or voice of a guy, etc. So all of this is perfectly normal.
Self-control is about ignoring these feelings and not acting on them. As a man, once you're able to ignore it for the first few minutes, your erection will die down.

For example, a woman is trying to seduce you and strip teases in front of you. You're allowed to have an erection/get aroused, what you're not allowed to do is to act on it – you let her foöl herself and put her clothes back on when she's tired, this is what self-control is about.

Got it?

JESUS is the only answer ooooo

usj:

The Op is not complaining about any woman. If I understand him correctly he is trying to learn how to control his sexual urge, he was behaving erratically in front of his guest. At no point did he said she was materialistic.

You initial comment implied that it is normal. Is it?

patani:


If you have never been in a man's body, you should not comment about it... FYI Part of controlling himself is not allowing his dick to control his action...

So all those your he-goat talk is baseless

There's no excuse for irresponsible behaviour.

You need to create a personal philosophy, which must be your guide on women matter in particular and life in general, because one who doesn't stand for something, will always fall for anything. Of course, after creating your philosophy, if you can't walk and work on it, you aren't healthy - one's ability to live up to his philosophy is a first sign of being responsible.

mariahAngel:


You initial comment implied that it is normal. Is it?

I have not changed my opinion, having an errection is normal. It's in our biological design. It's in out instinct to procreate so whenever you see someone that attracts you, that person triggers that instinct automatically. How you go about it is what defines you as a rapist or not.

Tundetunapaa:
I have a female friend that I really respect so much, very decent young lady. She came over to my place today and as a responsible person I was not thinking of anything funny. But just a little play and contact with her I started having rock solid erection. Did I add that this girl is extremely beautiful. I couldn't control myself around her that I started behaving funny. She left feeling disappointed because she trusted me. I am also aware of how a woman uses lack of self-control from a man as a tool of manipulation. So how can a man cultivate the habit of self-control because like a nairalander always says, a man with self-control has solved 80 percent of his problem. Thank you

It's not your fault bro. There's meant to be sexual education for men in schools but unfortunately there isn't that's why many never master their bodies and make regrettable decisions for that.
Flesh and blood brings hunger, thirst, sleep in all animals. In males, it activates libido by sight. It's natural order, none of that should make you feel guilty.
It's important to know this if you'll have control of the situation, else you'll think you did wrong and create a defeatist mentality that'll lead you into a mould of failure in managing the situation.
You didn't fail with that lady. She was disappointed, right? Well that's cause she's not a male and she'll never understand male physiology.
Now unlike animals, we think of the consequences of our actions. Your urges will enslave you and grip you tighter the more you gratify them. This will drastically reduce your productivity in every area of life and lead you to make many foolish decisions. It takes your true masculinity away from you in other words. So a man has to decide that he will fight nature and his own flesh and blood.
This of course is not going to be easy but you'll win if you don't quit. The key is in your eyes and thoughts. Everytime you catch yourself falling into the pleasure induced from sight. Snap out of it and immediately begin thinking of the most important things you need to invest your life in and start acting towards it. Now that's a habit you'll build over time and won't be mastered overnight. After a long time of practicing this habit, your brain will register a high for that thought and that endeavour and when you see any sexual triggers rather than seeking sex or a woman, your brain will seek that endeavour instead.

mariahAngel:


You initial comment implied that it is normal. Is it?

I'm not the one you quoted but yes, it's normal. And It's very wrong too for ladies to come give men advice on their urges. Wtc? What do you know about male physiology? FYI, You would most likely do as the average man if you had male body.

Tundetunapaa:

Wow thanks man you making lot of sense

That's a lady bro. Men are incapable of that kind of sense

mariahAngel:


There's no excuse for irresponsible behaviour.

Wat irresponsible behavior are you talking about?

Obviously you do not know what you are talking about

usj:


I have not changed my opinion, having an errection is normal. It's in our biological design. It's in out instinct to procreate so whenever you see someone that attracts you, that person triggers that instinct automatically. How you go about it is what defines you as a rapist or not.

She is obviously talking giberish... Women like her are in mission to make men effminate... Anyways it's sisi men like them that agree with them

patani:


Wat irresponsible behavior are you talking about?

Obviously you do not know what you are talking about

Allowing your erotic feelings get the best of you is irresponsible.

patani:


She is obviously talking giberish... Women like her are in mission to make men effminate... Anyways it's sisi men like them that agree with them

Okay! But personally I won't call him names. I believe that seeking for ways on how to master his weakness is the most ethical and logical thing to do. If you know how much men have lost because of inability to control their sexual needs you will only look at helping the op and nothing else. Bill Clinton, Tiger wood, Strauss Khan etc..... Were in deep shit because of it.

Get busy, u tink about women too much.Hop ure nt among those vagina people sha

usj:
Having an errection is biologically normal. However, manipulating, forcing or having sex with someone without her consent is bad.

If you can control your thoughts you can control your actions. Your dominant thought controls you, if you want to be free then find a way to disengage your thought from sex, women offer way more than sex.

anytime you're with a woman think of how hard this country is. You won't even think about your JT or even remember that you have one. If it doesn't work always count from 1-50 backwardly. This one na finisher.

Accept Jesus as your Lord and personal saviour and self control will come natural. I have been celibate for long now ever since I accepted him.

I remember the female friend i had over and we were just laughing and goofing around and body contact play
then I caught a boner

I just told her alright had enough ..
kept a.straight face and just agreed to whatever it was to end the argument and the rough play..... I told her let not start what we won't finish.... she caught a glimpse of it smirked and the topic changed went on to talk about different things

she still teases me about that moment....and jokes about me catching a boner for her

trust me if your straight forward and you have intelligent ladies arround you would respect yourself

You can't really control erections. You can hide them or at worse, laugh them off and act like it's no big deal.

For her to be disappointed, did you attempt to put the erection to use? Because there's no way shed be disappointed for something she knew nothing about or something she noticed you were hiding.

mariahAngel:


Irresponsible!

When a woman is materialistic, she has an entitled mentality, when a man is aroused at the sight of his female guest, it's biologically normal

At the end of the day, we're all selfish in different aspects.

smh

Franzinni:
now listen up Rookie! let me tell you a thing or two.... what ever it is you did to make the chick flee in disapointment should remind you never ever ever ever did i say ever never? try all the things they used for our grandmothers to get them in bed ... you will end up looking like a creep... now if you want to have self control you need to control your thoughts stop watching porn that shit is the reason kids are having kids today... secondly STOP thinking of a woman as a bag of meat with a pussy, that was in the past... nowadays if you respect a woman and yourself, engage her interlectually only... yeah! let her freind zone you its better than to behave the way she expects ALL men to behave ... like Hot dogs.

just apologize from your heart and let her know what kinda friend you wanna be and keep sex outa your mind keep your thoughts free from that shit... besides is 5 minutes of pleasure worth all the regret ?

let me tell you a secret... which i have just discovered ... there is soooooooooo much power when a man disregards all sexual properties of a woman and simple engages her as a human bieng see ehn... you can never go wrong ...you will always express your mind from a pure head space...

bottom line sex... that shit is only usefull for having kids and even then it still brings pain with it... keep that shit outcha mind and yould be okay....



this is RAPE claim era! men are going down faster than olosho breasts o! just be praying police dont enter your case on this one you have done self dont put your future in a hole... oya go and sin no more.

Simp

Did you rape her while she was in ur place? If No, you have self control you just don't know it. Who told you she wasn't excited to see you going erected? What if she fake that disappointment on her face? Surely, you know little about the women. And If in actual sense she left disappointed,to hell with her, there are some dudes using her as napkin as per sex issue. op use ur brain and don't feel less of urself because of the vagina people.