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I'm Sad My Father Is A Pastor, And I Don't Want To Be One. by Xpain: 8:43am On Sep 02, 2020
I created this account to stay as anonymous as possible.
My Father owns a Church.. he is a pastor. I'm in my early twenties, the first Son of two boys only. And I don't want to be one.
They are trying everything to make me one.
it's making me sad and I'm developing crippling depression.
I don't see myself as a Pastor, I don't want to be one. But everything points to me taking over the church.
People are already looking at me somehow,talking to me like I should already be coming up, on the pulpit. But I don't see myself doing it.
I'm always thinking and moody.
I don't think I will ever be happy in life. Because no matter the decision I take I will never be happy.

I don't really know what to do..
Sometimes I feel like taking a bullet in my head to avoid the shame of some else taking over the church. They remind me of this almost every day
Re: I'm Sad My Father Is A Pastor, And I Don't Want To Be One. by EzzyCarter: 8:48am On Sep 02, 2020
"For the call of God is without regret" ...that being said, let no one force or pressure you into following your dad's path. Nowhere is it cast in stone you've gotta follow the status quo. Although I must confess if God needs you, it'd do well for you to heed His call. The last part of your post made a reference to you been ashamed/depressed...Why would you be ashamed of your maker tho?

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Re: I'm Sad My Father Is A Pastor, And I Don't Want To Be One. by Yujiz(m): 8:49am On Sep 02, 2020
There s no shame bros.....if u knw God hasnt called u into pastoral ministry then dont go where He hasnt sent you....its not by force pls
Nd stop feeling depressed,no b somtin wey dem dey inherit
Av a discussion wt ur father as2 ow u feel nd m sure hed pray about it nd God wud lead him aright...God is not an author of confusion
Relax

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Re: I'm Sad My Father Is A Pastor, And I Don't Want To Be One. by Nobody: 8:50am On Sep 02, 2020
If you're not called, you can't be a pastor. So don't fret it. Or is your father trying to make you one?

Tell him you're not called to be a pastor. Better still, pray sincerely and ask God if He wants you in that office. If he does, He'll put the interest in your heart and you'll begin to have the zeal and passion for it.

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Re: I'm Sad My Father Is A Pastor, And I Don't Want To Be One. by OtemAtum: 8:51am On Sep 02, 2020
Did your father ask you to take up the pastoral job? Sit your father down and tell him your intention. You are an adult and you are entitled to your rights of choosing any legit business you want.

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Re: I'm Sad My Father Is A Pastor, And I Don't Want To Be One. by IamSalt: 8:54am On Sep 02, 2020
You don begin dey fear call wey you go pick when phone never ring??
Abi you wan make God remember you quick quick??

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Re: I'm Sad My Father Is A Pastor, And I Don't Want To Be One. by Xpain: 8:59am On Sep 02, 2020
EzzyCarter:
"For the call of God is without regret" ...that being said, let no one force or pressure you into following your dad's path. Nowhere is it cast in stone you've gotta follow the status quo. Although I must confess if God needs you, it'd do well for you to heed His call. The last part of your post made a reference to you been ashamed/depressed...Why would you be ashamed of your maker tho?
the Shame of someone else taking over.. that's how they make me feel
Re: I'm Sad My Father Is A Pastor, And I Don't Want To Be One. by Xpain: 9:06am On Sep 02, 2020
Brachaa:
If you're not called, you can't be a pastor. So don't fret it. Or is your father trying to make you one?

Tell him you're not called to be a pastor. Better still, pray sincerely and ask God if He wants you in that office. If he does, He'll put the interest in your heart and you'll begin to have the zeal and passion for it.
Yeah.. they are trying to make me one.. thanks
Re: I'm Sad My Father Is A Pastor, And I Don't Want To Be One. by Xpain: 9:07am On Sep 02, 2020
OtemAtum:
Did your father ask you to take up the pastoral job? Sit your father down and tell him your intention. You are an adult and you are entitled to your rights of choosing any legit business you want.
Yujiz:
There s no shame bros.....if u knw God hasnt called u into pastoral ministry then dont go where He hasnt sent you....its not by force pls
Nd stop feeling depressed,no b somtin wey dem dey inherit
Av a discussion wt ur father as2 ow u feel nd m sure hed pray about it nd God wud lead him aright...God is not an author of confusion
Relax
Thanks
Re: I'm Sad My Father Is A Pastor, And I Don't Want To Be One. by DICKstractor: 9:40am On Sep 02, 2020
I thought pastorship is a calling not something you get elected to do like in democracy


Why's your father trying to treat the church like a family business. It should not be so. I believe they are more qualified pastors there to take over. But your father decided to transfer it to you like one family big legacy or inheritance


You said the same of others taking over the church is giving you suicide intentions. Damn nigga, the church can not grow with this mindset.

Bro, it's your life. You can choose to say no as far as you know you weren't called for the the pastoral ministry

Righteousness89 come give your verdict

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Re: I'm Sad My Father Is A Pastor, And I Don't Want To Be One. by Righteousness89(m): 9:52am On Sep 02, 2020
Xpain:
I created this account to stay as anonymous as possible.
My Father owns a Church.. he is a pastor. I'm in my early twenties, the first Son of two boys only. And I don't want to be one.
They are trying everything to make me one.
it's making me sad and I'm developing crippling depression.
I don't see myself as a Pastor, I don't want to be one. But everything points to me taking over the church.
People are already looking at me somehow,talking to me like I should already be coming up, on the pulpit. But I don't see myself doing it.
I'm always thinking and moody.
I don't think I will ever be happy in life. Because no matter the decision I take I will never be happy.

I don't really know what to do..
Sometimes I feel like taking a bullet in my head to avoid the shame of some else taking over the church. They remind me of this almost every day

Ministry is not by First Born, Certificate or Grammar!
Ministry is a Calling!

Don't Let anyone Force you into what you are not called for!



If not you may End up a Symbol of Disater.

If you are not Called into Ministry, Do not try to Venture in.. you will be Messed up

But note; if God Calls you into His work and you are running away, you will also end up being Messed up.

It's only you that knows if you are Called or not!

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Re: I'm Sad My Father Is A Pastor, And I Don't Want To Be One. by Nobody: 10:03am On Sep 02, 2020
Righteousness89:


Ministry is not by First Born, Certificate or Grammar!
Ministry is a Calling!

Don't Let anyone Force you into what you are not called for!



If not you may End up a Symbol of Disater.

If you are not Called into Ministry, Do not try to Venture in.. you will be Messed up

But note; if God Calls you into His work and you are running away, you will also end up being Messed up.

It's only you that knows if you are Called or not!


Exactly. He needs to be convinced beyond reasonable doubts that he's not called before refusing his father's orders.

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Re: I'm Sad My Father Is A Pastor, And I Don't Want To Be One. by Nobody: 10:27am On Sep 02, 2020
Xpain:
I created this account to stay as anonymous as possible.
My Father owns a Church.. he is a pastor. I'm in my early twenties, the first Son of two boys only. And
it's making me sad and I'm
I don't see myself as a Pastor, I don't want to be one. But everyer the church.
People are already looking at me somehow,talking to be coming up, on the pulpit. But I don't see myself doing it.
I'm always thinking and moody.
I don't think I will ever be happy in life. Because no matter the decision I take I will never be happy.

I don't really know what to do..
Sometimes I feel like taking a bullet in my head to avoid the shame of some else taking over the church. They remind me of this almost every day
The seed ought to have been planted in your heart at a tender age in which by now you would have gotten a full conviction if you have been called by God or not. Also your dad needs to know that church leadership is not hereditary. He should allow the Spirit take charge
Re: I'm Sad My Father Is A Pastor, And I Don't Want To Be One. by Nobody: 3:01pm On Sep 02, 2020
Xpain:
I created this account to stay as anonymous as possible.
My Father owns a Church.. he is a pastor. I'm in my early twenties, the first Son of two boys only. And I don't want to be one.
They are trying everything to make me one.
it's making me sad and I'm developing crippling depression.
I don't see myself as a Pastor, I don't want to be one. But everything points to me taking over the church.
People are already looking at me somehow,talking to me like I should already be coming up, on the pulpit. But I don't see myself doing it.
I'm always thinking and moody.
I don't think I will ever be happy in life. Because no matter the decision I take I will never be happy.

I don't really know what to do..
Sometimes I feel like taking a bullet in my head to avoid the shame of some else taking over the church. They remind me of this almost every day
U Need 2 Prepare Urself. 4 Dis 2 Come 2 U It's By God Not By Man. Being A Pastor Can Be Challenging But It's One Of D Most Honourable Position One Could Ever Be. U Don't Need 2 Feel Bad, Just Prepare Urself 4 D Task. I Know U May Be Scared Or Shy Abt It. I Understand, God Would Help U.
Re: I'm Sad My Father Is A Pastor, And I Don't Want To Be One. by Xpain: 4:26pm On Sep 02, 2020
Truvel:
U Need 2 Prepare Urself. 4 Dis 2 Come 2 U It's By God Not By Man. Being A Pastor Can Be Challenging But It's One Of D Most Honourable Position One Could Ever Be. U Don't Need 2 Feel Bad, Just Prepare Urself 4 D Task. I Know U May Be Scared Or Shy Abt It. I Understand, God Would Help U.
I don't want to.. that's the point. I don't want to
Re: I'm Sad My Father Is A Pastor, And I Don't Want To Be One. by Nobody: 5:30pm On Sep 02, 2020
Xpain:
I don't want to.. that's the point. I don't want to
Note: If It's God's Will 4 U, U Can't Escape It. I Want 2 Ask U Dis. Do U Receive Any Of Dis Signs In Ur Dreams?
Re: I'm Sad My Father Is A Pastor, And I Don't Want To Be One. by Xpain: 6:27pm On Sep 02, 2020
Truvel:
Note: If It's God's Will 4 U, U Can't Escape It. I Want 2 Ask U Dis. Do U Receive Any Of Dis Signs In Ur Dreams?
I don't receive any signs.. but nothing I do works out for me. Mehn I feel defeated
Re: I'm Sad My Father Is A Pastor, And I Don't Want To Be One. by Nobody: 6:39pm On Sep 02, 2020
Xpain:
I don't receive any signs.. but nothing I do works out for me. Mehn I feel defeated
Dat's Y U Av No Choice Dan 2 Embrace It. If U Don't U Would Be Expriencing Problems & Disappointments. I'm Telling U 4rm Experience.
Re: I'm Sad My Father Is A Pastor, And I Don't Want To Be One. by Xpain: 6:59pm On Sep 02, 2020
Truvel:
Dat's Y U Av No Choice Dan 2 Embrace It. If U Don't U Would Be Expriencing Problems & Disappointments. I'm Telling U 4rm Experience.
hmm.. this is bad
Re: I'm Sad My Father Is A Pastor, And I Don't Want To Be One. by Nobody: 7:23pm On Sep 02, 2020
Xpain:
hmm.. this is bad
Dat's D Ugly Truth. I Av Also Experienced Similar Things Like Urs. I Would Advise Dat D Earlier D Better 4 U.
Re: I'm Sad My Father Is A Pastor, And I Don't Want To Be One. by Nobody: 8:03pm On Sep 02, 2020
Xpain:
I created this account to stay as anonymous as possible.
My Father owns a Church.. he is a pastor. I'm in my early twenties, the first Son of two boys only. And I don't want to be one.
They are trying everything to make me one.
it's making me sad and I'm developing crippling depression.
I don't see myself as a Pastor, I don't want to be one. But everything points to me taking over the church.
People are already looking at me somehow,talking to me like I should already be coming up, on the pulpit. But I don't see myself doing it.
I'm always thinking and moody.
I don't think I will ever be happy in life. Because no matter the decision I take I will never be happy.

I don't really know what to do..
Sometimes I feel like taking a bullet in my head to avoid the shame of some else taking over the church. They remind me of this almost every day
why are you running away from it! You don't want to take it and you are ashamed someone else will take it.. I think you have a personality disorder. You are also talking of committing suicide, no its wrong.

It's ideal that the priesthood that has been established into your family keeps running just like Kingship(Royalty), and you as the first born should spearhead it after your dad, but if you say no it would then be passed to your younger brother but if none of you is able to take up the mantle, it will still remain in your family lineage and then maybe your grandchildren will then be called to take up that mantle!

There are different ways God called people, your dedication to God's work is enough for you to take up a leadership role in the church and by the reason of the calling and anointing on your father, it rub off and comes down on you!! And you will be empowered to do the work.

This in some cases can be different if God instructed your dad to anoint someone else to take over the church rather than you or your younger one but it won't eradicate the fact that soon or later someone else in your family maybe your grand or great grand kids will still be a pastor.

So cheer up and look into the bright side of it. smiley





Moreover, I'm in need of a 100k loan from anyone that could help, I need to start a business as soon as possible.
Re: I'm Sad My Father Is A Pastor, And I Don't Want To Be One. by Yujiz(m): 8:31pm On Sep 02, 2020
Every1 advising he should embrace it...
OP pls be tripple sure u r called by God, b4 embarking on dt journey oooo
Its not a joke 2go in2 ministry....again i say to u be very sure if possible fast nd pray nd ask God ursef....
SHALOM!

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Re: I'm Sad My Father Is A Pastor, And I Don't Want To Be One. by kingxsamz(m): 9:56pm On Sep 02, 2020
Xpain:
I created this account to stay as anonymous as possible.
My Father owns a Church.. he is a pastor. I'm in my early twenties, the first Son of two boys only. And I don't want to be one.
They are trying everything to make me one.
it's making me sad and I'm developing crippling depression.
I don't see myself as a Pastor, I don't want to be one. But everything points to me taking over the church.
People are already looking at me somehow,talking to me like I should already be coming up, on the pulpit. But I don't see myself doing it.
I'm always thinking and moody.
I don't think I will ever be happy in life. Because no matter the decision I take I will never be happy.

I don't really know what to do..
Sometimes I feel like taking a bullet in my head to avoid the shame of some else taking over the church. They remind me of this almost every day
How old are you?
Re: I'm Sad My Father Is A Pastor, And I Don't Want To Be One. by MJBOLT: 9:58pm On Sep 02, 2020
do not let your parents or nigerians force you into mental slavery,flee from religion and be free.RELIGION IS DARKNESS
Re: I'm Sad My Father Is A Pastor, And I Don't Want To Be One. by Xpain: 10:22pm On Sep 02, 2020
kingxsamz:

How old are you?
20
Re: I'm Sad My Father Is A Pastor, And I Don't Want To Be One. by kingxsamz(m): 10:45pm On Sep 02, 2020
Xpain:
20

No wonder.
Well, fact is, you're going to have to take up that responsibility if you don't want your dad or family members to treat you differently.
That's religion for you.
Re: I'm Sad My Father Is A Pastor, And I Don't Want To Be One. by kingxsamz(m): 10:49pm On Sep 02, 2020
MJBOLT:
do not let your parents or nigerians force you into mental slavery,flee from religion and be free.RELIGION IS DARKNESS
Lol, the only way he can be free from this is to run away from that house and live his life, which I don't think he's stable enough to do.
Nigerian Religious parents are really wicked when it comes to issues like this.
So if he flees from religion, he should be ready to flee from his home too, cus they won't go easy on him.
And he's only 20.
Re: I'm Sad My Father Is A Pastor, And I Don't Want To Be One. by Xpain: 10:50pm On Sep 02, 2020
kingxsamz:


No wonder.
Well, fact is, you're going to have to take up that responsibility if you don't want your dad or family members to treat you differently.
That's religion for you.
Hmmm
Re: I'm Sad My Father Is A Pastor, And I Don't Want To Be One. by Missyajoke(f): 10:52pm On Sep 02, 2020
OP see ehn God gave each men a peculiar assignment. The problem here is that you need to ask yourself if you were called by God, if not pastoral work is not for you ,cause if you become a pastor without God leading you, you may go diabolical to make people come to your church.


Goodluck
Re: I'm Sad My Father Is A Pastor, And I Don't Want To Be One. by MJBOLT: 11:25pm On Sep 02, 2020
the op is in deep sh1t,whatever decision he takes,he will be at the receiving end.if he picks the pastor role,his mental state may become worse and if he decides to walk away from the church,he can kiss family support goodbye.

kingxsamz:

Lol, the only way he can be free from this is to run away from that house and live his life, which I don't think he's stable enough to do.
Nigerian Religious parents are really wicked when it comes to issues like this.
So if he flees from religion, he should be ready to flee from his home too, cus they won't go easy on him.
And he's only 20.

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Re: I'm Sad My Father Is A Pastor, And I Don't Want To Be One. by Xpain: 11:28pm On Sep 02, 2020
MJBOLT:
the op is in deep sh1t,whatever decision he takes,he will be at the receiving end.if he picks the pastor role,his mental state may become worse and if he decides to walk away from the church,he can kiss family support goodbye.

Exactly this is how I feel.. I feel defeated.
Re: I'm Sad My Father Is A Pastor, And I Don't Want To Be One. by kingxsamz(m): 11:46pm On Sep 02, 2020
MJBOLT:
the op is in deep sh1t,whatever decision he takes,he will be at the receiving end.if he picks the pastor role,his mental state may become worse and if he decides to walk away from the church,he can kiss family support goodbye.


True.
He's fvcked.

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