Asides from the obvious fear of mistakenly smothering them in your sleep, it is very dangerous for infants to sleep in the same bed as their parents. Although opinions differ, experts warn that parents sharing the same bed with their newborn isn’t advisable as it could be detrimental to the baby’s wellbeing.

Have you heard of the story of a mother who killed her child in her sleep? According to the ancient book used by the Christians, King Solomon had to wisely judge between two prostitutes after one had accidentally smothered her child in her sleep and when she realized, she exchanged her dead baby with that of her friend who was still alive.

Long story short, the king was able to pass a fair judgment and the mother of the child was able to get her baby. Come to think of it, no sane mother would want to hurt her child. What we are saying in essence, is that accidents can occur, however, some of them can be avoided if we are careful enough to put safety into consideration. It is not a bad idea if your infant shares a mattress with you, but you keep them at lesser risk when you let them lay in their secured baby cot or bed just right beside you.


Points to note
Regular mattresses are largely not made with the general sleep needs of a baby in mind and as such might not be conducive for a baby. Whereas, baby mattresses are designed with the baby’s wellbeing in mind; from its density down to its cover, everything is designed so the child is not exposed to any sleep-related infirmities or suffocation.

Babies are vulnerable
Babies are most vulnerable when they are very young and as such would be susceptible to bacteria, germs, and dust mites from your old mattress. Regular mattresses are common habitats for these microscopic organisms and letting baby sleep on them leaves the baby exposed to these allergens and risk of falling ill frequently.

Not all mattresses are suitable for babies
The right mattress will help in the proper development of a baby, as it will act as a support for them. Babies also need comfort like every other person. Just the way an adult would require the right mattress to enjoy quality sleep so does babies and children generally. A baby’s mattress is supposed to be slightly firm; a soft sleeping surface can pose suffocation hazards and increase your baby’s risk of sudden infant death syndrome SIDS. Therefore, pay attention to your baby’s wellbeing and proper mattress demand.


It might affect your sleep
Your sleep quality will be greatly affected when you let your baby sleep in the same bed as you. This will make you very conscious of the fragile being nestled close to you. You become wary of oversleeping and rolling over them. After childbirth, resuming sexual relations becomes difficult for some couples as sharing a bed with their newborn can complicate frustrate bonding. Simply get a baby’s bed or cot and keep things rolling between you and your spouse.

Once babies get used to sharing a bed with their parents, it becomes difficult to adjust to sleeping alone, experts call this sleep crutch. They’ll naturally want to always have their parents around them. “Children need to learn how to fall asleep without a parent nearby,” says Dr. Schneeberg, who further added that babies would expect interactions like back rubs, patting, and being held to fall asleep if they get overly attached to their parents.
Source: https://www.wincofoam.com/should-babies-share-a-bed-with-their-parents-find-out-here/

I'm sure you're yet to have kids. By the time you start having kids, you will understand better

I swear.... I can't even let my baby off my eyes for a minute. Even if I dose off to sleep, the moment my eyes opens the only thing I want is to see him and know he is okay.
God help me with this anxiety.

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Well, we are different, I don't think I can ever sleep separately from my baby,
U listed d disadvantages,but what of advantages too? If u say it's not proper for the man to be on the same bed with d baby that's understood.

A children's bed closer to where you sleep is Okey for constant monitoring.

what if parents cant afford seperate beds?

i still sleep on the same bed with my kids,cos i cant afford another bed for them now.

A mother needs all the sleep she can get and baby sleeping away will give you eyebags in the morning.

Till I wean you, I'm not leaving the bed except to urinate.

ezugegere:
I'm sure you're yet to have kids. By the time you start having kids, you will understand better

Loud it

ezugegere:
I'm sure you're yet to have kids. By the time you start having kids, you will understand better

Not all parents allow it. Mine slept in her bed from day 1 even I was breastfeeding exclusively. She only stayed in my bed when she needed extra attention and after falling asleep, back to her bed.

LadySarah:
A mother needs all the sleep she can get and baby sleeping away will give you eyebags in the morning.

Till I wean you, I'm not leaving the bed except to urinate.

I can't get enough sleep when I cannot toss and turn because my baby is beside me. Or cuddle-sleep because the baby is in the middle.

Her bed was beside me. I would wake up, pick her up and feed her and drop her when done. Parents do what works for them and what they agree. My husband and I already agreed to make her get used to sleeping in her bed right from the hospital.

But some mums make it seem like there's no other way than to have the baby sleep with her.